He doesn't even lift.
Ferrous_Female_Dog
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Hey. I've been around enough to see how relationship posts go, so give me your best.
My boyfriend doesn't lift. I lift. This isn't a dealbreaker.
Now that that's out of the way, let's say I wanted to suggest to him that he start lifting. What would be the most effective way to do it?
Through lifting I learned certain skills. I learned a lot about setting goals, discipline, time management, commitment, and consistency. I also found a great way to relieve stress and add routine to my life.
These are areas in which my boyfriend could use improvement. Additionally, it would give us an activity to do together and bond over. Lastly, there are health and aesthetic benefits to lifting.
What is the best way to approach this topic?
My boyfriend doesn't lift. I lift. This isn't a dealbreaker.
Now that that's out of the way, let's say I wanted to suggest to him that he start lifting. What would be the most effective way to do it?
Through lifting I learned certain skills. I learned a lot about setting goals, discipline, time management, commitment, and consistency. I also found a great way to relieve stress and add routine to my life.
These are areas in which my boyfriend could use improvement. Additionally, it would give us an activity to do together and bond over. Lastly, there are health and aesthetic benefits to lifting.
What is the best way to approach this topic?
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tell him you like built guys. if hes not then he';; work on it. easy......call him a stick insect. grow arms bigger than his. grow a penis bigger than his........I hope this helps ;-)0
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tell him you like built guys. if hes not then he';; work on it. easy......call him a stick insect. grow arms bigger than his. grow a penis bigger than his........I hope this helps ;-)
Strong 400th post. Hope your friends get a kick out of it.0 -
Just break up.0
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Let's reverse: How would you like being told by your boyfriend you had areas of improvement he'd like you to work on?0
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Let's reverse: How would you like being told by your boyfriend you had areas of improvement he'd like you to work on?
My BF did that with me. I started swallowing cucumbers whole for practice, and before you know it, he quit complaining....0 -
Let's reverse: How would you like being told by your boyfriend you had areas of improvement he'd like you to work on?
I'd be happy to hear them and would work on them. I have. I respond very well to criticism and I've always addressed any issues he's pointed out to me.
To name some:
Taking out a bad work day on him or others
Being inconsistent (see above-- worked on it)
Being impatient (still working on it)
Not talking over others during a disagreement0 -
Hey. I've been around enough to see how relationship posts go, so give me your best.
My boyfriend doesn't lift. I lift. This isn't a dealbreaker.
Now that that's out of the way, let's say I wanted to suggest to him that he start lifting. What would be the most effective way to do it?
Through lifting I learned certain skills. I learned a lot about setting goals, discipline, time management, commitment, and consistency. I also found a great way to relieve stress and add routine to my life.
These are areas in which my boyfriend could use improvement. Additionally, it would give us an activity to do together and bond over. Lastly, there are health and aesthetic benefits to lifting.
What is the best way to approach this topic?
Two words.....Reward System. He lifts 1x per week....he gets a handy, 3x bj, 5x back door.....the possibilities are endless
This... I could work with. But it feels kind of one sided. Those would be rewards for me as well.0 -
'List of improvements??' :huh: If he isn't what you want now, he ain't ever gonna be. You can't change them, no matter how many 'suggestions you make.' Changes can only come from within ourselves. Choose the model you want at the start - like a car. There's no use buying a hatchback if you want a Monster truck in your deepest heart, lol.0
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How about "Babe... come lift with me. I think that would be hot."0
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'List of improvements??' :huh: If he isn't what you want now, he ain't ever gonna be. You can't change them, no matter how many 'suggestions you make.' Changes can only come from within ourselves. Choose the model you want at the start - like a car. There's no use buying a hatchback if you want a Monster truck in your deepest heart, lol.
Sex as a 'reward' just makes you a ho. He gives you weight lifting, you give him sex. Bad move. Sex should be mutual pleasure for fun, you guys, not reward for lifestyle changes, Sheesh!0 -
Let's reverse: How would you like being told by your boyfriend you had areas of improvement he'd like you to work on?
I'd be happy to hear them and would work on them. I have. I respond very well to criticism and I've always addressed any issues he's pointed out to me.
To name some:
Taking out a bad work day on him or others
Being inconsistent (see above-- worked on it)
Being impatient (still working on it)
Not talking over others during a disagreement
Oh please. I bet you'll prove that statement wrong in this thread.
Why are you going out with someone who you don't feel is good enough for you? Either take him as he is or find someone better suited for you.0 -
Let's reverse: How would you like being told by your boyfriend you had areas of improvement he'd like you to work on?
