Cut the negativity and welcome change

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  • Papa_Grande
    Papa_Grande Posts: 63 Member
    People perceive positive and negative differently. If I tell you something that goes against your belief system, you think I'm being negative while someone standing next to you is more in line with my thinking and will think what I said is awesome. So, I don't know how to make everyone happy. It's not worth my time to think about it. I just exist and I do my thing. It's not my job to be positive for you so that you can be happy. That's not really how it works.

    Am I the only one that thought OP's post was about people making excuses for not losing weight and just need to suck it up and get 'er done?

    No.
  • __freckles__
    __freckles__ Posts: 1,238 Member
    I've been off and on mpf for a few years now. Unfortunately, I've noticed a lot of negative posts. Worst yet, there are some who have entire profiles of complaining.

    I'm sorry if this post offends you at all; that is not the intention. Some people aren't aware that they're doing it.

    Whatever you put out into the universe you get back. This has shown time and time again in my weight loss journey. Whenever I've been happier, positive, and trying to forge ahead it's been EFFORTLESS TO LOSE WEIGHT. On the flip side, when I was staring in the mirror thinking how awful I looked, feeling my fat, and moping around the house I GAINED A LOT. In fact, that's how I came to be my heaviest weight.

    It may seem difficult to get into a positive mindset. Coming from a background of depression I can totally understand. However, it is necessary for any real changes to occur in life.

    I hope this helps. Most of all, BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. Other people can believe in you all they want, but until you believe in yourself and your ability to change your life nothing will happen.

    If you actually read the entire post, it's not a mean people rant...cut the poor girl some slack.
  • fatcity66
    fatcity66 Posts: 1,544 Member
    I'm in to learn more about how to cure my depression through willpower and supplements.

    haha If only!
  • Ronunderwood
    Ronunderwood Posts: 25 Member
    How could your comment possibly offend anybody?
  • Shutter_bug03
    Shutter_bug03 Posts: 35 Member
    I understand what you are saying, OP, and I appreciate your post. Thank you! :)
  • fatcity66
    fatcity66 Posts: 1,544 Member
    So depression is a character flaw now? People just don't have enough stamina to not be depressed??
  • fatcity66
    fatcity66 Posts: 1,544 Member
    I haven't noticed any negative posts. Most are helpful, the rest are funny.

    You know the story about the two dogs that walk into the room full of mirrors?

    And then there are these people.

    Actually, I thought that was the best post of the entire thread.
  • MizTerry
    MizTerry Posts: 3,763 Member
    People perceive positive and negative differently. If I tell you something that goes against your belief system, you think I'm being negative while someone standing next to you is more in line with my thinking and will think what I said is awesome. So, I don't know how to make everyone happy. It's not worth my time to think about it. I just exist and I do my thing. It's not my job to be positive for you so that you can be happy. That's not really how it works.

    Am I the only one that thought OP's post was about people making excuses for not losing weight and just need to suck it up and get 'er done?

    Actually, I thought it was another "people are so mean" post. I was going to tell her to "bite me" but I realized that was not the case.
  • delicious_cocktail
    delicious_cocktail Posts: 5,797 Member
    I don't like threads where the original poster tells everyone else what they're doing wrong. It is indicative that their focus is on external things that are out of their control, rather on internal things that they can control.
  • shinisize
    shinisize Posts: 105 Member
    There is depression, and then there is Depression (the caps is on purpose). Regular depression is something we all experience as part of grief/loss, having bad things happen in our lives, etc. Actively looking for a positive attitude in life and focusing our energy in a constructive manner works wonders for this depression. Then there is Depression, which is a genuine clinical condition that an individual will battle for the entirety of their lives because it isn't their mind that is the problem, it is the physical and biological processes of their body. Taking care of your body can help with Depression, but there is no cure and no treatment will more than help mitigate the symptoms for a time. I don't suffer from Depression, so when I'm feeling down I can 'pull myself up by my bootstraps' and carry on. I have good friends who do suffer from Depression, and when they are in a funk there is no amount of medication, distracting activities, or positive thinking that is going to make them magically better. They push on and work hard to keep their lives together, but their condition robs a lot of their ability to experience the joys in life and makes even fun activities a huge battle internally.
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  • BlueButterfly94
    BlueButterfly94 Posts: 303 Member
    Very true... Gotta learn to love yourself!
  • jmv7117
    jmv7117 Posts: 891 Member
    A lot of people are overweight because of chronic depression, stress, anxiety, and a host of other issues, in fact, most overweight people are overweight because they are unhappy or suffer from issues.
    You can't will away those issues.

