Help fat and depressed
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Frankly it pissed me off to hear you talk about yourself this way. Because I fell into the same trap. Dieting to please others to be accepted never worked for me. What worked was realizing that I am actually a pretty cool dude. And an interesting human being. And that I had strength that others, even fit and healthy and thin people simply lacked. You have the horse before the cart. If you learn to love yourself then getting in shape really is just a matter of time. But as long as you hate yourself as you do. Nothing will ever work for good.0
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Hi, I started at a whopping 239 lbs a couple of years ago and what changed everything for me were two things:
1. After years of avoiding a regular checkup, I needed antibiotics. So, I went to the doctor and found I had high cholesterol and elevated liver enzymes. For the first time, I was afraid for my health and my quality of life. Leading a healthier life "eventually" wasn't going to cut it anymore. It was affecting me now.
2. We started a biggest loser competition at work. Being around others with a common goal makes a weight loss journey and end goal tangible. You are not alone. Surround yourself with people in your real life that support you. I gave my best friend my password to my fitness pal, for example. If you're going to work out, do it in a group setting when possible. Go to the same place often and you will meet people that are like-minded. That gym or that park will become a familiar and comforting place you can work toward your goal.
It's not all or nothing. It's good days and bad days and it doesn't matter how long it takes. Someone recently said to me that balance is not staying perfectly still for a long period of time but small movements that keep you from falling over. Set goals that seem achievable to you. Work on consistency. Reward yourself with something other than food like flowers, a gym outfit, or a night out doing something you've never tried before.
Be gentle and encouraging with yourself. Continue to pick yourself up and keep going. We don't blame babies that are learning to walk for falling. We don't expect them to run right away and we're super excited when they first crawl. You have a whole lifetime to be healthy and this is just the beginning.
Be excited to crawl and do one small thing today. Maybe it can just be to drink enough water and remind yourself that it doesn't matter where you start but that you're going in the right direction. I applaud your honesty and renewed commitment. Best of luck to you. I know you can do it!0 -
THANK YOU SO MUCH FEELING VERY POSITIVE TONIGHT WITH ALL THIS SUPPORTI am actually crying , thank you all for supporting and motivating me, thank you for caring to take the time, I am starting NOW X
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If there was a "LIKE" buttong for this post I would definately hit it!0 -
You are being too hard on yourself! You can make changes one day at a time.
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WOW WHAT A REACTION I HAVE BEEN LUCKY ENOUGH TO HAVE HAD, THANK YOU EVERY SINGLE ONE OF YOU, WHAT A LIFT I HAVE HAD TODAY, AND I AM NOW ON MY WAY TO A FITTER ME, AND MY NEW LIFESTYLE . THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX0
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I just want to thank everyone that has responded in such a thoughtful way. There are many posts out there that seem promising but go to the absurd. I love having fun and joking around, but I am on here for a reason. Like I said, I was so excited to see a genuine post and really amazing positive answers. I have friend requested many of you and welcome you all to friend request me. Thanks for changing my mind about MFP!0
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Well first time I have been on the scales in over a year , bloody battery had gone, found a new one 223.6 lb have now logged it. I will get lighter every day x
I LOVE this attitude! Stay committed & keep accurate records on MFP. It's my new Facebook! Lol >.< but anyway, proud of you lady, for deciding to change! That makes me smile. You can do it, it just takes time and patience with yourself! 
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43 and lovin it... always looking to add to my support group...
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And when you do get your macros set, don't try and make adjustments on a daily basis, run them out for atleast 3 weeks and you will know exactly how your body is responding, weighing yourself daily will make you crazy. I can weight anywhere from 201 to 206 on a daily basis depending on hydration, sodium intake, large amounts of low calorie dense foods, etc.
You make a very valid point I have been stressing a bit about the numbers and although they are so small sometimes they seem so big
always looking to add to my support group...
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Hi I am yet again going to start a diet, will be starting Monday and trying so hard to get in the mode, so so so fed up with myself , I am 10lb heavier then last time I started on here, just cant get motivated, and if I am being really honest I am digusted with myself, ashamed to go out , hate anyone looking at me and feel so unfit, I really really really just want ME back, to gain self confidence and self worth,, to fell attractive again, to feel normal, not just a big fat lump of lard that hides away, I MUST DO IT THIS TIME . Any support appreciated thank you x Oh by the way 55 years old 220 lbs if not more will find out Monday and want to get to 140 lb.
Everyone finds dieting hard my dear. My advice would be when ever you need a motivational boost to look at what you have written here and remember what you do not want to go back to, then channel that negative energy into something positive. Go for a walk or do some yoga ect, Exercise releases endorphin's in the brain that make you feel good and the activity will help towards your weight loss, Its win win! Chin up ...look to the future 0 -
Hi! My name is Christine. I too, am doing this again, only 10 lbs heavier, but I plan on sticking with it this time. Don't give up hope or your strength! You'll do great! It's time to reinvent yourself. That's how I feel. A few years ago, I was about 25 lbs lighter and much happier, healthier, and fit into all kinds of clothes I have now thrown away or have given away. I'm on a mission. Add me as a friend, we'll be each other's motivation! I'll be 38 in 2 months, mother of 3 children, 5' 10", 166 lbs, and determined to lose 20 lbs by the end of the year. I want to buy a nice holiday dress this year. Let's do this! 0
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Totally agree! That's great advise!0
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I recommend taking some supplements before & after your workout to help you. Research them first to make sure they won't interfere with any medications or conditions.
Rhodiola, maca root, creatine, beta alanine, taurine0 -
Also consume some carbs before, during and after workout0
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I'll send a friend request so we can share success!
