Okay... seriously... HELP!!!

um so i am having this huuuuuuugeee problem for the past year.
i cannot stop eating and i feel starving, ALL THE TIME. yes, ALL THE TIME.
i gained 80 pounds in 3/4 of a year.
i want to get a slim and healthy figure very badly, but i cannot stop eating, and i literally feel starving all the time.
i went to the doctors to get an examination and they said nothing was wrong with me.
i have already visited four professionals who deal with eating/nutrition for the past year. i have told them everything and asked them everything,
i have tried to keep junk food out of the house but i will still overeat the healthy food until i cannot handle any more because i feel THAT starving.
when i am dieting, i mostly eat vegetables, tofu, fish, and fruit. but they cannot keep me full. when i am binge eating, i eat a ton of sweets, fried stuff, nuts, bread, and basically anthing that is on my forbidden list.
i do not drink any sugary beverages-- i only drink water and plain tea. and i drink a lot of it. like 10-15 tall glasses a day.
i have tried to eat meals and snacks but it doesnt seem to work.
i steal food from my family members in the middle of the night because i feel so so intense cravings at that time, even if i ate a lot earlier.

What the **** is wrong with me? why am i starving all the time? can anyone give me some tips? i dont know what to do anymore.
this is honestly very confusing, because the doctor told me my thyroid and blod sugar and everything was normal.
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  • kgeyser
    kgeyser Posts: 22,505 Member
    Are you taking any medications? Can you open your diary?
  • oh yes, and also, i always eat a good amount of protein at every meal, weight out my food, and i have also tried both low-carb (which never ever ends up well) and including forbidden carbs in small amounts (which doesnt work either.)
  • Are you taking any medications? Can you open your diary?

    i do not take any medications.
    i do not use this websites diary often, but i usually write down what i eat by hand.
    this entire week i have been binging. yesterday i binged on peanuts, noodles, fish, strawberries, and ice cream. this morning i was very very full so i skipped breakfast, only had water and stuff, and then around noon i still wasnt very hungry, so i had a bit of stir fried spinach (around 3/4 cup?). i felt tired suddenly so i had green tea, then i had some more spinach and fish as a snack, and then at around six a clock, i started to feel very hungry, and i binged on peanuts and cauliflouwer and carrots,
  • SymphonynSonata
    SymphonynSonata Posts: 533 Member
    When you are trying to diet, how many calories are aiming for per day as a goal? When you binge, how many calories are you eating (if you don't know for sure, rough estimate)? What's your age, height, weight and gender?
  • AllOutof_Bubblegum
    AllOutof_Bubblegum Posts: 3,646 Member
    Stop having "forbidden" foods. That can be very triggering for binges. Eat anything you want in moderation and at a deficit, and you will lose weight without feeling so hungry.
  • When you are trying to diet, how many calories are aiming for per day as a goal? When you binge, how many calories are you eating (if you don't know for sure, rough estimate)? What's your age, height, weight and gender?

    when i am trying to diet, i usually aim for 1000-1500. most times i squarely aim for 1200. when i binge, i dont count my calories often, but several times i did and they came to 4,000+ calories. i am 18 years old, 165 centimeters tall, 165 pounds, and female.
  • Cerakoala
    Cerakoala Posts: 2,547 Member
    Well I will say I was in the same boat as you before. However, it was all mental. I was not starving I was not hungry. I WANTED IT and I ate it. My brain told my body I was hungry but really I wasn't. It's called binge eating and a lot of people suffer from it. When you say you crave fat, sweet, greasy foods etc that lead me to believe it is your brain and not your stomach. Our stomachs are pretty happy after a decent amount of food. However, our minds are not and we keep going. It took me a long long time to overcome my battle with food and while I still have days I am way more in control and can say no. If I am having a hard time I go for a walk or get myself out of the presence of food so I stop thinking about it. Also if you need help at first I rarely ever suggest this but sometimes I feel it can be beneficial, talk to your doctor about a Appetite Suppresant. I would not continually take one but if you need help getting your binge eating in control that may help get you on the right path if you feel you cannot do it on your own.
  • RWTBR
    RWTBR Posts: 140 Member
    You may need to see a psychiatrist.
  • gypsy_spirit
    gypsy_spirit Posts: 2,107 Member
    Edited because you are 18 (profile says 35). Please talk to a doctor or your parents about your health.
  • Stop having "forbidden" foods. That can be very triggering for binges. Eat anything you want in moderation and at a deficit, and you will lose weight without feeling so hungry.

