Bad weekend! Help :(

sarahrachel90
sarahrachel90 Posts: 49 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
I ate LOADS yesterday. I even feel sick thinking about it. I got back on track today and ate well however I had a big slice of banoffee pie after dinner and feel awful! I feel so ashamed of myself! How do I get back on track now? Should I try and exercise it off? Thank you!!
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  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    why do you feel ashamed...I eat desert every night and never feel ashamed. Part of this journey is developing a healthy relationship with food. If you ate well and healthfully today, do you really think a piece of pie somehow magically undoes all of that nutrition?
  • lessbounce
    lessbounce Posts: 250 Member
    Just log it even if it makes you go over, the banoffee pie probably tasted real good :wink: . It is only a couple of days. Refocus your self and get back on it tomorrow. Just don't turn these couple of days into a couple of weeks!

    :flowerforyou:
  • sarahrachel90
    sarahrachel90 Posts: 49 Member
    why do you feel ashamed...I eat desert every night and never feel ashamed. Part of this journey is developing a healthy relationship with food. If you ate well and healthfully today, do you really think a piece of pie somehow magically undoes all of that nutrition?

    I know. I just want to achieve my goal so badly. This wasn't like myself. I'm just going to move on and get right back on track tomorrow :)
  • sarahrachel90
    sarahrachel90 Posts: 49 Member
    Just log it even if it makes you go over, the banoffee pie probably tasted real good :wink: . It is only a couple of days. Refocus your self and get back on it tomorrow. Just don't turn these couple of days into a couple of weeks!

    :flowerforyou:

    Thank you so much. This really helped :) and yesss..it did taste real good :laugh:
  • Laurenloveswaffles
    Laurenloveswaffles Posts: 535 Member
    Your relationship with food sounds very unhealthy. As long as you hit your calorie goal, you shouldn't worry about a piece of pie.
  • chrissyrenee1029
    chrissyrenee1029 Posts: 358 Member
    A couple of "bad" days aren't going to make that big a difference in the long run. There's definitely no reason to feel guilty about it. It happened. You can't go back and change it, but you can keep a positive attitude and make tomorrow a better day :)
  • sarahrachel90
    sarahrachel90 Posts: 49 Member
    I didn't hit my calorie goal lol - I went like over 400 (up to 1600s) :/ banoffee pie is very calorie dense!
  • chrissyrenee1029
    chrissyrenee1029 Posts: 358 Member
    I didn't hit my calorie goal lol - I went like over 400 (up to 1600s) :/ banoffee pie is very calorie dense!

    That's really not that bad. There are people here that consume a minimum of 1600 calories a day (and others even more than that) and are still losing like crazy. Personally, there's no way I could make it on 1200.
  • MommaSari
    MommaSari Posts: 22 Member
    If you went over by 400 and then hit the 1600's...that means you are only eating 1200/day. EVERYTHING I have read and researched tells me that that is too little. I ate that little at first and found myself binging and eating other stuff I should be way too often...even if I didn't I didn't loose the weight. I went up to where MFP says 1.5lbs a week...and I actually lost more than that. Normally I lost 2 a week at about 1571 calories. I also had someone at my gym help me calculate the real number of calories I need for MY body. MFP's calculations are based on an "Average" and every BODY is different, we all expel different amounts depending on our muscle mass and a lot more. I really would research the amount that you should eat.

    Also, don't feel bad about having a piece of pie a week! :)
  • vismundcygnus27
    vismundcygnus27 Posts: 98 Member
    If you went over by 400 and then hit the 1600's...that means you are only eating 1200/day. EVERYTHING I have read and researched tells me that that is too little. I ate that little at first and found myself binging and eating other stuff I should be way too often...even if I didn't I didn't loose the weight. I went up to where MFP says 1.5lbs a week...and I actually lost more than that. Normally I lost 2 a week at about 1571 calories. I also had someone at my gym help me calculate the real number of calories I need for MY body. MFP's calculations are based on an "Average" and every BODY is different, we all expel different amounts depending on our muscle mass and a lot more. I really would research the amount that you should eat.

