"What do guys think of..." JUST STOP!

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  • SofaKingRad_II
    SofaKingRad_II Posts: 591
    What do you think of my hat?
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    This thread has motivated me to step up my objectification. I already added one smart girl today for having a great butt. But then in turn received a FR for the same reason. I need to be at a net positive for the day.
  • BarbieFromHellx
    BarbieFromHellx Posts: 758 Member
    :heart: this! How boring would our world be if we were all so generic? Love yourself and worry less with what all the "guys" "girls" think is the "best" for you.

    Exactly! :flowerforyou:
    h32CC8E18

    I have to save this picture it's freaking adorable!
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    But how will I know what color my hair should be or what shape my body should be (that I can't control, anyway) or whether I should maybe get some colored contacts if I don't know how men will react???

    I NEED VALIDATION!!!!!
  • SaintGiff
    SaintGiff Posts: 3,679 Member
    I keep seeing these kinds of threads asking "what do guys think of *this*" or "what will girls think of *this*" and so on. It makes me sad how so many of you are so bothered about other peoples opinions of your own body and base your self-esteem, confidence and worth on what the opposite sex thinks of you. Whatever happened to being comfortable in your own skin and getting fit and eating well for you and you only? I totally understand wanting to look attractive but going out of your way to seek everyone's approval isn't healthy.

    It's not just about weight, I get mean and judgemental comments on my music taste, interests, dress sense and tattoos all the time but I simply don't care. I like what I like and look the way I do because I personally like it, and what the majority of people think of me just doesn't affect me.

    In fact I've received mean/snarky messages on this site about my weight and appearance, but these kinds of people are better known as *kitten* and I have come a long way to give a *kitten* about their pathetic lowlife opinions.

    Anyways I'm not expecting people to read this, I'm simply just ranting lol. Sorry if this came across as a bit moan-y but all I'm trying to say is that MFP people should try loving themselves a bit more because you're worth so much more than another person's opinion of you :flowerforyou:

    That's pretty cool the way you crawl right up inside the heads of everyone who posts a similar thread and immediately understand their motivation. And imagine that, their motivation ( seeking validation ) is one that you can look down on. Nifty!

    Or....

    Maybe they start threads like that to be inclusive. Maybe rather than seeking validation they are seeking interaction and starting a thread with "This is what I think.." closes a conversation, whereas "What do you think..." starts one. Nahh, that can't be it. I'm sure it's the validation thing.
  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,783 Member
    Several years ago I adopted the attitutude of "What you see is what you get. If you don't like it, F off!"

    Works for me.
  • BarbieFromHellx
    BarbieFromHellx Posts: 758 Member
    My favorite quote from Go Kaleo:
    Here's a novel concept: YOU get to decide what is healthy, sexy and beautiful when it comes to your own body.

    And the reality is that no matter what you decide, someone will tell you you're wrong.

    But, someone else will think you're perfect. When you do what YOU love, when you live the life YOU want, when you portray the image YOU want to portray, there will be someone (probably a lot of someones, actually) who are looking for those qualities in a friend, or partner.

    Don't live for the people telling you you're wrong. Live for yourself, and the people who love the qualities you possess will be drawn to you.

    https://www.facebook.com/gokaleo/posts/540879002663115

    Love this! And also in the words of the lovely Dita Von Teese: "You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches"
  • Warchortle
    Warchortle Posts: 2,197 Member
    "Chit-Chat, Fun, and Games"
  • DeadliftAddict
    DeadliftAddict Posts: 746 Member
    Bump just to make more people see this and read what she had to say. It is so true. Good for you. Most young people don't think this way. They become older people who don't think this way.
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    I keep seeing these kinds of threads asking "what do guys think of *this*" or "what will girls think of *this*" and so on. It makes me sad how so many of you are so bothered about other peoples opinions of your own body and base your self-esteem, confidence and worth on what the opposite sex thinks of you. Whatever happened to being comfortable in your own skin and getting fit and eating well for you and you only? I totally understand wanting to look attractive but going out of your way to seek everyone's approval isn't healthy.

