I Stopped a Binge Right in its Tracks

clareshard59

Kittentoast, really liked your reply,, so thoughtful and kind! I wish you well on your weight loss journey and thank,you so much for sharing your story in such a positive way!

CallMeCupcakeDammit

I just wrote my very first blog last week about this exact thing. I can imagine all those emotions you were feeling, and it's a huge deal when you can beat them at their own game. I'm sorry you lost a good friend, that's never easy, but you have to be pretty damn proud of yourself for overcoming those feelings and doing something that would only make you feel worse.

CassieR6

Congrats to you!!! I too emotionally eat. In fact I am fighting to not do it tonight when I get home from work! But you should be totally proud of yourself!! :flowerforyou:

syedsaad

Congrats that you have self control .... and for the friend .... y don't you call her, say sorry and be friends one more time .... she might not accept your apology first ... but she will .... having good friends is a blessing (sorry in advance if you think i m interfering with your personal matter)

stickersticker

Congrats, stick with the hard work.

syedsaad

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oedipa_maas

I'm very impressed by your story! Sure, you had a few moments that maybe had not been your best, but you took control as soon as you could and ended the day on top. I hugely admire that. I'm not there yet- once I start down that type of path I rarely hit the brakes. I also appreciate you framing it in terms of hurting yourself. That is a strong argument to make and much more effective than just saying you don't want to ruin your diet. Fantastic work? Keep being strong and growing the inner you.

I'm so touched at the responses I'm getting here. Thanks so much.

oedipa_maas

Congrats that you have self control .... and for the friend .... y don't you call her, say sorry and be friends one more time .... she might not accept your apology first ... but she will .... having good friends is a blessing (sorry in advance if you think i m interfering with your personal matter)

Not at all (can't be too personal if I post it in public . It's a good thought.

oedipa_maas

Congrats to you!!! I too emotionally eat. In fact I am fighting to not do it tonight when I get home from work! But you should be totally proud of yourself!! :flowerforyou:

Thank you! You can do it, I know it.

oedipa_maas

I just wrote my very first blog last week about this exact thing. I can imagine all those emotions you were feeling, and it's a huge deal when you can beat them at their own game. I'm sorry you lost a good friend, that's never easy, but you have to be pretty damn proud of yourself for overcoming those feelings and doing something that would only make you feel worse.

Thanks so much. Amazing how a small thing can actually be quite big.

oedipa_maas

That just made me cry! I have been really struggling for a while now , you know, that binging and hating myself cycle, but your really inspiring story has hit a part of me that wants to step away from that part of me that goes into self destruct.

I have had an eating disorder too and feel like it creeps up and envelopes me every now and again,, it's like my invisible cloak!

You are very brave, to share your story in such a honest way and from the many responses you have had, you have touched many people.

I wish you the very best of luck on your weight loss journey,, and thank you for helping me on mine!

Well, your response made me tear up, so we're even All good thoughts to you. It is a hard road, but we're going in the right direction!

oedipa_maas

Decent post. At first I was like "Where is she going with this?" and then I understood. Way to dig to the root! Keep up the good work.

That's funny. All my stories in real life start that way too. My mother has learned to wait it out until the point eventually arrives.

disneygallagirl

Just wow to your honesty, courage and strength to keep focused on your goals. Thank you for sharing....so awesome. What a victory!

oedipa_maas

Sorry if I'm thanking too much, but I say it again to everyone. I feel more hopeful with all the support.

ReinasWrath

This is amazing you should feel so very proud of yourself!

suremeansyes

Congratulations! I have done the opposite thing, when I would get emotional I'd starve myself, for attention.

However, the last time I wanted to do that (years ago) I stopped, realized that it was unhealthy both physically AND emotionally. Not only that, but suuuuper manipulative!

I'm very happy for you that you saw it coming and took care of yourself. Good job.

mysmileighs

That's an awesome accomplishment! Great job! :flowerforyou:

Luckee_me

So much awesome in this post.
Good for you.

valente347

I thought you'd like to know that your story helped me stay within my calorie goal today. I read it last night and recalled it today when I was having a meltdown. All I wanted was to eat piles of my husband's birthday cake, but I held off because I remembered your post. Thanks for inspiring me!

janatarnhem

Well done for dealing with such strong emotions. I can empathise with those feelings so much and can damage my diet with emotional eating/ binging. Posts like this, and it is such a brave one, are so helpful in helping me to unravel things in my life that I am not comfortable with .Thank you with all my heart for posting this, as well thank you to those who have also put their issues to the forum,

fatcity66

BRAVO! :drinker: :flowerforyou:

oedipa_maas

Well done for dealing with such strong emotions. I can empathise with those feelings so much and can damage my diet with emotional eating/ binging. Posts like this, and it is such a brave one, are so helpful in helping me to unravel things in my life that I am not comfortable with .Thank you with all my heart for posting this, as well thank you to those who have also put their issues to the forum,

Oh, thank you so much. All my best to you.

oedipa_maas

I thought you'd like to know that your story helped me stay within my calorie goal today. I read it last night and recalled it today when I was having a meltdown. All I wanted was to eat piles of my husband's birthday cake, but I held off because I remembered your post. Thanks for inspiring me!

