Would you be offended if......

DamePiglet

Just break up.

SLLRunner

Nope.

Just break up.

:bigsmile:

Tanie98

People get offended if you compliment their weight loss...People get butthurt when you don't seem to notice.

There is no win win with people that are just going to find a way to get offended about one thing or another. It's all just one big TRAP!

This is an interesting response.

So, are you saying it's okay for corkers to go on and on about someone's weight and the person on the receiving end needs to learn how not to be offended?

I hope that's not what your saying.

There is a huge difference between a comment and constantly making comments. The first few times, it's flattery. Anything after that is intrusiveness.

this :bigsmile:

arewethereyet

It is funny, when I lost weight from hard work I loved when anyone brought up my weight loss. At the time I got down to 135ish up or down 3 pounds.

Now, I am down to 122, smallest I have been in 25 years, but still 10 pounds away from a perfect healthy weight (per charts which IDC about, as I am lifting weights and fully expect to eventually gain back a few)

BUT.....because I was sick, and this is the reason why I lost the last 10-15, I seriously hate when someone says "Oh you are getting so skinny" or "Don't lose any more weight" or "WOW, you have lost a lot of weight"

I don't take any of these as a compliment. If someone said "You look very healthy" or "You look good!" now that would be a compliment. What does it mean

"Don't lose any more weight?" :huh:

arewethereyet

Nope.

:noway: WOW you've lost a lot of weight!!!



:bigsmile:

PikaKnight

People get offended if you compliment their weight loss...People get butthurt when you don't seem to notice.

There is no win win with people that are just going to find a way to get offended about one thing or another. It's all just one big TRAP!

This is an interesting response.

So, are you saying it's okay for corkers to go on and on about someone's weight and the person on the receiving end needs to learn how not to be offended?

I hope that's not what your saying.

There is a huge difference between a comment and constantly making comments. The first few times, it's flattery. Anything after that is intrusiveness.

this :bigsmile:

If it is really that big of a problem, then I'm not sure why you aren't reporting it to your boss or HR.


Otherwise.....


Really just seems like a trap. :flowerforyou:

Tanie98

It is funny, when I lost weight from hard work I loved when anyone brought up my weight loss. At the time I got down to 135ish up or down 3 pounds.

Now, I am down to 122, smallest I have been in 25 years, but still 10 pounds away from a perfect healthy weight (per charts which IDC about, as I am lifting weights and fully expect to eventually gain back a few)

BUT.....because I was sick, and this is the reason why I lost the last 10-15, I seriously hate when someone says "Oh you are getting so skinny" or "Don't lose any more weight" or "WOW, you have lost a lot of weight"

I don't take any of these as a compliment. If someone said "You look very healthy" or "You look good!" now that would be a compliment. What does it mean

"Don't lose any more weight?" :huh:

how tall are you? maybe they are just not used to see you this small.I am 5'3 and my goal weight is 120
I woudnt go lower than that.I still want to keep my curves and look slim at the same time

micheal_2014

Nope, wouldn't be offended or irritated one bit. If it is as often as you say than go through HR. There are a lot of irritating people in the world, at least these ones have good intentions

marricurt

I am a nurse, so I work in a very female dominated environment...and nurses are renowned for being able to discuss private and personal details quite easily and openly so my weight loss is always a topic of conversation....and I don't mind at all. My co workers, both on my ward and in the general hospital, always ask me about what I have for lunch/breakfast/dinner, ask for advice, compliment me on both the amount of weight that I have lost and my commitment to losing it. We talk about everything. I know it's coming from a place of love and honest curiosity... Sometimes it does feel a little weird as my weight loss started after my cancer treatment, and I realised that I needed to treat my body better, but all my co workers are generally nice people, so if I have had enough of analysing my eating habits I just say "ok..enough about me! How are you all going?" And the conversation changes. Easy to do and nine times out of ten people take the hint.

Tanie98

People get offended if you compliment their weight loss...People get butthurt when you don't seem to notice.

There is no win win with people that are just going to find a way to get offended about one thing or another. It's all just one big TRAP!

This is an interesting response.

So, are you saying it's okay for corkers to go on and on about someone's weight and the person on the receiving end needs to learn how not to be offended?

I hope that's not what your saying.

There is a huge difference between a comment and constantly making comments. The first few times, it's flattery. Anything after that is intrusiveness.

this :bigsmile:

If it is really that big of a problem, then I'm not sure why you aren't reporting it to your boss or HR.


Otherwise.....


Really just seems like a trap. :flowerforyou:

its not much of big deal.I jsut feel awkaward when people comment on my body posiyive or negetative so I just prefer they keep that to themselves.I know some people love the weight loss comments but I am private person and I minfd my own business

SLLRunner

People get offended if you compliment their weight loss...People get butthurt when you don't seem to notice.

There is no win win with people that are just going to find a way to get offended about one thing or another. It's all just one big TRAP!

This is an interesting response.

So, are you saying it's okay for corkers to go on and on about someone's weight and the person on the receiving end needs to learn how not to be offended?

I hope that's not what your saying.

There is a huge difference between a comment and constantly making comments. The first few times, it's flattery. Anything after that is intrusiveness.

this :bigsmile:

If it is really that big of a problem, then I'm not sure why you aren't reporting it to your boss or HR.


Otherwise.....


Really just seems like a trap. :flowerforyou:

Reporting it to the boss is indeed an option. For me, I didn't report it to the boss, I just told her to cut it out and she did. Had she not stopped after me asking her to, I would've went to the boss.

What is the trap?

brower47

Schools need to teach a new class: How to talk to the people around you. It would be helpful for so many people.

