Why even ask for advice??

TR0berts

WHY CAN'T YOU ALL JUST LET ME BE A VICTIM??

Was that a "yes," or a "no?"

FlowerFairy493

Yes, why do people ask a random bunch of strangers they have never met before advice and then have the gall to not listen to it? I mean, MFP is only filled with random doctors, dieticans and the like all waiting hand and foot on these little snobs. The merit of the advice given to them is worth more than they ever deserve!

Oh wait....

People here, including myself, use MFP as a sounding board because its filled with random people. (I also talk to you guys and licensed professionals.) Usually the advice given includes these wonderful gems:

1. Links to highly read threads- often that you have read.
2. Accusations of you lying.
3. Helpful little phrases like 'calories in, calories out'.
4. Attacks on the OP's characters when the focus is weight loss.

Many threads degenerate in useless stuff anyway.

IMHO, people are here to figure out themselves. We are just tools to help them get there.

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FWI The poster is looking for validation and trying to sound like a victim. That makes her the same as the people you are mocking.

LoneWolfRunner

I rank them right up there with the posters who put skinny pics up and say, "Do I look fat ?"

2dare2dream

Yes, why do people ask a random bunch of strangers they have never met before advice and then have the gall to not listen to it? I mean, MFP is only filled with random doctors, dieticans and the like all waiting hand and foot on these little snobs. The merit of the advice given to them is worth more than they ever deserve!

Oh wait....

People here, including myself, use MFP as a sounding board because its filled with random people. (I also talk to you guys and licensed professionals.) Usually the advice given includes these wonderful gems:

1. Links to highly read threads- often that you have read.
2. Accusations of you lying.
3. Helpful little phrases like 'calories in, calories out'.
4. Attacks on the OP's characters when the focus is weight loss.

Many threads degenerate in useless stuff anyway.

IMHO, people are here to figure out themselves. We are just tools to help them get there.

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FWI The poster is looking for validation and trying to sound like a victim. That makes her the same as the people you are mocking.

smiles*, i could not agree more.

One thing to add to this is that i have noticed a few of the younger ones will reach out with questions and statements that are often what most of us would call common sense, however many of these youngsters have various eating disorders, emotional and or mental health issues. Please be kind, this could be your sibling, your child, your friend, and if you cannot be kind then maybe say nothing at all.

Sabine_Stroehm

Learning happens differently for different folks. And learning happens via repeated exposure.

ETA: and for many folks, the specter of dieting and weight loss causes quite a bit of anxiety.


Just my .02

_HeartsOnFire_

Yes, why do people ask a random bunch of strangers they have never met before advice and then have the gall to not listen to it? I mean, MFP is only filled with random doctors, dieticans and the like all waiting hand and foot on these little snobs. The merit of the advice given to them is worth more than they ever deserve!

Oh wait....

People here, including myself, use MFP as a sounding board because its filled with random people. (I also talk to you guys and licensed professionals.) Usually the advice given includes these wonderful gems:

1. Links to highly read threads- often that you have read.
2. Accusations of you lying.
3. Helpful little phrases like 'calories in, calories out'.
4. Attacks on the OP's characters when the focus is weight loss.

Many threads degenerate in useless stuff anyway.

IMHO, people are here to figure out themselves. We are just tools to help them get there.

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FWI The poster is looking for validation and trying to sound like a victim. That makes her the same as the people you are mocking.

Oh! I remember you. You were the one who wanted advice but said if anyone said CICO you'd stalk them down in real life and murder them.

CICO.


CICO CICO CICO.

michikade

I try to be as kind and gentle as I possibly can, even if it's a repeat, but what crawls under my skin like a festering parasite is when someone dismisses my advice because I'm not a success story yet.

Just because I'm fat doesn't mean I don't know how to get fit correctly, I just haven't gotten there yet. Gimme another 8 months.

FindingAmy77

awesome!!

Wetcoaster

I love the ones asking about "insert any MLM" and if it works.

But then you find out they are selling it.

Classic.

_HeartsOnFire_

kgeyser

If you don't have anything nice to say, why not just scroll on by? We're all here for the same reason. This is supposed to be a supportive place.

Mr_Knight

If you don't have anything nice to say, why not just scroll on by? We're all here for the same reason. This is supposed to be a supportive place.

I don't want a "supportive" place, I want a reality-check place with actual true and useful information.

If I want peppermint-scented unicorn farts, I'll go elsewhere.

_HeartsOnFire_

If you don't have anything nice to say, why not just scroll on by? We're all here for the same reason. This is supposed to be a supportive place.

I don't want a "supportive" place, I want a reality-check place with actual true and useful information.

If I want peppermint-scented unicorn farts, I'll go elsewhere.

bregrig

If you don't have anything nice to say, why not just scroll on by? We're all here for the same reason. This is supposed to be a supportive place.

I don't want a "supportive" place, I want a reality-check place with actual true and useful information.

If I want peppermint-scented unicorn farts, I'll go elsewhere.

peppermint-scented unicorn farts!! :laugh:

and I guess I am talking about a few of my mfp 'friends' who every single day ask the same question (why am I not losing any weight?? i weigh myself 2349078x a day and I gained a pound since last week!) and DOZENS of people comment with great advice/suggestions/motivations/etc and the next day like clockwork the exact same post is made by same person. so what you want different advice/suggestions/motivations? ok *deletes from friends list*

sullus

If you don't have anything nice to say, why not just scroll on by? We're all here for the same reason. This is supposed to be a supportive place.

I don't want a "supportive" place, I want a reality-check place with actual true and useful information.

If I want peppermint-scented unicorn farts, I'll go elsewhere.

peppermint-scented unicorn farts!! :laugh:

and I guess I am talking about a few of my mfp 'friends' who every single day ask the same question (why am I not losing any weight?? i weigh myself 2349078x a day and I gained a pound since last week!) and DOZENS of people comment with great advice/suggestions/motivations/etc and the next day like clockwork the exact same post is made by same person. so what you want different advice/suggestions/motivations? ok *deletes from friends list*

*loosing

mojohowitz

If you don't have anything nice to say, why not just scroll on by? We're all here for the same reason. This is supposed to be a supportive place.

I don't want a "supportive" place, I want a reality-check place with actual true and useful information.

If I want peppermint-scented unicorn farts, I'll go elsewhere.

DYEL?

Sabine_Stroehm

If you don't have anything nice to say, why not just scroll on by? We're all here for the same reason. This is supposed to be a supportive place.

I don't want a "supportive" place, I want a reality-check place with actual true and useful information.

If I want peppermint-scented unicorn farts, I'll go elsewhere.

Are the two mutually exclusive?

SunofaBeach14

If you don't have anything nice to say, why not just scroll on by? We're all here for the same reason. This is supposed to be a supportive place.

I don't want a "supportive" place, I want a reality-check place with actual true and useful information.

If I want peppermint-scented unicorn farts, I'll go elsewhere.

Are the two mutually exclusive?

Certainly not

jkal1979

If you don't have anything nice to say, why not just scroll on by? We're all here for the same reason. This is supposed to be a supportive place.

I would rather have someone tell me the blunt truth instead of coddling me and giving me some bs answer like I'm probably gaining muscle while losing fat. At least that blunt truth comes with a solution, which is a lot more supportive in my opinion.

_Terrapin_

yep