New lifestyle, old relationship.

kaylatee0

Get out of the house contract in any way possible, cut your losses, DON'T GET PREGNANT! If it's this bad now, it's only gonna get worse.

If you settle for less than you deserve you'll get less than you settle for.

Stop giving yourself away. In your next relationship have more respect for yourself. You know what I mean. You're an adult now. You were a kid then. I'm appalled, actually, that your parents let a 17 year old date a 20 year old.

Get out and rescue your life while you still can.

Thanks. Don't be so quick to jump to conclusions. Lost both my parents at 15.. I wish someone was there to be appalled.

RekindledRose

Get out of the house contract in any way possible, cut your losses, DON'T GET PREGNANT! If it's this bad now, it's only gonna get worse.

If you settle for less than you deserve you'll get less than you settle for.

Stop giving yourself away. In your next relationship have more respect for yourself. You know what I mean. You're an adult now. You were a kid then. I'm appalled, actually, that your parents let a 17 year old date a 20 year old.

Get out and rescue your life while you still can.

Thanks. Don't be so quick to jump to conclusions. Lost both my parents at 15.. I wish someone was there to be appalled.

So sorry about your parents. No kid should have to go through losing their parents.

But that being said, someone should have kept you from dating an adult when you were still a kid... and probably still reeling from losing your mom and dad. Someone in life must have been your guardian at seventeen.

Still the point remains; it sounds like you're getting out of that bad relationship and taking charge of your life. I'm so happy for you that you've found the strength it takes to do that!

I wish you all the best. Your life is ahead of you!

wilsoje74

Thanks all..

Can't say the house is playing a huge part in the deciding factor as I can afford it on my own. I just am wishing I didn't take the step with him. With or without him, I would have bought a house anyway. Thank you for all of the advice, and I think I have a lot to think about. I came here for advice, not the solution and I think I've gotten that.

Feel the need to answer these questions though:

You are 23 and haven't had much relationship experience. He's an alcoholic. Why did you build a house before marriage? Who is paying for this house????

I'll forwardly admit that I do not have experience with relationships.. which is why I'm here asking for advice.

We built a house before marriage because I for one have absolutely no interest in the sacrament of marriage. I don't believe that a wedding or marriage holds any value in my life. Please note I said my life. Marriage does not determine the success of a relationship and does not need to act as step one before buying a house. It's 2014.

With or without him, I would have a bought a house.

And because you asked.. We are paying for this house, with our money that we have earned... by working... our jobs. Isn't that how it usually goes?

i meant is it being purchased in both names or just one of you? I know with money.... I just think if you are buying it jointly it could get messy if you break up.

willrun4bagels

I'm appalled, actually, that your parents let a 17 year old date a 20 year old.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but... seriously??? Whether you know the OP's situation or not, 17 and 20 years old is not much of an age difference. At 17, depending on the year one is born, one could already be in college. 20 year olds could also be in college. Not that unusual...