A delicate issue....need advice on how to handle
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I would find a new class.0
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I'd probably quit going. What if it's like a medical stink condition type thing. I saw that once on one of those medical shows TLC used to play before they only started playing stuff about weddings and hillbillies.0
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Talk to the instructor. Politely tell them about the problem and ask if they could speak to her discreetly. That way, the woman doesn't know who complained, but the message still gets across and through the proper channels. Besides if it's as bad as you say, I'm sure there are other people who are wondering how to broach the subject as well.
This!!!! And/or bring the spray kind with you, put it on in front of her and say hey you want some this class makes me really sweat and get stinky.
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This is a horrible situation, I was a a front end manager at a grocery store a few years ago and one of the cashiers had terrible bo and I had to tell her, she took it very badly. It is something that a person needs to do though I felt terrible but customers and other staff were complaining0
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Okay, I'm a stereotypical Canadian; I literally will profusely apologize to someone for almost bumping into them when we're still half a foot away from each other, but when it comes to problems like this, you should say something, just be polite.
I ran into a similar situation with a girl at my university gym last year; we took a bunch of classes together where you get hot and sweaty, and by the end of session her scent would make me gag if we were beside each other. And do you know how I solved the problem? It was so easy I said something like, "man, that workout got me soaked in sweat. I'm pretty stinky, and you so are too, we should definitely double up on the deodorant next time, maybe even go clinical strength."
Maybe she was a perceptive person, but she jokingly showed me her new deodorant the next week (which was a clinical grade one you can still get at the stores), and told me her new life goal was to try to smell awful after a workout wearing that. I never had a problem with her scent again.0 -
I had this situation years ago with a classmate that always sat near me. When someone said something to her, her response was that her religion / beliefs prohibited women from shaving, plucking their eyebrows, wearing makeup, wearing deoderant, etc... I'm also not sure she brushed her teeth with anything other than a toothbrush and warm water. :sick:
So if you do say something to her... who knows... you might get a strange response like that lol. I thought it was very odd, and ended up moving my seat in the class to the other end of the room.0 -
i understand what your going through
where i work we have some (clients) that stink so badly mainly children, which is sad because its not there fault they dont have good parents to keep up with their hygiene. however it still leaves you in a very awkward position. i agree with some of this advice.
i like the idea of mentioning your own b.o and that you use clinical strength deodorant. because some people really do need it . some of my closest girl friend have a stink/ swet problem.
i also like the vapor rub idea.
if these things dont work i would talk to the instructor privately about having a briefing on rules safety and hygiene.
and if all of these don't work i would mention it in as kind of a way as possible it still will be awkward, she still will either be mad, embarrassed, or offended. but if the smell truly is that bad i understand why you cant put up with it.0 -
I would just quit lol. Terrible yet honest advice.
One of bestest GF is like that.... and guys dump her after she has been with them and marathon (you know)..... I still havent figured out how to mention that subtely0 -
I am the same way. I have absolutely ZERO filter, and would most definitely tell her "Please shower and put on deodorant before class". In all honesty, she may not realize it and be grateful for the advice. OR...she may tell you to go screw yourself and walk off to another group. Either way...you need to do something. You are working on you, so I most certainly will NOT tell you to quit. Just tell her. Sometimes you have to be brutally honest...and the truth hurts!0
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there are people out there that don't believe in using deoderant and have no idea how bad they smell.
So no, I don't use deodorant.
But since I work out nearly every day, I also have a shower nearly every day.0 -
Omg lmfao I would probably be as nice as possible but thisApparently I'm the only one who would just come right out and say "please start wearing deoderant or you're going to have to find another workout buddy". *shrug*
I would say so too. Maybe I would use softer words but I would definitely let her know.
You pay for your classes, you enjoy them. Why would you quit because of a stinky stranger?0 -
there are people out there that don't believe in using deoderant and have no idea how bad they smell.
So no, I don't use deodorant.
But since I work out nearly every day, I also have a shower nearly every day.
Oh you can try Botox. It really helps with sweaty underarms! And it can last up to 8 months.0 -
If you are sensitive to certain aromas but not comfortable enough to approach her directly, the suggestion to approach the instructor is a very good idea! If you're comfortable enough to just tell her straight up something about her scent is messing with your sensitivity, go for it, maybe she has a sensitivity too so you may find some common ground there! You deserve to be comfortable in your own class.0
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Two more things: to those of you who are telling me to just suck it up and ignore it, I really don't think you get how bad it is.
Also...there is no locker room. They just have a foyer area with cubbies that we put our water/keys in. So I can't apply deoderant there. I really do appreciate all the suggestions. I do feel badly for her, but I don't feel comfortable saying anything. I think I'm going to try to arrive a few minutes late, or there is one other class that is not quite as convenient to my schedule, but I could make it work if need be.
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1) Unless the person is a friend, I would have no interest in discussing body odor with him/her. You could always go passive/aggressive and slip a note into her locker or something like that.
2) If I am paying for this class, I would discretely speak to the instructor - quitting isn't going to accomplish anything
3) Suggesting that the person should cover it up with deodorant isn't helpful - it sounds like a cleanliness issue, slopping deodorant on over stink isn't really the answer.
4) If all else fails, stick it out and do the workout - if that is the most adversity that you face during the course of the week/month/year, life has been good to you!0 -
It's seems that anyone read my post in the previous page, if that girl suffer about the medical condition that I've mentioned before there's NO WAY to prevent the smell.
She can wash 10 times at day and use all the deodorant stick you like but her odor will come out as strong as before.
If she really have this kind of problem Is not something to talk so lightly and publicly disgrace her...0 -
1) Unless the person is a friend, I would have no interest in discussing body odor with him/her. You could always go passive/aggressive and slip a note into her locker or something like that.
2) If I am paying for this class, I would discretely speak to the instructor - quitting isn't going to accomplish anything
3) Suggesting that the person should cover it up with deodorant isn't helpful - it sounds like a cleanliness issue, slopping deodorant on over stink isn't really the answer.
4) If all else fails, stick it out and do the workout - if that is the most adversity that you face during the course of the week/month/year, life has been good to you!
This is good. I would hate to shame her to feel like she can't come to class anymore. If you were allergic to her perfume or something, that would be different. You are not. And she can't help how she smells when working out intensely. It's only an hour. I'm in the 'suck it up' camp.0 -
When I took the train to work, you were often seated or stood next to someone that had terrible BO.
I would put vicks vapor rub in a lip gloss palet (like a small compact) and I would take it out and put a small amount under my nose. The action looks like your putting gloss/balm on so feelings are spared and so is your nose.0 -
This.1) Unless the person is a friend, I would have no interest in discussing body odor with him/her. You could always go passive/aggressive and slip a note into her locker or something like that.
2) If I am paying for this class, I would discretely speak to the instructor - quitting isn't going to accomplish anything
3) Suggesting that the person should cover it up with deodorant isn't helpful - it sounds like a cleanliness issue, slopping deodorant on over stink isn't really the answer.
4) If all else fails, stick it out and do the workout - if that is the most adversity that you face during the course of the week/month/year, life has been good to you!0 -
Talk to the instructor. Politely tell them about the problem and ask if they could speak to her discreetly. That way, the woman doesn't know who complained, but the message still gets across and through the proper channels. Besides if it's as bad as you say, I'm sure there are other people who are wondering how to broach the subject as well.
I think this is the best way to go about the situation.0
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