    then how do anorexics manage to lose so much weight when forbidding themselves from almost everything?
  • gypsy_spirit
    gypsy_spirit Posts: 2,107 Member
    Stop having "forbidden" foods. That can be very triggering for binges. Eat anything you want in moderation and at a deficit, and you will lose weight without feeling so hungry.

    then how do anorexics manage to lose so much weight when forbidding themselves from almost everything?

    This question is not helpful to you. Concentrate on healthy ways to lose and on things that will help you reach your goals.
  • PinkyFett
    PinkyFett Posts: 842 Member
    Did they take blood at the docs to see if you have a thyroid disorder? I put on almost 100 lb over a couple years and turned out I had Hashimoto's for some time and was being untreated.
  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,783 Member
    When you are trying to diet, how many calories are aiming for per day as a goal? When you binge, how many calories are you eating (if you don't know for sure, rough estimate)? What's your age, height, weight and gender?

    when i am trying to diet, i usually aim for 1000-1500. most times i squarely aim for 1200. when i binge, i dont count my calories often, but several times i did and they came to 4,000+ calories. i am 18 years old, 165 centimeters tall, 165 pounds, and female.

    Your profile states that you are 35yo. How can we possibly help you if you are less than forthcoming with the pertinent facts?
  • DebTavares
    DebTavares Posts: 170 Member
    How are you only 165lbs if you say you gained 80 lbs over the last year?
  • _HeartsOnFire_
    _HeartsOnFire_ Posts: 5,304 Member
    Stop having "forbidden" foods. That can be very triggering for binges. Eat anything you want in moderation and at a deficit, and you will lose weight without feeling so hungry.

    then how do anorexics manage to lose so much weight when forbidding themselves from almost everything?

    I'm gonna guess you're not even 18...

    Please talk to your parents and talk to a medical professional. The fact that you ask about anorexics leads me to believe you think you should starve yourself.

    You CAN eat in moderation eating what you love and lose weight. The people who have responded have ALL done that.
  • darbobo
    darbobo Posts: 53
    another troll post
  • Michelle_Padgett13
    Michelle_Padgett13 Posts: 417 Member
    How are you only 165lbs if you say you gained 80 lbs over the last year?

    Post history indicates she used to weight 80-something pounds.

    OP, please see your doctor about these issues. I think you need more help than an internet forum can provide. Good luck and good health to you. :flowerforyou:
  • @gypsyrunner
    thanks, i will check out the links, and i have always thought it was an addiction, so i will stop using that term. some of the professionals i mentioned were mental health professionals.
    @ pinkyfett
    i had a blood test done on thyroid, they didnt find anything.
    @calliope610 & msskarlet
    well for my age i pretty much just chose a random year without looking, and yes i used to weight 85 pounds.
  • gypsy_spirit
    gypsy_spirit Posts: 2,107 Member
    @gypsyrunner
    thanks, i will check out the links, and i have always thought it was an addiction, so i will stop using that term. some of the professionals i mentioned were mental health professionals.
    @ pinkyfett
    i had a blood test done on thyroid, they didnt find anything.
    @calliope610 & msskarlet
    well for my age i pretty much just chose a random year without looking, and yes i used to weight 85 pounds.


    All of your posts since joining MFP have been about binge eating. If you have that serious a problem, it will not be solved by posting to this board. I have deleted my links because you really need to talk to someone about how you are feeling. If you had to choose a random year - I'm pretty sure that you are not yet 18.

    If you were my daughter, I would want to assist you in getting the help you need. Talk to some one you can trust.
  • kgraves3
    kgraves3 Posts: 28 Member
    You were 5'5" and 85 lbs 8 months ago? Nah, I'm not buying it. That would make your BMI something like 14.

    If that is the truth, then you desperately needed to gain that weight, and are probably healthier now than you were then. If you can't see that, you might have an eating disorder.

