Relationships

scasey1656

They really suck sometimes. I just needed to get that out. Thank you for reading.

TheRoadDog

For the most part, you get out of it, what you put into it.

WhatAnAss

BigT555

For the most part, you get out of it, what you put into it.

i agree with this. the only thing that really sucked about my last relationship was that we werent able to see each other often enough, which eventually led to our breakup. but when we were together all was great because we both invested a ton in each other

scasey1656

For the most part, you get out of it, what you put into it.

For the most part, I agree. I have been guilty in past relationships, of not putting in a good amount of effort. In my current situation though, I feel I was betrayed for seemingly no good reason. It hurts that's all.

scasey1656

I do love me some pizza. Unfortunately my appetite is not there right now.

I_need_moar_musclez

I do love me some pizza. Unfortunately my appetite is not there right now.

Bacon. Bacon solves all.

ew_david

They really suck sometimes. I just needed to get that out. Thank you for reading.

They take work. Anyone who doesn't think they need to work hard at a relationship is better off single.

sweetcurlz67

WhatAnAss

I do love me some pizza. Unfortunately my appetite is not there right now.

Bacon. Bacon solves all.

I like Bacon pizza!

PTGal2014

They take work. Anyone who doesn't think they need to work hard at a relationship is better off single.

This. The idea that it 'should just be easy' is nonsense.

zyxst

_BearNecessities_

They really suck sometimes. I just needed to get that out. Thank you for reading.

It's because you're in kansas. kansas ruins everything.

scasey1656

They really suck sometimes. I just needed to get that out. Thank you for reading.

They take work. Anyone who doesn't think they need to work hard at a relationship is better off single.

I agree 100%. No relationship is/ever will be perfect. My problem is knowing when to work at it and when to call it quits. I was in a very long relationship that ended about a year ago and I waited waaaay too long to end it. For about the last 3 years we were more like roommates than anything. Now, being in a relationship that is still young, I don't how much work to put in because it's so new and there has already been a betrayal of trust. Any thoughts?

ew_david

They really suck sometimes. I just needed to get that out. Thank you for reading.

They take work. Anyone who doesn't think they need to work hard at a relationship is better off single.

I agree 100%. No relationship is/ever will be perfect. My problem is knowing when to work at it and when to call it quits. I was in a very long relationship that ended about a year ago and I waited waaaay too long to end it. For about the last 3 years we were more like roommates than anything. Now, being in a relationship that is still young, I don't how much work to put in because it's so new and there has already been a betrayal of trust. Any thoughts?

I can't speak for you, but betrayals of trust are a deal breaker for me, ESPECIALLY if it's a new relationship.

BusyRaeNOTBusty

Mmmmm.

scasey1656

They really suck sometimes. I just needed to get that out. Thank you for reading.

They take work. Anyone who doesn't think they need to work hard at a relationship is better off single.

I agree 100%. No relationship is/ever will be perfect. My problem is knowing when to work at it and when to call it quits. I was in a very long relationship that ended about a year ago and I waited waaaay too long to end it. For about the last 3 years we were more like roommates than anything. Now, being in a relationship that is still young, I don't how much work to put in because it's so new and there has already been a betrayal of trust. Any thoughts?

I can't speak for you, but betrayals of trust are a deal breaker for me, ESPECIALLY if it's a new relationship.

That was my thought as well. It's just hard. The Beatles were so, so wrong. Love is not all you need.

hbrittingham

They really suck sometimes. I just needed to get that out. Thank you for reading.

They take work. Anyone who doesn't think they need to work hard at a relationship is better off single.

I agree 100%. No relationship is/ever will be perfect. My problem is knowing when to work at it and when to call it quits. I was in a very long relationship that ended about a year ago and I waited waaaay too long to end it. For about the last 3 years we were more like roommates than anything. Now, being in a relationship that is still young, I don't how much work to put in because it's so new and there has already been a betrayal of trust. Any thoughts?

I guess to me it depends on what that betrayal of trust was. There were things I was sure that were deal breakers when I got into a relationship with my husband (cheating is one of them and still is one of them), that ended up not being deal breakers after all. We've had a lot of ups and down and I have been hurt a lot, not intentionally by him, but his actions were hurtful to me while he didn't think they were all that big of a deal. Now that we communicate much better after marital counseling, he would never do the things he did to hurt me in the past, that I am am positive of. So to me, it depends on how much you want this relationship to work. And how much your SO wants this to work.

scasey1656

They really suck sometimes. I just needed to get that out. Thank you for reading.