    No, you can't will those away but you can find better coping strategies to alleviate both the symptoms and effects. For example, many folks are Vitamin D deficient which manifests itself as depression amongst other symptoms. Simply supplementing with Vitamin D significantly reduces the depression caused by the deficiency.

    Well, bless your little heart for recommending Vitamin D to fix depression. Now what about people who have clinical depression, bipolar disorder, panic/anxiety disorders that are so bad they're classified as medical problems and other non-situational mental illness?

    There isn't a vitamin out there to cure what I've got but I do agree that taking Vitamin D is a good strategy for most people.

    Well excuse me! I did clarify that I was referring to depression due to Vitamin D deficiency. Talk to your doctor if you have any problems you mentioned then follow his or her advice.
  • 1princesswarrior
    1princesswarrior Posts: 1,242 Member
    I don't like threads where the original poster tells everyone else what they're doing wrong. It is indicative that their focus is on external things that are out of their control, rather on internal things that they can control.

    I don't think the op is telling everyone what they're doing wrong at all, she's expressing a general frame of mind and how when she changed hers that her weight loss suddenly became a lot easier. And then she gives a little cheer at the end. Nothing wrong with that.
  • jmv7117
    jmv7117 Posts: 891 Member
    I'm in to learn more about how to cure my depression through willpower and supplements.

    Can be done. First step is to realize that depression is NOT you. It is a chemical reaction in the body that makes you feel depressed or anxious. Exercise and finding the right healthy diet makes a huge difference in getting balanced.

    Good luck.

    I agree but this idea won't be well received by those who refuse to take responsibility for themselves. Exercise and diet can have a significant impact on psychological and physical well being!
  • VeryKatie
    VeryKatie Posts: 5,961 Member
    My post said more than that, but I do agree with you that it is pithy advice. Beating depression and issues in general take a fair amount of discipline and stamina, which a lot of people aren't willing to take. Losing weight is about a lot more than just being more positive, but it's a start.

    Everybody has issues. I'm sorry that you felt the advice was unwanted, but judging from your picture, you didn't need it to begin with.

    Every change starts from a mindset to succeed. It's only the mind that can change any aspect of a person's life.

    What is that supposed to imply?

    ^I would like to know as well. ..

    She's saying his profile pic makes him look fit and healthy so he is likely doing alright on his weight loss journey - i.e. her advice doesn't apply to him.
  • 1983ashleigh
    1983ashleigh Posts: 34 Member
    I feel as though people like to take their focus on their unhappiness out on here, which is now why I am so selective as to post anything/ reply to anything at all. Heaven forbid with some of the people on here that your thoughts conflict with their thoughts.

    Good luck on your weight loss journey! I'm sending lots of encouragement your way!
  • nancy10272004
    nancy10272004 Posts: 277 Member
    I'm in to learn more about how to cure my depression through willpower and supplements.

    Can be done. First step is to realize that depression is NOT you. It is a chemical reaction in the body that makes you feel depressed or anxious. Exercise and finding the right healthy diet makes a huge difference in getting balanced.

    Good luck.

    I agree but this idea won't be well received by those who refuse to take responsibility for themselves. Exercise and diet can have a significant impact on psychological and physical well being!


    I guess you missed my post about seeing various medical professionals and taking my medications every day. I'd say that counts as taking responsibility for myself.

    I'm not really sure how many times it's got to be said: some people have the uppercase "D" and diet and exercise won't cure it any more than diet and exercise will cure my Dad's Parkinson's. I'm not comparing one to the other in terms of physiology but what I am saying is that we both have brain diseases that can't be cured.
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    I'm in to learn more about how to cure my depression through willpower and supplements.

    Can be done. First step is to realize that depression is NOT you. It is a chemical reaction in the body that makes you feel depressed or anxious. Exercise and finding the right healthy diet makes a huge difference in getting balanced.

    Good luck.

    I agree but this idea won't be well received by those who refuse to take responsibility for themselves. Exercise and diet can have a significant impact on psychological and physical well being!

