Being shocked by your "thin" self
sweetcocobunny
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Recently I have dropped down to my goal weight and its great. However, I feel really strange in my own body. A lot of bones stick out that I didn't realize would protrude so much, and I feel way too skinny even though I logically know that I am not. I'm sure its just a matter of getting used to being in your own new skin, but I am just wondering if anyone else has felt this way?
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I know this post is old but I'm feeling like this too - saggy belly and boobs but bones sticking out where they haven't before. I was stretching and then felt my ribs and was a bit freaked out. I'm 5-6 and 137lbs. I've lost 23lbs. I wasn't expecting these changes/feelings at that weight loss. I know that I'll get used to my new body and being treated like a skinny person but it's a bigger adjustment than I was expecting.0
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I'm 5ft and lost 35lbs. I'm now 126lbs. I couldn't wait to lose the weight but I miss my boobs and hate the fact I can feel my ribcage and hips stick out. ....I am alot healthier which was my aim0
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@erinmlav, I love it when people look for posts about what they are thinking about!
I was thin when I was younger. I remembered the bones. I loved them. I loved it when my stomach was concave and so were my thighs. I loved seeing collarbones. Apparently I just loved eating food more. *sigh*
Words cannot adequately express how excited I am that my bones are reappearing 25 lbs from my goal weight. The only thing I'm sad about is that my breasts are no longer well-inflated or um.. gravity-defying. Then again, I'm on the dark side of 35, not 19-21 any more. And I can't say I know many women my age with perky breasts anyway.-1 -
Yes, it's taking me a while to get used to how things are now.
I've lost 64 lbs / 29 kg since April, and only 4 kg to go, so there's a fair bit of difference to get used to!
The most recent difference I've noticed is that my back is quite skinny.
I was totally in denial about having a fat back, but this is a nice wake-up call.0 -
Yes I know the feeling. Although, I also like the feeling of being "fragile"? Bones sticking out makes me feel that way, even though I'm by no means weak.
Not that I need my bones to make me look that way, I'm really small framed.
On one side, I like being "fragile"/boney/thin/small (it makes me feel like a fairy - don't judge the geek!) and on the other side I miss my boobies, sitting down comfortably and so on. Love-hate relationship.
but I'd rather be healthy and confident in my body. I was miserable when I was bigger. 0 -
QueenofHearts023 wrote: »Yes I know the feeling. Although, I also like the feeling of being "fragile"? Bones sticking out makes me feel that way, even though I'm by no means weak.
Not that I need my bones to make me look that way, I'm really small framed.
On one side, I like being "fragile"/boney/thin/small (it makes me feel like a fairy - don't judge the geek!) and on the other side I miss my boobies, sitting down comfortably and so on. Love-hate relationship. but I'd rather be healthy and confident in my body. I was miserable when I was bigger.
I get what you're saying 100%. There's a lot of cultural influence going on here. The concept of femininity is strongly correlated with being small & fragile in much of the world. I would be lying if I said I wasn't slightly jealous you *can* achieve that. I'm taller than 98% of the women in the world, and more than half of the men. I was even taller when I was young before scoliosis decided to corkscrew my body down. It isn't actual fragility, its the appearance of it that's emotionally compelling. And as you said, fairies.
I'm tall, and very large-boned. Like, honestly, large bones. My wrists exceed 7" when they're at their boniest. My ankles are well-shaped.. but utterly enormous. I had a roommate who wore a size 4 shoe. We had the same brand and model of running shoe; her shoe fit entirely within mine, easily. As in, she slipped her shoe into my shoe and marveled that it was possible someone could have feet so much larger than hers. I simply marveled that her feet were so tiny! At my thinnest, honestly, I still look like Gulliver in Lilliput (well, not so much where I live now, but when I lived in California I sure felt that way).
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QueenofHearts023 wrote: »Yes I know the feeling. Although, I also like the feeling of being "fragile"? Bones sticking out makes me feel that way, even though I'm by no means weak.
