Hubby wants to go to marriage counseling

gabi_ele

OK I guess I have to put my 2 cents in too :happy: I had a lot of problems in my marridge for a very long time, but every time someone said anything bad about him I felt I had to defend him... ( my mom always told me make sure that you are done completly bevore you get a divorce) finally I left and moved in with a friend of mine and her husband... He changed overnight, He is not perfect but I wouldn't trade him in for two 25 year olds:laugh: the only thing I regret is that I didn't make a stand a lot earlier Now everybody talks about what a nice husband I have and how good he treats me:grumble:
You have to know what you can live with and what not, no one can say what they would do in your situation b/c they are not you, but I think you should give it a shot....

laurenk182004

I think it's awesome that u love your kids enough to even think about working things out. You're a "bigger" person than I am, I know I would just kic his *kitten*...that said, I think smart people can work through things like this with the help of a counselor, so give it a go honey! I hope it works out for you and he becomes the man I'm sure he promised u he would be

BigCityKittyz

Best of Luck GIRL! We are all on the outside looking in....you just remember to keep your head up and keep taking care of yourself...and your lil ones! And be patient....there is alot of emotional crud you have been through and will continue to work through.

Keep us posted!

We're all here for ya! We got your BACK!

PS....can I invite myself out there and go for a joyride with you in that SMOKIN' GTO! That is one SICK ride chica!

GTOgirl1969

Best of Luck GIRL! We are all on the outside looking in....you just remember to keep your head up and keep taking care of yourself...and your lil ones! And be patient....there is alot of emotional crud you have been through and will continue to work through.

Keep us posted!

We're all here for ya! We got your BACK!

PS....can I invite myself out there and go for a joyride with you in that SMOKIN' GTO! That is one SICK ride chica!

Sure, anytime

Vixxiii

lol that one made me smile

Healthier_Me

Do what's best for YOU and your girls.
You can listen to all the advice in the world but at the end of the day, you have to listen to your heart.
I wish you all the best GTO and I know you'll do the right thing.

~Joanna:flowerforyou:

sculley

Well I am not going to sit here and tell you what the best solution is, because i believe everyone is different and it's a decision in your heart that you have to make.

I know in my childhood my mom stayed and tried to work things out with my dad and honestly that screwed me up MAJORLY! My dad was always on me about something I couldn't even breathe or walk wrong....It really did mess me up and I do believe that I am a very defensive person because of him and also it wasnt good because I never knew what a real marriage was supposed to be like I left for the military and a few years later they got a divorce......

I am going through a divorce because my soon to be ex cheated on me(he had two chances he messed them both up), in my heart I care for him but know I WILL NEVER have trust again. So in my case I wanted to make it work for Ri but I felt like it will be worst on him especially since Geoff and I fight so much so a break is right for me.

Besides i want to be a good role model and do not want rion thinking that it's ok to cheat and lie.

Good luck in whatever you choose hun
:flowerforyou:

abbychelle07

I wish you all the luck in the world. I think counseling is an excellent step!!! That being said, I doubt someone who is that selfish will really change. But, stranger things have been known to happen. Talking it out with a third party couldn't hurt. Even if you eventually go your separate ways, your relationship will be slightly improved, and you kids deserve that!

Take care of yourself!

sindyb9

I told you mine cheated years ago and we worked it out. I will never forget but now he does not give me a reason to doubt him. If I ask where he is going he tells me and is where he said. But it is still hard to forget. Go with your heart. This has to be what you want. :flowerforyou:

I basically told him that, and I also told him this would be his ONE second chance...if he fouls up again it's over.

Good keep your eyes wide open. Mine are still wide open even though it has been years. If mine messed up again he would be gone too. Missing parts. :flowerforyou:

lotusfromthemud

Every situation is different. . .I have seen counseling work, and I've seen it not work.

This sounds cheesy, but here's my advice. . .Make sure you're bringing the counseling home with you. I have an ex, and when we tried counseling, he thought that everything would get "fixed" by saying the right thing in front of the therapist and then going back to plan A at home.

If you find a good counselor, and use the communication techniques, it can work.

I wish you only the best, for both you and your children.

and your sweet, sweet ride. . .:flowerforyou:

GTOgirl1969

His sudden desire to undergo counseling makes me wonder if he is truly sorry he did it, or just sorry he got caught.:ohwell: I told him I would give him ONE chance and if he blows it, then it's "sayonara" for me....