You have how many kids. Wait! What?

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  • PinkyFett
    PinkyFett Posts: 842 Member
    i am confused here. how does this fit in the success forum? this story almost makes me afraid to become a grand parent one day.

    Don't be. Me mom lives with me and my family and she doesn't do this stuff lol. She's like an extra kid of mine.
  • fuhrmeister
    fuhrmeister Posts: 1,796 Member
    You are a super Mom and Grandmother for showing your children and grandchildren so much love. But I agree with some of the posters above that you are probably enabling your children to be inactive and they don't seem to be taking on a lot of responsibilities.

    Children need to be able to learn and grow and some of them have to be pushed. That being said my situation and methods might note work for everyone but my stepson just turned 21. He did not have a lot of opportunities to be involved in sports and such when he was young but his father in I defiantly stressed participation in high school and it really helped him to grow. When he graduated from high school he was made toe get a job. When he quit college he was made to look for full time work. Currently he works 40 hours a week at one job and delivers pizza on the side. He has a lease agreement with his father and I and pays rent, pays for his own cell phone, his car payment , his student loan and since he has this great new job he will begin to pay for his own car insurance. And he has never asked for gas money EVER! B/c he knows we won’t give it to him. We have introduced more and more responsibilities and he is rising to the challenge. He has also been given a deadline to move out. In my opinion he must have the space to make his own mistakes. His father and I have given him the tools now it is time for him to apply what he has learned.

    I think the best way you can motivate you children is by giving them their own responsibilities. They WILL grip at you in the beginning but you will be better preparing them for their future if you let go a little bit.
  • fuhrmeister
    fuhrmeister Posts: 1,796 Member
    You are a super Mom and Grandmother for showing your children and grandchildren so much love. But I agree with some of the posters above that you are probably enabling your children to be inactive and they don't seem to be taking on a lot of responsibilities.

    Children need to be able to learn and grow and some of them have to be pushed. That being said my situation and methods might note work for everyone but my stepson just turned 21. He did not have a lot of opportunities to be involved in sports and such when he was young but his father in I defiantly stressed participation in high school and it really helped him to grow. When he graduated from high school he was made toe get a job. When he quit college he was made to look for full time work. Currently he works 40 hours a week at one job and delivers pizza on the side. He has a lease agreement with his father and I and pays rent, pays for his own cell phone, his car payment , his student loan and since he has this great new job he will begin to pay for his own car insurance. And he has never asked for gas money EVER! B/c he knows we won’t give it to him. We have introduced more and more responsibilities and he is rising to the challenge. He has also been given a deadline to move out. In my opinion he must have the space to make his own mistakes. His father and I have given him the tools now it is time for him to apply what he has learned.

    I think the best way you can motivate you children is by giving them their own responsibilities. They WILL grip at you in the beginning but you will be better preparing them for their future if you let go a little bit.
  • amberj32
    amberj32 Posts: 663 Member
    i am confused here. how does this fit in the success forum? this story almost makes me afraid to become a grand parent one day.

    Don't be. Me mom lives with me and my family and she doesn't do this stuff lol. She's like an extra kid of mine.

    I feel you..... I have a MIL that lives with us and she does nothing!! You would think she could at least cook and clean every once in a while considering she lives there for free, doesn't work, on internet all day and rarely looks for a job. My 20 year old daughter isn't too much help either but she goes to college full time and has two jobs. She does do her own laundry.
  • wilsoje74
    wilsoje74 Posts: 1,720 Member
    How is it after a full day of watching 6 grand-babies all 3 years old & under, catering to my daughters needs, cleaning the house, cooking the meals, washing the loads and loads of laundry & dishes, being a taxi, doing the yard work & about everything else: I am still the one who wants to walk for 2 hours a night? I just can't figure it out.

    Hate to be rude, but here's the problem, you do everything for them, therefore, they are lazy.
    agree they could do more but why? You do it for them

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