Not that I need my bones to make me look that way, I'm really small framed.
On one side, I like being "fragile"/boney/thin/small (it makes me feel like a fairy - don't judge the geek!) and on the other side I miss my boobies, sitting down comfortably and so on. Love-hate relationship. but I'd rather be healthy and confident in my body. I was miserable when I was bigger.
I get what you're saying 100%. There's a lot of cultural influence going on here. The concept of femininity is strongly correlated with being small & fragile in much of the world. I would be lying if I said I wasn't slightly jealous you *can* achieve that. I'm taller than 98% of the women in the world, and more than half of the men. I was even taller when I was young before scoliosis decided to corkscrew my body down. It isn't actual fragility, its the appearance of it that's emotionally compelling. And as you said, fairies.
I'm tall, and very large-boned. Like, honestly, large bones. My wrists exceed 7" when they're at their boniest. My ankles are well-shaped.. but utterly enormous. I had a roommate who wore a size 4 shoe. We had the same brand and model of running shoe; her shoe fit entirely within mine, easily. As in, she slipped her shoe into my shoe and marveled that it was possible someone could have feet so much larger than hers. I simply marveled that her feet were so tiny! At my thinnest, honestly, I still look like Gulliver in Lilliput (well, not so much where I live now, but when I lived in California I sure felt that way).
Well at least men will be less inclined to mess around with you...I tend to be a target for emotional-players. Because you know, I'm small what can I do? ... **walks to closet and dusts off baseball bat**0 -
QueenofHearts023 wrote: »Well at least men will be less inclined to mess around with you...I tend to be a target for emotional-players. Because you know, I'm small what can I do? ... **walks to closet and dusts off baseball bat**
Yeah.... not so true. Those guys mess with every woman, they generally look for targets by spreading a wide net and seeing what fish they catch. They're looking for emotional, not physical, weakness.
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QueenofHearts023 wrote: »Well at least men will be less inclined to mess around with you...I tend to be a target for emotional-players. Because you know, I'm small what can I do? ... **walks to closet and dusts off baseball bat**
Yeah.... not so true. Those guys mess with every woman, they generally look for targets by spreading a wide net and seeing what fish they catch. They're looking for emotional, not physical, weakness.
Ah well, it has its advantages and disadvantages. One particular advantage you have over me is you don't have to ask someone in the store to get you something from the top shelf EVERY TIME you go there...
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I'm nowhere near my goal yet, but I was lying in bed last night fidgeting (as I do) and it occurred to me that I could feel my hip bones. Granted they don't stick out or anything, but they were actually feelable, I didn't have to go digging around for them. So now I've been poking my hip bones all day.
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I'm at goal weight (actually, I've settled on a little lower weight than I aimed for, but not much) and I have visible collar bones and ribs, and protruding hip bones. I don't like that, I'm not sure if I think it's "ugly", it's just too "body". My boobs are a little bit smaller, which is all right, and I have a slight sag on upper arms, thighs and belly, which is to be expected, after losing over 40 pounds in my fourties. I love my legs and I have ancles!
I got down to this weight 8-9 years ago too, and I can't for the life of me remember noticing collar or hip bones then, I had the same size boobs, no sag, and got rid of cellulites, but at my lowest point (which I sometimes weigh in at now) I had a "crease" on my cheek, that I don't have now. I even felt bad about my "cancles" and big knees. It's just strange, all of it.0 -
QueenofHearts023 wrote: »Yes I know the feeling. Although, I also like the feeling of being "fragile"? Bones sticking out makes me feel that way, even though I'm by no means weak.
Not that I need my bones to make me look that way, I'm really small framed.
On one side, I like being "fragile"/boney/thin/small (it makes me feel like a fairy - don't judge the geek!) and on the other side I miss my boobies, sitting down comfortably and so on. Love-hate relationship. but I'd rather be healthy and confident in my body. I was miserable when I was bigger.