I'd be happy to hear them and would work on them. I have. I respond very well to criticism and I've always addressed any issues he's pointed out to me.
To name some:
Taking out a bad work day on him or others
Being inconsistent (see above-- worked on it)
Being impatient (still working on it)
Not talking over others during a disagreement
None of those require you to change your aesthetics, like you are wanting him to do for you.0 -
Are you lifting in a gym?
My boyfriend got me more involved in lifting (I already did it a bit in the gym, but now we do it 2-3 times a week together) by buying a standard barbell and weight set for the home.
We shared for a couple of months (that was a pain, constantly changing the weights to accommodate our partner, prolonged workouts), and finally he bought a second set. Now we can literally go rep for rep together, even though we lift different weights.
I believe this is the sets we have:
http://www.academy.com/shop/pdp/cap-barbell-160-lb-boxed-weight-set/pid-127305?N=117009183&Ntt=weight+set&Ntk=All
but they only cost about $80 each in the store, and had everything you need.
It's so much fun.
As we near the end of our reps we both having crunched up faces and grunting together, and we can work out in my living room!0 -
Hey. I've been around enough to see how relationship posts go, so give me your best.
My boyfriend doesn't lift. I lift. This isn't a dealbreaker.
Now that that's out of the way, let's say I wanted to suggest to him that he start lifting. What would be the most effective way to do it?
Through lifting I learned certain skills. I learned a lot about setting goals, discipline, time management, commitment, and consistency. I also found a great way to relieve stress and add routine to my life.
These are areas in which my boyfriend could use improvement. Additionally, it would give us an activity to do together and bond over. Lastly, there are health and aesthetic benefits to lifting.
What is the best way to approach this topic?
Two words.....Reward System. He lifts 1x per week....he gets a handy, 3x bj, 5x back door.....the possibilities are endless
This... I could work with. But it feels kind of one sided. Those would be rewards for me as well.
You would get what you want, he will lift, that is your reward.0 -
well for starters.....smack him around......that'll effectively emasculate him to the point of either doing something about it aka get stronger or he'll run off and cry...and you won't hear from him again.....either way, problem solved \end thread
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Hey. I've been around enough to see how relationship posts go, so give me your best.
My boyfriend doesn't lift. I lift. This isn't a dealbreaker.
Now that that's out of the way, let's say I wanted to suggest to him that he start lifting. What would be the most effective way to do it?
Through lifting I learned certain skills. I learned a lot about setting goals, discipline, time management, commitment, and consistency. I also found a great way to relieve stress and add routine to my life.
These are areas in which my boyfriend could use improvement. Additionally, it would give us an activity to do together and bond over. Lastly, there are health and aesthetic benefits to lifting.
What is the best way to approach this topic?
The best way to approach this is to take a step back and refocus on what you expect out of the relationship. Do you want him to have that passive personality where he mods his life to suit your needs? Once you begin attempting to mold him into what you want in a man then you begin to lose sight of him as a person. He becomes your project or toy to make adjustments to. Don't forget that this is a relationship that was established because you both liked each other for who you are individually. Not for what you can make him into.
If what you see in guys at the gym is more appealing then go that route. Otherwise, you should embrace him for who he is.0 -
tell him you like built guys. if hes not then he';; work on it. easy......call him a stick insect. grow arms bigger than his. grow a penis bigger than his........I hope this helps ;-)
Strong 400th post. Hope your friends get a kick out of it.
wait I didn't ask.....are you male or female. distinct lack of balls but a little girly.0 -
Let's reverse: How would you like being told by your boyfriend you had areas of improvement he'd like you to work on?
My BF did that with me. I started swallowing cucumbers whole for practice, and before you know it, he quit complaining....
SHUT UP AND TAKE MY WEDDING RING!0 -
None of those require you to change your aesthetics, like you are wanting him to do for you.
Aesthetics were the last thing I listed. I love the way he looks now. Is there room for improvement? Of course.
I want him to lift with me for all the other things I listed and if it never changed how he looked, I'd be totally okay with that, however I would be lying if I ignored the fact that a better body composition is a bonus incentive.Oh please. I bet you'll prove that statement wrong in this thread.
Why are you going out with someone who you don't feel is good enough for you? Either take him as he is or find someone better suited for you.
Hmm. Never said he wasn't good enough for me. Said there were areas which he could improve. Said lifting could help improve them.
And the first thing I said was that this wasn't a deal breaker.
Again, asking for how best to bring up the subject.
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well for starters.....smack him around......that'll effectively emasculate him to the point of either doing something about it aka get stronger or he'll run off and cry...and you won't hear from him again.....either way, problem solved \end thread
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