should i be offended....

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  • Desterknee
    Desterknee Posts: 1,056 Member
    i am down 12 lbs and one person told my mom "she looks like she lost some weight" but other than that no one has said much. my sister tells me once in a while i look "skinny" haha but that might depend on my outfit. I can see it in my face but i dont think anyone else really notices. awe well im not doing it for them, im doing it for me...and to look smokin in my bikini ;)

    You posted this in another thread. That's two people who have told you.

    And no, you should not be offended. How can you be offended over what people aren't doing? As others have said, people may be afraid of offending you by implying they noticed you were overweight.

    Be proud of what you've done and keep it moving.
  • BearsinHats
    BearsinHats Posts: 35 Member
    I agree, sometimes it seems like because you are no longer at a heavier weight, people can talk bad about your body as it previously was...right to your face! As though you were a totally different person who just walked out of a room or something. It's so strange.
  • Mr_Bad_Example
    Mr_Bad_Example Posts: 2,403 Member
    no one has told me that i look like ive lost weight? I can tell but noone else apparently can...

    Yes, you should be so highly offended that you cut off contact from everyone you know, unfriend everyone on your MFP and Facebook friends' list, and move to an island where only the geckos and salamanders will recognize your weight loss.
  • Elsie_Brownraisin
    Elsie_Brownraisin Posts: 786 Member
    Some people don't like people noticing - there are a lot of threads on here where people have stated that they feel self-concious or patronised if people comment on their weight loss.

    Or they're just socially inept like me. I commented on the drastic weight loss of someone I used to work with and I said that she really doesn't need to lose more weight (she looked like cr*p). She crossly informed me that she'd had undiagnosed coeliacs disease for many years and it had destroyed her insides and made her malnourished since we'd last seen each other.

    So yeah. Someone could notice and tell you looked better when you were a bit porkier. Would that suffice?
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    no one has told me that i look like ive lost weight? I can tell but noone else apparently can...

    Yes, you should be so highly offended that you cut off contact from everyone you know, unfriend everyone on your MFP and Facebook friends' list, and move to an island where only the geckos and salamanders will recognize your weight loss.

    Keep in mind that this is a worst case scenario. We'll just refer to this as plan B. :laugh:
  • JohnnyResets
    JohnnyResets Posts: 177 Member
    Your face is thinner!!

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  • caracrawford1
    caracrawford1 Posts: 657 Member
    no one has told me that i look like ive lost weight? I can tell but noone else apparently can...
    No. I noticed a lady was losing weight at work, but didn't say anything because I didn't know if she was intention ally losing weight or if there was an issue like illness or whatever. I just said she was looking fabulous. Now, sometimes people notice and say things oh so awkwardly and I am left speechless. One of my friends said the other day "boy you've lost weight you're beginning to look good." Wtf is that supposed to mean? BEGINNING to look good?
  • garysgirl719
    garysgirl719 Posts: 235 Member
    Unless you want them to point out when they notice ypu gaining, don't expect them to point out you losing.
  • lukewind
    lukewind Posts: 177 Member
    no one has told me that i look like ive lost weight? I can tell but noone else apparently can...

    If you are doing this for the approval of others then you might as well quit now. Do it because you know that it will make you feel and look better. People will notice, but like others have said, some people just don't like talking to others about their weight.
  • Barbellarella_
    Barbellarella_ Posts: 454 Member
    Damn, thought this was my fart guy thread being resurrected. Retreating silently now...
    right?!
  • qwicherbytchin
    qwicherbytchin Posts: 42
    I've lost almost 16 lbs and no one has noticed. I'm not offended. I'll just be that much happier when I get to the point that they DO notice.
  • Ready2Rock206
    Ready2Rock206 Posts: 9,487 Member
    I'd rather someone punch me in the face then mention anything about my weight. I find those discussions to be awkward at the least and usually horrifying. I'm probably not going to mention anyone's weight loss because of this.
  • Tanie98
    Tanie98 Posts: 675 Member
    No,how much did you weigh to begin with?
  • aedreana
    aedreana Posts: 979 Member
    I have found that in general, weight loss or weight gain is more evident on a shorter person than a taller person, and more evident on a thinner person than a heavier person.
  • Fat2Fit2Fineee
    Fat2Fit2Fineee Posts: 43
    I've lost 45 pounds and people still haven't noticed. I do though and that's what matters.

