Would you date someone that has no job

idontcarroll

Of course. I'm married to one and my career affords us that luxury.

I'm surprised though no one has compared this question to the ones of "would you date someone overweight" and how the answers to these two questions break down along gender lines.

Being unemployed and overweight are different things.The answers would however be the same as some of us woudnt date someone who is overweight or obese.So the question would still get different answers

This response reminds me that I should have added the discussion of how men and women may put difference emphasis on the importance of intelligence in mate.

bkthandler

For me, yes it's a deal breaker. I have enough people to take care of.

Even if you're loaded and have money coming outta your ears, do SOMETHING.

This+++++

DBoone85

IDK.....a few questions:

1. Are they hot?

2. Do they smell funny?

3. Can they make a great sammich?

4. Will they share their bacon?

5. Is their name Brett?

If the answers are yes, no, yes, yes, no......I'm in.

bkthandler

Of course. I'm married to one and my career affords us that luxury.

I'm surprised though no one has compared this question to the ones of "would you date someone overweight" and how the answers to these two questions break down along gender lines.

Is your spouse unemployed or a "homemaker"? Huge difference regardless of gender, especially if there are children involved.

Kaelakcr

Of course. I'm married to one and my career affords us that luxury.

I'm surprised though no one has compared this question to the ones of "would you date someone overweight" and how the answers to these two questions break down along gender lines.

Being unemployed and overweight are different things.The answers would however be the same as some of us woudnt date someone who is overweight or obese.So the question would still get different answers

This response reminds me that I should have added the discussion of how men and women may put difference emphasis on the importance of intelligence in mate.

I would never date a man who didn't value intelligence in his partner. I find that honestly gross.

TheRoadDog

If they just got laid off or their job was "downsized", I wouldn't consider it a factor. If that person had a history of unemployment, I might consider it.

However, most of these determining factors don't come out until you've dated for a while.

Truth is, though, I've never dated a gal that was unemployed. I want, and found, a person that doesn't need me. She chose me. It's not a matter of picking someone out of financial need.

Return_of_the_Big_Mac

Having a job doesn't matter to me because I make enough money. However, I could never date someone who didn't have ambition or goals that mattered.

jasonmh630

Never. A man out of work for any reason is almost always depressed. If he is "independently wealthy" and feels no need to work, he lacks purpose or passion.

This is BS... It's all context relevant. Being lazy and not seeking employment or being laid off due to circumstances out of my control are two VERY different scenarios. I work on the office side of construction, so being awarded a constant flow of work is not always the case. We have slow times where we have to lay off jobsite staff. It's not their fault and they understand that. They are almost NEVER depressed. They know that there's a good chance they'll get called back to work once things pick back up. It's almost never as black and white as you make it out to be.

jasonmh630

Of course. I'm married to one and my career affords us that luxury.

I'm surprised though no one has compared this question to the ones of "would you date someone overweight" and how the answers to these two questions break down along gender lines.

Being unemployed and overweight are different things.The answers would however be the same as some of us woudnt date someone who is overweight or obese.So the question would still get different answers

This response reminds me that I should have added the discussion of how men and women may put difference emphasis on the importance of intelligence in mate.

I would never date a man who didn't value intelligence in his partner. I find that honestly gross.

This.

sw33tp3a11

I have. He was unemployed for about 2 months but he never gave up looking for a job. He had the motivation to work. Otherwise I would have never dated him.

Cryptonomnomicon

IDK.....a few questions:

1. Are they hot?

2. Do they smell funny?

3. Can they make a great sammich?

4. Will they share their bacon?

5. Is their name Brett?

If the answers are yes, no, yes, yes, no......I'm in.

Jennisin1

No.

I have dated independently wealthy. That gets old fast. Getting up and going to bed while they lounge around all day, go to the gym, fiddle faddle, then are ready to go and do when you are ready to go to the gym, eat dinner and maybe relax a little before having to get to bed to get up at 6 to do it again. I started to feel resentful.

I have dating the later in life student... yeah, I am just not really at the place in life were I want to wait and see on "potential". I want steady and stable. Just not my thing.

mave34

Depends on the situation, because lets face it, there are people with jobs who still don't seem to have any money......it would be based on the individual and the current situation and their history. I am a very independent type and raised my two kids on my own with little to no help from their father so I would take all things into consideration considering I can take care of my own. They just wouldn't be moving into my house LOL

Elsie_Brownraisin

Unless they're independently wealthy, yes. HUGE dealbreaker.

ETA that I've dated people who were unemployed before. It may seem antiquated, but in my experience it really does something bad to a man who has to depend on a woman for money.

My husband is a stay at home Dad and I go to work.

His testicles shrivelled up and fell off after the 3 months, so yeah, it does pretty bad stuff to a man.

bennettinfinity

Of course. I'm married to one and my career affords us that luxury.

I'm surprised though no one has compared this question to the ones of "would you date someone overweight" and how the answers to these two questions break down along gender lines.

^^^^ This! My wife is unemployed and we go on dates all the time :-). She and I worked extremely hard to get at the point we are now. She no longer works and my income allows us to be very comfortable. It allows us to be able to concentrate in having quality time together. Unlike Sunofabeach, we no longer have little ones at home. We do have a grandson and my wife just returned from a weeks vacation visiting him. There is very little stress in our life. So would I date someone who is unemployed? HECK YES!

But would you tell your wife?

yopeeps025

it all depends on why they're unemployed

This. What are they doing instead of being employed. Student?

cosmiqrust

it was fine when i was in college, but i wouldn't do it now. and that's not coming without understanding, either. i spent the last three years unemployed and searching every day (thanks, california!), but i've found that dating is much more exciting when one or more of you can afford a car.

BeingHealthyMe

As long as he works hard to get a job again...no prob!:happy:

IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym

total dealbreaker, UNLESS he can somehow manage to pay his own bills, because I am not paying them for some guy I start to date.