    It's not just about weight, I get mean and judgemental comments on my music taste, interests, dress sense and tattoos all the time but I simply don't care. I like what I like and look the way I do because I personally like it, and what the majority of people think of me just doesn't affect me.

    In fact I've received mean/snarky messages on this site about my weight and appearance, but these kinds of people are better known as *kitten* and I have come a long way to give a *kitten* about their pathetic lowlife opinions.

    Anyways I'm not expecting people to read this, I'm simply just ranting lol. Sorry if this came across as a bit moan-y but all I'm trying to say is that MFP people should try loving themselves a bit more because you're worth so much more than another person's opinion of you :flowerforyou:

    Agree with all of it.

    The ones that really make me rage are the people who lose 20 and then quit and gain it back because "no one noticed I lost weight".
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  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    But... tell me about my boobs. Please?? PLEASE??

    They're awesome. :flowerforyou:
  • BarbieFromHellx
    BarbieFromHellx Posts: 758 Member
    "Chit-Chat, Fun, and Games"

    All the fun here!
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    "Stop worrying about what other people think."

    Ah yes, the brilliant advice of someone fit/thin/buff/popular/rich/insert whatever other privilege. Cool story bro. Try being a dude that's 100+ pounds overweight. You'll find out pretty riki tik you need to worry what women think because the majority of them just ain't havin' it. Yeah, yeah. Everyone is Mr/Ms independent and runs around changing "I do what I want." BS. More likely you want to do what gets you results.

    I am 100+ overweight and all the ladies want me.
  • jmt08c
    jmt08c Posts: 343 Member
    In fact I've received mean/snarky messages on this site about my weight and appearance, but these kinds of people are better known as *kitten* and I have come a long way to give a *kitten* about their pathetic lowlife opinions.


    I find that hard to believe.

    Usually when I tell a guy I'm not interested I certainly do.

    This is most well known as being butt hurt.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    I think that it's ok whatever gets you motivated.
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    "Stop worrying about what other people think."

    Ah yes, the brilliant advice of someone fit/thin/buff/popular/rich/insert whatever other privilege. Cool story bro. Try being a dude that's 100+ pounds overweight. You'll find out pretty riki tik you need to worry what women think because the majority of them just ain't havin' it. Yeah, yeah. Everyone is Mr/Ms independent and runs around changing "I do what I want." BS. More likely you want to do what gets you results.

    I am 100+ overweight and all the ladies want me.

    True story.
  • Erin_goBrahScience
    Erin_goBrahScience Posts: 1,215 Member
    :heart: this! How boring would our world be if we were all so generic? Love yourself and worry less with what all the "guys" "girls" think is the "best" for you.

    Exactly! :flowerforyou:
    h32CC8E18

    I have to save this picture it's freaking adorable!

    It is a pretty cute little otter. I'm in a cutesy kind of mood today.
  • Joannah700
    Joannah700 Posts: 2,665 Member
    So what you're saying is we should all love ourselves?

    Does anyone else sense a dangerous element for gifs here?
  • valkaree
    valkaree Posts: 519
    I keep seeing these kinds of threads asking "what do guys think of *this*" or "what will girls think of *this*" and so on. It makes me sad how so many of you are so bothered about other peoples opinions of your own body and base your self-esteem, confidence and worth on what the opposite sex thinks of you. Whatever happened to being comfortable in your own skin and getting fit and eating well for you and you only? I totally understand wanting to look attractive but going out of your way to seek everyone's approval isn't healthy.

    It's not just about weight, I get mean and judgemental comments on my music taste, interests, dress sense and tattoos all the time but I simply don't care. I like what I like and look the way I do because I personally like it, and what the majority of people think of me just doesn't affect me.

    In fact I've received mean/snarky messages on this site about my weight and appearance, but these kinds of people are better known as *kitten* and I have come a long way to give a *kitten* about their pathetic lowlife opinions.

    Anyways I'm not expecting people to read this, I'm simply just ranting lol. Sorry if this came across as a bit moan-y but all I'm trying to say is that MFP people should try loving themselves a bit more because you're worth so much more than another person's opinion of you :flowerforyou:

    ok, I am getting mixed signals here. Soooooo do you want our opinion ooooorrrrrrrrrrr no?
  • BarbieFromHellx
    BarbieFromHellx Posts: 758 Member
    So what you're saying is we should all love ourselves?

    Does anyone else sense a dangerous element for gifs here?

    Bring on the gifs.
  • BarbieFromHellx
    BarbieFromHellx Posts: 758 Member
    I keep seeing these kinds of threads asking "what do guys think of *this*" or "what will girls think of *this*" and so on. It makes me sad how so many of you are so bothered about other peoples opinions of your own body and base your self-esteem, confidence and worth on what the opposite sex thinks of you. Whatever happened to being comfortable in your own skin and getting fit and eating well for you and you only? I totally understand wanting to look attractive but going out of your way to seek everyone's approval isn't healthy.

    It's not just about weight, I get mean and judgemental comments on my music taste, interests, dress sense and tattoos all the time but I simply don't care. I like what I like and look the way I do because I personally like it, and what the majority of people think of me just doesn't affect me.

    In fact I've received mean/snarky messages on this site about my weight and appearance, but these kinds of people are better known as *kitten* and I have come a long way to give a *kitten* about their pathetic lowlife opinions.

    Anyways I'm not expecting people to read this, I'm simply just ranting lol. Sorry if this came across as a bit moan-y but all I'm trying to say is that MFP people should try loving themselves a bit more because you're worth so much more than another person's opinion of you :flowerforyou:

    ok, I am getting mixed signals here. Soooooo do you want our opinion ooooorrrrrrrrrrr no?

    Yeah I wanna know if you guys think I'm cute plz???!!!!?
  • No_Finish_Line
    No_Finish_Line Posts: 3,661 Member
    Agreed.

    While it's a bit beside the point...even if someone IS genuinely looking for opinions, it's a bit pointless as what is totally unacceptable to one guy or girl could be very appealing to another guy/girl.

    opinions are pretty much all your going to get out of any forum
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
    Sorry if this came across as a bit moan-y but all I'm trying to say is that MFP people should try loving themselves a bit more because you're worth so much more than another person's opinion of you :flowerforyou:
    I love myself all the time. In fact, I'm doing it right now.

    ^ You win!
  • No_Finish_Line
    No_Finish_Line Posts: 3,661 Member
    OP, your definetly doing it for me in that red baithing suit... in case that helps
  • Erin_goBrahScience
    Erin_goBrahScience Posts: 1,215 Member
    This thread has motivated me to step up my objectification. I already added one smart girl today for having a great butt. But then in turn received a FR for the same reason. I need to be at a net positive for the day.

    Stop preening. We know you're young and beautiful.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    This thread has motivated me to step up my objectification. I already added one smart girl today for having a great butt. But then in turn received a FR for the same reason. I need to be at a net positive for the day.

    Stop preening. We know you're young and beautiful.

    Stop using words I do not understand.
  • dpwellman
    dpwellman Posts: 3,271 Member
    9+ Dance Spank, Stay,
  • SaintGiff
    SaintGiff Posts: 3,679 Member
    So, just to be clear, you created a straw man ( those who start threads you don't like ), and then you created a thread wherein you seek validation by bashing validation seekers and supporting the most predictably, universally supported concept on this site ( that we need to love ourselves rather than seeking outside validation ). I'm confused. Did you honestly expect people to defend validation seeking? Or is it really that much safer preaching to the choir?
  • BarbieFromHellx
    BarbieFromHellx Posts: 758 Member
    So, just to be clear, you created a straw man ( those who start threads you don't like ), and then you created a thread wherein you seek validation by bashing the most predictably, universally supported concept on this site ( that we need to love ourselves rather than seeking outside validation ). I'm confused. Did you honestly expect people to defend validation seeking? Or is it really that much safer preaching to the choir?

    I know you clearly have something against me making this thread, but the purpose of this thread was to address an issue that seems to be pretty common in society - conforming, trying to seek everyone's approval, and not focusing on your OWN self perceptions.

    I don't feel like I need approval or any kind of validation because I'm pretty passionate about my views and secure in my own skin but thanks for the concern pal :)

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