I'm gonna kill my husband :)

laurenk182004
laurenk182004 Posts: 1,882 Member
edited September 18 in Health and Weight Loss
GRRRRR!!! why can't he be home at 10 like he says?! what's up with it being 2:30am and he's not home yet?! I'm gonna kill him :bigsmile: Any Chatters?
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  • laurenk182004
    laurenk182004 Posts: 1,882 Member
    GRRRRR!!! why can't he be home at 10 like he says?! what's up with it being 2:30am and he's not home yet?! I'm gonna kill him :bigsmile: Any Chatters?
  • foxfire9372
    foxfire9372 Posts: 184 Member
    Don't kill him, you go to jail, you get a cell mate and it gets so ugly. There are more evil ways to pay him back.
  • fynendandi1
    fynendandi1 Posts: 122 Member
    Oh no are you like me and can't sleep until they walk through the door? I always wished I could just sleep. Usually i sleep like a log but when my old man was late i would wake up like someone was shaking me.
    Don't kill him....:tongue:
  • fynendandi1
    fynendandi1 Posts: 122 Member
    Yeah get creative!!! You can make is life a living hell this weekend. especially if he is hung over.:laugh: :sick:
  • iftcheiaf
    iftcheiaf Posts: 960 Member
    What would he do if you one night decided to go out, leave him with the kids, and didn't bother calling and came home at some ungodly hour? Of course, I think as women we're much too sensitive to the needs of our family to pull stunts like that!
  • foxfire9372
    foxfire9372 Posts: 184 Member
    How exactly do you get out the door. I agree with you, nights when I teach I get the what were you doing for so long look if I walk in the door past 7:30. Gotta love them. I really think killing is to good for them all the time. I just threaten me, him, a rubberband and the family jewels. That ALWAYS gets his attention!!
  • laurenk182004
    laurenk182004 Posts: 1,882 Member
    so true! ok..I won't actually kil him..but I am so ticked off, we just had an argument a few days ago about the same EXACT thing! wth! Why does it work out where I have to be mommy all the time (which I love doing) and he gets all these breaks from being daddy? not fair...I don't really want the breaks, so why does he?
  • foxfire9372
    foxfire9372 Posts: 184 Member
    Where in MD are you exactly? My home state and missing it like crazy
  • foxfire9372
    foxfire9372 Posts: 184 Member
    If you were in Zion, are you near Fred/Mont Co,
  • laurenk182004
    laurenk182004 Posts: 1,882 Member
    I just called him..he's on his way home WALKING b/c the cabs aren't running this late...umm, might be an indicator that he should come home earlier!! whatever, he wants to talk about it b/c he's drunk and I'm not talking about it anymore, it's a waste of my breath
  • foxfire9372
    foxfire9372 Posts: 184 Member
    Is he going through the I want to do all the fun things that make me a daddy, but OMG the realities are setting in. Odds are, there is a couple of friends doing the whole, "you're whipped", "you're not fun anymore" and being a guy, gotta prove the manliness factor. No one ever said husband training is easy, I am still working on mine. Hang in there and knock him over the head with a frying pan. He won't remember you did it, just tell him he tripped coming in and serves him right.
  • iftcheiaf
    iftcheiaf Posts: 960 Member
    The good news is he answered the phone. And he's smart enough not to be driving in case he's not in any condition to be (I mean, other than drinking, what else would he be doing out this late...at least that's the experience in this part of the world). Take care of yourself tonight.
  • fynendandi1
    fynendandi1 Posts: 122 Member
    First of all weather you want a break or not is irrelevant, everyone should have alone time or time with friends . And if you are not getting that then trust me you will become resentful since he takes his time, and if he is always taking it to the next level you are going to find yourself madder and madder. So taking time for yourself is not really a break from being a mom it is something all humans need. This is something you guys are going to have to sit down and not argue over. Arguing is not going to make him get it, it just going to make him do it more and more. I know this is all easier said than done but just be firm without yelling, make a time when you are going to do something for you then do it and don't feel guilty about it even when he tries to throw the guilt trip on you. Tell him where and when you are going out be home when you say you will and set a new tone in your household.
  • Gorgeous
    Gorgeous Posts: 248
    yeah if my husband was out partying and getting drunk while im home with kids
    there would be no husband the following day
  • TamTastic
    TamTastic Posts: 19,224 Member
    Lauren, I feel your pain hon!! I have been feeling that same urge to do bodily harm to my spouse!! :wink:
  • laurenk182004
    laurenk182004 Posts: 1,882 Member
    Thankyou guys :) I am seriously FED up...does anyone have any suggestions on how to handle the situation? I mean I feel like things can't be the way they are, but it's not bad enough to threaten him with divorce or something, so what do I do? I love him very much and we're happy alot of the time, but these late night binge drinking sessions of his are happening about twice a week and then when he's hungover the following day he's an *kitten* then too, so that's like 4 days a week I'm pissed at him...lol NOT cool
  • BlackBeltLJ
    BlackBeltLJ Posts: 190
    Remember this: if you kill your husband, you go to jail And they limit your computer time so there would be no mfp:noway:

    Take a day for yourself- you deserve it!:flowerforyou:
  • ali106
    ali106 Posts: 3,754 Member
    (((((((((((Lauren))))))))))))))))

    I think I'd vacuum like all morning...right near him...then tell him you need to change the sheets on the bed....then he needs to watch the baby....then rearrange all the pans...remembering to drop a few....and ya know keep the noises up to nice roar all day so he can really enjoy the day after....:tongue:

    I think that's a much better solution than the whole kill thing...plus no Internet in jail like blackbelt said.....so yes that is not an option!!!

    hugs!!!!
    Ali
  • laurenk182004
    laurenk182004 Posts: 1,882 Member
    lol I love it..it is saturday...maybe I'll just get all gussied up and go to the bar! Then find myself an afterparty...eh who am I kidding lol I'd rather be here with the baby and the hangovers are no fun. I wish I had something else fun to do besides go out all night and drink. I do need to vaccum...lol and the pots and pans could use a rearranging! I'll do it! just not right now..the baby's napping lol
    thanks sweety :)
    :flowerforyou:
  • sculley
    sculley Posts: 2,012 Member
    lol I love it..it is saturday...maybe I'll just get all gussied up and go to the bar! Then find myself an afterparty...eh who am I kidding lol I'd rather be here with the baby and the hangovers are no fun. I wish I had something else fun to do besides go out all night and drink. I do need to vaccum...lol and the pots and pans could use a rearranging! I'll do it! just not right now..the baby's napping lol
    thanks sweety :)
    :flowerforyou:

    Not bagging on men but for some reason when we become moms it's like we automatically GIVE everything and never have anything in return. I do not know how many times I have threatened divorce with geoff it just never worked and never SUNK IN until i filed.
    He needs to know that this is making you very unhappy, and it's disrespectful and not to mention you just argued about it afew days ago (sounds like mine....grrrr but it's usually a few hours and not days) he is a daddy and needs to act like one... I mean geeze your beautiful girl isn't that old what in the heck is he doing out getting drunk.......
    Sorry for the ranting
    Love ya girl hope you can get through this.
  • sgtinvincible
    sgtinvincible Posts: 2,559
    LLLLLLLAAAAAAAAAUUUUUUUUUURRRRRRRRREEEEEEEEENNNNNNNN!!!!!!!


    Darlin', I'm sorry you had a rough night. That sucks hardcore. I'm not a major drinker in any way shape or form, but I have been guilty of staying out 'with the guys' too late every rare once in a while.

    I guess it's part of relationships that you work that out. I agree with some of the other folks that you need your time away from your spouse and home from time to time, but it's when it becomes habitual that it's a problem. I think it's pretty important that ya'll work this out before you being to stop resenting the behavior and begin resenting him.

    As for staying home with the kids...well...I couldn't imagine not being home with my child. Seriously, it's *FAR* more likely that I will end up being Mr. Mom than being barroom Dad. I'm already crazy about my kids, and I don't even have any yet. The mother of my children will probably have a harder time getting time alone with the kids than the other way around. So hearing this strikes me as a bit bizarre....(why would you want to go out and get drunk when you have a beautiful Laaaauuuurrrreeeeennn and baby girl at home....*I think I just teared up...I'm such a wuss*)

    Again, my Mainah friend, you have my sympathies. Don't be too hard on the guys in your life, they are not all like that. Give the little one a kiss for me, and remember to use the little pots to hit the big pots with, it's more like a drum set that way. :wink:

    hugs! :heart:

    -J
  • Manda86
    Manda86 Posts: 1,859 Member
    I'm sorry..

    why don't you bring the kiddos over here, and take a break from hubby? lol..

    margarita night!!