"Hey, I don't want you to be offended but you could please not ask me about my weight anymore? I really appreciate it your kind words but it just makes me a little uncomfortable. Thanks."

Note: I don't actually want schools to teach this but I do wish people could talk to those around them. So much bottled up resentment could be avoided if they could.

mangogirl272727

Why is it rude to make a comment about losing weight. I agree with the above poster, you can't win anymore. People get offended if you mention that you are losing weight and they get offended that they are doing such a hard thing and no one notices! Why not just say yes, I'm trying to improve my health and leave it at that. I just don't understand why someone would get offended by someone acknowledging that they have lost weight.

They might have cancer. They might be unable to eat because their husband has been beating the crap out of them and they're stressed. They might be low on funds and can't buy enough food. They might be taking drugs. They just might not like you making their body a topic of conversation.

It is rude to comment on people bodies. The theory behind this is that it makes people uncomfortable. Some people are not happy about their weight gain or loss, either, so it's best to not make them unhappy.

Doctors are the only ones who get to make observations that might be considered rude by others. "Have you been trying to lose or is it just coming off?" "What is that spot on your face?" "You have gained twenty pounds. Are you eating more?"

Everyone else should limit their comments to, "You look great!" without details.

THIS THIS THIS! You never know the reason for someone's weight gain or weight loss. UNIVITED commentary on someone's weight, even if you mean it as positive, is really uncalled for. Now if that person is talking about their weight loss and wanting feedback that's a different story

Bearbo25

For me when I lost 26 pounds last year I got comments all the time at work. I would just say thank you and that would usually be the end of it. In the odd occasion that I had someone ask further what "trick" I used, I used that opportunity to talk about mfp and how it was no trick

Tanie98

I am a nurse, so I work in a very female dominated environment...and nurses are renowned for being able to discuss private and personal details quite easily and openly so my weight loss is always a topic of conversation....and I don't mind at all. My co workers, both on my ward and in the general hospital, always ask me about what I have for lunch/breakfast/dinner, ask for advice, compliment me on both the amount of weight that I have lost and my commitment to losing it. We talk about everything. I know it's coming from a place of love and honest curiosity... Sometimes it does feel a little weird as my weight loss started after my cancer treatment, and I realised that I needed to treat my body better, but all my co workers are generally nice people, so if I have had enough of analysing my eating habits I just say "ok..enough about me! How are you all going?" And the conversation changes. Easy to do and nine times out of ten people take the hint.

MelodyandBarbells

Schools need to teach a new class: How to talk to the people around you. It would be helpful for so many people.

"Hey, I don't want you to be offended but you could please not ask me about my weight anymore? I really appreciate it your kind words but it just makes me a little uncomfortable. Thanks."

Note: I don't actually want schools to teach this but I do wish people could talk to those around them. So much bottled up resentment could be avoided if they could.

But alas, there was no class and it helps to bounce proposed conversations off a large group so you can receive feedback. Ever had somebody be a jerk to you but your reaction was way over the top and then you ended up being the bad guy?!

brower47

Schools need to teach a new class: How to talk to the people around you. It would be helpful for so many people.

"Hey, I don't want you to be offended but you could please not ask me about my weight anymore? I really appreciate it your kind words but it just makes me a little uncomfortable. Thanks."

Note: I don't actually want schools to teach this but I do wish people could talk to those around them. So much bottled up resentment could be avoided if they could.

But alas, there was no class and it helps to bounce proposed conversations off a large group so you can receive feedback. Ever had somebody be a jerk to you but your reaction was way over the top and then you ended up being the bad guy?!

Nope, but I don't tend to sweat the small stuff in the first place. She asked how we would handle the situation. My first reply was obviously how I would handle the situation.

PikaKnight

People get offended if you compliment their weight loss...People get butthurt when you don't seem to notice.

There is no win win with people that are just going to find a way to get offended about one thing or another. It's all just one big TRAP!

This is an interesting response.

So, are you saying it's okay for corkers to go on and on about someone's weight and the person on the receiving end needs to learn how not to be offended?

I hope that's not what your saying.

There is a huge difference between a comment and constantly making comments. The first few times, it's flattery. Anything after that is intrusiveness.

this :bigsmile:

If it is really that big of a problem, then I'm not sure why you aren't reporting it to your boss or HR.


Otherwise.....


Really just seems like a trap. :flowerforyou:

Reporting it to the boss is indeed an option. For me, I didn't report it to the boss, I just told her to cut it out and she did. Had she not stopped after me asking her to, I would've went to the boss.

What is the trap?

SLLRunner

People get offended if you compliment their weight loss...People get butthurt when you don't seem to notice.

There is no win win with people that are just going to find a way to get offended about one thing or another. It's all just one big TRAP!

This is an interesting response.

So, are you saying it's okay for corkers to go on and on about someone's weight and the person on the receiving end needs to learn how not to be offended?

I hope that's not what your saying.

There is a huge difference between a comment and constantly making comments. The first few times, it's flattery. Anything after that is intrusiveness.

this :bigsmile:

If it is really that big of a problem, then I'm not sure why you aren't reporting it to your boss or HR.


Otherwise.....


Really just seems like a trap. :flowerforyou:

Reporting it to the boss is indeed an option. For me, I didn't report it to the boss, I just told her to cut it out and she did. Had she not stopped after me asking her to, I would've went to the boss.

What is the trap?

Aw, love the cat and dog. :bigsmile:

supersupercoolio

Well yes but then I have an unhealthy view on it. I wish I could eat normally so any comments about my weight no matter what size I am aren't very well appreciated.