Depressed about my body

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  • jimmmer
    jimmmer Posts: 3,515 Member
    I think you have a touch of dysmorphia...

    Others have mentioned it: you're way above average for most 40 year olds.

    To get bigger, you have to eat and train for it and then just give it time. It's hard to be patient when achieving these kinds of goals because all the worthwhile one's take a long time.

    So stick with it, keep eating and lifting and cut yourself some slack!
  • emilyisbonkers
    emilyisbonkers Posts: 373 Member
    fishing for compliments?
  • I_need_moar_musclez
    I_need_moar_musclez Posts: 499 Member
    fishing for compliments?

    I suppose I am..but it's answers I'm looking for more than anything. I'm training myself into the ground and I still feel inferior and not good enough for anybody (I haven't even been out with friends since March) That isn't right.
  • SuperVixen2B
    SuperVixen2B Posts: 218 Member
    fishing for compliments?

    I suppose I am..but it's answers I'm looking for more than anything. I'm training myself into the ground and I still feel inferior and not good enough for anybody (I haven't even been out with friends since March) That isn't right.

    That's so sad :cry: I hope you have someone to talk to...maybe someone that specializes in body dysmorphia or depression. You don't have to be perfect to be deserving of happiness - everyone has the right to be happy.
  • CrusaderSam
    CrusaderSam Posts: 180 Member
    When you say "other guys" who are you talking about? Like ifbb pro bodybuilders, guys at your gym, people here on mfp?

    The other guys on here with the ripped profile pics.

    Its funny because most of them like myself only have at most 5-6 more lbs or muscle and 7-8 lb less fat then you (AT MOST). It is not some big massive number. I think part of the problem is a lot of people on here are wanting to be helpful, giving advice, when you don't need it, because you are almost as big as you are going to get.

    For a second lets just think about it, how can dysmorphia not start to set in. When some people start saying, you need to eat this, do that, 500 cal, blah blah blah, like hes got some massive amount of muscle hes got left to put on. When in fact he doesn't need to do any of that, because he looks damn good, and we can just leave it that.

    Also a bro tip, most women like well dressed man in a good shirt way more then a guy showing off his abs in the bathroom/gym any day. If you want to look better you have to dress better, its not anywhere as much about your body as you think. As guys we can get rejected for so many things....so so so so many things, I know its super hard but you just cant let it effect your value as a person or your self image.
  • SuperVixen2B
    SuperVixen2B Posts: 218 Member
    CrusaderSam is correct.
  • j4nash
    j4nash Posts: 1,719 Member
    Focus on form and activating your muscle groups that you're trying to develop. I had the same issue until I was taught the right way. For example, with bench press it is common to overstress the shoulders and not activate the chest muscles.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c6I0z_d4xqY

    Same issue with back. Very easy to do it the wrong way and activate the wrong muscle groups.

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