School Dress Codes

NH_1970

Schools need dress codes, because attention seekers take things overboard.

As for sexist - that is a stupid argument. Case in point, swim class when I was in high school. I wore a "sport" bikini - huge bottoms, top that looks like a sport bra. I was pulled to the side - no bikinis. Meanwhile another girl was allowed to wear a tiny bikini. I protested, he explained: she has nothing to show, while the boys are staring at my chest. I thought it was bull. Until as an adult, I see the difference when a volumptuous woman wears revealing clothes. Skinny girl: cute, big busted girl: smokin hot. Boys don't have boobs and camel toes, and most are not trying to get away with wearing speedos down the hall (male equivalent of a tube top). Hence no sexism, just reality. I do think boys need to make sure their pants are pulled up so no underwear shows, and if wearing skinny jeans, the jewels shouldn't be visible.

I like uniforms for school kids - takes pressure off of people.

The man who said "she has nothing to show" sexualized that teen through comparison to you another teen with a bigger bust. He shouldn't have done that or said that to you. He should have talked to the boys who were staring at your chest and been a male role model and told them to stop, to ask them how do you think that makes her feel? He could have said that he felt uncomfortable by seeing them do that to you, He could have taken a different stance. That could have been reality too, a healthy reality where women aren't made to hide their bodies to control the onslaught of male attention directed at their bodies.

shanyna01

I had this dress code growing up in the 90's and in this day and age I dont think it is appropriate anymore. My daughter is in middle school and her regualtions state that the kids cant wear anything too saggy or too tight. She was pulled on stage by the principle with 3 other girls and embaressed in front of the student body because the principle felt her pants were too tight. I as the parent is the one that bought the pants. To me those pants are just fine since they are loose on the legs and hip area and being that they are skinny pants they will show the leg. She was told that she couldnt wear them because they were jeggings. One they arent jeggings and two the regualtions do not say that leggings, tights, or jeggings are not allowed. I went to the store and it seems that all that is offered more are the skinny legged jeans, and yogo type pants. Short skirts and shorts. I have to search for a normal t-shirt because all the shirts are cropped to wear you have to wear a tanktop under it and my daughter isnt allowed to wear those type shirts. At some point they are going to have to change what the dress is, its not the 90's anymore where you can buy mom jeans, in this day and age your lucky to find any clothes in the girls section that is now compatible with the dress code.

I understand that the school has a say in how things are run, but if the parents are letting their kids dress a certian way then you need to let the parents do their job and let the teachers focus on teaching. I refuse to make my children feel like they cant express themselves because the opposite sex is "distracted". Its a lame excuse for people to use, so they dont have to learn self control and self discipline.

fitfreakymom

I have also taught my daughter that if someone is going to judge you purely based on your looks then they are not worth your time. I also teach her not to judge others she has friends that from both sides of the tracks. It is her decision on who she socializes with. My daughter also understands that as an adult/working teen that there will be dress codes for some jobs, I think that as long as kids are in school they should be aloud to have a bit of freedom with their clothes as long as the clothes cover and pose no risk of exposing private parts.
Hell when I was in school we wore shorts that were almost like underwear and wore mini skirts lol.

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DawnieB1977

Schools in England have uniforms. Even my 5 year old son has to wear a shirt and tie. It makes life much easier as at least they're all dressed the same, pretty much.

I work in a secondary school and we do have kids who will try it on a bit....trainers instead of shoes, short skirts, tight trousers, no blazer etc. My school isn't as strict as it could be, but it's on a deprived area. The Catholic school where I did my training is a lot stricter...girls can't wear trousers, no make-up is allowed and girls have to have their hair tied up.

We have occasional non-uniform days for Children in Need and things like that, and there's always a change in behaviour when kids are dressed more casually, although I suppose it's only a one off.

There should be dress codes though, but as long as kids are smart then I think it's ok. I would imagine if you live somewhere hot then you'd understandably wear a little less.

sloth3toes

This X 100.
And I also support the mom who thwarts her son's relationships with girls who are tacky on social media. I have two daughters, and hope they aspire to run with their own class. They will and should be judged by the effort they put forth to be appropriate. To say it is sexist is silly. Young men are not prone to "sexy" poses because of social convention. But, if they look unkempt, follow strange trends or smell funny...they are suspect.

Did I seriously just read, "run with their own class?"

Ya, I think you did.

randomtai

Doesn't almost every aspect of life have a "dress code"? I mean, no shirts, no shoes, no service? I don't understand how a dress code is a bad thing. God forbid kids these days have to follow rules! Are these girls going to whine and complain about their boss and company when they have a job with a dress code? Or call the media outlets when they get written up for breaking it? I think dressing appropriately for the situation is a "life skill" that these kids need. And seriously, the same dress code existed at my high school over 10 years ago with no real problems.

This X 100.
And I also support the mom who thwarts her son's relationships with girls who are tacky on social media. I have two daughters, and hope they aspire to run with their own class. They will and should be judged by the effort they put forth to be appropriate. To say it is sexist is silly. Young men are not prone to "sexy" poses because of social convention. But, if they look unkempt, follow strange trends or smell funny...they are suspect.

Elitist much? WTF Class??? :noway: :noway: :noway: :noway: :noway:

Amanda_Gx6

I wouldn't have anything to say about this dress code if they hadn't said " anything that causes a distraction to the learning and teaching process". This implies that they are basically blaming the girls for the male students AND faculty not being able to properly function because they are too busy eye banging the girls. Its sexist and one sided and I can understand why the girls are POed.

ETA: Also I agree with the girl in the article that said "when the principle buys my clothes he can tell me what to wear. If my mother allows me out of the house with what I'm wearing it should be good enough"

Michelle_Padgett13

This is one reason I love homeschooling. Right now my kid is in his underpants while studying US Presidents. Later on, he'll probably dress like a ninja turtle and we'll go to the library for an art program and some time playing with his friends.

On another note, about being "distracted" in school. The hormones of puberty had me so hard in their evil grip that it really didn't matter what boys wore. I fantasized about their jeans-clad butts. I looked at the curve of their necks and imagined licking that. The sight of a boy's bicep emerging from a t-shirt sleeve made me crazy. And you don't even want to know where my mind went watching their hands and fingers... (dang, it's getting hot in my house for some reason)

As for the school dress code thing, I do like the idea of school uniforms. But maybe that's because I'm fashionably impaired and dressing for school always caused me such anxiety.

commandoshy

Really if there's no quantifiable and demonstrably detrimental effect of wearing certain types of clothes there's no valid rationale for creating rules against those clothes. Otherwise it's just rhetoric. Have there been any studies which indicate that certain outfits have a negative causal impact on general school performance?

headofphat

I think dress codes that keep girls or guys from wearing revealing clothing are appropriate in a school setting. Call me old school but there are already plenty of distractions going on in school, the kids don't need more. Now, if you're asking what is the line between appropriate and not appropriate then I'll have to refer to Justice Scalia of the Supreme Court who said, I don't know how to define pornography but I know it when I see it. That about sums it up.

Scalia didn't say that. That was another judge 50 some years ago.

The People v. Larry Flynt. I'm pretty sure it was Scalia

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