Where can I find some self-love.....

KMiller880

I've fallen off the wagon, been ran over by the wagon, and left in the dust of the wagon....

I got lazy, I ate bad, then I got hurt (pulled a calf muscle). I'm tired of hating myself. I know that it boils down to me and how I feel about myself. But it's hard to just say "Ok, I accept and love myself." I guess it's easy to say it. Believing it is the hard part.

Any suggestions? Tips? Helpful advice?

Mr_Bad_Example

I read somewhere once that the best love is self-love.

donutmom

I use to put affirmations on a sticky note and tape them to my bathroom mirror. This way I would see it every day and have to read it. I would try to say them out loud, even if I didn't believe what I was saying. It helped. After a while, my brain started to change its outlook. Could be something to try. I know I need to get back into giving myself positive affirmation as well. Others can tell you your beautiful, but until you can say it yourself, what others say will not matter. Hope that helps for an idea. Know you are not alone. Most of us struggle with that very same issue.

zcb94

I know exactly how you feel.:flowerforyou:

The following practices have been super-helpful:

Get to know and try to spend daily time with the God who loves you no matter what. He made you and calls you perfect no matter what you weigh or do.

Practice mindfulness meditation, where you relax by non-judgmentally noticing what's going on in and around you.

Show others in your circle some love! Knowing that family, friends, people you help at your job and any strangers who you stop for feel special will help you feel appreciated and loved.

dpwellman

Ride your bike.

marquishagetaka

Everybody's searching for a hero
People need someone to look up to
I never found anyone who fulfilled my needs
A lonely place to be
And so I learned to depend on me

baba_helly

I would suggest the shower if you have a removable showerhead. Good luck OP! :flowerforyou:

Cranquistador

:flowerforyou:

jofjltncb6

Think about it this way.

You exist. That makes your experience in this life 1,000,000 times better than a rock. Big deal, you say? So what, I'm better than a rock?

Most of the universe is rocks. Lifeless planets and asteroids... so much of the entire universe is just rocks and empty space.

And here you are. Alive. With the chance to live out your days in beauty and experience. That is such a gift. Don't waste it.

It's your life. Your one shot. You can make it whatever you want.

Enjoy every moment.

SunofaBeach14

Work on focusing on things that you do like about yourself. Talk to yourself about those things more and less about the things that you don't like. When you do catch yourself berating yourself, stop it, and change the subject. Find activities that make you happy and enjoy them. Let that positive energy fuel your increased activity. It's very difficult in the beginning but it does get easier. There is something to the virtuous circle mumbo jumbo.

jackpotclown

Huh.......I've never had to ask for directions....I self-love wherever and whenever I feel the need \m/

SunofaBeach14

Huh.......I've never had to ask for directions....I self-love wherever and whenever I feel the need \m/

^ And this. Do lots and lots of this.

cmcollins001

Think about it this way.

You exist. That makes your experience in this life 1,000,000 times better than a rock. Big deal, you say? So what, I'm better than a rock?

Most of the universe is rocks. Lifeless planets and asteroids... so much of the entire universe is just rocks and empty space.

And here you are. Alive. With the chance to live out your days in beauty and experience. That is such a gift. Don't waste it.

It's your life. Your one shot. You can make it whatever you want.

Enjoy every moment.

meshashesha2012

- start making some tangible goals that are achievable and work towards those (running a mile, squatting body weight, etc)
- celebrate any of your wins with a "go, me!" attitude.
- make an effort to look your best no mater what your weight. if that involves throwing away all your frumpy schlubby clothes (not saying you have them) and replacing them with things that play up your.

at the start dont worry about believing it, just fake it and go through the motions of getting it done. once you start having actual proof that you can do stuff and that you dont suck then it'll be easier to believe it in the future

gypsy_spirit

I've fallen off the wagon, been ran over by the wagon, and left in the dust of the wagon....

I got lazy, I ate ****ty, then I got hurt (pulled a calf muscle). I'm tired of hating myself. I know that it boils down to me and how I feel about myself. But it's hard to just say "Ok, I accept and love myself." I guess it's easy to say it. Believing it is the hard part.

Any suggestions? Tips? Helpful advice?

Loving yourself is one thing. If you don't like how things are going, there is no reason to have acceptance. That's pretty much what this site is about. Making changes to be healthy.

My suggestions? Stop quitting. It's a defeatist attitude. Keep going. IF you mess up one minute, one day - keep going. You only fail if you stop. What are your goals? Without defined goals you have no rudder. You're circling the drain. Make some small goals and then work your *kitten* off to meet them.

Read this link and then get busy. What have you got to lose? Oh, wait...

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1175494-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

KMiller880

And this is why I love this site. Great suggestions and tips. And some needed laughs while scrolling. I am starting today. Post it notes everywhere!!

zcb94

And this is why I love this site. Great suggestions and tips. And some needed laughs while scrolling. I am starting today. Post it notes everywhere!!

Great! Will keep praying that you persevere on your well-deserved journey and grow closer to the ever-loving God whose Temple you're maintaining. Let me know if my suggestions help.:flowerforyou:

HappyTrails7

Kmiller, I browsed your profile and I'd say you are pretty incredible. Your raising kids, which is no easy task; appear to be a loving wife; and it sounds like you are an amazing cook. All that from just a short profile bio.

I know I used to measure my self-worth by comparing myself to others, everything was a competition. I finally figured out that many of us put on a good game face and appear to be living the charmed live, but in reality, all of us have stuff we have to deal with. I by no means have everything figured out, heck hardly any of it, but I do know I will never reach my full potential if I continue to gauge my self-worth by what others are doing, what they have accomplished, or worry about what my perception of someone else's perception of me might be.

There is also the spiritual aspect, as zcb94 and BrettPGH alluded to, you are a unique being, the only one like you in the universe. Pondering on that alone should make you feel more precious than even the rarest gems. (or rocks in BrettPGH case )

Self-love isn't an excuse to sit back and take it easy, but should in and of itself motivate you to polish the rough edges of your live and buff out the crystal sheen of who you are.

Hearts_2015

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