    I agree!!

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  • freddi11e
    freddi11e Posts: 317 Member
    there is this fed ex lady that always comes into my work.... she was morbidly obese about a year ago, and lost sooo much weight. everytime i see her i wanna say something, but i'm worried that SAYING something might offend her... so i dont.. i jUst admire from afar lol.
  • jofjltncb6
    jofjltncb6 Posts: 34,415 Member
    there is this fed ex lady that always comes into my work.... she was morbidly obese about a year ago, and lost sooo much weight. everytime i see her i wanna say something, but i'm worried that SAYING something might offend her... so i dont.. i jUst admire from afar lol.

    In situations like this, I'll go so far as to say, "You look good today"...

    ...but even that is a trap for something like "oh, so you're saying I looked bad yesterday???"...

    ...or, since I'm now a 42 year old man, I have to make sure I don't let any creepy into my tone.
  • sunburntgalaxy
    sunburntgalaxy Posts: 455 Member
    Don't be offended. I know that I don't notice that stuff - I think that my coworkers could dye their hair purple and I wouldn't notice. It just isn't something I pay attention to. I actually feel bad when I don't notice that stuff on other people but I really just don't. I guess I am not really a girly-girl anymore like I was when I was younger.
  • dunnodunno
    dunnodunno Posts: 2,290 Member
    no one has told me that i look like ive lost weight? I can tell but noone else apparently can...

    Not at all!

    Don't worry about what other people think. I've lost over a 100+ pounds & sometimes wish people would stop commenting on my weight loss or appearance.
  • amy8400
    amy8400 Posts: 478 Member
    Let's be real here. Your profile says your goal is to lose 20 pounds and you've lost 14. There are a lot of people who probably wouldn't notice a 14 pound weight loss...but for you that could be a jeans or dress size and a lot more obvious to you. Relax. You are losing weight for you. Take joy in your accomplishment and being more fit. You don't need others to validate your weight loss.
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    Some people don't comment because they worry that if they do the person will be offended, especially if they don't know that you have been dieting.

    People that see you often may have a harder time noticing as well.

    I can say that is incorrect in my case that people I see everyday can tell.

    Weight loss is for you right? So you care about others complimenting you because ????
  • SkimFlatWhite68
    SkimFlatWhite68 Posts: 1,254 Member
    i am down 12 lbs and one person told my mom "she looks like she lost some weight" but other than that no one has said much. my sister tells me once in a while i look "skinny" haha but that might depend on my outfit. I can see it in my face but i dont think anyone else really notices. awe well im not doing it for them, im doing it for me...and to look smokin in my bikini ;)

    You posted this in another thread. That's two people who have told you.
    Priceless
  • Giribaldi
    Giribaldi Posts: 10
    as long as you feel great thats really what matters. The compliments are really just the icing to the cake. Congrats on losing weight!
  • touslesmemes
    touslesmemes Posts: 46
    no one has told me that i look like ive lost weight? I can tell but noone else apparently can...

    they are probably just blinded by your beautiful personality. *dramatic hair flip*
  • stevee290
    stevee290 Posts: 85 Member
    Commenting on weight loss is a crap shoot 50/50 chance the person gets offended.
  • 651crystal
    651crystal Posts: 5
    No, as long as you can see it in yourself that's all that matters
  • Snow3y
    Snow3y Posts: 1,412 Member
    It takes longer for others to notice changes than for you, yourself :) nope, don't be offended
  • tpt1950
    tpt1950 Posts: 292 Member
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  • littleburgy
    littleburgy Posts: 570 Member
    Nobody noticed I'd lost weight until I hit the maintenance stage. :laugh:
  • RekindledRose
    RekindledRose Posts: 523 Member
    Hey, after I lost my first 25 pounds my DEAR mother said to me "You look like you getting fat." (in a thick Asian accent). "You need to exercise more. Want some more rice and curry?" *as she hands me a heaping bowl that would feed the hulk*.

    And that was in front of her skinny Asian friends.

    So no, don't be offended. You shouldn't need others to validate what you know is true.

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