I get what you're saying 100%. There's a lot of cultural influence going on here. The concept of femininity is strongly correlated with being small & fragile in much of the world. I would be lying if I said I wasn't slightly jealous you *can* achieve that. I'm taller than 98% of the women in the world, and more than half of the men. I was even taller when I was young before scoliosis decided to corkscrew my body down. It isn't actual fragility, its the appearance of it that's emotionally compelling. And as you said, fairies.
I'm tall, and very large-boned. Like, honestly, large bones. My wrists exceed 7" when they're at their boniest. My ankles are well-shaped.. but utterly enormous. I had a roommate who wore a size 4 shoe. We had the same brand and model of running shoe; her shoe fit entirely within mine, easily. As in, she slipped her shoe into my shoe and marveled that it was possible someone could have feet so much larger than hers. I simply marveled that her feet were so tiny! At my thinnest, honestly, I still look like Gulliver in Lilliput (well, not so much where I live now, but when I lived in California I sure felt that way).
I wear a size 13 wide shoes
. For an athletic shoe I wear a 12 and a half mens! I tower over everyone, & I completely understand where you're coming from. I will never be small, tiny, or fragile, even though I'm now between a size 8 and 10. (Which are all too short incidentally) :-) I am a lot healthier though! 0 -
As another very tall woman I can relate! When I was younger, I'd say I was 5'11. Now I'll proudly claim my 6'1.0
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I'm feeling this way now that I've gotten down to 125lbs at 5'4. I'm right in the middle of what's a normal weight range, but do feel somewhat bony. I've even discovered that I have a freakish extra rib that's protruding. I googled it, and yes....some people have extra ribs...
I think this is how bodies are supposed to feel, but mine has been covered by layers of fat for so long.... On the upside, I'm starting to see some muscle definition from the work I've been doing lifting weights. It's still very alien though. I'm looking forward to the newness wearing off because I'm a bit obsessed with it.0 -
Oh...and of course, I'm always FREEZING in winter. And even on slightly cool summer days.0
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QueenofHearts023 wrote: »
Ah well, it has its advantages and disadvantages. One particular advantage you have over me is you don't have to ask someone in the store to get you something from the top shelf EVERY TIME you go there...
ROFL!! At only 5ft, I completely empathize! There have been days when I have been frustrated enough to literally climb up grocery store shelves. Talk about embarrassing!
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I was shocked when I saw the picture of myself on the left in my profile pic. I wasn't losing much on the scale but when I saw how thin I was I thought....oh....Do I even like that? It looks painful lol.
But yeah, things felt different. Little bones and stuff sticking out.0 -
Interesting. The left side of my ribcage has a bump or sticks out farther than my right. I've always been curious about it0
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I've been overweight for as long as I can remember, literally. Probably obese since at least 8. I feel I have no sense of what my body is supposed to be andb I'm still 15 lb or so from my goal, 10 lb from normal BMI. I feel even odder having above average muscles and having rather gynoid fat for a man.
Unlike the other comments in this thread, I wish more of my boobs were gone by now. Unfortunately for my vanity, my body seems to prefer doing the healthier thing of removing android fat from the belly.0 -
I've been overweight for as long as I can remember, literally. Probably obese since at least 8. I feel I have no sense of what my body is supposed to be andb I'm still 15 lb or so from my goal, 10 lb from normal BMI. I feel even odder having above average muscles and having rather gynoid fat for a man.
Unlike the other comments in this thread, I wish more of my boobs were gone by now. Unfortunately for my vanity, my body seems to prefer doing the healthier thing of removing android fat from the belly.
It's about time I gave you kudos. Amazing job, @senecarr , to have reversed a lifelong trend. And I have full confidence you will maintain a healthy weight. You rock.0 -
I'm right around my goal, 110lbs at 5'1. I have always been somewhat thin so being this weight isn't shocking in and of itself.
