Fat people ignored by grocery store, free sample people?

ChefSteveUrso
ChefSteveUrso Posts: 84 Member
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Have you ever been ignored by the "Free sample people" at the grocery store or farmers market because you're obviously way overweight? I've been noticing that for several years now. Everybody else gets the kettle corn, but they look right through the fat people. Or how about the carving station at a buffet, Again everyone else gets a fair amount of the prime rib, but they want to give overweight people a child's portion, and then just stare at you, as if they want to tell you something. I don't want their stinking samples anymore anyway, and I've always detested all you can eat buffets. I'm just making an observation. Prejudice/ discrimination, hatred against obese people is very obvious in our society. What's your opinion?
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  • CA_Underdog
    CA_Underdog Posts: 733 Member
    No, I can't remember ever feeling discriminated against at the sample stations at Costco, and I have the opposite problem at buffets where they carve the meat--they usually serve me and others too much. ;)

    I do see far too much body shaming--

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0NG8Th9V4sQ

    http://www.theblaze.com/stories/2014/08/01/this-is-an-open-letter-mother-of-five-pens-response-to-group-of-young-people-she-says-shamed-her-over-stretch-marks/

    What scares me is the degree to which we often internalize these negative messages rather than speaking out against the *kitten* drippings who propagate them. When they look through you, do you speak up about it?

    PS - As a chef, I hope you strive to provide your guests with healthy options. :)
  • candythorns
    candythorns Posts: 246 Member
    they probably think you are gonna run away with all the samples
  • Velum_cado
    Velum_cado Posts: 1,608 Member
    I've never experienced that.
  • Acg67
    Acg67 Posts: 12,142 Member
    Fatism is worse than racism
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,147 Member
    No, the free sample people never ignore me.
  • candythorns
    candythorns Posts: 246 Member
    Fatism is worse than racism

    said the white man lol
  • Viva_Karina
    Viva_Karina Posts: 398 Member
    OP

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  • F00LofaT00K
    F00LofaT00K Posts: 688 Member
    I'v never been way overweight but I've been ignored by them as well. I've noticed that a lot of them (my mom used to work as one) only offer to about half of the people as they don't want to bother every single person that walks past them. Often times enough people wander over that they don't NEED to ask anybody at all. Perhaps it's different where you are, or perhaps you're assuming it's because you're overweight when, in fact, it has nothing to do with you or your weight at all. Not that I'm there with you to make your observations, but as people, we often make the assumption that the reason behind things is something personal, when it typically is not. Most people in the world don't notice most other people in the world.
  • candythorns
    candythorns Posts: 246 Member
    I'v never been way overweight but I've been ignored by them as well. I've noticed that a lot of them (my mom used to work as one) only offer to about half of the people as they don't want to bother every single person that walks past them. Often times enough people wander over that they don't NEED to ask anybody at all. Perhaps it's different where you are, or perhaps you're assuming it's because you're overweight when, in fact, it has nothing to do with you or your weight at all. Not that I'm there with you to make your observations, but as people, we often make the assumption that the reason behind things is something personal, when it typically is not. Most people in the world don't notice most other people in the world.

    this.
  • ChefSteveUrso
    ChefSteveUrso Posts: 84 Member
    PS - As a chef, I hope you strive to provide your guests with healthy options. :)

    My last business was a semi-vegetarian/organic food restaurant for that reason. I gained a lot of weight after I sold it, but am back on track. Also in fine dining establishments, where I've made my career for the past 25 yrs, healthy options are always available, and vegetarians are always accommodated also. That's what affluent guests pay for, having their individual needs met.
  • joepage612
    joepage612 Posts: 179 Member
    the point in giving out free samples is to encourage someone to buy the product, so i don't see why ignoring large people would accomplish that goal, in anyones mind.
  • sympha01
    sympha01 Posts: 942 Member
    When I was more obese I felt I had the opposite problem. Like, when I went to the farmers' market, all the food truck people selling pastries and fancy sausages and cheese would seriously ramp up their patter or just directly address me ("Hey, ma'am? Ma'am! FREE SAMPLES!") when I started walking by, like they were thinking "Oh, SHE looks like a potentially great customer!"

