Support from Husbands......

ali106

:laugh: ooo this is a good post people!!!

and I think 7 lbs is awesome and since you are already just gorgeous....you must be in real diva mode now ...so you go girl!!!

As for our S.O.'s...(slow observers) I think its just part of the Venus/Mars thing.....I tend to cut a little slack Still its nice to hear they notice....maybe do the reverse pyschology thing...like hey you look good are YOU losing weight...and maybe he'll say ah no but YOU sure are.....okay...maybe that won't work but wouldn't it be nice if it was that easy!!! lol

hugs and great job girl!
Ali

banks1850

my husband doesn't see it at all. EVERYONE else notices i've lost 24lbs in a month i guess when they see you every day it's less noticible to them kind of how we don't notice our kids growing

I use the growing grass analog. If you sit in your front yard and watch the grass grow for 2 weeks, you won't notice that it's getting long, but if you walk by it once a week, you will definitely notice. It's not that your husband doesn't care, its just that, it's hard to notice a change, when you see it changing by small amounts every day. I would suggest if you would like him to notice things like that, to show him a picture every once in a while. And by all means, LET THEM KNOW it's ok for them to mention weight to you.

abbychelle07

:laugh: That is so funny about the dog!

Anyway, most men are trained not to touch weight comments with a ten-foot pole. If I say, "Hey, look at me, I lost weight!" then my hubby comments, but otherwise he says nothing and I actually like it that way. There is less pressure.

tucker

:flowerforyou: I think that men are just wired that way. Think about this, he sees you everyday. He is "use" to you. Men do not normally see past their own noses.

My husband is just the other way. I fixed some nachos for him and thought that I would have a few chips. He gave me the riate act for even wanting any.

LokiFae

Thanks.

I am a little scared about the bagel comment......I had one this morning and my *kitten*......well scary.

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: That was directed at my husband, who made the comment this morning that he loves me no matter how much I weigh, while I was eating a bagel. Butthead. :grumble:

KrisKabob

Yeah that is annoying but it's a "Man thing"... men are so... well, Ughhh!

You are probably going to have to find some way to laugh this one off! I don't know that it is about men... they just aren't very observant beings.

Take my husband for instance... When I think I look my worst he is like "hubba hubba baby!" I take my shower at night and when I'm done my hair is all slicked back and right when I'm thinking "wow, I look like a wet dog" my husband is asking me to put on red lipstick, a tight black dress, and singing "Addicted to Love!". Men are strange! But it makes me laugh! :laugh:

abbychelle07

Yeah that is annoying but it's a "Man thing"... men are so... well, Ughhh!

You are probably going to have to find some way to laugh this one off! I don't know that it is about men... they just aren't very observant beings.

Take my husband for instance... When I think I look my worst he is like "hubba hubba baby!" I take my shower at night and when I'm done my hair is all slicked back and right when I'm thinking "wow, I look like a wet dog" my husband is asking me to put on red lipstick, a tight black dress, and singing "Addicted to Love!". Men are strange! But it makes me laugh! :laugh:

Ha, ha! I totally agree that husbands can be strange. When I was pregnant with my daughter, I was SO SICK! I would be laying on the couch trying not to throw up for the 50th time, and my husband would be all over me! Can you not tell I am going to puke on you?!?!?

beep

As a now separated husband, I can say I sure wish I had been more supportive of my wife when she was losing a lot of weight over a year ago or so.
Yah, for a lot of us, for better or for worse, it just doesn't come out... It may not be easy for us but it is SOOOOO important to acknowledge things, good and bad, especially when someone is making a lot of effort....
I'd suggest you clue him in on the fact that you are making some great progress and want his support, and he can then take it from there hopefully.
- Thomas

Tell her now. No matter what your marital status, it's never too late to compliment.

fatsis

Thanks.

I am a little scared about the bagel comment......I had one this morning and my *kitten*......well scary.

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: That was directed at my husband, who made the comment this morning that he loves me no matter how much I weigh, while I was eating a bagel. Butthead. :grumble:

lol

5KNohno

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and we can't find the ketchup and other stuff in the fridge without your help either! We don't always (or ever for that matter) mean the worst, so don't see it as that. :laugh:
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:laugh: Have you been to my house?? My husband can not find ANYTHING in the fridge without me!:laugh:

GravyGurl

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I can compliment my buddies 'Dude, you are looking awesome since you lost weight. If you were a chick I would totally kiss you on the mouth.' (:noway: )and my buddies are like 'You know it.' and I respond with 'Yep. Hey did you see that new (gun, car, motorcycle, sports team, guy conversation piece) etc...' we go on. Compliment accepted, not another thought given to it.


