Telling your significant other that they are gaining weight

Chibukalu908 · August 2014

Would you tell your boyfriend or girlfriend that they are gaining weight? I would if I was in that situation as I work hard to stay in shape. If its few pounds then no big deal but if they start gaining and still not making effort to loose weight then I would .anyone ever been in the situation

Alatariel75 · August 2014

I go by the theory that if you need to ask the internet for relationship advice, you're doing it wrong anyway, so tell them what you like.

ninerbuff · August 2014

Nope. It's a personal thing for each individual to deal with themselves. If they want to hear it, they'll ask.

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SideSteel · August 2014

I go by the theory that if you need to ask the internet for relationship advice, you're doing it wrong anyway, so tell them what you like.

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feedmedonuts · August 2014

Nope. It's a personal thing for each individual to deal with themselves. If they want to hear it, they'll ask.

Basically. Most people who have gained weight already know that and don't need someone telling them to see that. I'd encourage my S.O to be healthier with me, such as cooking healthy meals for us both and doing something active and fun together-hiking/biking/etc.....but I would not just tell him you've gained weight. Then again he acknowledges he has and has expressed a desire to change it. I've acknowledged my own too and am working on it and I certainly appreciate he doesn't feel the need to tell me something I already know and feel insecure about.

MagnumBurrito · August 2014

Just stay in shape yourself and they'll usually get on board.

TavistockToad · August 2014

I go by the theory that if you need to ask the internet for relationship advice, you're doing it wrong anyway, so tell them what you like.

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cuckoo_jenibeth · August 2014

I am married to an intelligent man....I am pretty sure he is aware of his weight & his body, as they are his! As are the decisions he makes about his weight & his body.

besaro · August 2014

nope

Luv2eatSweets · August 2014

I guess my feeling would be that, I love that person, no matter what there physical appearance is. Some healthy food suggestions would not be out of line, especially if it is for their well being. Wording is everything.

kaseyr1505 · August 2014

I would tell my husband if he started gaining weight, and I could tell he wasn't at his peak. I would want him to do the same for me. If he just gained some weight, but didn't seem impacted by it, I wouldn't say anything.

I don't think it has to be tactless, I wouldn't sit him down and say "Hey lard-o. Don't you think you've had enough donuts for the night?" more like "Baby, I have noticed that you have had less energy lately. I started noticing it after you gained a bit of weight. Hey, we're both getting older- it happens! If you're happy with yourself, then I am happy. But, if you aren't then I want to help you make the changes that you want to make to become happier with yourself."

SandraJN · August 2014

My husband has developed a pot belly, I do the cooking so I don't need to say anything. I simply have to start serving him less, as neither of us eats outside of meals. He's eating too much because I make it and he will eat it.

stephanieluvspb · August 2014

I have never not known I was overweight, and I really never needed anyone to remind me. I'm sure your significant other is smart enough to know he is gaining weight, so why tell him/her?

baconslave · August 2014

Yeah...ummm...don't tell them. They know. Just make sure you guys have healthy meals. Maybe invite them to join you in physical activities. Harping on it or bringing it up will just hurt your relationship Your partner isn't going to do anything unless they are ready and want to.

laserturkey · August 2014

Telling them would be rude and hurtful to the relationship. They already know what is going on in their own body. Telling them is treating them like they are stupid.

_SantaClause · August 2014

Would you tell your boyfriend or girlfriend that they are gaining weight? I would if I was in that situation as I work hard to stay in shape. If its few pounds then no big deal but if they start gaining and still not making effort to loose weight then I would .anyone ever been in the situation

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FoxyLifter · August 2014

Just stay in shape yourself and they'll usually get on board.

This. Ever since I've been vocal about my MFP plans (e.g. him: "Want to go to Taco Bell for dinner?", me: "Yes, I have enough calories to get my usual", etc) slowly, but surely he has been making small steps in the right direction (he's not counting calories, but he's making better decisions and has lost some weight) . It doesn't have to be the only thing you talk about, but just slip it into conversation once in a while.