    Hear that PTSD sufferers?! Take responsibility for your trauma-induced anxiety and depression! Just go swimming and eat some kale and you'll feel all better!
  • Kimgetinshape
    Kimgetinshape Posts: 6 Member
    I like your message and title of your topic, i have been off and on mfp too, and struggling with my weight. I just take one day at a time and go from there. Its working and this in 10th day and I feeling good about it.
  • msncush
    msncush Posts: 23 Member
    amen, sister
  • TechLady11412
    TechLady11412 Posts: 35 Member
    I feel as though people like to take their focus on their unhappiness out on here, which is now why I am so selective as to post anything/ reply to anything at all. Heaven forbid with some of the people on here that your thoughts conflict with their thoughts.

    Good luck on your weight loss journey! I'm sending lots of encouragement your way!


    dey's just hangry
  • delicious_cocktail
    delicious_cocktail Posts: 5,797 Member
    I'm in to learn more about how to cure my depression through willpower and supplements.

    Can be done. First step is to realize that depression is NOT you. It is a chemical reaction in the body that makes you feel depressed or anxious. Exercise and finding the right healthy diet makes a huge difference in getting balanced.

    Good luck.

    I agree but this idea won't be well received by those who refuse to take responsibility for themselves. Exercise and diet can have a significant impact on psychological and physical well being!

    This statement will not be well received by anyone with any understanding of, background in, or experience with mental health issues.

    I nominate it as The Most Ignorant Statement On MFP 2014.
  • diannethegeek
    diannethegeek Posts: 14,776 Member
    I feel as though people like to take their focus on their unhappiness out on here, which is now why I am so selective as to post anything/ reply to anything at all. Heaven forbid with some of the people on here that your thoughts conflict with their thoughts.

    Good luck on your weight loss journey! I'm sending lots of encouragement your way!


    dey's just hangry

    Don't forget low on vitamin D, apparently.
  • vjohn04
    vjohn04 Posts: 2,276 Member
    I don't like threads where the original poster tells everyone else what they're doing wrong. It is indicative that their focus is on external things that are out of their control, rather on internal things that they can control.


    What true words of wisdom!!!
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    I'm in to learn more about how to cure my depression through willpower and supplements.

    Can be done. First step is to realize that depression is NOT you. It is a chemical reaction in the body that makes you feel depressed or anxious. Exercise and finding the right healthy diet makes a huge difference in getting balanced.

    Good luck.

    I agree but this idea won't be well received by those who refuse to take responsibility for themselves. Exercise and diet can have a significant impact on psychological and physical well being!

    This statement will not be well received by anyone with any understanding of, background in, or experience with mental health issues.

    I nominate it as The Most Ignorant Statement On MFP 2014.

    Seconded! :noway:
  • _HeartsOnFire_
    _HeartsOnFire_ Posts: 5,304 Member
    I feel as though people like to take their focus on their unhappiness out on here, which is now why I am so selective as to post anything/ reply to anything at all. Heaven forbid with some of the people on here that your thoughts conflict with their thoughts.

    Good luck on your weight loss journey! I'm sending lots of encouragement your way!


    dey's just hangry

    Don't forget low on vitamin D, apparently.

    Or that it's your personal responsibility.
  • levitateme
    levitateme Posts: 999 Member
    I feel as though people like to take their focus on their unhappiness out on here, which is now why I am so selective as to post anything/ reply to anything at all. Heaven forbid with some of the people on here that your thoughts conflict with their thoughts.

    Good luck on your weight loss journey! I'm sending lots of encouragement your way!


    dey's just hangry

    Don't forget low on vitamin D, apparently.

    A b12 deficiency can cause hallucinations, and that's straight up truth. Not saying I believe you can cure depression with diet, but make sure you get all your micros.
  • Cleo58
    Cleo58 Posts: 7 Member
    Right on! I love your perspective!
  • _HeartsOnFire_
    _HeartsOnFire_ Posts: 5,304 Member
    I'm in to learn more about how to cure my depression through willpower and supplements.

    Can be done. First step is to realize that depression is NOT you. It is a chemical reaction in the body that makes you feel depressed or anxious. Exercise and finding the right healthy diet makes a huge difference in getting balanced.

    Good luck.

    I agree but this idea won't be well received by those who refuse to take responsibility for themselves. Exercise and diet can have a significant impact on psychological and physical well being!

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