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ok that made me crack up and busted out laffin here at work.... because I can just picture that conversation between a couple of my buddies :laugh: :laugh:

sgtinvincible

I can compliment my buddies 'Dude, you are looking awesome since you lost weight. If you were a chick I would totally kiss you on the mouth.' (:noway: )and my buddies are like 'You know it.' and I respond with 'Yep. Hey did you see that new (gun, car, motorcycle, sports team, guy conversation piece) etc...' we go on. Compliment accepted, not another thought given to it.


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ok that made me crack up and busted out laffin here at work.... because I can just picture that conversation between a couple of my buddies :laugh: :laugh:
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banks1850

LOL, my first baseball practice after 3 months off, I walked in and the first guy goes, dude, what'd ya do, go on the heroine diet? I looked at him and said, yep, want some? That was it. Not until I tore up the batting cages did they mention anything about me again, when they said. I guess what you are doing works!

total conversation time about my weight with about 11 other guys = 14 seconds
out of 3 hours of interaction.

Later someone said I went from being David Wells (I'm a lefty pitcher) to casey fossum

that was pretty funny. If you don't know what I am talking about, google those two guys and you will understand.

Katy009

Ok, so he is off the hook. I guess I'll just leave it at ...... men are men, women are women, and my dog looks spectacular. She has joined MFP to encourge you guys.....be nice to her, she worked hard chasing that frisbee to lose those pounds!

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My husband, being unhappy with my mood swings, bought me a mood ring the other day
so he would be able to monitor my moods.

We've discovered that when I'm in a good mood, it turns green.

When I'm in a bad mood, it leaves a big fricking red mark on his forehead.

Maybe next time he'll buy me a diamond. Dumb *kitten*.

foxfire9372

To sum up the differences between guys and girls, to paraphrase Jeff Foxworthy; when is the last time you saw a man run out of the room crying and a woman chasing after him calling out what did I say. I tell my poor husband you are damned if you do, damned if you don't and you better figure out which is the lesser of two evils if you want to continue your "visits" to the candy store!

sgtinvincible

Ok, so he is off the hook. I guess I'll just leave it at ...... men are men, women are women, and my dog looks spectacular. She has joined MFP to encourge you guys.....be nice to her, she worked hard chasing that frisbee to lose those pounds!

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My husband, being unhappy with my mood swings, bought me a mood ring the other day
so he would be able to monitor my moods.

We've discovered that when I'm in a good mood, it turns green.

When I'm in a bad mood, it leaves a big fricking red mark on his forehead.

Maybe next time he'll buy me a diamond. Dumb *kitten*.

AHAHAHAH!!! :laugh:

KrisKabob

Ok, so he is off the hook. I guess I'll just leave it at ...... men are men, women are women, and my dog looks spectacular. She has joined MFP to encourge you guys.....be nice to her, she worked hard chasing that frisbee to lose those pounds!

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My husband, being unhappy with my mood swings, bought me a mood ring the other day
so he would be able to monitor my moods.

We've discovered that when I'm in a good mood, it turns green.

When I'm in a bad mood, it leaves a big fricking red mark on his forehead.

Maybe next time he'll buy me a diamond. Dumb *kitten*.

LOLOLOL!!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

chiefiron

Ok, so he is off the hook. I guess I'll just leave it at ...... men are men, women are women, and my dog looks spectacular. She has joined MFP to encourge you guys.....be nice to her, she worked hard chasing that frisbee to lose those pounds!

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My husband, being unhappy with my mood swings, bought me a mood ring the other day
so he would be able to monitor my moods.

We've discovered that when I'm in a good mood, it turns green.

When I'm in a bad mood, it leaves a big fricking red mark on his forehead.

Maybe next time he'll buy me a diamond. Dumb *kitten*.

Hey you rock!!!! no really. that is super funny :laugh: :laugh:

I hope you have the type of relationship where you can tell that to your hubby, i know my GF says stuff like that and its one of the reasons we get along so well. We make each other laugh........alot

Tim

alimassa

Laughter is the best ice breaker in a marriage!

BTW.. When I lost 30 pounds my husband rarely said ANYTHING to me about it. But you know what, when he did comment, when I wasnt expecting it, it sure did mean a lot more to me! 34