Not new, but enjoying the journey and not starving myself!

Chevy_Quest

I am not new.. but....

I have found that there is another way!

I did deprivation "Hell"
I write this so just so that someone else doesn't have to go through all the hell I went through a few years ago. I am a 50 something 5'7" male who topped out at 203 sometime this winter. I am in the officially "obese" category and I did not look or feel good. Plus I was having all sorts of "aches and pains".

Lost some weight. but at a "cost"
A few years ago, I got "motivated" and did my usual eat as few calories as I could bear and workout like crazy. I got down to 181 by eating 1200-1400 calories per day and burning 600-800. It worked... for a while. But then one day I was doing my pitiful shuffle run in a hotel parking lot and I just had to sit down from exhaustion. I had only run 1/2 mile and had no endurance.

Of course I gained it all back and then some!
Plus I lost muscle mass! That means my LBM (Lean Body Mass) was less and I had a higher bodyfat %!

Started reading the "mean" people stuff and got smarter
I say this "tongue and cheek" because the the "mean" people are people who have learned discipline and realized that they can't blame external forces. There are a lot of "whining" posts written by people who just want people to "verify" their story.. they really don't want the truth. The truth is we have to be "self directed" and responsible... that is a tough pill to swallow for people sometimes.

I am seeing results

I know this is only two months in, but I am seeing results. I have logged every single day. Really been good about weighing and measuring. Things really started to get better when I started using the fitbit to keep me moving. (If I didn't move... it actually subtracted calories - if that doesn't kick your azz I don't know what will!)

10 day average weights.

May 01 - 197.2
May 15 - 194.3
Jun 01 - 193.7
Jun 15 - 191.5
Jun 30 - 191.3

I am on pace to lose 3-4 lbs per month! At this rate I should reach my initial goal about this time next year.

WTF - A year!

I have finally gotten it through my head that the weight didn't come on overnight and it sure as heck will not come off overnight. What keeps me going are NSVs of the physical variety. Running 5Ks and 10Ks eventually, Lifting more, starting Yoga etc.etc.etc.

---> If you are trying to eat 1200 calories or less, AND exercise 600-900 cals to achieve a net between 300 and 700 or even worse... PLEASE reconsider.... There IS a better way.

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"Slow and Steady" :drinker:

Chevy_Quest

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in_therain

Good post Chevy! I'm in the same mindset - if make smart choices, lose slowly, and don't completely deprive myself, the weight will come off and I'm more likely to stick with it.

Chevy_Quest

Good post Chevy! I'm in the same mindset - if make smart choices, lose slowly, and don't completely deprive myself, the weight will come off and I'm more likely to stick with it.

Thanks - It really takes a while to get in that "long term" mindset!

Chevy_Quest

I keep seeing posts every day where people say "I would like to lose 15-20 lbs this month".
What is sad is that I used to go "cool... how can I do it too!".

Of course its possible, but at what price.

cupcakesandvegetables

Excellent post! I'm aiming to get into that mindset of losing slowly, well actually maintaining I am at a healthy weight and I am trying not to deprive myself because there is a little voice tell me I could lose more and I am trying to say no because I don't need to lose more weight and even if I do want to lose a couple pounds I'd rather do it in a healthy way rather than just do it quickly.

mammahawk25

Right there with ya! I've done the 1200cal thing and lost some weight, but I came to the conclusion that being thin is so not worth the misery I was putting myself through.

This time round I aim to eat until satisfied and make it work into my calories. I quickly realized that I need 1600-1800 cals to stay sane. MFP "gives" me only 1430, so I exercise to "earn" the rest (which is really only about an hour of walking or a 1/2 hour of running)

I'm 30 days into it now and I feel so much better/healthier AND am still losing the weight (about 8 lbs this month). It's a win-win all the way around!

gardengirl40

Right there with you Chevy! I'm not interested in starving myself, I just want to live my life around food in better balance. I am shocked by how little some people are eating on here.

Chevy_Quest

@cupcakes, @mammahawk, @gardengirl - Thanks for the reinforcements. I think there are a lot of people here (maybe not positing so much) that are just "doing their thing", reading the posts, and applying it.

Let's do this! :drinker:

Peachy1962

Thats what I have rid to do! slow n steady and 10 pound goals till I reach my goal weight!! looking at the long road ahead has always stopped me from even starting that journey!!


Congrats on your success!!! xxx

Chevy_Quest

@peachy

Great Avatar - Always love a purple mane!

