Any other divorce/break-up weight loss successes???

Fat2Fit2Fineee

I totally feel where you are coming from as when I first separated from my ex, I lost about 60lbs in 6-7 months and it felt darn good. That was almost 3 years ago, I am still maintaining about 50 of those pounds lost. I have gained lots of muscle, confidence, focus and other things the scale can't measure. My divorce was the best thing that ever happened to my health. It was a struggle but it was worth it.

#AMEN

adance7636

Yes!!! When I tell people how much weight I lost, I always add in HIS total weight!!!

dru8376

When my ex g/f left me in 2012, I somehow managed to lose 50 lbs JUST because of her leaving me. Despite how negative it was, it turned out to be a huge positive for me. Then joining MFP, I lost another 54 lbs giving me a total loss of 106 lbs.

FeebRyan

Nothing like loosing a hundred and 90 pounds in one night

I've just left mine too, it will be 2 months on the 23rd, I am weighing myself for the first time tomorrow!

cicisiam

Ditto here!

I'm going through a divorce and I haven't been this on track EVER!! Anyone else having focused success changing their lives after a break-up?

This is truly the happiest I've been in a really, really long time!

Alice_in_VVonderland

This completely kicks *kitten*, but I'm never quitting coffee. I do drink it unsweetened now though

Oh, I'll never COMPLETELY give up coffee. I'll just never go back to drinking 2-3 cups a day along with nothing but diet soda, with maybe a glass of water as a 'treat'.

I actually really love coffee (I wonder how many calories are in chocolate covered espresso beans...), but parallel to booze, I need to make sure I've eaten enough food to help slow down the caffeine absorption into my system and limit myself to one cup of coffee. Otherwise, I spend the day a jittery mess of anxiety blob.

Jennisin1

My ex left me while I was still breastfeeding our second baby in two years, because "You are everything I wanted in a woman; kind, loving, sweet... but you just aren't attractive enough for me". I weaned the baby when she turned a year and lost the 30lbs of baby weight in 6 weeks once my hormones shifted a couple of weeks later. I am now another 15lbs smaller than that and look better than I ever have (even when we first started dating)

and he is getting fat, and my boyfriend is amazingly sweet, kind, good looking, so much taller, and makes 3 times more money than him..... so yeah, I win. His dumping me was the best thing for me personally. My kids suffer, but I do that best I can.

NinjaJinja

My default reaction to a break up seems to be to do all the things to improve myself that I was being complacent about while in a relationship. When my longest relationship ended I decided to get my teeth straightened with Invisalign because I never had braces as a kid. So glad I did that. I also decided to get my ears re-pierced. Glad I did that too.

I haven't had a boyfriend in awhile so this weight loss doesn't have the compulsive IMPROVE YOURSELF motivation behind it. But I definitely understand how that can be motivating. If weight loss had been my biggest wish at the time that probably would have been the thing to happen. I've gotten to the point where I've decided to stop waiting around for things to happen for me, though. I got tired of waiting for somebody to have the great idea of giving me a gift certificate to get a massage, so for my birthday this year I bought one myself. Got tired of never having any rings so I decided every year towards Christmas I would buy myself a fairly nice pretty ring that I liked. (Not as expensive as fine jewelry, but not so cheap it turns my skin colors.) Might as well do it myself, ain't nobody else here to do it with or for me.

notenoughspeed

I'm going through a divorce and I haven't been this on track EVER!! Anyone else having focused success changing their lives after a break-up?

This is truly the happiest I've been in a really, really long time!

Been there and done that, sorry to hear you have to go through it.

Short term, you can use the divorce to motivate you to get in shape but at some point it has to be about wanting to make yourself better and not about making him jealous/sorry he left/etc.

Stay smart, eat right, and don't overtrain and you'll be fine. It really does feel like a weight off your shoulders when you finally sign the papers.

Agreed on the making sure it's all about making yourself better, and not making him jealous. This is about you and making you happy. Break-ups are some of the most difficult things you will face. I guarantee you this will also be challenging (personal health). Keep at it. Don't ever give up. There may be good days, and some rough patches. You'll get through them. Looks like you are already well on your way. Great job there.

mjterp

after my first divorce I lost like 60 pounds in five months without trying ( I suspect it was all of the pacing I was doing, as well as not eating from being upset which is really unusual for me. Usually I eat when I am upset.) My picture is from after that divorce.

This time I am trying to be more healthy about it. Slow and steady...one healthy habit at a time so I won't relapse. Back then I just wanted to disappear. I am striving for a healthier attitude this time. (an out of town friend came and insisted on the pictures. Hind sight, I am glad she did.)

I'm glad you are coping so well!!! Keep it up!!!

sweetcurlz67

not the healthiest way to lose weight, but yes. I lost 110, gained about 15 back, but losing again. oh... that doesn't count the 250 - 280 or whatever he weighed!

