Am I a horrible father?

SunofaBeach14

If she does that with you more regularly then she won't hurt so much. Keep it up. Push your kid to work hard. That's what moms and dads are there for.

skrlec70

let her work out with you, better then in front of the tv , jeez , pisses me off

Fat2FitMyDrive

Thank you for all the positive replies. My wife attends Zumba a few times a week, but I almost feel like she only does it to say she's done it. I love her with all my heart, but we are on opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to Health and Fitness she continues to buy garbage snack and high sugar junk despite having asked her not to 100 times and I almost feel like it's an internal sabotage. I want my kids to grow up engrained with an education on being healthy and fit. What they do with that knowledge is up to them, but I want to be the best example I can be.

getlean414

Not at all in my opinion! I think its great that you're showing your daughter how to be fit and active! That's important as a human being. Shes seven, so yeah i'd say her belly hurts lol. But SHE wanted to do it, its not like you forced her to do it, if that was the case then yeah idk about that. But I honestly think, her wanting to be involved with what you're doing is awesome alone, and not only that, but what you're doing is good for you! Its a positive thing that a lot of kids miss out on!

SunofaBeach14

Thank you for all the positive replies. My wife attends Zumba a few times a week, but I almost feel like she only does it to say she's done it. I love her with all my heart, but we are on opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to Health and Fitness she continues to buy garbage snack and high sugar junk despite having asked her not to 100 times and I almost feel like it's an internal sabotage. I want my kids to grow up engrained with an education on being healthy and fit. What they do with that knowledge is up to them, but I want to be the best example I can be.

Don't go there with the wife. Do your thing, work out with your kid, but don't go calling "sabotage" because your wife eats things that you don't like. Focus on you, split it down the middle with the kiddos, and keep going. Oh, and talk to your wife, not the internet. She won't like it when she finds this post. Just saying.

Fat2FitMyDrive

Thank you for all the positive replies. My wife attends Zumba a few times a week, but I almost feel like she only does it to say she's done it. I love her with all my heart, but we are on opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to Health and Fitness she continues to buy garbage snack and high sugar junk despite having asked her not to 100 times and I almost feel like it's an internal sabotage. I want my kids to grow up engrained with an education on being healthy and fit. What they do with that knowledge is up to them, but I want to be the best example I can be.

Don't go there with the wife. Do your thing, work out with your kid, but don't go calling "sabotage" because your wife eats things that you don't like. Focus on you, split it down the middle with the kiddos, and keep going. Oh, and talk to your wife, not the internet. She won't like it when she finds this post. Just saying.

Yeah you are right. I don't want to make it a battle with her I just do what I feel necessary and that's it. I never even comment on the food or her choices because I don't have any reason to. I love her exactly the way she is and would only want her to change if it will make her happy.

RabbitLost

Thank you for all the positive replies. My wife attends Zumba a few times a week, but I almost feel like she only does it to say she's done it. I love her with all my heart, but we are on opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to Health and Fitness she continues to buy garbage snack and high sugar junk despite having asked her not to 100 times and I almost feel like it's an internal sabotage. I want my kids to grow up engrained with an education on being healthy and fit. What they do with that knowledge is up to them, but I want to be the best example I can be.

Don't go there with the wife. Do your thing, work out with your kid, but don't go calling "sabotage" because your wife eats things that you don't like. Focus on you, split it down the middle with the kiddos, and keep going. Oh, and talk to your wife, not the internet. She won't like it when she finds this post. Just saying.

He is a smart man. This is very good advice. So was his other response.

Edit - I just saw your response. Never mind - looks like you get it. I'll hop off now.

SunofaBeach14

Thank you for all the positive replies. My wife attends Zumba a few times a week, but I almost feel like she only does it to say she's done it. I love her with all my heart, but we are on opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to Health and Fitness she continues to buy garbage snack and high sugar junk despite having asked her not to 100 times and I almost feel like it's an internal sabotage. I want my kids to grow up engrained with an education on being healthy and fit. What they do with that knowledge is up to them, but I want to be the best example I can be.

Don't go there with the wife. Do your thing, work out with your kid, but don't go calling "sabotage" because your wife eats things that you don't like. Focus on you, split it down the middle with the kiddos, and keep going. Oh, and talk to your wife, not the internet. She won't like it when she finds this post. Just saying.