Wow, that means a lot. So many good thoughts--you did all the work.

Quieau

This touches me deeply not so much because of the dietary control you exercised (although that's mighty impressive for sure!) but I am dumbfounded and blown away by your willingness to accept responsibility for your behavior toward your friend. I disagree with anyone who would tell you that you did nothing wrong --- you did, and you know it and you admit it. You had every right to avoid whatever circumstance you wish, it's the way that you did it, with carelessness and dishonesty that made it wrong. There's a difference. It's rarely that we hurt each other with our end intention, but usually HOW we assert that intention that is destructive to relationships. I have so much admiration for you and your ability to see that and to own it, especially publicly.

It's all too easy for us to justify our mean and careless behavior with righteous indignation about preserving our rights, but the truth is we do owe each other honesty and kindness, compassion and warmth. Your realization is soooo rare. I have been on both ends of such exchanges, and I have to say that both are excruciatingly painful when you have these realizations, so I want to offer you solace for the pain you are experiencing of your own. Although the outcome was good (realization, growth, positive behaviors toward eating), it has to be PAINFUL to process that post and then to write it out and to post it. You deserve a second chance and I hope that you will consider (without regard for outcome) writing your friend a heartfelt letter taking ownership of what happened and putting your heart on the line. Risk everything. And whether she accepts it or not, you will find incredible healing and comfort for having done so. We do unspeakable things to each other to protect our vulnerabilities, but when we offer those vulnerabilities up as gifts to each other, the benefits can be just as profound as the damage done by protecting them.

If I were her, I would feel lucky to count you as a friend ... *HUG*

Jillish23

MFP shared a quote on Pinterest this week - "If hunger isn't the issue, then food isn't the answer''. The little voice of wisdom in my head repeated it back to me yesterday. It's a good one!

mary659497

I think you told us how to correctly deal with a potential binge. Thank you and sorry for your pain.

MGinAK

Hugs...isn't it odd how the faraway past can still hurt so much sometimes? Congrats for not using food for comfort on a super emotional day... Please do not ask to get off the bus in bad neighborhoods, though!

oedipa_maas

This touches me deeply not so much because of the dietary control you exercised (although that's mighty impressive for sure!) but I am dumbfounded and blown away by your willingness to accept responsibility for your behavior toward your friend. I disagree with anyone who would tell you that you did nothing wrong --- you did, and you know it and you admit it. You had every right to avoid whatever circumstance you wish, it's the way that you did it, with carelessness and dishonesty that made it wrong. There's a difference. It's rarely that we hurt each other with our end intention, but usually HOW we assert that intention that is destructive to relationships. I have so much admiration for you and your ability to see that and to own it, especially publicly.

It's all too easy for us to justify our mean and careless behavior with righteous indignation about preserving our rights, but the truth is we do owe each other honesty and kindness, compassion and warmth. Your realization is soooo rare. I have been on both ends of such exchanges, and I have to say that both are excruciatingly painful when you have these realizations, so I want to offer you solace for the pain you are experiencing of your own. Although the outcome was good (realization, growth, positive behaviors toward eating), it has to be PAINFUL to process that post and then to write it out and to post it. You deserve a second chance and I hope that you will consider (without regard for outcome) writing your friend a heartfelt letter taking ownership of what happened and putting your heart on the line. Risk everything. And whether she accepts it or not, you will find incredible healing and comfort for having done so. We do unspeakable things to each other to protect our vulnerabilities, but when we offer those vulnerabilities up as gifts to each other, the benefits can be just as profound as the damage done by protecting them.

If I were her, I would feel lucky to count you as a friend ... *HUG*

Thank you so much for this post. Taking responsibility for my actions used to be hard. I spent a lot of my life hiding from the consequences of my behavior, so afraid of others' anger and my own flaws and feelings. As I've gotten older, I've realized how crucial it is to be honest with myself and, more importantly, not flinching away from others' anger. And it doesn't hurt as much as I thought it would. Making mistakes, hurting someone, failing someone in some way--it just needs to be owned. I feel that emotional growth is often rooted in our mistakes. At least for me it is. The relief of living more honestly and humbly is much greater than my fear of being wrong.

Your post is so beautifully expressed. Thanks again.

oedipa_maas

MFP shared a quote on Pinterest this week - "If hunger isn't the issue, then food isn't the answer''. The little voice of wisdom in my head repeated it back to me yesterday. It's a good one!

Wow, that's perfect!

oedipa_maas

Thank you to all the people who responded. I'm blown away by all the kindness shown to me.