My trainer wants me to lose 79lbs in a year

axw7454

He must be crazy. Ugh I know it's possible but honestly I haven't been even under 200lbs since middle school. I'm terrified that I won't make it, and worse that I'll make it and still hate the way I look.
So far I'm keeping my goal at 30 lbs by Christmas. Cardio 6 days a week and lifting 3 days a week. Also, low carb high protein focused.

Boy I don't want to fail... :frown:

rml_16

I dropped 32 pounds in 12 weeks and I wasn't even that heavy. And I did it with reasonable diet and exercise.

spah33

You can do it! I have lost 54lbs 5 months! I have done it with exercise and changing my lifestyle to a low carb life!

marekdds

It is only a fail if you quit. Do what you can do. Best of luck!

Ang108

He must be crazy. Ugh I know it's possible but honestly I haven't been even under 200lbs since middle school. I'm terrified that I won't make it, and worse that I'll make it and still hate the way I look.
So far I'm keeping my goal at 30 lbs by Christmas. Cardio 6 days a week and lifting 3 days a week. Also, low carb high protein focused.

Boy I don't want to fail... :frown:

I don't understand your logic. You think that 79 pounds in a year is too much, but 30 pounds till Christmas is ok. If you would continue with your Christmas goal for a year you would lose 120 pounds. How is that better ?
Btw: I lost 55 pounds in 8 month by maintaining my calories deficit ( eating a normal, but healthy diet ) and walking 30-45 minutes each day.

axw7454

Thank you all for your words of encouragement!

grandmothercharlie

It can be done if you are willing to put in the work. Log every bite, every day! Keep to your workout schedule. Tell yourself you can do it (nothing hampers progress more than thinking you can't do something). With that said...

If you feel better with small goals, okay. Some do. 30 pounds in 4 months will still get you probably around the 79 pounds in a year (since progress will slow down the more you lose).

I do better looking at the end with a soft monthly goal. And a little reward every 15 pounds. But, if I write down that my Goal is only 30 pounds, then I will be more like to take a break when I hit it! I want to keep myself going and motivated.

Finally, are you afraid of finding a new you? You need to deal with that, too.

Good luck!

IsaCaliBel

It took me about 1 1/2 years to drop my 60 lbs. It was slower but I also enjoyed it more, less stress and was able to enjoy life events too. Most importantly, it's actually staying off, no weight gains!


30 by Christmas seem like a lot, to me anyway.

axw7454

I don't understand your logic. You think that 79 pounds in a year is too much, but 30 pounds till Christmas is ok. If you would continue with your Christmas goal for a year you would lose 120 pounds. How is that better ?
Btw: I lost 55 pounds in 8 month by maintaining my calories deficit ( eating a normal, but healthy diet ) and walking 30-45 minutes each day.

Oh I guess I should have explained I started in the summer, mid July I believe. I'm only 6 lbs down so far but I wasn't paying attention to diet so now I'm really trying to crack the whip on my dieting habits

Shirotora88

You can do it but take it one day at a time and you will be fine..

Best of luck

Jen

WallsA123

Whether you can or can't... you are right! I think you are underestimating yourself. 79 lbs in a year ( 52 weeks) is only 1.5 lbs a week! That is very realistic!

You can do this! Once you see results I bet you will want it even more. I am not going to even tell you good luck, I am going to tell you to go do it!

grandmothercharlie

Calorie deficit to lose weight; exercise to be fit!

andreaclip

Hi there,
You can definitely lose 30 pounds by Christmas, and 79 pounds in a year! It's all about your mindset; if you want to change your lifestyle to be happy and healthy for yourself and your son, you just need to decide that's what you want and go after it
And you have tons of support!!

rml_16

Thank you all for your words of encouragement!

One bit of advice I will give you, though, is to not focus so much on the weight. You only have so much control over how much weight your body is willing to let go of at a time.

Focus on the process. Focus on healthy eating and set exercise goals. Maybe give yourself little rewards for following your plan for a certain amount of time. I set a goal to exercise 30 minutes every day and stay in my calorie goal every day for a month and I got a massage at the end.

Also, don't be afraid to eat what you enjoy. Eat healthy, nutritious foods most of the time, but work in dinners out, drinks, a piece of cake -- whatever makes you happy -- every once in a while. Don't look at this as punishment, but rather a change that will lead to feeling better and maybe enjoy shopping for clothes more. :-)

emalethmoon

Keep it simple. Aim to lose 1.5 pounds a week. That'll get you there.

earlnabby

He must be crazy. Ugh I know it's possible but honestly I haven't been even under 200lbs since middle school. I'm terrified that I won't make it, and worse that I'll make it and still hate the way I look.
So far I'm keeping my goal at 30 lbs by Christmas. Cardio 6 days a week and lifting 3 days a week. Also, low carb high protein focused.

Boy I don't want to fail... :frown:

What is your total weight loss goal? What is your per week goal?

79 pounds in a year is definitely doable, but is it practical for you? Only you can determine that. Maybe start out aiming for a pound a week and then try for that 1-1/2 a week if you think it may be good for you. Weight loss isn't a sprint so it is best to do what you can do so that you can reap the long term benefits.

girlviernes

Thank you all for your words of encouragement!

One bit of advice I will give you, though, is to not focus so much on the weight. You only have so much control over how much weight your body is willing to let go of at a time.

Focus on the process. Focus on healthy eating and set exercise goals. Maybe give yourself little rewards for following your plan for a certain amount of time. I set a goal to exercise 30 minutes every day and stay in my calorie goal every day for a month and I got a massage at the end.