Thats what I have rid to do! slow n steady and 10 pound goals till I reach my goal weight!! looking at the long road ahead has always stopped me from even starting that journey!!


Congrats on your success!!! xxx

speedyf

The secret: Slowly but surely.
Weight loss is not a diet; it's a life change, a mindset. It takes time, but everything that is worth having takes time.

You're doing fantastic Chevy! You're a fantastic friend and I love your positive attitude :bigsmile: :bigsmile:

Sharon_C

I agree with everything you said. Especially the mean people posts. I've learned more from the mean people posts than anywhere else.

OkamiLavande

Good luck on your journey! Slow and steady wins the race in the world of weight loss. Don't ever deprive yourself! The food scale will be your best friend because you'll find if you want a treat that weighing it out can be a bit rewarding. It's always nice to know I can have more than twelve chips for a serving. Those packages are little liars! Everything in moderation and congrats on your weight loss.

I hope you continue to have an ever successful journey and that all your weight loss goals are achieved. Build strength and confidence!

Charloo1990

Love this post, so true! I have had a similar journey to you and have learnt from it and am now doing it 100% healthily. I don't care how long it takes because as you say, it didn't go on overnight and its not going to come off overnight.

lozzatao

wow ! What a great thread !!

gona try the slow and steady way !! My problem is I'm good Mon - Thurs then go a bit mad at the weekend .. trying to find a balance .. thanks for all the great advice .. if any of you positive ppl want to mentor me just send me a msg !!!

Thanks ..

Chevy_Quest

@Speedy - Thanks you have always been a great encouragement - I swear you keep the move your @ss thread going with your energy! - it's great!

The secret: Slowly but surely.
Weight loss is not a diet; it's a life change, a mindset. It takes time, but everything that is worth having takes time.

You're doing fantastic Chevy! You're a fantastic friend and I love your positive attitude :bigsmile: :bigsmile:

@Sharon - I hear you
I aspire to be a "mean" person here someday... well maybe at least a real brusque and curt good information giver LOL.

I agree with everything you said. Especially the mean people posts. I've learned more from the mean people posts than anywhere else.

@Okami - You nailed it right on the head - The scale
actually = FREEDOM!

Good luck on your journey! Slow and steady wins the race in the world of weight loss. Don't ever deprive yourself! The food scale will be your best friend because you'll find if you want a treat that weighing it out can be a bit rewarding. It's always nice to know I can have more than twelve chips for a serving.

@Charloo - It's good to know other people have the same attitude... I was starting to feel like I was eating twice as much as everyone else!

Love this post, so true! I have had a similar journey to you and have learnt from it and am now doing it 100% healthily. I don't care how long it takes because as you say, it didn't go on overnight and its not going to come off overnight.

@lozzatao - That is the thing....good post

wow ! What a great thread !!

gona try the slow and steady way !! My problem is I'm good Mon - Thurs then go a bit mad at the weekend .. trying to find a balance

RobynMWilson

AMEN!!!!!!!!!!

Chevy_Quest

:drinker:

AMEN!!!!!!!!!!

SugaryLynx

:flowerforyou: love it!

Chevy_Quest

:flowerforyou: love it!

And now you are getting to bulk! woo hoo!

cahf

Great thread. I'm three weeks in and finding that it is HARD to lose weight in your 40's. It took me 10 years to gain 100 lbs, so why I expect to lose it instantly I don't know. I'm struggling with what you are saying - I'm trying to just eat very healthily, around 1600 calories net, exercise a lot, and let go of weight loss being the proximate goal. I'm trying to be convinced that if I just keep being healthy, eventually something good will happen! Thanks for the post.

Chevy_Quest

@cahf - Right on - I was so wrapped up in a number and getting all worried about how long It would take. I now am "diverting myself" by setting all these little physical goals to distract me so I don't get slaughtered by a bad scale day LOL.

Good luck.. you can do it!

Great thread. I'm three weeks in and finding that it is HARD to lose weight in your 40's. It took me 10 years to gain 100 lbs, so why I expect to lose it instantly I don't know. I'm struggling with what you are saying - I'm trying to just eat very healthily, around 1600 calories net, exercise a lot, and let go of weight loss being the proximate goal. I'm trying to be convinced that if I just keep being healthy, eventually something good will happen! Thanks for the post.

