Why does silence hurt

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  • mybeesknees
    mybeesknees Posts: 633
    I am one of those people who needs to be alone to get over things.

    No it is not passive aggressive behavior. It is Leave Me The Hell Alone behavior.

    No they are not childish.

    YOU need to give them space so they can get over it. If you cannot respect their process, why should they respect yours?

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  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    I am one of those people who needs to be alone to get over things.

    No it is not passive aggressive behavior. It is Leave Me The Hell Alone behavior.

    No they are not childish.

    YOU need to give them space so they can get over it. If you cannot respect their process, why should they respect yours?

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  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    Some people need space after conflict. Others need to talk things through. There's nothing wrong with either approach, but when you're in a relationship with someone you should know which type they are so you can give them what they need.

    Or they may be done with the relationship, and that's their call.

    Whatever the case, continuing to contact them when they've made it clear they don't want to talk isn't going to help.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    It appears the op gets it.

    But, just adding sometimes people are silent because they don't want to say something in anger that will make things worse.
  • mybeesknees
    mybeesknees Posts: 633
    I am one of those people who needs to be alone to get over things.

    No it is not passive aggressive behavior. It is Leave Me The Hell Alone behavior.

    No they are not childish.

    YOU need to give them space so they can get over it. If you cannot respect their process, why should they respect yours?

    rri1vo.jpg

    *happy bee noises*

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  • shadowofender
    shadowofender Posts: 786 Member
    My best friend and I routinely go through periods of not talking for weeks because we're both adults with lives that don't include each other every second of the day. If we have an argument, if we have those moments of silence, it's usually nothing, but I project my own feelings into the situation. It's NEVER as bad as I feel it is, and I know to take a step back and not project how I feel on how she may feel.

    Friendships get harder and harder in some ways as you age, and easier in others. Just keep in mind that just because you feel ignored, doesn't mean you actually are being ignored. Or, some people need space. I know it can hurt, and it's hard to not jump to conclusions about it, but try not to and you'll be happier, and your relationships will get better.
  • Chibukalu908
    Chibukalu908 Posts: 212
    Update Everything is now cool vool between me and this person. we cleared the air and we are now in speaking terms again.Thank you for those who who contribited and contructively to the topic and for the few ones that didnt ,all I can say is it sucks that I can't directly block anyone on mfp from answering my threads again.chears:drinker:
  • Tigg_er
    Tigg_er Posts: 22,001 Member
    ETA: Missed the update
  • Tigg_er
    Tigg_er Posts: 22,001 Member
    Update Everything is now cool vool between me and this person. we cleared the air and we are now in speaking terms again.Thank you for those who who contribited and contructively to the topic and for the few ones that didnt ,all I can say is it sucks that I can't directly block anyone on mfp from answering my threads again.chears:drinker:

    oops missed the up-date. Glad things worked out for you.:drinker:
  • Tanie98
    Tanie98 Posts: 675 Member
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  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    Update Everything is now cool vool between me and this person. we cleared the air and we are now in speaking terms again.Thank you for those who who contribited and contructively to the topic and for the few ones that didnt ,all I can say is it sucks that I can't directly block anyone on mfp from answering my threads again.chears:drinker:

    If you click the arrow next to the person's name you can choose to "Ignore User." They can still answer your threads but you won't see their responses.
  • RaggedyPond
    RaggedyPond Posts: 1,487 Member
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  • Tanie98
    Tanie98 Posts: 675 Member
    Update Everything is now cool between me and this person. we cleared the air and we are now in speaking terms again.Thank you for those who who contribited and contructively to the topic and for the few ones that didn`t ,all I can say is it sucks that I can't directly block anyone on mfp from answering my threads again.chears:drinker:
  • Chibukalu908
    Chibukalu908 Posts: 212
    Update Everything is now cool vool between me and this person. we cleared the air and we are now in speaking terms again.Thank you for those who who contribited and contructively to the topic and for the few ones that didnt ,all I can say is it sucks that I can't directly block anyone on mfp from answering my threads again.chears:drinker:

    If you click the arrow next to the person's name you can choose to "Ignore User." They can still answer your threads but you won't see their responses.

    thank you

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