    Assuming this isn't a troll post, and you are being honest with the facts here, I'd say you should not make ANY attempt to reduce your weight without talking to a doctor first, which I do not believe you have actually done.
  • mydeloo78
    mydeloo78 Posts: 328 Member
    Are you taking any medications? Can you open your diary?

    i do not take any medications.
    i do not use this websites diary often, but i usually write down what i eat by hand.
    this entire week i have been binging. yesterday i binged on peanuts, noodles, fish, strawberries, and ice cream. this morning i was very very full so i skipped breakfast, only had water and stuff, and then around noon i still wasnt very hungry, so i had a bit of stir fried spinach (around 3/4 cup?). i felt tired suddenly so i had green tea, then i had some more spinach and fish as a snack, and then at around six a clock, i started to feel very hungry, and i binged on peanuts and cauliflouwer and carrots,

    I would recommend eating more during the day so then you are not suddenly hungry at night. Of course if you don't eat Breakfast and have a small lunch you will be very hungry. Eat more consistently!
  • kgeyser
    kgeyser Posts: 22,505 Member
    I agree with the others, I think you should speak to a doctor/mental health professional. What you are describing is disordered eating, and there isn't a diet that is going to fix that and get you on track. You need to work through the underlying issues in order to be successful. I hope you seek help and get on the right track to a healthy lifestyle.
  • You were 5'5" and 85 lbs 8 months ago? Nah, I'm not buying it. That would make your BMI something like 14.

    If that is the truth, then you desperately needed to gain that weight, and are probably healthier now than you were then. If you can't see that, you might have an eating disorder.

    Assuming this isn't a troll post, and you are being honest with the facts here, I'd say you should not make ANY attempt to reduce your weight without talking to a doctor first, which I do not believe you have actually done.

    well fine if you dont believe me, but what happened to me was that i managed to eat so little for a while that i lost weight within seven months and dropped down to 85 pounds. actually, i just noticed i made an error in saying that i gained 60 pounds in 3/4 of a year, it actually happened in a bit more than a full year, because i forgot that i was somewhere around 105 pounds in the summer. i did know that i needed to gain the weight, the problem is i just dont know how to stop. i have told a doctor about how i had an insatiable appetite.

    @gypsyrunner
    i already talked to some professionals, so maybe i can try again, but i dont know what to talk about since i already asked about nearly every nutrition-thing i could think of. i think that asking stuff on a forum is okay because you can get advice from plenty of people as long as if its reliable.
  • darbobo
    darbobo Posts: 53
    Why do people keep feeding the trolls,. Nothing she is saying is making sense
  • itsbasschick
    itsbasschick Posts: 1,584 Member
    how tall are you? 1000 calories is too low for me, and i'm only 5' 3". anyone who works out will be too hungry at 1000 calories, and probably at 1200 calories unless those are net calories.
  • _HeartsOnFire_
    _HeartsOnFire_ Posts: 5,304 Member
    You need professional help. Not just a general practice. I think a psychiatrist would be able to help you get to the real issue as to why you are doing this to yourself.

    http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/find-help-support
  • darbobo
    darbobo Posts: 53
    isn't this the same person who made several post yesterday about the same subject and when people tried to give advice they got mad and deleted the post.
  • MKEgal
    MKEgal Posts: 3,250 Member
    when i am trying to diet, i usually aim for 1000-1500. most times i squarely aim for 1200. when i binge, i dont count my calories often, but several times i did and they came to 4,000+ calories.
    Here's my blog post about goal setting (weight & calories):
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/MKEgal/view/setting-goals-667045
    It includes links to several resources.

    For today, you say:
    i am 18 years old, 165 centimeters tall, 165 pounds, and female.
    At 5'9" and 165 lb, you're at the top end of a healthy weight range. Here's a BMI chart. http://www.shapeup.org/bmi/bmi6.pdf
    How much lower do you want to go? The healthy range goes down to 130, but where do you feel best?
    (From some other things you've said, it sounds like you'll hate yourself no matter what you weigh, so why not be in a healthy weight range?)

    The easiest way to figure out how many calories you should be eating to maintain a certain weight is to multiply that weight by 10.
    So if you're aiming for 150, eat 1500 calories per day. That will slowly & safely bring you to 150.
    You might be binging because you're not eating enough. Don't go below 1200 unless you're closely supervised by a doctor.