    I'm sure it depends on the situation, and I'm also sure a lot of it (but not all of it) is in our heads.
  • JG762
    JG762 Posts: 571 Member
    I don't know if they ignore me or not, I usually try to ignore them first!
    It's a rare occurrence that I'm going to have any interest in any of their samples anyway, and have you seen some of the people tasked with giving away the samples? Yikes!
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  • QuietBloom
    QuietBloom Posts: 5,413 Member
    OP

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    OMG that is hysterical.
  • QuietBloom
    QuietBloom Posts: 5,413 Member
    PS - As a chef, I hope you strive to provide your guests with healthy options. :)

    My last business was a semi-vegetarian/organic food restaurant for that reason. I gained a lot of weight after I sold it, but am back on track. Also in fine dining establishments, where I've made my career for the past 25 yrs, healthy options are always available, and vegetarians are always accommodated also. That's what affluent guests pay for, having their individual needs met.

    I can't help wondering why you are equating vegetarianism and organic foods with weight loss? A calorie deficit is what matters. Obviously you are doing something right, looking at your ticker.
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  • ChefSteveUrso
    ChefSteveUrso Posts: 84 Member
    [quote}
    PS - As a chef, I hope you strive to provide your guests with healthy options. :)

    .

    I can't help wondering why you are equating vegetarianism and organic foods with weight loss? A calorie deficit is what matters. Obviously you are doing something right, looking at your ticker.

    We/I wasn't, the lady asked me If I provided healthy options for my guests, it wasn't about weight loss.
  • ChefSteveUrso
    ChefSteveUrso Posts: 84 Member
    the point in giving out free samples is to encourage someone to buy the product, so i don't see why ignoring large people would accomplish that goal, in anyones mind.

    Most people are paid by the hour and don't care if they sell anything, just being ignorant and showing their disapproval of someone's appearance is the reason
  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,782 Member
    the point in giving out free samples is to encourage someone to buy the product, so i don't see why ignoring large people would accomplish that goal, in anyones mind.

    Most people are paid by the hour and don't care if they sell anything, just being ignorant and showing their disapproval of someone's appearance is the reason

    Wow, so you are a mind-reader also!
  • ChefSteveUrso
    ChefSteveUrso Posts: 84 Member
    Wow, so you are a mind-reader also!

    I can read your mind, and it's nothing but sarcasm
  • angelique_redhead
    angelique_redhead Posts: 782 Member
    I haven't had a problem either way most of the time. I pretty consistently go to the same stores or places to eat so they know me.
  • roxywho42
    roxywho42 Posts: 165 Member
    Fatism is worse than racism

    As the fat, white mother of a brown, healthy weight child I have to say no, just no!
  • _BearNecessities_
    _BearNecessities_ Posts: 432 Member
    Really working hard to find something to be offended about, aren't ya, OP? Good grief.
  • SomeNights246
    SomeNights246 Posts: 807 Member
    When I was overweight, I had the exact opposite experience.

    People seemed to chase me down to offer me food.
  • Alluminati
    Alluminati Posts: 6,208 Member
    Have you ever been ignored by the "Free sample people" at the grocery store or farmers market because you're obviously way overweight? I've been noticing that for several years now. Everybody else gets the kettle corn, but they look right through the fat people. Or how about the carving station at a buffet, Again everyone else gets a fair amount of the prime rib, but they want to give overweight people a child's portion, and then just stare at you, as if they want to tell you something. I don't want their stinking samples anymore anyway, and I've always detested all you can eat buffets. I'm just making an observation. Prejudice/ discrimination, hatred against obese people is very obvious in our society. What's your opinion?
    My opinion is that you're being a drama queen.
  • darkrose20
    darkrose20 Posts: 1,139 Member
    I've always been fat and always been offered the same samples/portions as the skiny person next to me.
  • lmr0528
    lmr0528 Posts: 427 Member
    ....I'm not overweight and the sample people never even talk to me. I try to avoid them, avoid all eye contact and they avoid me. Win for me, loss for them because I'm not falling for their tricks and wasting my money on something I don't need.
  • perseverance14
    perseverance14 Posts: 1,364 Member
    No, but I ignore them.
  • mandyosetti
    mandyosetti Posts: 72 Member
    My experience has also been that because I'm heavy they assume I'll want something, especially when it comes to the treats.

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