curvy vs slim... Finding a balance

mymelody_78

I am worried about the same thing too and people have noticed the changes in those areas on me since I have been on this new journey. I am having a problem with the waist part also and and starting to read Dr. Oz's You On A Diet. It talks about waist size so maybe that can be an option. I am only a couple chapters in but I would be glad to let you know what I find out

Great job by the way!

FitnessTim

This topic stuck in my head. I posted some general comment about maintaining cardio but increasing caloric intake, but I now wish to amend what I wrote.

I dislike the concept of maintaining a certain weight just to please a man or men in general. As a man I'm physically attracted to a certain shape and size, but I would never want any women to compromise her health and long lasting fitness to meet my specific tastes.

I love my woman but I only appreciate her physical beauty. She will get old and the traditional concept of beauty may fade, but I will still love her. The wrinkles will only be a representation of the years we will have had together.

If a relationship is bound only by physical attractiveness than a man would leave as soon as another slimmer and younger tart skips by. Sure, that does happen sometimes, but good riddance to the loser.

Some may think that my viewpoint is not typical for a man. But don't let guys swagger and nonchalance fool you. There are more of us who appreciate a good wife and partner than those dead-inside jerks who are looking for a showpiece.

LauraAkaTigger

This topic stuck in my head. I posted some general comment about maintaining cardio but increasing caloric intake, but I now wish to amend what I wrote.

I dislike the concept of maintaining a certain weight just to please a man or men in general. As a man I'm physically attracted to a certain shape and size, but I would never want any women to compromise her health and long lasting fitness to meet my specific tastes.

I love my woman but I only appreciate her physical beauty. She will get old and the traditional concept of beauty may fade, but I will still love her. The wrinkles will only be a representation of the years we will have had together.

If a relationship is bound only by physical attractiveness than a man would leave as soon as another slimmer and younger tart skips by. Sure, that does happen sometimes, but good riddance to the loser.

Some may think that my viewpoint is not typical for a man. But don't let guys swagger and nonchalance fool you. There are more of us who appreciate a good wife and partner than those dead-inside jerks who are looking for a showpiece.

Ahem... not really sure why you wanted to state that a man would leave.... my husband loves my curvy figure.. after 8 years together and one year of marriage i am not insecure about our relationship.. It is not relationship advice I am looking for... nor reassurance.

I have decided myself that I have found a balance between being a weight I am happy with and keeping my curves... and my husband agrees...I am a size us 6-8, and I want to maintain that size while toning up. I am 5ft 1.5 and I am fairly broad for that size (i.e. not petite framed) , I want to fill my clothes not be straight up and down.. and I am almost there with some toning work.

I wanted advice on toning, maintaining fitness and maintaining my current weight. I have been doing alot of cardio and wanted to see how others have moved to maintenance.

This is about me, nobody else.. and I feel I have found a balance I am happy with.

Thanks for taking time to reply.. I actually wanted to delete this post as I felt that instead of getting advice on maintenence and toning that it turned into a debate on wether I should lose more weight.. which as you have stated is my own personal decision...

I am aware that comments and advice are given in good faith.. I am just glad I am not easily swayed from what I believe is right for me.. and being encouraged to lose more weight than is right for me. I found your reference to 18% body fat astonishing and I am definitly not on the same wavelength. ..but I do thank you for taking the time to reply.

CombatVet_Armywife

Not exactly sure how/why this topic went so wrong! lol

As she said, she wasn't looking for relationship advice or whether to lose more weight or not, she wanted advice on how to maintain and tone up. Period. It's kinda funny how just becuase her husband was mentioned people took that in a weird direction. In fact, it was said that her husband enjoys her shape.

I think a FEW people gave you some good advice for what you asked for, MAINTAINING & TONING. I have every confidence that you will find exactly what works for you and it will give you the results you want. You know I'll be around to support ya and kick ya in the butt if need be.

LauraAkaTigger

Thanks armywife!!!

Good to see someone is on my wavelength!!!

I'm actually laughing out loud!!!