Also, don't be afraid to eat what you enjoy. Eat healthy, nutritious foods most of the time, but work in dinners out, drinks, a piece of cake -- whatever makes you happy -- every once in a while. Don't look at this as punishment, but rather a change that will lead to feeling better and maybe enjoy shopping for clothes more. :-)

Good advice. Look for ways to do this in a way that really fits for you and you can do long term. Enjoy all the small goals and achievements along the way.

axw7454

You all are giving such great advice! I'm really over here making note of a lot of these things. Most have you have said take it a little at a time, and I do think you're right because looking at that big number is scary. I guess when you think of it a 1.5lbs a week it really doesn't sound as bad.

999tigger

Tou cna do it if you are focused and sustain it.

If it cares you that much then talk to your trainer and agree with him a reasonable level and set some short term targets. Gaining short term victories will increase your confidence. Its more about sustaining at the right level than dramatic losses, so go from a few weeks to a month to six weeks to 2 months etc. Focus on the short term and the long term objective will get closer.

axw7454

Thank you all for your words of encouragement!

One bit of advice I will give you, though, is to not focus so much on the weight. You only have so much control over how much weight your body is willing to let go of at a time.

Focus on the process. Focus on healthy eating and set exercise goals. Maybe give yourself little rewards for following your plan for a certain amount of time. I set a goal to exercise 30 minutes every day and stay in my calorie goal every day for a month and I got a massage at the end.

Also, don't be afraid to eat what you enjoy. Eat healthy, nutritious foods most of the time, but work in dinners out, drinks, a piece of cake -- whatever makes you happy -- every once in a while. Don't look at this as punishment, but rather a change that will lead to feeling better and maybe enjoy shopping for clothes more. :-)

Very good advice. I might have to steal that massage idea! Or maybe even reward myself with a very small clothes shopping spree lol

VeryKatie

I believe in you! Should you check with your trainer about rest days? Sounds like you might only have one rest day in there.
Good luck! I think one you get used to it, you'll find it will seem possible to lose that weight. For now, I like your 30 lb by December mini goal - it's more manageable. And you know what? If you get it off by then, you're pretty much half way there!

babsfit14

Don't dwell on the number your trainer gives you as your ultimate goal after a year. Focus on each smaller goal that you do achieve, whether it's one pound or five or ten. Then just keep moving forward. Best of luck to you!

RoseyDgirl

Others have said it, and I want to stress it - don't focus on the number - focus on health. Yes, you can exercise and eat better!

But if your trainer is making it all about numbers and not about doing it safely - you may need to hit him over the backside of the head.

It's your body. You need rest days to allow for your muscles to respond. Make sure that whatever the plan is that you choose TOGETHER, that it is sustainable for the long-term. A year of 6 times a week cardio, and more hours in weight-training may be too much, too fast. (especially, if this is your first time exercising).

And diet/fitness is a life-time commitment - not something that your rush to attain, and then suddenly ask - "what now"?

if you decide to take the low-carb route, research that too. I am a low-carber - and, I will tell you that it's fantastic, but there's no cheating without consequences. If you give up gluten and grains, it's really hard to eat them without getting sick. I look at a bag of cheetos now, and know if I have it - my weightloss results will be stalled, I'll gain immediate weight, and I'll probably be sick processing the carbs and what it breaks down into.

This isn't about the trainer deciding what you should do - this is about you taking ownership for your body and what you are capable of giving to yourself to make you the best you can be, with his help. Whatever you do though, it's not about him, it's about you.

Good luck!

jrline

It is certainly doable you just have to stay positive and work towards your goal daily

ukaryote

If it helps, I have noticed from the posts that very obese people seem to lose weight unusually quickly at first. Then it settles into the 1-2 lbs per week.

You can do this.

And there is no fail. It is not building habits for a year, but for a lifetime.

Kate7294

A year so next July? Seems doable just take it one day at a time. Don't starve yourself and keep working out. Good luck.

parkscs

I don't know that I would say don't focus on the number - you shouldn't let the number defeat you, but you should focus on your weight when you have a sizable amount to lose. Honestly I'm always flabbergasted by people that say they've been working out and exercising for the last year or three, they've lost 15 pounds and they're still obese. If you're going to put in the effort and sacrifice, at least get some results out of it. At the end of the day, focusing on your health means getting your weight in a healthy range.

cirellim

I know it doesn't look like but I went from 255 of no muscle and all fat down to 170 in about a year. Then I've been gaining and losing to try adding on some lean gains for the past 2 years or so! Anything is possible trust me!!!!

bmele0

I was 292, and now I'm at 200 about a year + couple months later.

It can be done! But you lose at a higher rate the bigger you are. I was able to drop 8-9 lbs a month easy in the beginning, but it's slower going now.

rml_16

I don't know that I would say don't focus on the number - you shouldn't let the number defeat you, but you should focus on your weight when you have a sizable amount to lose. Honestly I'm always flabbergasted by people that say they've been working out and exercising for the last year or three, they've lost 15 pounds and they're still obese. If you're going to put in the effort and sacrifice, at least get some results out of it. At the end of the day, focusing on your health means getting your weight in a healthy range.

But the problem with focusing on the number is you can do everything right and not drop the pounds expected. And then you get disappointed and give up. If you focus on the process, the weight will come off.

Of course, track calories, exercise, drop calories as you drop pounds. But if you set a goal to lose 10 pounds in a month and only lose 5, you're going to be upset. If you set a goal to eat right and exercise and you lose 5, you'll be thrilled.

kalkath

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