How to Tell Your Spouse That They're Fat

ValerieMartini2Olives · July 2014

You just do it. When my bf and I first met, he was fit and lean around 230 at 6'3". I was about 260 at 5'5". He ultimately dumped me because I was too fat.

During the time we were disconnected, he made it down to a slim 215. I lost about 40 pounds.

We reconnected and my 40 pound weight loss made it enough for me to not be too fat for him. He wasn't the slim 215 he was, nor was he 230. He was around 250. His weight gain didn't bother me much becausw I always thought he was HOT.

Now we have been together for 6 months and his weight has been steadily creeping up. He has stopped working out and I see manboobs and a stomach fat. His weight gain in noticeable. And it isn't so much the weight gain. It is the loss of muscle from no exercise. He is starting to look sloppy. He does not stand as tall as he can from all this extra weight.

I told him the other night while we were in bed. I gave him the WE HAD TO TALK speech and I explained to him everything I just said. My thought was he was 270, gaining 55 pounds in a year. Well, the next morning, he weight himself. He was 285. He has gained 70 pounds in a year. When I pointed that out to him, I think the lightbulb clicked on.

Yeah it is a tough conversation to have. And yes, if you really love someone, you love them no matter their weight. But if it is affecting your health, posture, energy, attraction, etc, you have to be honest about it. Communication is key.

harribeau2012 · July 2014

by long distance phone call

JoRocka · July 2014

So mid fight- RIP (yes RIP) off your shirt

and scream YOU GET ALL OF THIS!!!!!!

I WORK DAMN HARD FOR THIS.

Then drop trow- turn around and say- you like this *kitten*... it's because I work da*n hard for it- and you dont' care.

YOU DON"T CARE. YOU DON"T CARE WHAT I THINK ABOUT YOU APPARENTLY AND YOU DON"T CARE THAT I APPRECIATE MYSELF AND YOU ENOUGH TO TAKE DA*N GOOD CARE OF MY BODY.

and just see where it goes.

pulled from the real life stories of Jo's bad desicions...

and no- it doesn't really work.

_KitKat_ · July 2014

I prefer to keep my man chubby, so other ladies won't look at him. Because I can't possibly trust him to be faithful if he's in good shape.

but that would make your relationship healthier. don't you want to be in a healthy relationship??

Shoot!!! Now I don't know WHAT to do!!! I'm so conflicted!!! So maybe I should fatten him up, then make him feel bad and lose the weight so he cheats and our relationship is healthy? Can I get fat? Or would that not be ok? Wait, no!! I've got it! I'll cheat, while I make him fat! Then we'll have the perfect relationship!!

As long as you married for money, did you miss the other thread. You really are not trying here :drinker:

devil_in_a_blue_dress · July 2014

:yawn:

-10/10

ashdawg8790 · July 2014

I just tell my hubby he looks like Jim Carey from "The Grinch". :laugh:

seltzermint555 · July 2014

4. Create a screensaver or an image on the desktop, which is a collage of overweight females, or males (depending on your spouse’s gender), place the word “YUK” in the middle of it, and leave it on the computer.

laughing so hard right now at work...YESSSS