These_goto_11

Started reading the "mean" people stuff and got smarter
I say this "tongue and cheek" because the the "mean" people are people who have learned discipline and realized that they can't blame external forces. There are a lot of "whining" posts written by people who just want people to "verify" their story.. they really don't want the truth. The truth is we have to be "self directed" and responsible... that is a tough pill to swallow for people sometimes.





WTF - A year!

I have finally gotten it through my head that the weight didn't come on overnight and it sure as heck will not come off overnight. What keeps me going are NSVs of the physical variety. Running 5Ks and 10Ks eventually, Lifting more, starting Yoga etc.etc.etc.

---

"Slow and Steady" :drinker:

I agree! When I first joined MFP, I thought there was a lot of mean people, Turns out, the mean people have the best advise. They have been there, done that, and worked hard for it. I like my "friends" to not let me get away with s##t. When I cheated with smoking, they didn't say, "Oh tomorrow's another day", they asked, "what was the trigger", "did you learn from that", "are you done with that"....

There is a saying, "What if you started a year ago", look where you would be now. So next year we can say, "I started a year ago...look where I am now!"

Cheers :drinker:

nutmegoreo

@cahf - Right on - I was so wrapped up in a number and getting all worried about how long It would take. I now am "diverting myself" by setting all these little physical goals to distract me so I don't get slaughtered by a bad scale day LOL.

Good luck.. you can do it!

Great thread. I'm three weeks in and finding that it is HARD to lose weight in your 40's. It took me 10 years to gain 100 lbs, so why I expect to lose it instantly I don't know. I'm struggling with what you are saying - I'm trying to just eat very healthily, around 1600 calories net, exercise a lot, and let go of weight loss being the proximate goal. I'm trying to be convinced that if I just keep being healthy, eventually something good will happen! Thanks for the post.

Thanks for this great reminder Chevy. I like to remind people to take measurements and pictures for those 'bad scale' days. Fitness goals are another great way to go. I have days when my eating is out of control, but I have to remind myself how common that was when I was eating at a lower goal.

When I look at the big picture, my overall fitness has improved, I have lost 27 inches (over many, many measurement areas), my before and current pictures are a great reminder of how far I have come. I did a lot of reading when I started here. I experimented with lower cal, despite the warnings, and tried TDEE-20%. I am much less miserable and more energetic eating at a modest deficit.

Chevy_Quest

@thanks everyone!

RhysJones92

Words of wisodm! It's taken me quite a while to get used to the idea of this being a long journey and not a quick fix

Chevy_Quest

@Rhys... you know what is funny... there are still days where I fall into the trap of wanting it too quickly .... it is a lot of give and take!

Words of wisodm! It's taken me quite a while to get used to the idea of this being a long journey and not a quick fix

k80flec

@speedy

The secret: Slowly but surely.
Weight loss is not a diet; it's a life change, a mindset. It takes time, but everything that is worth having takes time.

Your so right, and sometimes its the hardest lesson to learn - but once learnt that's how we keep the dreaded pounds off - or so I've heard.

And @Chevy I too

aspire to be a "mean" person here someday... well maybe at least a real brusque and curt good information giver LOL.

A fabulous thread Chevy.

edited for typo

Chevy_Quest

@K80 -

A fabulous thread Chevy.

Thanks so much.. All I hope is that someone who is eating less than 1000 calories per day and thinking that is the "only way" sees this and thinks: "hmmmmmmm....."

redzgal

Talk about hitting the nail on the head!!! Well said. I should know. I've done the juice fast, clean eating for 21 days, only raw foods..blah blah and of course they work...but at what cost. And the weight I lost came right back and then some extra too! So I made myself miserable for nothing. I finally told myself I'm DONE with that crap!! I'm not depriving myself anymore. I'm going the smart route. I choose wisely, but if I want a donut one day I will have it. I exercise 6 days a week. I weigh everything I eat (love my scale) and I'm aware of what I eat now. I didn't gain these 10lbs in 1 month so why would I try to lose it in one month? In fact I gained it over the course of a year. So, why am I racing!? Slow and steady.

I'm perfectly happy with lost 1lb in a month! It took me a long time to get my head wrapped around it but I finally did. And I'm much happier for it...this is a great post I think should be a requirement to read. Trying to lose lots of weight in a short period of time ultimately leads to failure. I think we are too into the want it now mentality and it just gets us in trouble. Kudos to you all...I'd love to hear from everyone in a year!! That's dedication and I'm hoping to still be here...chugging along maybe 15lbs lighter! LOL Great post. :smooched: