I'm gonna kill my husband :)

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  • beep
    beep Posts: 1,242 Member
    me, too- I'm not in a position to give relationship advice, but I'm a good listener (reader), and I'll do my best to cheer ya up if you need it.

    *hugs*

    :flowerforyou:

    Manda, what is a Seattle girl doing in WEST TEXAS???? Aren't you dying out there? It's soooooooooo different! (we lived in silverdale, across the water) though I understand you're getting the sunshine you need in Texas:laugh:
  • TamTastic
    TamTastic Posts: 19,224 Member
    Manda, don't know if you knew this but I am from the Pacific NW myself. (Oregon born and raised with tons of family in Tacoma and Seattle).
  • Manda86
    Manda86 Posts: 1,859 Member
    My dad was a pastor, and he moved us down here when we were younger to lead a small church in North Texas... my parents got divorced, and a few years ago my mom moved back to WA State with my brothers and sisters and left us here... I couldn't bring myself to leave my daddy all alone down here.
  • laurenk182004
    laurenk182004 Posts: 1,882 Member
    hehe, just thought u all might find this amusing..there's a woodpecker outside the bedroom window going to town on the rotting tree...lmao HAHA! there is some justice in the world afterall
  • sgtinvincible
    sgtinvincible Posts: 2,559
    Manda, don't know if you knew this but I am from the Pacific NW myself. (Oregon born and raised with tons of family in Tacoma and Seattle).

    Oh no, not *two* of them!!! :noway:
  • Manda86
    Manda86 Posts: 1,859 Member
    Manda, don't know if you knew this but I am from the Pacific NW myself. (Oregon born and raised with tons of family in Tacoma and Seattle).

    I didn't know that!


    I think the prettiest girls are from WA/OR.. I might be a little biased, though. :laugh:
  • sgtinvincible
    sgtinvincible Posts: 2,559
    Manda, don't know if you knew this but I am from the Pacific NW myself. (Oregon born and raised with tons of family in Tacoma and Seattle).

    I didn't know that!


    I think the prettiest girls are from WA/OR.. I might be a little biased, though. :laugh:

    Well two of them at least. :blushing:
  • beep
    beep Posts: 1,242 Member
    My dad was a pastor, and he moved us down here when we were younger to lead a small church in North Texas... my parents got divorced, and a few years ago my mom moved back to WA State with my brothers and sisters and left us here... I couldn't bring myself to leave my daddy all alone down here.

    Oh, Manda, what a sad story. And what a faith breaker. I hope you haven't suffered too much.
  • Manda86
    Manda86 Posts: 1,859 Member
    Manda, don't know if you knew this but I am from the Pacific NW myself. (Oregon born and raised with tons of family in Tacoma and Seattle).

    I didn't know that!


    I think the prettiest girls are from WA/OR.. I might be a little biased, though. :laugh:

    Well two of them at least. :blushing:

    You are now officially my favorite man (excluding dear old dad)
  • Manda86
    Manda86 Posts: 1,859 Member
    My dad was a pastor, and he moved us down here when we were younger to lead a small church in North Texas... my parents got divorced, and a few years ago my mom moved back to WA State with my brothers and sisters and left us here... I couldn't bring myself to leave my daddy all alone down here.

    Oh, Manda, what a sad story. And what a faith breaker. I hope you haven't suffered too much.

    What does not kill us makes us stronger, right?

    it's been tough, but I wouldn't change a thing- I think there is a purpose behind everything, even if I can't see what it is.. and it's made me a stronger person and it's changed my priorities for the better
  • BlackBeltLJ
    BlackBeltLJ Posts: 190
    Woodpecker are wonderful creatures, aren't they- almost as good as the neighbor who mows at 8am on Sat. or the cat with an empty dish or the dog that wants to go out at 5am or ...:ohwell:
  • beep
    beep Posts: 1,242 Member
    My dad was a pastor, and he moved us down here when we were younger to lead a small church in North Texas... my parents got divorced, and a few years ago my mom moved back to WA State with my brothers and sisters and left us here... I couldn't bring myself to leave my daddy all alone down here.

    Oh, Manda, what a sad story. And what a faith breaker. I hope you haven't suffered too much.

    What does not kill us makes us stronger, right?

    it's been tough, but I wouldn't change a thing- I think there is a purpose behind everything, even if I can't see what it is.. and it's made me a stronger person and it's changed my priorities for the better

    With that tude, Girl, you're gonna be fine. He IS in control, and does work everything for our good, when we trust Him.
  • beep
    beep Posts: 1,242 Member
    Girl,
    You have grown up, and your husband is still lagging behind. It could be finances weighing in on him, the stresses of being a father and not having a care-free life anymore. But drinking binges twice a week are not the answer, and you do need help. I would suggest checking out the Focus on the Family website. Look through all their links, they do have another area of their website for Troubled people. It could be trouble with kids, trouble with spouses. Lots of good advice on there, and even free online counselors.

    Perhaps one of their trained counselors can give you some healthy tips for dealing with that hubby of yours.

    Good advice Beep. :wink:

    Thanks, J
  • laurenk182004
    laurenk182004 Posts: 1,882 Member
    lol blackbelt..yup! I woke bob up because he's supposed to meet his business partner this morning, but he didn't get up and I'm not waking him up again so ha! Someone else can be mad at him too.
  • Rachael2179
    Rachael2179 Posts: 148 Member
    Just feel like it needs to be said....


    Not every guy is like this. I know it might feel like it, but I promise you that there are guys out there that sacrifice every day for their beautiful wives and little ones.

    I fully intend to be one of them.

    Just thought it needed to be said.

    *shrug*

    -J

    I have to say you are right. Me and my fiance have been bestfriends for over 15 years before we started dating. I have to admit my man is completely opposite from the partying with the guys type. I know alot of you posted that everyone needs that time away from their spouse from time to time and I have to admit we don't do that. He doesn't care if I do stuff and I don't care if he does stuff with his friends but we have been in eachothers lifes for so long that we have all the same friends. I think that there comes a point in your life when you grow out of that stage. It also helps when you learn to not just have that person as just your spouse but your best friend. We don't argue much at all and if we do its generally because of stress that other things in life have caused us. We do pretty much everything together whether it's with the kids or out by ourselves. I have alot of friends that go through this where they sit up late at night waiting for their man to come home, upset crying, can't sleep and then when they come home they have a bunch of crazy excuses and are hanging oves and *kitten* the next day.

    My point is srgtinvincible is right NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE THIS.
  • gabi_ele
    gabi_ele Posts: 460 Member
    Ok here is what my smart and beautiful mom did... My dad would go out drinking with the guys all the time, she got fed up. (all the nagging, begging, crying arguing didn't work) so one saturday evening she got a babysitter for me, took a long bubble bath, put on her best underwear:wink: , nice outfit and makeup. waited till my dad went out and then she went out. (she actually went to the same place my dad did, she talked to the owners wife in the kitchen and my dad was out in the restaurant with his buddy's). Then she waited till he left and went home about 15 min. later. She didn't tell him where she went for the longest time... my dad didn't go out again without my mom... they did everything together till he died about 6 years ago. I hope it gives you some inspiration and it might work for you:flowerforyou: I wish you success
  • laurenk182004
    laurenk182004 Posts: 1,882 Member
    aww that's a cute story! :) Well here's the update, I talked to Bob and he is actually sorry this time, he said that this was his last hoorah for awhile (we'll see) I hope so! Anyways..at least he's appologetic this time so I guess that is progress! Thanks again everyone :)
  • beep
    beep Posts: 1,242 Member
    Make sure you have a date night once a week, that may help him towards getting out, just getting out with you. Doesn't have to be expensive, use the money on the sitter; and do something where you have to interact like a coffee house or dinner. If it's a movie, make sure there's time afterwards before you go home to discuss it and enjoy each other's company. Maybe just a walk together through a nice park or window shopping in a mall; talk about goals for the future, for your precious little one, etc. It will make a world of difference.

    Love in a marriage has to be worked for, nurtured, so make time to play.
  • debuckl
    debuckl Posts: 360 Member
    I've been married 9 years (I know lots have more experience than me),but I've noticed our relationship goes in cycles. Every few years we hit a really rough patch. We just made it though one recently. (Six months of crap.) Things are wonderful and starry eyed again.

    Just cherish the good times and work through the bad ones. The good times will be back again right around the corner...:flowerforyou:
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