Telling someone that they gained weight

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  • Madame_Goldbricker
    Madame_Goldbricker Posts: 1,625 Member
    I find the question (hypothetically speaking) a moot point. Unless the individual is a child. Or has an impairment that warrants them incapable of comprehending that they are an unhealthy weight. Then why would there ever be the need to make them 'aware' of this fact? In the circumstances above it would be down to a care giver to provide proper nutrition to assist them with weightloss.

    Frankly I find the question a bit dumb.
  • Jezebel_Barbie
    Jezebel_Barbie Posts: 198 Member
    I would never do this. It's just rude.

    People often do it under the guise of 'concern' but being overly negative and openly pointing out people's flaws is not 'helping'. If people really wanted to help they'd share a delicious healthy recipe, or invite you out walking/to the gym/cycling/whatever with them, or do some other positive constructive thing. If all you're doing is negatively criticising someone's appearance that just makes you a ****ty friend.
  • SezxyStef
    SezxyStef Posts: 15,267 Member
    no...never.....

    I can be concerned all I want and will offer advice if asked...but I will not ever bring it up...

    Why because it's been done to me....I have had people comment about my weight and the fact I "needed" to lose..yah well F*** them.
  • Branstin
    Branstin Posts: 2,320 Member
    I have never brought up the subject and told anyone that they gained or needed to lose weight. I agree with worrying about myself and only giving advice if asked. I am sure if I noticed the weight gain in terms of me then other people knew that they gained as well. There are a lot of reasons people gain weight none of which is my business.
  • BigT555
    BigT555 Posts: 2,067 Member
    unless youre their doctor, dont. i think blood relatives may be an exception in some cases and it would have to be approached with very light footing, but for the most part still no.

    i think its safe to say that most obese people know they could stand to lose a few pounds, its just a matter of whether its worth it to them or not to put the effort in to lose weight, so telling them what they already know is sort of a moot point
  • Chibukalu908
    Chibukalu908 Posts: 212
    I agree that people generally don't need to be told - they may be ignoring it, but they know.

    Even if for some reason circumstances dictate that you believe that someone needs to be told, I wouldn't ever consider doing it unless it was an extremely close family member or a partner. But I can't think of a reason you'd need to tell someone at all.


    I agree with you but I clealy stated in my post that I am not planning to tell anyone or would tell someone unless if its my child and it was a health concern.I have been told in the past and I hated it. this question was hypothetical question

    ok it makes sense

    And I never said you were. I don't know how you expect people to answer your question without making at least the hypothetical assumption that someone is hypothetically thinking of telling someone that they've put on weight.

    I took into account your saying you weren't intending on doing so, but could think of no way else to phrase a response that makes sense.
  • Lil40
    Lil40 Posts: 9 Member
    I've been asked whether I was pregnant and also been told a couple of times that I've put on weight (ah, really?! Thanks
    for telling me, I thought my trousers had shrunk in the wash!)
    Horrible and rude, I wish people would filter the stuff that comes out of their mouth!!
  • brenn24179
    brenn24179 Posts: 2,144 Member
    if it was me I would not want anyone telling me to lose weight. I would tell someone about my experiences, my zumba classes, going to the gym, doing MFP and how I have to watch what I eat and talk about me but never about anyone else. If they want to follow fine, if not, it is their life. I would not mind someone with a weight problem expressing this to me and what they do about it but I would hate some skinny person telling me to lose weight.
  • Tanie98
    Tanie98 Posts: 675 Member
    I find the question (hypothetically speaking) a moot point. Unless the individual is a child. Or has an impairment that warrants them incapable of comprehending that they are an unhealthy weight. Then why would there ever be the need to make them 'aware' of this fact? In the circumstances above it would be down to a care giver to provide proper nutrition to assist them with weightloss.

    Frankly I find the question a bit dumb.

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