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    Relationships make you FAT.

    Posts: 21 Member
    edited February 23 in Introduce Yourself
    I'm a 21 year old college senior. Let me just start by saying that the freshmen 15 is NOT true! On the contrary, I was able to reach my lowest weight because of my college budget and dislike for cafeteria food. At my lowest I was 140lbs two years ago. In high school I fluctuated around 170 so I was very pleased with myself. I went to the gym almost everyday and was really in shape at 140lbs....until I met him. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and since then I have gained 50lbs! We've lived together for a year and eating has become our entertainment! His football six pack has turned into a fat pack as well. Not only have we been eating MORE but throughout the relationship we have both turned 21 and have a love for beer. It's so hard to diet when he always wants to bring home burritos (my fav). I need to take my life back. I need to get back to my bikini body! When I started my journey I was 194lbs five days ago. Miraculously this morning I am 186.6lbs. My boyfriend has been very sweet. Although I have gained weight he still looks at my with all of the love in the world and actually says that he likes my new "booty". But I really just want to be the girl that he and I fell in love with.

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    • Posts: 1,197 Member
      Sorry. Eating too much makes you fat. Not relationships.

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    • Posts: 2,168 Member
      Lost me at "freshman 15." I abhor that phrase.
    • Posts: 1,217 Member
      Not only have we been eating MORE but throughout the relationship we have both turned 21 and have a love for beer. It's so hard to diet when he always wants to bring home burritos (my fav). I need to take my life back. I need to get back to my bikini body! When I started my journey I was 194lbs five days ago. Miraculously this morning I am 186.6lbs. My boyfriend has been very sweet. Although I have gained weight he still looks at my with all of the love in the world and actually says that he likes my new "booty". But I really just want to be the girl that he and I fell in love with.

      You know what the issue is, now you can work on fixing it. Self control is key :)
    • Posts: 10,740 Member
      I haven't really found that to be true, I've lost 90 lb since I met my husband two years ago! :-) I think it can work the other way around if your partner is a positive influence in health, fitness, and nutritious eating.
    • Posts: 3,473 Member
      I just lost about 165# today.
    • Posts: 16 Member
      Being in a relationship that's centered around food can definitely make it easier to gain weight, but the flip side is that if you can recruit your partner to join you in working out, it makes it that much easier to lose! See if you can get him to go to the gym with you, even if it's just once a week. It's more fun that way! Good luck - you can do it!
    • Posts: 574 Member
      eating has become our entertainment

      ^Fix that.
    • Posts: 4,251 Member
      Eating too much and not moving enough make you fat.

      As soon as you take responsibilty for yourself and stop blaming other people and things, you'll be fine.
    • Posts: 450
      Sorry. Eating too much makes you fat. Not relationships.

      QFT
    • Posts: 239 Member
      Maybe. My husband gained quite a bit of weight after we got married. Being fed real meals on a regular basis was good for him though. He needed the extra pounds.
    • Posts: 466 Member
      Relationships may not make you fat, but they do influence your eating habits. When I first met my boyfriend in 2011, I was around 115 lbs, more or less. Not sure exactly what I weighed, but around there. I am 5'3.5". Before I met him, I only ate out once in a blue moon! I also exercised on a regular basis.... I definitely did not starve myself; I ate a good 2000 calorie diet, but I always calorie counted, exercised, and ate foods that I prepared or bought at the grocery store. When I met my boyfriend, I began going out to eat... it started out at 1 time a week, and then it progressed to 2-3 times a week. The first year I did not gain much weight, maybe like 5 lbs. In 2012, I was around 120, so I was fine with that, but in 2013 I gained 15 lbs. It got to the point where my boyfriend and I were eating out 4-5 times a week! I also stopped calorie counting! And I never went grocery shopping either... only once every two weeks!! ( which is bad, because I love to grocery shop! ) Yes, it is possible to gain weight during a relationship BECAUSE your eating habits change. My boyfriend gained about 40 lbs during our 3 years together... he has stopped gaining weight and is maintaining, but he is still eating out more than he should. He is trying to get out walking and is trying to buy a bike, so we can ride together.

      I think a good thing for you and your boyfriend is that maybe you two can make a change together. Do it together. Maybe grocery shop and prepare healthy foods. Find an outdoor activity, even if it is just walking, that you two like. Maybe you two can go to the gym together. It sounds like both of you became comfortable and gained weight. You two can be supportive of each other. It can be done.

      Good luck!
    • Posts: 130 Member
      Yep its happened to me, I just didn't care what I ate... I was happy and didn't bother me because the guy loved me so why not stuff your face lol ITS YOU NOT THE RELATIONSHIP.... YOU get lazy and comfy and stuff whatever YOU want in YOUR mouth... first step to fixing a problem is admitting you are the person who caused it and then you do something about it...no excuses
    • Posts: 33 Member
      I just lost about 165# today.