    But what other people have said is true: don't forbid yourself any particular food, only eat the unhealthy ones in moderation.
    If that means you buy a package of the 100-calorie Oreo snack packs and give the rest to your parents to store for you, do that. You can have one any day you want, but only one, not the whole box of cookies.
    If you want pasta, have a serving or two. Want rice? Have a cup of brown rice.

    Your other posts, other threads, where you talk about being anorexic and only weighing 85 pounds, plus admitting having binge eating disorder, make me (us) think that you need lots more help than we can give you.
    85 lb is _far_ into the dangerously low range.
    Between that history and the things you've posted, I'm going to say that you need long-term psychological help from someone who specializes in eating disorders.

    "i used to be 85 pounds"
    "for 8 months i have put on 70 pounds"
    "i have battled an eating disorder in the past"
    "I have binge eating disorder"
    "I used to be 30 pounds underweight. And everyone hated my body, even though i deprived myself of so much time and food to become thin like a model"
    "I restrict heavily and then i binge because i know that i can't ever be happy with my body because in other people's eyes i will be lazy, hamburger-loving American"
    "every day i have these madly wild cravings that i face DAILY, and they dominate every thought of my life"
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/post/by_user/58904404

    Being "thin like a model" is not a realistic or healthy goal. Most models don't even look like models, they're helped by photoshop.
    Don't depend on what others think of how you look. You'll never please everyone. Find out where you feel best and stay within 10 lb either way.
    Talk with your parents, tell them your struggles, let them help you find help and get healthy.
  • FatFreeFrolicking
    FatFreeFrolicking Posts: 4,252 Member
    You were 5'5" and 85 lbs 8 months ago? Nah, I'm not buying it. That would make your BMI something like 14.

    If that is the truth, then you desperately needed to gain that weight, and are probably healthier now than you were then. If you can't see that, you might have an eating disorder.

    Assuming this isn't a troll post, and you are being honest with the facts here, I'd say you should not make ANY attempt to reduce your weight without talking to a doctor first, which I do not believe you have actually done.

    well fine if you dont believe me, but what happened to me was that i managed to eat so little for a while that i lost weight within seven months and dropped down to 85 pounds. actually, i just noticed i made an error in saying that i gained 60 pounds in 3/4 of a year, it actually happened in a bit more than a full year, because i forgot that i was somewhere around 105 pounds in the summer. i did know that i needed to gain the weight, the problem is i just dont know how to stop. i have told a doctor about how i had an insatiable appetite.

    @gypsyrunner
    i already talked to some professionals, so maybe i can try again, but i dont know what to talk about since i already asked about nearly every nutrition-thing i could think of. i think that asking stuff on a forum is okay because you can get advice from plenty of people as long as if its reliable.

    You said you gained 80 lbs. Now you only gained 60? What's the truth?
  • MKEgal
    MKEgal Posts: 3,250 Member
    i did know that i needed to gain the weight, the problem is i just dont know how to stop.
    i have told a doctor about how i had an insatiable appetite.
    You stop by exercising the same self-control you used to make yourself sick in the first place, and eat exactly the calories you should be eating. (For argument, let's say 1500.)
    i already talked to some professionals, so maybe i can try again, but i dont know what to talk about since i already asked about nearly every nutrition-thing i could think of.
    Your problem is not nutrition, it's mental.
    You've said you hate yourself no matter what you weigh or how you look, you want to be "thin like a model".
    You don't need to learn about nutrition so much as you need to figure out why you hate yourself and why you're punishing yourself by either starving or overeating.
    i think that asking stuff on a forum is okay because you can get advice from plenty of people as long as if its reliable.
    How do you judge if it's reliable? Seriously, I'd like to know.
    Because with as disordered and harebrained as the rest of what you've posted is, I don't think you'd know a reliable source if it bit you on the nose.
    At 18 (if you really are 18) I wouldn't have known. It took several years of college and a couple research classes to learn what's considered an acceptable source document.
    For myself (3 college degrees + nursing school) I would want good solid sources which use science and research, things like the CDC, PubMed, perhaps WebMD.
    If someone can back their opinion by citing to something like that, I'd give it some weight.
    (Many of the links in my blog posts fit that description.)