It's because you're in kansas. kansas ruins everything.

Haha, apparently so. I can honestly say I've never had a successful relationship in this state.

TheRoadDog

For the most part, you get out of it, what you put into it.

For the most part, I agree. I have been guilty in past relationships, of not putting in a good amount of effort. In my current situation though, I feel I was betrayed for seemingly no good reason. It hurts that's all.

It happens. Don't give up. Took me 35 years to find my perfect match. It was worth the wait.

scasey1656

They really suck sometimes. I just needed to get that out. Thank you for reading.

They take work. Anyone who doesn't think they need to work hard at a relationship is better off single.

I agree 100%. No relationship is/ever will be perfect. My problem is knowing when to work at it and when to call it quits. I was in a very long relationship that ended about a year ago and I waited waaaay too long to end it. For about the last 3 years we were more like roommates than anything. Now, being in a relationship that is still young, I don't how much work to put in because it's so new and there has already been a betrayal of trust. Any thoughts?

I guess to me it depends on what that betrayal of trust was. There were things I was sure that were deal breakers when I got into a relationship with my husband (cheating is one of them and still is one of them), that ended up not being deal breakers after all. We've had a lot of ups and down and I have been hurt a lot, not intentionally by him, but his actions were hurtful to me while he didn't think they were all that big of a deal. Now that we communicate much better after marital counseling, he would never do the things he did to hurt me in the past, that I am am positive of. So to me, it depends on how much you want this relationship to work. And how much your SO wants this to work.

I sent you a message privately. Thank you for your advice, I really appreciate it.

scasey1656

For the most part, you get out of it, what you put into it.

For the most part, I agree. I have been guilty in past relationships, of not putting in a good amount of effort. In my current situation though, I feel I was betrayed for seemingly no good reason. It hurts that's all.

It happens. Don't give up. Took me 35 years to find my perfect match. It was worth the wait.

I'm glad you found the one. That's a hard thing to do. Thank you for giving me hope the right person is out there.

BusyRaeNOTBusty

I think 20+ year relationships should have a different list of "deal-breakers" than relationships that are just a few months old.

bugaboo_sue

I think 20+ year relationships should have a different list of "deal-breakers" than relationships that are just a few months old.

Like what?

If there has already been a betrayal of trust should she still put the time and effort into the relationship just because it's new and if she does how long should she stay? How much more time should she commit before she sees that things might not change?

JeriAnne84

They really suck sometimes. I just needed to get that out. Thank you for reading.

It's because you're in kansas. kansas ruins everything.

Haha, apparently so. I can honestly say I've never had a successful relationship in this state.

I live in Kansas and yes this is a crap hole. BUT! I've found the one here. Which is freaking amazing because Topeka is the crustiest town on the planet and everyone sleeps with everyone else. But I found one that doesn't, thankfully. Helped that his ex was a turbo slut and mine a he-ho so we know how much it hurts and won't do it to each other.

But Kansas is the @$$hole of the USA.

jwats8

I do love me some pizza. Unfortunately my appetite is not there right now.

Bacon. Bacon solves all.

Actually, this picture of you in your undies could probably solve quite a bit. Thank you.

scasey1656

I really do appreciate everyone's advice. It means a lot. I have hope that the right person is out there. Just have to find them. I know it will take work but the right person is worth it.

SwashBlogger

I think 20+ year relationships should have a different list of "deal-breakers" than relationships that are just a few months old.

Like what?

If there has already been a betrayal of trust should she still put the time and effort into the relationship just because it's new and if she does how long should she stay? How much more time should she commit before she sees that things might not change?

I feel sure she meant just the opposite. Most people would consider forgiving a spouse of 20 years for things they would kick a new guy/gal to the curb for.

BusyRaeNOTBusty

I think 20+ year relationships should have a different list of "deal-breakers" than relationships that are just a few months old.

Like what?

If there has already been a betrayal of trust should she still put the time and effort into the relationship just because it's new and if she does how long should she stay? How much more time should she commit before she sees that things might not change?

I feel sure she meant just the opposite. Most people would consider forgiving a spouse of 20 years for things they would kick a new guy/gal to the curb for.

Exactly. If my husband/ father of my 3 children started sending inappropriate messages to someone online (for example), with adequate remorse, discussion, and possibly even counseling, I could probably forgive. Boyfriend of 6 months that did the same? Nope.

sunglasses_and_ocean_waves

I'm thinking that casual sex is the way to go :drinker:

I_need_moar_musclez

I'm thinking that casual sex is the way to go :drinker:

If only haha