Do not beat yourself up! There are lots of people in your shoes, and that's what MFP is for! You have taken a big step by admitting that you need to lose weight. (Believe me, some people I know are heavier than you and say that they don't need to lose weight.)
Motivation is the key. It's not all about exercise and diet, it's a mental battle just as much. You have to convince yourself to eat stuff you may not enjoy as much as say sweets and greasy food. You can maybe sneak in one or two, but you'll have to limit it. And sometimes, if you've had a long day and you don't feel like working out, you have to force yourself to do it. That's how you get motivation. By convincing your mind and yourself that you CAN lose the weight and you CAN pump those weights!
And take it slow, because if you try to lose weight too fast, you'll plateau and then it becomes much more difficult.
Hope it helps! Good luck!
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SO glad you decided to start your NEW LIFESTYLE NOW! Check in with the community often for support and accountability and remember to DO THE DO no matter HOW you might FEEL at the moment. Our feelings can play with our heads and our motivation, and truly this is simply about bringing yourself into energy balance. Right now you are carrying around loads of energy just waiting to be utilized, and you are going to give your body a reason to use that energy by giving yourself a calorie deficit. Simple. No "dieting" here. Simple adjustments on a daily basis and repeated daily will product stunning results.0
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Hi.
I want to wish good luck for Monday. I know how you feel. I have been battling weight issues my whole life.....I am currently doing a 30 day Paleo challenge. Its going fine so far.
Whats your plan for Monday and forward? It helps to do your food shopping, meal prep and exerc. plan to have inplace before your Day 1.
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I know it sounds like I am making excuses but weekend I am checking recipes and doing a big shop and chucking all bad things out , thanks for your support I am going to need it x
It sounds like you're already starting so why not take it one step further and log your food, starting right now. Don't diet, just practice logging. I did that the first two weeks before I kicked in. You can do this. I'm 57 and I know exactly where you are. Been there. You will either worry about what to wear this weekend, trying to find something that fits, or you will worry about what you put in your mouth. Regardless, you will worry about something. Make it the latter sooner and you will be that much closer to your goal!0 -
HI! I am returning to MFP and am on my first week back. You sound just like me and how I feel about myself. I am determined this time to stick with it, no matter how long it takes, and I too am looking for all the support I can get. Together we can do this! Friend request sent. Anyone else feel free to add me as well. Thanks (: 0
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I know it sounds like I am making excuses but weekend I am checking recipes and doing a big shop and chucking all bad things out , thanks for your support I am going to need it x
Is this the same approach you tried with previous attempts at this?
If so, may I suggest a different approach this time?
Read through the links provided. There is another way that you may find works better for you. It has for many others.0 -
All the best! You are worth looking after! It has taken me a very long time to decide that I am valuable to me and my family and that I need to treat myself with the respect I deserve, I see that you are making the same choice! Awesome! I am cheering for you.0
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I get it OP. I have felt the same way you are now for too long. I started at the middle of May because I'd just had enough. Start today. It's not that hard. Small adjustments, one pound at a time. There are people on here that have lost a whole person and stuck with it. It's an amazing thing! Don't get down on yourself, we've all made mistakes.0
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I also don't think of it as a "Diet" but a life style change for the better. I'm 42 weighed 265lbs at the beginning of February this year and now at 195ish pounds. My goal is 160lbs. I weigh my food and track it daily, run 5k daily and now starting to bike also daily, depending on my old bones LOL. Add me if any of you would like. GOOD LUCK 8)0
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I am actually crying , thank you all for supporting and motivating me, thank you for caring to take the time, I am starting NOW X
Wow girl. ..look at you! Already taking a step towards the healthier you! You can do it! Definitely read the links provided. :flowerforyou:0 -
Just wanted to say real quick! What really helped me to stick with it this time around was logging everything. IF I don't log, I'm more likely to cheat, I hate seeing my calories go into the RED on MFP.0
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I know it sounds like I am making excuses but weekend I am checking recipes and doing a big shop and chucking all bad things out , thanks for your support I am going to need it x
I am really impressed with your desire to get better. We are all behind you.
I am sending a friend request.
One thing however... and this is important...
To eat less calories you don't need to check any recipes...
Set a good level of calories and eat at that. You will probably find you eat a lot simpler.
Keep reading all the posts... and if they sound harsh and or curt... read them again.. there is usually truth written by someone who has "been threre"
You can do this! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:0 -
Welcome to the party....FR being sent now
Past is done. The future will be here soon enough. What you have to do is focus on today & today only. Its all we have to work with, my friend.
I woulda been dead in 5 years if I made this commitment. All signs were pointing that way.
Just a few things the MFP tribe and common sense has taught me:
1) This is a thing you DO, not a definition of who you ARE. Just like laundry. Take the emotion out of it wherever possible. I cannot stress this enough.
2) My approach? This is a lifestyle change, not a diet. So there is no finite number of days that I am trying to get to. I will be logging in and logging food for the rest of my life, because:
a) This program works
b) I don't want to die young and I was headed that direction
3) Try to remember - We are the results of the choices we make every day, whether those choices are good or bad. Make as many good choices as you can, and the ship will stay steady. At the end of the day, we are the man in the mirror. We are accountable to ourselves and no one else. We cabnhelp you with getting there, but the doing is up to you.
Cal tracking is considered a good choice (whether boring or not) because it tells you where you really are (just like your check register tells you your balance) - remember to be honest with yourself all the time. Ultimately, you will achieve that which you are seeking much sooner.
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Well first time I have been on the scales in over a year , bloody battery had gone, found a new one 223.6 lb have now logged it. I will get lighter every day x
AND NOW YOUVE TAKEN THE 1st STEP - WE'LL HELP WITH THE REST. YOU CAN DO THIS!0 -
You can do this kid.
Heck if I can... anyone can!0
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