    Also, don't feel bad about having a piece of pie a week! :)

    ^ I totally agree. 1200 is low, even without exercise. I could never maintain that - I'd be a miserable wreck. You'll probably lose weight pretty quickly, but I can't imagine it would be very sustainable. And yeah, you shouldn't be too hard on yourself for eating a piece of pie. You're allowed to have a treat from time-to-time =)
  • RHachicho
    RHachicho Posts: 1,115 Member
    1200 Isn't too low for everybody. But honestly for the vast majority of people especially someone marginally active it's too low. I know I am a man. But I am currently shifting from 2000 calories a day to 2500 because I thought that was too low with my current activity. The result was that my weight went up by a lb a day for about 3 days and then crashed 6lb's in two. The net result being that my extra 500 whole calories have barely blunted my weight loss.

    Honestly I know people say exercise for fitness not for weight loss. But looking at the kind of results I get I really do wonder why. I mean yeah it's not ESSENTIAL. But bloody hell does it help.
  • sarahrachel90
    sarahrachel90 Posts: 49 Member
    1200 isn't that bad everyone! My sister ate like 700-800 a day and maintained it for ages, but also got an eating disorder, because lets face it, that is really unhealthy. But I hardly ever binge or get cravings, it was just this weekend, and I was fine all day but I just got night time cravings I think! <3
  • sloth3toes
    sloth3toes Posts: 2,212 Member
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  • RHachicho
    RHachicho Posts: 1,115 Member
    1200 isn't that bad everyone! My sister ate like 700-800 a day and maintained it for ages, but also got an eating disorder, because lets face it, that is really unhealthy. But I hardly ever binge or get cravings, it was just this weekend, and I was fine all day but I just got night time cravings I think! <3

    Depends entirely on your situation. We would need to know your weight how tall you are and your body fat % and how much you need to lose to answer that. But honestly if you exercise 1200 is in all probability ... too low. Not making assumptions till we see your data though.
  • sarahrachel90
    sarahrachel90 Posts: 49 Member
    I'm 5'4 and weigh 119 currently. And no, I'm not skinny or aiming to be underweight. I've never had a bad relationship with food I'm just really serious about this weight loss! x (I'm aiming to lose 9 more pounds)
  • sarahrachel90
    sarahrachel90 Posts: 49 Member
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    Well said. Aha.
  • wonderwoman234
    wonderwoman234 Posts: 551 Member
    What is banofee pie?!

    Also, 119 for someone 5'4 seems low. No wonder why you have to eat 1200 to lose any weight. Your body is probably happier at 128. Are you sure it's necessary to lose 9 more pounds?

    Perhaps you could just lift weights if you want to look better?
  • KimchiKiller
    KimchiKiller Posts: 36 Member
    I just looked up what banoffee pie is....YUMM! I would've ate more than 1 piece probably lol. Just take it in stride, you enjoyed a treat, start again fresh tomorrow. Good luck!
  • RHachicho
    RHachicho Posts: 1,115 Member
    Ok the best calculator I can find puts your BMR as 1250 ish and your TDEE at about 1500. Not including exercise.

    This means you are eating under your BMR at 1200. Which is probably why you are ravenous. Losing those last few lbs can be very tricky and the only real way to do it without hurting yourself is to do it slowly. Personally I would aim for about 1300 - 1400 a day if you are usually sedentary and about 1500 - 1600 a day if you exercise a lot. Eating under your BMR can be a big problem.
  • sarahrachel90
    sarahrachel90 Posts: 49 Member
    It is necessary, trust me. Its not low, and 110 for my height is a healthy weight :) I would never want to be underweight or anything
  • sarahrachel90
    sarahrachel90 Posts: 49 Member
    Ok the best calculator I can find puts your BMR as 1250 ish and your TDEE at about 1500. Not including exercise.

    This means you are eating under your BMR at 1200. Which is probably why you are ravenous. Losing those last few lbs can be very tricky and the only real way to do it without hurting yourself is to do it slowly. Personally I would aim for about 1300 - 1400 a day if you are usually sedentary and about 1500 - 1600 a day if you exercise a lot. Eating under your BMR can be a big problem.

    Thank you for your help. However, don't people normally eat under their BMR to lose weight??
  • RHachicho
    RHachicho Posts: 1,115 Member
    Ok the best calculator I can find puts your BMR as 1250 ish and your TDEE at about 1500. Not including exercise.

    This means you are eating under your BMR at 1200. Which is probably why you are ravenous. Losing those last few lbs can be very tricky and the only real way to do it without hurting yourself is to do it slowly. Personally I would aim for about 1300 - 1400 a day if you are usually sedentary and about 1500 - 1600 a day if you exercise a lot. Eating under your BMR can be a big problem.

