I need career advice...

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  • srslybritt
    srslybritt Posts: 1,618 Member
    OP: I agree with the poster that said you need to cancel. To take the time to interview and then not accept the offer when it's inevitably extended will likely burn that bridge more efficiently than just being upfront and saying you can't take on the position at this point.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    OP: I agree with the poster that said you need to cancel. To take the time to interview and then not accept the offer when it's inevitably extended will likely burn that bridge more efficiently than just being upfront and saying you can't take on the position at this point.

    I plan to cancel this afternoon. I just want to talk it over with one more person before I do.
  • srslybritt
    srslybritt Posts: 1,618 Member
    OP: I agree with the poster that said you need to cancel. To take the time to interview and then not accept the offer when it's inevitably extended will likely burn that bridge more efficiently than just being upfront and saying you can't take on the position at this point.

    I plan to cancel this afternoon. I just want to talk it over with one more person before I do.

    Good luck to you. I hope everything works out.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    Thank you so much everyone for your input.
  • _HeartsOnFire_
    _HeartsOnFire_ Posts: 5,304 Member
    Okay... so we all agree it's not worth it.

    But what do I do about this interview? I obviously haven't burned my bridge with her, and as little trust as I have in her, I don't want to burn any bridges.

    Should I cancel the interview? Should I go and just not put in 100% effort? Or should I go, show her what she's missing, and then turn her down when/if she gives me the offer?

    I wouldn't be communicating with her directly except for in the interview. I'm really worried about how she would take "burning" her twice on the same opportunity.

    I think you can back out of the interview without burning a bridge. It's really worse to waste someone's time.

    I would say, "Thank you so much for the opportunity to interview for this position. I gave it great consideration as I know I'm trained to do the work and the work is interesting. That said, as you may know, I'm in the home stretch for finishing my MBA and need to maintain my focus. So, while I enjoy working with you and would certainly love to be considered for this position in the future, it's in my best interest to stay put for the next few months."

    ^^^ I LOVE this one.

    Agree. I think this is best.
  • PRMinx
    PRMinx Posts: 4,585 Member
    Okay... so we all agree it's not worth it.

    But what do I do about this interview? I obviously haven't burned my bridge with her, and as little trust as I have in her, I don't want to burn any bridges.

    Should I cancel the interview? Should I go and just not put in 100% effort? Or should I go, show her what she's missing, and then turn her down when/if she gives me the offer?

    I wouldn't be communicating with her directly except for in the interview. I'm really worried about how she would take "burning" her twice on the same opportunity.

    I think you can back out of the interview without burning a bridge. It's really worse to waste someone's time.

    I would say, "Thank you so much for the opportunity to interview for this position. I gave it great consideration as I know I'm trained to do the work and the work is interesting. That said, as you may know, I'm in the home stretch for finishing my MBA and need to maintain my focus. So, while I enjoy working with you and would certainly love to be considered for this position in the future, it's in my best interest to stay put for the next few months."

    ^^^ I LOVE this one.

    Agree. I think this is best.

    Thank you, both :-)

    I think the MBA gives her a lot of explanation options and, eventually, work options!
  • kika_mckee
    kika_mckee Posts: 126 Member
    Ok, I hate to be a negitive nelly here. This has nothing to do with actuall advise on the situation. Speaking from an HR perspective soical media (MFP, no mater how Anonymous we feel here) is not the best place to airing this.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    Ok, I hate to be a negitive nelly here. This has nothing to do with actuall advise on the situation. Speaking from an HR perspective soical media (MFP, no mater how Anonymous we feel here) is not the best place to airing this.

    I'm sorry... what exactly does it matter? I've already cancelled the interview. And, she would really have to go out of her way to concern herself of my opinion to dig this up. I think I'm safe, but thanks.

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