Yeah you are right. I don't want to make it a battle with her I just do what I feel necessary and that's it. I never even comment on the food or her choices because I don't have any reason to. I love her exactly the way she is and would only want her to change if it will make her happy.

Smart man

Fat2FitMyDrive

I didn't make this post to make her look bad I wanted to get opinions from like minded people simply on my daughter's excersize and involvement. I was frustrated because something I thought was awesome took such a crappy turn. I mean she seems perfectly fine to me, but she has complained mildly about her tummy.

arainiday1

Thank you for all the positive replies. My wife attends Zumba a few times a week, but I almost feel like she only does it to say she's done it. I love her with all my heart, but we are on opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to Health and Fitness she continues to buy garbage snack and high sugar junk despite having asked her not to 100 times and I almost feel like it's an internal sabotage. I want my kids to grow up engrained with an education on being healthy and fit. What they do with that knowledge is up to them, but I want to be the best example I can be.

Don't go there with the wife. Do your thing, work out with your kid, but don't go calling "sabotage" because your wife eats things that you don't like. Focus on you, split it down the middle with the kiddos, and keep going. Oh, and talk to your wife, not the internet. She won't like it when she finds this post. Just saying.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ yes!!! totally agree.

oregonzoo

You aren't a horrible father or husband. You have wonderful intentions

Make sure your wife doesn't feel alienated or judged. Because I'm sensing a bit of that and that may be where her actual issue lies.
Also have her watch you and daughter workout, to calm any fears she may have.

Good luck!!

SunofaBeach14

I didn't make this post to make her look bad I wanted to get opinions from like minded people simply on my daughter's excersize and involvement. I was frustrated because something I thought was awesome took such a crappy turn. I mean she seems perfectly fine to me, but she has complained mildly about her tummy.

Your first post was good, I just personally think you may have a gone a tad overboard with the second. Just trying to save you the trouble of a mix up over an internet vent. Not a biggie. It's pretty clear that your heart is in the right place. At least IMHO.

besaro

lol, kindof stacking the deck against your wife coming to a fitness site for support. lol

MyChocolateDiet

My 7 year old daughter decided yesterday that she wanted to excersize with me. I did just a mild set consisting of jumping jacks, running man's, seal jumping jacks, crunches, bicycles kicks, and I did some burpees which she was intriqued by and did them with me. She mimicked me and had a blast doing it. Today she says her stomach hurts (abs) and my wife is all ticked off at me for letting her do the workout with me. I didn't force her to she just wanted to do it with me. Is this terrible? I don't think so, but I guess I could be wrong.

No, you are an OK father.

You are HORRIBLE at husband though. The proper answer to your wife is as follows:

Daughter: My tummy hurts.
Wife: See husband! You shouldn't have had her do that stuff with you yesterday, I told you so.
Husband: Pffft! It was your lousy cooking.

Fat2FitMyDrive

I didn't make this post to make her look bad I wanted to get opinions from like minded people simply on my daughter's excersize and involvement. I was frustrated because something I thought was awesome took such a crappy turn. I mean she seems perfectly fine to me, but she has complained mildly about her tummy.

Your first post was good, I just personally think you may have a gone a tad overboard with the second. Just trying to save you the trouble of a mix up over an internet vent. Not a biggie. It's pretty clear that your heart is in the right place. At least IMHO.

I appreciate that. I'm not trying to stack the deck, but entertaining this idea on Facebook or a childrens rights site may have taken a drastically different turn. Which is why I chose to post it here with many like minded individuals. It is tough sometimes putting everything I have into obtaining my fitness goals and seeing her on the sideline so to speak, so you could be correct she may feel alienated a little, but I hope not as that's never my intention.

MyChocolateDiet

You aren't a horrible father or husband. You have wonderful intentions

Make sure your wife doesn't feel alienated or judged. Because I'm sensing a bit of that and that may be where her actual issue lies.
Also have her watch you and daughter workout, to calm any fears she may have.

Good luck!!

Just trip her.

MyChocolateDiet

I didn't make this post to make her look bad I wanted to get opinions from like minded people simply on my daughter's excersize and involvement. I was frustrated because something I thought was awesome took such a crappy turn. I mean she seems perfectly fine to me, but she has complained mildly about her tummy.

Your first post was good, I just personally think you may have a gone a tad overboard with the second. Just trying to save you the trouble of a mix up over an internet vent. Not a biggie. It's pretty clear that your heart is in the right place. At least IMHO.

