Motivated...but not.

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  • AglaeaC
    AglaeaC Posts: 1,974 Member
    I don't know about you, but I get overwhelmed when I don't break stuff down properly. By that I mean identify exactly every factor of your personal equation to a lifestyle change, define them and notice what the sequential steps of each are. Then start plugging away on one at a time, possibly in parallel. In most cases it is very simple; to lose 10 kg/lbs you need to start with the first one. How do you lose the first one? What do you need to learn? Change? Keep doing as you are doing? Read up to fix what you don't know yet, change what you need to do differently (plug all the holes of your leaking boat). By sequential I of course mean that if you need to start at step 1, you really need to get it done before you can move on to step 2. So in reality there is only a single step you can take. Take that step. Then move on. Don't make it more complicated that it needs to be. Dedication, commitment, focus, clarity, honesty, and reasonable expectations will help you along the way.
  • Danielle_Style
    Danielle_Style Posts: 90 Member
    Wow! I just got to reading this thread after a nice night out (we saw the Lion King). I'm very moved by the outpouring of good advice and support. I suppose I agree with the person who said that people on a forum are not what is going to change me...but it's nice to see that there are folks out there who have been there.

    I also appreciate those who suggested that approaching my relationship with food with self-love rather than punishment is a good way to avoid backsliding.

    I will be reading your suggestions more carefully throughout the day and replying accordingly.

    As much as I dislike Mondays as the start of a new work week, they always feel like a fresh shot. I suppose every day should feel that way. In fact, every meal and opportunity to exercise should feel that way because this is not an all or nothing deal.

    I have so much going on over the next two weeks with big travel plans two weekends in a row. But if I take it one meal at a time, I know that I don't have to let stress or travel deter me.

    You all have been quite supportive. Thank you.
  • Danielle_Style
    Danielle_Style Posts: 90 Member
    I also appreciate the comments by a few of you about how calorie counting doesn't have to be tedious or obsessive with meticulous planning.

    It's not the counting itself that bothers me. I actually kind of like it - it becomes almost a mini-hobby (that's weird, I know). The bigger thing I dislike is that when I'm truly in the throes of weight loss, it's all I can seem to talk about, and I annoy everybody who crosses my path.

    I guess it seems like it's important to find that balance of making a healthy lifestyle important, but maintaining your focus on the things that matter most, like enjoying your favorite TV programs or going for a nice walk with a loved one, or what you will be teaching your freshmen tomorrow.

    I don't resent the restriction or the counting per se. I resent the way it takes over my mind. But I have control of my mind, and I guess I believe that I can say to myself: "Hey, Danielle! Stop obsessing! Just pick something to eat you can live with and move on!" Maybe I'll make myself a little card that says just that and put it in my wallet :tongue:

    Anyway, I know I will reread this thread more than once because several of you made excellent points!

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