is it possible to get a girl friend even tho im fat ?

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  • segovm
    segovm Posts: 512 Member
    The only thing that is required to land a girl is confidence.

    For a lot of guys that comes from a fancy car, nice house, lots of money or a great body. But girls have a very hard time discerning between justified confidence and wildly inappropriate confidence so that works in our favor.

    The key with confidence is to use it when others are not. A bar is pretty neutralizing since everyone is on full display there but walk up to a pretty girl in the library and tell her you would love to chat about the book she's reading and you might get somewhere.

    Most people don't get what they want in life because they are too brainwashed by the system to think they can have or do whatever they want and so they never bother to try.
  • MaryJane_8810002
    MaryJane_8810002 Posts: 2,082 Member
    No you are destined to be alone forever.
  • _crafty_
    _crafty_ Posts: 1,682 Member
    Smile a lot, be confident. If you don't feel confident, fake it till you make it. Make girls laugh, be a nice person.

    seriously, ^ this.

    personality
    sense of humor
    quick wit
    outgoing
    adventurous

    all of this is more important than your waistline, IMO.
  • JazzFischer1989
    JazzFischer1989 Posts: 531 Member
    Sure it is. My man is 6'4" and 325. :D
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    Confidence can be tough for anyone, regardless of size.
  • bd0027
    bd0027 Posts: 1,053 Member
    Confidence can be tough for anyone, regardless of size.

    This is very true. Confidence is key.
  • ilfaith
    ilfaith Posts: 16,769 Member
    My husband is overweight. He was overweight when we met. Would I like it if he were in better shape? Of course. But his weight is just a small part of who he is, and it certainly doesn't define him. I fell in love with him because he is kind, funny, and smart, and despite his size, quite attractive. He is a wonderful husband and father to our three boys.

    I do worry about his weight...more than he does. I want him to be healthier for himself and for his family. I don't want to see him held back by his size, or suffer the health issues that obesity can lead to. While I can lead the horse to water but cannot make him drink. I can prepare healthy meals at home, but cannot control what he eats when he travels for work, which he frequently does. I can encourage him to come for a family walk or bike ride, but I can't force him to go to the gym if he's not ready.

    But to answer your question, a fat guy can get a girlfriend (or wife)...even a girlfriend who isn't fat herself (unless that's what you prefer...some guys do).
  • pobalita
    pobalita Posts: 741 Member
    Confidence can be tough for anyone, regardless of size.

    Truth right there.
  • kikionna4
    kikionna4 Posts: 308
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    ^THIS! You most definitely can!
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    You could go gay and open up the filed a bit.

    Just a suggestion.
  • littlebutlean
    littlebutlean Posts: 2,159 Member
    You could go gay and open up the filed a bit.

    Just a suggestion.

    Literally doubling the chances. It's basic numbers at this point.
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    Got have swagger...

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    This. All comes down to presentation, no matter what you're packing.

    Just don't be a d*ck, or a Negative Norman, and you'll be fine.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    You could go gay and open up the filed a bit.

    Just a suggestion.

    Literally doubling the chances. It's basic numbers at this point.

    Exactly. Maybe even more so because guys are more randy and ready for action. I'd assume gay men are the same. Could be a big score.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    I agree with not being a **** or a Negative Norm. No girl wants to constantly hear how you feel fat/depressed/ugly. Focus on enjoying the positive aspects of yourself and make a plan of action for the things that you want to change.
  • bomftdrum
    bomftdrum Posts: 270 Member
    The only thing that is required to land a girl is confidence.

    For a lot of guys that comes from a fancy car, nice house, lots of money or a great body. But girls have a very hard time discerning between justified confidence and wildly inappropriate confidence so that works in our favor.

    The key with confidence is to use it when others are not. A bar is pretty neutralizing since everyone is on full display there but walk up to a pretty girl in the library and tell her you would love to chat about the book she's reading and you might get somewhere.

