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  • SheGlows
    SheGlows Posts: 520 Member
    You should look into Frank Yang's "Disregard Females Acquire Aesthetics"

    A good message for all genders and sexual preferences, really.
  • Missjulesdid
    Missjulesdid Posts: 1,444 Member
    :( They really suck sometimes. I just needed to get that out. Thank you for reading.

    They take work. Anyone who doesn't think they need to work hard at a relationship is better off single.

    I agree 100%. No relationship is/ever will be perfect. My problem is knowing when to work at it and when to call it quits. I was in a very long relationship that ended about a year ago and I waited waaaay too long to end it. For about the last 3 years we were more like roommates than anything. Now, being in a relationship that is still young, I don't how much work to put in because it's so new and there has already been a betrayal of trust. Any thoughts?

    I believe in giving you ALL to a relationship no matter what. If the other person is only capable of giving 15% for a time then I'm going to do my best to pick up the slack. I stayed in my last relationship for FAR too long because of this. I gave EVERYTHING and received NOTHING. He betrayed my trust, he shook my confidence...I kept telling myself that relationships are not all hearts and flowers and unicorns and rainbows and that they take hard work... What I failed to realize was that I was the only one working hard in the relationship! I was emotionally drained. Even still, it was HARD to leave, but I knew I had to because I had nothing left in my emotional reservoir to give to the relationship.

    I have since met and married an AWESOME man. Our relationship still takes hard work but it's AMAZING how much easier it is when both parties are working at it.. Yes there are days when I'm working harder.. but there are also days when he's carrying me. I refuse to allow my previous relationship to affect my relationship with my husband because my husband deserves my 100% effort. The difference in the way I feel in each of these relationships is the difference between night and day! If YOU are not feeling like it's very much different than your last relationship and there has already been a betrayal of trust then are you SURE you want to go down this same rocky road again?
  • arainiday1
    arainiday1 Posts: 1,763 Member
    :( They really suck sometimes. I just needed to get that out. Thank you for reading.

    Sometimes they really DO suck. I am right there with you. and yes some of us really do put up with more crap in longer relationships. We shouldn't. We should re-evaulate our breaking points. And stick to them. I am mostly talking to myself. I have put up with WAY too many deal breakers. Anyway, I'm sorry. :heart:
  • Muchaneta1305
    Muchaneta1305 Posts: 21
    I really do appreciate everyone's advice. It means a lot. I have hope that the right person is out there. Just have to find them. I know it will take work but the right person is worth it.

    I get worried about that word 'right' person. I was in a marriage for 13 years with a guy who seemed to be a really wonderful person and I thought he was the 'right' person only to find out he had been cheating for the greater part of our marriage!!! So it turns out right was really wrong after all....
  • heidispideymfp
    heidispideymfp Posts: 179 Member
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    I do love me some pizza. Unfortunately my appetite is not there right now. :/

    Bacon. Bacon solves all.

    Ice cream

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