Broke off my engagement

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  • TasteofEnvy
    TasteofEnvy Posts: 123 Member
    That really sucks. I'm sorry things turned out this way but you did what was best for you. I hope things remain peaceful between you guys for your kid.... and if they don't I hope you have the strength to work through it.... my parents were divorced since I was little and always fighting .... made me feel like ****.
  • Jennifer10723
    Jennifer10723 Posts: 374 Member
    When you have been in a bad situation before you learn to spot the "things" .. lol. Good for you for being strong enough to acknowledge. I second the congratusorry!
  • SonicDeathMonkey80
    SonicDeathMonkey80 Posts: 4,489 Member
    I hear some animal shelters give you a discount on sibling cats from a litter!
  • Momf3boys
    Momf3boys Posts: 1,637 Member
    Thanks but I have enough cats...and kids :tongue:
    I hear some animal shelters give you a discount on sibling cats from a litter!
  • socalkay
    socalkay Posts: 746 Member
    I would much rather be alone and happy than with someone and unhappy.

    Having been through a bad marriage and divorce as well (and single for 15 years since then), I would even venture to say that it's better to be alone and unhappy than with someone and unhappy. That is, I can change my own unhappiness. I couldn't change him.

    Take good care of yourself.
  • sixout
    sixout Posts: 3,128 Member
    So you're lookin, huh?
  • mustlovecakes
    mustlovecakes Posts: 89
    Well...I did it...been engaged almost 3 years...couldn't take it anymore...back to the drawing board for me...staying single forever!

    Congrats to you my dear! I only wish I could have been as smart as you. :flowerforyou:

    One door closes and another one opens
  • Alisontheice
    Alisontheice Posts: 9,611 Member
    Congrats on being brave.
    I should have done that with my first engagement, would have saved me getting divorced 3 years later.
  • Momf3boys
    Momf3boys Posts: 1,637 Member
    Thanks guys...the drama is off the hook right now...why can't people just act like adults? Uggghhhh....

    And no...I'm certainly not looking! :happy:
  • JojoW8183
    JojoW8183 Posts: 540 Member
    He wanted to get married right away but I didn't. I didn't feel right about it from the beginning and in the past 3 years it just confirmed my thoughts.

    I've always said, if someone asks you to marry them and you don't feel comfortable getting married at that very moment, then it's not right for you.It's a shame you waited 3 years to confirm what you already knew, but good for you for making the decision to not go through with the marriage.
  • SueInAz
    SueInAz Posts: 6,592 Member
    He wanted to get married right away but I didn't. I didn't feel right about it from the beginning and in the past 3 years it just confirmed my thoughts.

    I've always said, if someone asks you to marry them and you don't feel comfortable getting married at that very moment, then it's not right for you.It's a shame you waited 3 years to confirm what you already knew, but good for you for making the decision to not go through with the marriage.
    I actually read something recently that has been changing my mindset about a lot of things. If your answer to something, or someone, isn't an immediate "Hell, yes!" then get the hell out.
  • JojoW8183
    JojoW8183 Posts: 540 Member
    He wanted to get married right away but I didn't. I didn't feel right about it from the beginning and in the past 3 years it just confirmed my thoughts.

    I've always said, if someone asks you to marry them and you don't feel comfortable getting married at that very moment, then it's not right for you.It's a shame you waited 3 years to confirm what you already knew, but good for you for making the decision to not go through with the marriage.
    I actually read something recently that has been changing my mindset about a lot of things. If your answer to something, or someone, isn't an immediate "Hell, yes!" then get the hell out.

    The problem most people face is that they don't trust their instincts. Our instincts have kept us alive throughout the millenia. They're there for a reason. My first marriage I was apprehensive from day one...it lasted a terrible 6 yrs.

    This time around...my husband and I had only physically dated for two months before we got married. We were friends prior to dating. When he asked I said yes and we married 1 week later. It would've been sooner but you have to wait at least 3 days in MD. We remarried a year later with our close family on the beach.

    Our instincts never let us down, we just have to trust them.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    You're hot. You'll bounce back.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    I don't know if I should say I'm sorry, or congratulations....sooo....congratusorry!!!

    sorrolations!
  • JTPug1980
    JTPug1980 Posts: 85 Member
    It's better to follow your instinct than carry regret..........trust me
  • TerresaJ
    TerresaJ Posts: 187 Member
    I was married for 26 years and miserable for almost all of it. I finally got brave enough and had the means to support my children and myself. NEVER looking back!!!!
    Glad you recognized that you needed to break things off!!
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    Happy times CONGRATULATIONS!
  • willnorton
    willnorton Posts: 995 Member
    what a dumb turd he is to lose you!
  • enterdanger
    enterdanger Posts: 2,447 Member
    You are so brave.

    It's hard to commit that amount of time to a relationship and realize it has to end.

    Good luck. I'm sorry and congratulations.
  • HealthWoke0ish
    HealthWoke0ish Posts: 2,078 Member
    Sometimes the first step forward looks like a step backward. Kudos to you for making a tough decision with a better future in mind. :drinker:
  • free1220
    free1220 Posts: 416 Member
    I agree ,very brave to make that stand,sounds like you dodged a bullet there!
  • newdaydawning79
    newdaydawning79 Posts: 1,503 Member
    Good for you for following that instinct and knowing it was time to part ways. Fingers are crossed that you're able to maintain that civility for your little one...I've seen how hard that can be! :flowerforyou:
  • Momf3boys
    Momf3boys Posts: 1,637 Member
    Thanks everyone. It is a difficult thing to do...I never intended to hurt anyone but if I'm not happy why prolong things? I feel really bad for our son (he is only 2) but I am a firm believer that you should not stay together just for the children. It's better to be from a broken home then to live in a broken home...just my opinion. So far things are semi-civil...he is hurting and upset but I'm staying strong. It's gonna be tough toward the end of next month because I have a major surgery that will put me down for a couple of weeks but I think that he is willing to step up and take care of the baby during that time. Fingers crossed that he doesn't turn into a DB and become an evil monster. :ohwell:
  • sw33tp3a11
    sw33tp3a11 Posts: 4,646 Member
    Good for you. Settling is the worst thing you can do.
  • Momf3boys
    Momf3boys Posts: 1,637 Member
    Good for you. Settling is the worst thing you can do.

    Yes it is...I did it before and I promised myself that I will never do it again. I'm fine with being single...everything happens for a reason.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    According to another thread, since you will be back to dating you should start getting guys sending risque pics, if it hasn't already started.
  • velocityc6
    velocityc6 Posts: 2,137 Member
    Good luck to you. It was better to walk away now than feel trapped later. I'm sure Mr. Right will come into your life at some point.
  • N2Couture
    N2Couture Posts: 2,762 Member
    Well...I did it...been engaged almost 3 years...couldn't take it anymore...back to the drawing board for me...staying single forever!

    Don't get married just to get married. Enjoy your time with the cats.

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    Ahhh .. .. The life of Riley. ????

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