    Thank you for your help. However, don't people normally eat under their BMR to lose weight??

    Nah they eat under their TDEE to lose weight. Your BMR is the energy your body would use if you where in a full body cast. It's the basic energy your body needs to live. So when you eat under your BMR those functions inevitably become compromised. And if you keep that up for a while your body will bombard you with hunger cravings. TDEE is an estimation of all the energy you actually burn throught the day. Eating somewhere between your bmr and your tdee is the safe and accepted way to lose weight.

    You aren't much under your bmr though which is probably why it took your body a little while before it stood up and shouted FOR PETE'S SAKE EAT SOMETHING!

    It's also why weight loss at a healthy weight like yours is tricky because your bmr and sedentary tdee are quite close together. Oh and TDEE can increase dramatically with exercise. Which is why I suggested 1500 - 1600 if you where typically active.
  • sarahrachel90
    sarahrachel90 Posts: 49 Member
    Okay, so, is increasing to 1300 a better idea?
  • besaro
    besaro Posts: 1,858 Member
    lol, i ate half of angel food cake, not half a slice, HALF A CAKE yesterday, I'm wallowing, but not much i can do about it now. best to move on! it was good though :)
  • sarahrachel90
    sarahrachel90 Posts: 49 Member
    lol, i ate half of angel food cake, not half a slice, HALF A CAKE yesterday, I'm wallowing, but not much i can do about it now. best to move on! it was good though :)

    Yes, very true :) nothing worth having will come easy!!
  • RHachicho
    RHachicho Posts: 1,115 Member
    Okay, so, is increasing to 1300 a better idea?

    Since you are playing with sensitive numbers here yes slow increments is better. Increase by 100 for a couple of weeks. And if you are still having trouble increase by 100 again. Keep going till you find a point where you are still losing weight but don't feel like your going to go honey monster on the desserts the minute you see em.

    In the mean time remember as long as you don't make a habit of going over 1500 you will probably only slow your weight loss not stall it. So the occasional 300 odd calorie desert will not wreck all your hard work. Try not to beat yourself up. And play with the numbers until they fit you. Because the final arbiter in this isn't the calculator I used that only estimates things. Your body will tell you whats up.
  • sarahrachel90
    sarahrachel90 Posts: 49 Member
    Okay, so, is increasing to 1300 a better idea?

    Since you are playing with sensitive numbers here yes slow increments is better. Increase by 100 for a couple of weeks. And if you are still having trouble increase by 100 again. Keep going till you find a point where you are still losing weight but don't feel like your going to go honey monster on the desserts the minute you see em.

    In the mean time remember as long as you don't make a habit of going over 1500 you will probably only slow your weight loss not stall it. So the occasional 300 odd calorie desert will not wreck all your hard work. Try not to beat yourself up. And play with the numbers until they fit you. Because the final arbiter in this isn't the calculator I used that only estimates things. Your body will tell you whats up.

    Okay, will do! Thanks for the help :D
  • omnisis
    omnisis Posts: 85 Member
    First calm down, take a deep breath. Angel food is not chocolate covered cheesecake, in fact if you are going to eat cake its prolly one of the least calorically dense cakes you could have (most are under 1K cals total for a WHOLE cake).

    You are still in control, you arent' "slipping" and you haven't committed a cardinal sin. Don't let a bunch of negative guilt come in. Just resolve yourself to be more on point moving forward and realize that weight loss / healthy eating and indeed anything worth committing to for the long term is a journey and not a destination in itself. You will be just fine, I promise ;-)
  • Snip8241
    Snip8241 Posts: 767 Member
    This is a lifestyle change....you will have these times..

    Log it....
    Own it...
    Move on...

    I actually plan for days like that.

    Tonight I am having ribeye steak and Mac and cheese....
    I have logged it and I will enjoy every bit of it

    If you deny yourself things you enjoy you are setting yourself up to binge and fail.
  • crazybookworm
    crazybookworm Posts: 779 Member
    Look what your Profile Pic says: Strike for progress not perfection. Listen to that!

    So you ate some pie. No biggie! And it was probably delicious too. Remember, this is a LIFESTYLE not something temporary; There are going to be those days where you have a slice a pie, or cake or those chicken wings or fries or WHATEVER. Enjoy it, and don't sweat it. Food is there to fuel us, not to make us feel guilty. You should never feel guilty about eating something. If you do, then evaluate your relationship with food.

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