I recently lost about 20lbs of extra baby weight that I let hang around for over a year. What was shocking to me was being overweight. At my highest I was 135lbs, only slightly overweight ....some time over last summer. It was hard for me to get dressed and not look sloppy. Going to the beach I had to wear a maternity bathing suit because nothing else I had fit me. I also had large breasts (34F) so I looked somewhat bigger than I was. Really I was only wearing size 8 or 10 in clothes...but I used to be a 0 or 2.
So I finally lost the weight. Now I'm sort of shocked at how thin I look at 110lbs. And what's the most shocking is the loss of my boobs. After nursing for almost 18 months and losing 20lbs..
They are gone....well not really....but they haven't been this small since probably 7th grade. From a 34F to a 32D. I can wear clothes I couldn't before (like button down shirts). And I don't need XL bikini tops....I might get away with a M or even S.0 -
I'm hovering around my goal now, which is 120-125 lbs at 5'4 (right now I'm 124). This is down from a max weight of 235 lbs. I have never ever been this weight as an adult, I probably haven't been this weight since I was 10 or 11 years old.
I have moments where I catch my reflection and think oh man, I'm too thin. I also have moments where I look at that damned abdominal flab that I STILL have and want to keep losing until it's as flat as possible.
My boobs are also gone, I was a 38 DD which went up when I was nursing my 3 kids. Now I'm down to a 34 C but it's only a C because of all the extra skin. I actually LOVE having smaller breasts, I always hated them when they were larger.0 -
Ugh. I hate the thought of "fragile." It makes me kind of sick. I don't understand the attraction. I am only 5'6", I have new bony protrusions, but I will never look or be fragile. In my life I could never have been anything but tough to get through the bull5hit. Through and through I own the fact that I am a strong, tough woman. My husband wouldn't have me any other way.
And, @senecarr you're bad a55! Kudos to you!0 -
Different strokes. I like feeling tiny and "fragile", but not because I feel like it's feminine. I like looking androgynous and boyish. The closer I get to being straight up and down, the more I like my body.0
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I love being tiny and fragile. Its part of that pale and intetesting goth girl thing that im really drawn .0
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I'm not at goal yet (getting close). Sometimes I'm shocked when I look in the mirror. I'm shocked at how thin I am. And then sometimes I look in the mirror and still see how far I have to go. Sometimes I don't feel like I look any different than before, which I know isn't true (-66lbs, 213 to 147 on a 5'3" frame is very noticeable).
Our brains are weird. That's all there is to it.0 -
QueenofHearts023 wrote: »
Ah well, it has its advantages and disadvantages. One particular advantage you have over me is you don't have to ask someone in the store to get you something from the top shelf EVERY TIME you go there...
ROFL!! At only 5ft, I completely empathize! There have been days when I have been frustrated enough to literally climb up grocery store shelves. Talk about embarrassing!
i do that all the time only now i dont worry about tipping the shelf over LOLOLOLOL 0 -
I'm nowhere near goal, yet, but even with my current level of weight loss, I sometimes am surprised at how different an "overweight" person is treated from an "obese" person. Technically, by weight/body fat I'm still "obese," but before I was "that guy.... 365lbs wasn't so long ago, in fact (MFP doesn't even know about that weight!), so 6ft tall and 270-something pounds is downright svelte by comparison I suppose. I can already buy pants in many stores and within another 20lbs, I can probably buy pants at nearly any standard store (something I've not been able to do since before the age of 13).
Still, when I look at myself in the mirror, I see a fat guy and it sometimes doesn't "feel" to me that I've lost weight (until I put on pants I used to wear and they fit like clown pants).
But, even at "fat but not as obese" it's nice not to worry about fitting into (most) seats, even the student desks at the school where I teach. Now it's just an issue of whether I will fit AND be comfortable in a seat. Some of that (such as airplane economy seats, most stadium seats) will never get fixed, because I'm over 6' tall and the leg room in planes is made for a max of 5'5" individuals (I won't even go into how this is discriminatory!) and stadium seating is made for max cram ratio (I noticed that even the most expensive "courtside seats" at the NBA games are in tiny, crammed-together chairs with no arm rests... how horrible.)
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