I appreciate that. I'm not trying to stack the deck, but entertaining this idea on Facebook or a childrens rights site may have taken a drastically different turn. Which is why I chose to post it here with many like minded individuals. It is tough sometimes putting everything I have into obtaining my fitness goals and seeing her on the sideline so to speak, so you could be correct she may feel alienated a little, but I hope not as that's never my intention.

Don't you wish there were an "ignore" feature IRL?

Fat2FitMyDrive

My 7 year old daughter decided yesterday that she wanted to excersize with me. I did just a mild set consisting of jumping jacks, running man's, seal jumping jacks, crunches, bicycles kicks, and I did some burpees which she was intriqued by and did them with me. She mimicked me and had a blast doing it. Today she says her stomach hurts (abs) and my wife is all ticked off at me for letting her do the workout with me. I didn't force her to she just wanted to do it with me. Is this terrible? I don't think so, but I guess I could be wrong.

No, you are an OK father.

You are HORRIBLE at husband though. The proper answer to your wife is as follows:

Daughter: My tummy hurts.
Wife: See husband! You shouldn't have had her do that stuff with you yesterday, I told you so.
Husband: Pffft! It was your lousy cooking.

Lol!

sentaruu

so you mean to tell me you actually spent time with your child and performed an activity that would ultimately lead to bettering their life?

dude. worst father of the year award material.

coretemp

No way! Now you can teach her what recovery periods are for! : )

Fat2FitMyDrive

No way! Now you can teach her what recovery periods are for! : )

That's funny I honestly just had this conversation with her. I explained to her that tomorrow she may be a little more sore and that if she wanted to we could excersize a little easier again on Tuesday she was like ok daddy!

coretemp

No way! Now you can teach her what recovery periods are for! : )

That's funny I honestly just had this conversation with her. I explained to her that tomorrow she may be a little more sore and that if she wanted to we could excersize a little easier again on Tuesday she was like ok daddy!

+1

aliakynes

Sore abs is not a bad thing for a 7-year-old to experience. Explain to them both that it means her muscles are getting stronger.

MzFyreKitty

NO, you are setting an excellent example by getting her involved in a healthy lifestyle at a young age and teaching her to love exercise. I wish that my Mom had done that... Are you teaching her to "warm up"' prior to exercising too?

I remember in elementary school doing all these exercises and being sore after doing some...but it was good for me. No pain, no gain, huh? Good luck with the exercising:)

Kevalicious99

I agree with everyone else .. mostly. The only real thing that you did wrong .... too much too fast.

I think that she will likely be more positive going forward if you took it a bit easy for the first while .. and I think that your wife would
be more receptive too. So relax and try again.

Good luck .. and yes, overall it is a great thing if you can start them off in a healthy way. You just have to look around to see that this is not happening.

Fat2FitMyDrive

NO, you are setting an excellent example by getting her involved in a healthy lifestyle at a young age and teaching her to love exercise. I wish that my Mom had done that... Are you teaching her to "warm up"' prior to exercising too?

I remember in elementary school doing all these exercises and being sore after doing some...but it was good for me. No pain, no gain, huh? Good luck with the exercising:)

Absolutely, we stretched and jogged a few laps around the house before we started. She does stretching and warmups at dance class so she is pretty well versed with that.

bellesouth18

I think you're being a terrific role model to her! Exercise is good for children--plus, they are more resilient than adults. The extreme soreness will gradually ease off after a few sessions. Just make sure she is hydrated and has some recovery time between strenuous activities. Stretching is a good thing, too, but only after your body temp is up a bit.

BTW, I coached gymnastics for decades and firmly believe in body weight exercises. If she wants to do it, let her--7 is a great age to start. She's much too young to be a couch potato. Maybe the two of you can inspire your wife to join you.

Edit: I just saw the above comment. Stretching is good!

msbunnie68

If you are a horrible father then I am a shockingly awful mother..

I drag my girls along to yoga classes with me

and my boy has to swim laps with me in pool.

The end result is that I have slim healthy teenage daughters and a beanpole son (slowly going to encourage muscle building when he a little older). All three swim like fish and are confident ocean swimmers too. Middle girl just went snorkelling off Rottnest Island. Had the best time.

Good habits take time to build.

salembambi

some of the replies in here make me uncomfortable...nothing like putting your own body hate/body expectations on your children

Myhaloslipped

That is adorable.