      Took me a minute to understand this HA! Should we celebrate though or console?
    • Posts: 36 Member
      I'm a 21 year old college senior. Let me just start by saying that the freshmen 15 is NOT true! On the contrary, I was able to reach my lowest weight because of my college budget and dislike for cafeteria food. At my lowest I was 140lbs two years ago. In high school I fluctuated around 170 so I was very pleased with myself. I went to the gym almost everyday and was really in shape at 140lbs....until I met him. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and since then I have gained 50lbs! We've lived together for a year and eating has become our entertainment! His football six pack has turned into a fat pack as well. Not only have we been eating MORE but throughout the relationship we have both turned 21 and have a love for beer. It's so hard to diet when he always wants to bring home burritos (my fav). I need to take my life back. I need to get back to my bikini body! When I started my journey I was 194lbs five days ago. Miraculously this morning I am 186.6lbs. My boyfriend has been very sweet. Although I have gained weight he still looks at my with all of the love in the world and actually says that he likes my new "booty". But I really just want to be the girl that he and I fell in love with.

      Not true at all. You became so focused on your relationship that you stopped focusing on yourself, and the way you took care of yourself. The relationship didn't make you fat - your lack of control did. Now you are playing the blame game.
    • Posts: 33
      I totally understand the sentiment that long term relationships make you fat! It's really easy to slack off and develop bad habits when you have a "partner in crime" so to speak. It's exactly what happened to my husband and I so you're not alone, not at all. I've heard people say you find someone to get fat and happy with. The thing is, I wasn't happy with myself and I recruited my husband as a workout buddy. We walk, jog, and hit the gym together and it's something I really enjoy doing with him. We just had to change the mentality of getting fat together to getting fit together. Even if your partner isn't as motivated as you are to get started don't worry, some of it will start to rub off, fitness is infectious. Good luck!

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    • Posts: 8,927 Member
      Not for me. I have been in relationship with my husband for 16 years. I am fit.

      I stay fit because it keeps things sexually exciting for both of us.

      Our recreation is sex. And we enjoy active recreation such as hiking. We dance.

      My husband is a non drinker. I drink very little and was also a non drinker for a decade.

      We even incorporate fitness into our sex life (my husband likes when I lift weights nude and dance).
    • Posts: 8,399 Member
      It's so hard to diet when he always wants to bring home burritos (my fav)

      Just eat less of it. You don't have to give up burritos or beer. Just eat and drink less than you have been, and optimally, move more as well.
    • Posts: 2,199 Member
      show previous quotes

      Took me a minute to understand this HA! Should we celebrate though or console?

      Is there a thread to go with this, somewhere?
    • Posts: 2,227 Member
      "Eating has become our entertainment!"

      Standard MFP Answers:
      1. You'll die if you try paleo.
      2. Sugar has all the cancer in it.
      3.Unhealthy relationship, you should leave your husband/boyfriend.
      4. Find joy in God and the Rhythm Method.

      You've identified your problem. Spend less time on "entertainment" and/or more at the gym.
    • Posts: 2,640 Member
      Not for me. I have been in relationship with my husband for 16 years. I am fit.

      I stay fit because it keeps things sexually exciting for both of us.

      Our recreation is sex. And we enjoy active recreation such as hiking. We dance.

      My husband is a non drinker. I drink very little and was also a non drinker for a decade.

      We even incorporate fitness into our sex life (my husband likes when I lift weights nude and dance).

      Quoted because...sex O.O
    • Posts: 7,963 Member
      I tend to eat out more when in a relationship so I feel you, OP.
    • Posts: 858 Member
      I've spent all my time and energy in the last 15 years fattening up my husband so he can't get away.
    • Posts: 54 Member
      I haven't really found that to be true, I've lost 90 lb since I met my husband two years ago! :-) I think it can work the other way around if your partner is a positive influence in health, fitness, and nutritious eating.


      ^^^ This.

      In my last relationship I gained over 50 lbs because our date nights consisted of eating out ALOT. In my new relationship (started after I began my new lifestyle) our date night consists of making dinner at home, playing xbox or watching Netflix. I know, lame.. but were both on a budget.

      It's not the relationship that makes you fat, it's the unhealthy eating habit.
    • Posts: 2,037 Member
      show previous quotes

      Quoted because...sex O.O

      Double quoted because I really love this post.
    • Posts: 5,214 Member
      I just lost about 165# today.

      That was a heavy monkey to be carrying around.

      Bet you are hawt and swole.
    • Posts: 9 Member
      I put on 25 lbs in the first few months after I starter dating my wife. I gained more after having kids. 18 years later and I still haven't gotten back to my weight when we started dating. I am getting very closethough , only 4.6 lbs to go.

      but anyway it wasn't like I was skiiny when we first started dating.
    • Posts: 19,251 Member
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      Double quoted because I really love this post.
      Is this TMI tuesday? :tongue:
    • Posts: 5,573 Member
      When I'm in relationships, I don't gain weight. I eat the same amount in or out of a relationship and I eat the same kinds of foods, unless I am prepping to compete and/or do a photo shoot, then man or no man, my eating gets very strict. Blame that weight gain on lack of self control.
    • Posts: 21 Member
      Some of the comments are overgeneralized. I wasn't blaming anyone for my weight gain except me, but lets just be honest.....if I wasn't in a relationship I wouldn't have gained all of this weight.
    • Posts: 2,819 Member
      The only relationship that made me fat was my life long love affair with cupcakes.
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