    Most people don't get what they want in life because they are too brainwashed by the system to think they can have or do whatever they want and so they never bother to try.
    This
  • techgal128
    techgal128 Posts: 719 Member
    Yep. My boyfriend is quite a bit bigger than me (especially since I've lost weight) and I've always found him attractive. Some women prefer bigger men because it makes them feel feminine (I'm one of them).
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  • midas1022
    midas1022 Posts: 151
    I think you can have a girlfriend if your heavy but I think its important that you take really good care of yourself. I mean get your hair cut the correct way. Have clear skin and wash your face and brush your teeth as much as possible. Dress the correct way. Learn how to dance like a pro. Learn how to eat with manners. I find all different sizes of women who are extremely attractive because they take care of themselves, are intelligent and well spoken. Your size won't matter if you work on yourself as a person. Even a lump of coal turns into a beautiful diamond if its squeezed hard enough to make the transformation.
  • SonicDeathMonkey80
    SonicDeathMonkey80 Posts: 4,489 Member
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  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    I agree with not being a **** or a Negative Norm. No girl wants to constantly hear how you feel fat/depressed/ugly. Focus on enjoying the positive aspects of yourself and make a plan of action for the things that you want to change.

    Exactly.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    I think you can have a girlfriend if your heavy but I think its important that you take really good care of yourself. I mean get your hair cut the correct way. Have clear skin and wash your face and brush your teeth as much as possible. Dress the correct way. Learn how to dance like a pro. Learn how to eat with manners. I find all different sizes of women who are extremely attractive because they take care of themselves, are intelligent and well spoken. Your size won't matter if you work on yourself as a person. Even a lump of coal turns into a beautiful diamond if its squeezed hard enough to make the transformation.

    While hygiene is important and dancing classes would be cool, I think the "dress the correct way" is a bit much. He should be comfortable in what he is wearing and not try to present an image of himself that doesnt represent who he truly is.
  • Captain_Wobbles
    Captain_Wobbles Posts: 240 Member
    False fat people are incapable of finding love. I kid I kid. You'll be fine bro you sound pretty young due to the nature of the question and if my assumption is right you have plenty of time to find your great white buffalo. I'd give you tips but I personally never experienced a relationship and only recently started becoming social again, but it seems like posts in this thread have all of the bases covered.
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    I agree with not being a **** or a Negative Norm. No girl wants to constantly hear how you feel fat/depressed/ugly. Focus on enjoying the positive aspects of yourself and make a plan of action for the things that you want to change.

    ^This. Yes, you can get a girlfriend, but no one wants to be around someone who is a downer, regardless of their size. Women love confidence.
  • kinkyslinky16
    kinkyslinky16 Posts: 1,469 Member
    I love Zach Galifianikis. Not because he is exceptionally handsome and fluffy, but because he is so freaking hilarious. That's all it takes for me is a great sense of humor.

    I should mention that my husband is 6'4" 350+lbs. He really is gorgeous, but he's so freaking hilarious, which is why I don't mind if he squishes me lol.
  • fallingtrees
    fallingtrees Posts: 220 Member
    I love Zach Galifianikis. Not because he is exceptionally handsome and fluffy, but because he is so freaking hilarious. That's all it takes for me is a great sense of humor.

    Yes, Zach Galifianikis is a keeper.
  • rosehips60
    rosehips60 Posts: 1,030 Member
    With enough money, anything is possible :)

    good answer!
  • 115s
    115s Posts: 344 Member
    With enough money, anything is possible :)

    good answer!
    :laugh:
    This is what I was thinking about people that mentioned admiring celebs.
  • keithmustloseweight
    keithmustloseweight Posts: 309 Member
    yes, there are plenty of fat girls that are available.

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  • Blacklance36
    Blacklance36 Posts: 755 Member
    When I was fat I had a hot girlfriend.

    I have lost 30 pounds since then and she is still with me.
  • midas1022
    midas1022 Posts: 151
    I think you can have a girlfriend if your heavy but I think its important that you take really good care of yourself. I mean get your hair cut the correct way. Have clear skin and wash your face and brush your teeth as much as possible. Dress the correct way. Learn how to dance like a pro. Learn how to eat with manners. I find all different sizes of women who are extremely attractive because they take care of themselves, are intelligent and well spoken. Your size won't matter if you work on yourself as a person. Even a lump of coal turns into a beautiful diamond if its squeezed hard enough to make the transformation.

    While hygiene is important and dancing classes would be cool, I think the "dress the correct way" is a bit much. He should be comfortable in what he is wearing and not try to present an image of himself that doesnt represent who he truly is.

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