    :tongue:

    (On second though, it wouldn't be any more relaxing at my place.. :grumble: )
  • sgtinvincible
    sgtinvincible Posts: 2,559
    lol I love it..it is saturday...maybe I'll just get all gussied up and go to the bar! Then find myself an afterparty...eh who am I kidding lol I'd rather be here with the baby and the hangovers are no fun. I wish I had something else fun to do besides go out all night and drink. I do need to vaccum...lol and the pots and pans could use a rearranging! I'll do it! just not right now..the baby's napping lol
    thanks sweety :)
    :flowerforyou:

    Not bagging on men but for some reason when we become moms it's like we automatically GIVE everything and never have anything in return.

    Just feel like it needs to be said....


    Not every guy is like this. I know it might feel like it, but I promise you that there are guys out there that sacrifice every day for their beautiful wives and little ones.

    I fully intend to be one of them.

    Just thought it needed to be said.

    *shrug*

    -J
  • Manda86
    Manda86 Posts: 1,859 Member
    lol I love it..it is saturday...maybe I'll just get all gussied up and go to the bar! Then find myself an afterparty...eh who am I kidding lol I'd rather be here with the baby and the hangovers are no fun. I wish I had something else fun to do besides go out all night and drink. I do need to vaccum...lol and the pots and pans could use a rearranging! I'll do it! just not right now..the baby's napping lol
    thanks sweety :)
    :flowerforyou:

    Not bagging on men but for some reason when we become moms it's like we automatically GIVE everything and never have anything in return.

    Just feel like it needs to be said....


    Not every guy is like this. I know it might feel like it, but I promise you that there are guys out there that sacrifice every day for their beautiful wives and little ones.

    I fully intend to be one of them.

    Just thought it needed to be said.

    *shrug*

    -J

    I believe that too, now.. (recent development)
  • beep
    beep Posts: 1,242 Member
    Girl,
    You have grown up, and your husband is still lagging behind. It could be finances weighing in on him, the stresses of being a father and not having a care-free life anymore. But drinking binges twice a week are not the answer, and you do need help. I would suggest checking out the Focus on the Family website. Look through all their links, they do have another area of their website for Troubled people. It could be trouble with kids, trouble with spouses. Lots of good advice on there, and even free online counselors.

    Perhaps one of their trained counselors can give you some healthy tips for dealing with that hubby of yours.
  • sgtinvincible
    sgtinvincible Posts: 2,559
    Girl,
    You have grown up, and your husband is still lagging behind. It could be finances weighing in on him, the stresses of being a father and not having a care-free life anymore. But drinking binges twice a week are not the answer, and you do need help. I would suggest checking out the Focus on the Family website. Look through all their links, they do have another area of their website for Troubled people. It could be trouble with kids, trouble with spouses. Lots of good advice on there, and even free online counselors.

    Perhaps one of their trained counselors can give you some healthy tips for dealing with that hubby of yours.

    Good advice Beep. :wink:
  • TamTastic
    TamTastic Posts: 19,224 Member
    Lauren, if you ever need to talk (other than on here of course), you know where to find me!! Myspace or on here!! Whatever. I even have MSN Messenger if you'd like ;)
  • laurenk182004
    laurenk182004 Posts: 1,882 Member
    Thankyou all so much..I think I'm gonna leave my husband and run away with Jeremy :) lol I'm just kidding...but seriously thanks u guys! I just wish there was some way to get him to change this stupidness because we were once very happy and we haven't even been married 2 years yet!!! I feel like we're having the problems of an old married couple..maybe it's because of the age difference I don't know. I just can't understand why he doesn't wanna be here with us...on that note taylor is pooping for the 2nd time this morning..now would be a good time to toss her in bed with daddy...lol without her diaper!
  • Manda86
    Manda86 Posts: 1,859 Member
    me, too- I'm not in a position to give relationship advice, but I'm a good listener (reader), and I'll do my best to cheer ya up if you need it.

    *hugs*

    :flowerforyou:
  • beep
    beep Posts: 1,242 Member
    Thankyou all so much..I think I'm gonna leave my husband and run away with Jeremy :) lol I'm just kidding...but seriously thanks u guys! I just wish there was some way to get him to change this stupidness because we were once very happy and we haven't even been married 2 years yet!!! I feel like we're having the problems of an old married couple..maybe it's because of the age difference I don't know. I just can't understand why he doesn't wanna be here with us...on that note taylor is pooping for the 2nd time this morning..now would be a good time to toss her in bed with daddy...lol without her diaper!

    Unfortunately, you cannot change him. He has to do it himself, but you need to find the tools to not be an enabler, and to get encouragement for yourself. All is not lost, he did come home.
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