LisaGirlfriend

Yup, my husband and I separated last August and the weight was falling off me. I was totally stressed out (blindsided with an affair) so my stomach was in knots and churning all the time and I was eating healthy. Anyway, it came back on about 8 months later, but I’m losing it again now. I too am the happiest I’ve ever been in my life now (1 year later). He did me a HUGE favour. I’ve never felt so much gratitude and freedom in my entire life. ;-)

LisaGirlfriend

Yup, my husband and I separated last August and the weight was falling off me. I was totally stressed out (blindsided with an affair) so my stomach was in knots and churning all the time and I was eating healthy. Anyway, it came back on about 8 months later, but I’m losing it again now. I too am the happiest I’ve ever been in my life now (1 year later). He did me a HUGE favour. I’ve never felt so much gratitude and freedom in my entire life. ;-)

AddieOverhaul

I was in a really unhealthy relationship for a few years and I finally left him. He also had a lot of bad habits that rubbed off on me. I took some time to really reflect and think about what I wanted in my life and overhauled my entire lifestyle. I've been losing weight, getting in better shape, paying off debt, got a way better job and have taken up new hobbies like hiking. I surround myself with positive and supportive friends and I have never been happier in my life.

4mricandy

Getting down to "getting down" weight!! You go!

bamagrits15

I have to share a story on "divorce diets". My friend and her now ex husband split up. A week after he left he shows up to pick their kids up with a bumper sticker that read "No Fat Chicks". So she went on a no fat chicks diet! She has lost 60+ lbs. She looks amazing and he just looks like an @ss. I know it hurt her so much for him to do that, obviously directed at her, but she sure showed him.

AsiasMommy

Took that pain and turned inward, 20 pounds gone since May! That cheating lier will regret it!! I will reach my goals, I start nursing school next month...i will be successful!!

Fat2Fit2Fineee

Took that pain and turned inward, 20 pounds gone since May! That cheating lier will regret it!! I will reach my goals, I start nursing school next month...i will be successful!!

Hell ya you'll be!!! Get it GIRL!

lucy529

Yup !! A few years ago my boyfriend of 4 years just decided to not come home one day, it took a awhile to get over it although i married a great man after him but it finally hit me that i needed to change something, i lost weight and after being told i would not be able to have children i have a healthy 7 month old
it wasn't until recently though that i got the satisfaction of knowing how much it had hurt him to know that im in a happy marriage with a son. i am now trying to lose the weight that i had been wanting to before i became pregnant im by no means done but it sure felt great

PurpleMomster

My marriage of 12 years ended 3 years ago. Since last June, I've lost almost 80lbs - not on his account, FOR ME. I wanted/needed to feel better about myself - and I definitely do now!

Trying to lose weight to impress an ex is a type of motivation but losing weight to improve yourself is much, much better motivation.

bita4u

Wow, what great success stories, well done. I hope to be on this section one day. Unfortunately, its been the opposite for me. I have been super fit for over 20years, but these past two years after a baby and becoming single than depression, I've gained 2 stones, feel lazy/tired, and now seen my ex with his tiny girlfriend. I have no help or friends around me here in London, (from devon), been very hard, but since seeing how happy he is after treating me so badly and gloating about it has given me the push to go back to the gym and join this site.
So thank-you all for your inspirational stories, I just hope I can have the same strength and ability as you all, even now in my 40s, I hope its not too late.

novagirl55

I went through a divorce in March. I've lost about 25 lbs so far.

mandyosetti

My husband (of 14 years) and I split up a few weeks ago and while I was already losing weight before the split, it has really helped me to stay focused. In total I have lost 37 lbs (24 lbs before I joined mfp). I have a long way to go but now I have so much more time to concentrate on the things that are important to me. I'm looking forward to a long, happy and healthy life.

Good luck with your journey!

nykismile

I've only lost ten lbs since, but I've toned up immensely since I've last seen him.

If I ever run into him again, does it make me a bad person for hoping that he's taken aback even at least somewhat? Or that he might regret anything?

Only slightly, I'd say.

blushpeonies

I left my psychotic/emotionally abusive boyfriend back in May. I started on the weight loss before I left him (I was done about awhile before I left) and since then I've lost about 53 pounds. I've never felt better about myself or more optimistic about my future since I've left him.

yesterdayusaid2morrow

My ex left me while I was still breastfeeding our second baby in two years, because "You are everything I wanted in a woman; kind, loving, sweet... but you just aren't attractive enough for me". I weaned the baby when she turned a year and lost the 30lbs of baby weight in 6 weeks once my hormones shifted a couple of weeks later. I am now another 15lbs smaller than that and look better than I ever have (even when we first started dating)

and he is getting fat, and my boyfriend is amazingly sweet, kind, good looking, so much taller, and makes 3 times more money than him..... so yeah, I win. His dumping me was the best thing for me personally. My kids suffer, but I do that best I can.

OMG! You are a strong woman, with how crazy hormonal I get after having a baby I prly would have killed him. Lol, what in the hell. I'm happy for you that he's not your problem anymore! You look great, stay strong mama.

KingstonJack3

Ever heard of the saying "Divorce looks good on you"

RodaRose

Yes. You do not have to share food plans or any things else. It is liberating. Good luck as you go forward.

meowpotatomeow

When I went through my first breakup I lost 20 pounds in three weeks. It was the best I had looked since I was a small child. It was good for me, but a year later I started gaining it all back and then some.

misspor

YESSSS!! Still in the process of losing now :-) my ex used to joke about and call me fat and just take the piss which put me on a downer and I would just eat everything. He has mucked me about a lot since we broke up but now I've never been so determined to lose weight and get in shape! #showhimwhatheismissing