Soul Mate & Love at 1st sight

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  • ohwhataday
    ohwhataday Posts: 1,398 Member
    Yep. Sure do.
  • alisons7598
    alisons7598 Posts: 162 Member
    I believe in both. I knew the first time I laid eyes on my husband he was my soul mate and I instantly fell in love with him. We married 21 days after we met and have been married for 12 years now. I think some people just know right away who they are meant to be with
  • I don't believe in either one. I used to believe in soul mates though, but I don't anymore. I think there are plenty of different people out there that you might be compatible with, but I don't believe that there is just one person out there that is totally perfect for you. I guess maybe I believe in multiple soul mates then. Haha. I definitely don't believe in love at first sight though. Lust at first sight is a different story though. ;)
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  • lilRicki
    lilRicki Posts: 4,555 Member
    I don't believe in love at first site either...i believe in the rush of adrenaline or lust...but real love and long term commitment takes work...after all humans were never meant to be monogomous. I do believe in soul mates though if that makes sense...but i don't believe you necessarily have to meet them in this life time...or even stay with them forever...soul mate to me is a connection, not a pact to be together forever.
  • TheMaidOfAstolat
    TheMaidOfAstolat Posts: 3,222 Member
    Soul Mate = Yes

    Love at 1st sight = No
    Lust at 1st sight = Yes

    Yep....this is my opinion as well.
  • bsoxluvr
    bsoxluvr Posts: 183 Member
    I didn't believe it, until it happened to me! I had plans to go to a club for a friends birthday and changed them last minute so we ended up in a totally different place. I didn't want to leave the table to use the restroom, but did, and on the way back I tripped and fell into my now husband. He caught me, held out his hand and asked me to dance. We have been together ever since. I will never forget his face when he looked at me and smiled. He says he knew right away, I can't go that far, but something definitely brought us together.
  • chelekaz
    chelekaz Posts: 847 Member
    I do. Even picked up a guy alongside the highway because of it - LOL. He worked construction (the boring stop/slow sign holder) and passed him every day to and from work. We always waved - which I know he was friendly and waved to almost everyone. Anyways, I had split from my fiancee and was drawn to Scott. Didn't know why but I felt the overwhelming need that I was supposed to meet him. So, one day (quite out of character having been very shy) I stopped on my way home. He was getting ready to leave and one of the guys got him for me. We talked and I gave him my number. We went out that weekend. That was back in '97.

    I am happy to report that we will be celebrating our 10 year wedding anniversary this October. while we had ups and downs and spits, we both realized it was meant to be. We had actually met the year before when he was out with a guy I knew from school and he only worked that job doing construction for 3 weeks... just long enough to meet me. :heart:
  • brittlynne3579
    brittlynne3579 Posts: 217 Member
    I think love at first sight is a crock of ****, and as for soul mates... I believe in them to an extent. I think some people have more than one. For example, you've all seen someone lose a husband or wife to cancer or in a car accident, and they were very happy. Then they move on and are happy with someone else as well. I don't think that means the first wasn't a soul mate... I just think some people are lucky enough to have that kind of love from a couple people, but unlucky to have lost them.

    EXACTLY
  • coachniquenya
    coachniquenya Posts: 60 Member
    Love at first sight...no. Lust at first sight...hell yeah. Soul mates...ABSOLUTELY!!! The thing is it often takes a few encounters before you know you are soulmates. I've found mine and I wouldn't have thought so from our first sighting although we had a REALLY good time.
  • James501
    James501 Posts: 148
    I like to hope so!
  • lobster888
    lobster888 Posts: 861 Member
    I believe in soul mates - but I believe that a person can have more than one soul mate in there lifetime. (I kwon that may not make sense but it depends on what your definition of soul mate is) . I have married a person that is just perfect for me. After a failed marriage and decision to never get married again... i met someone that is perfect for me. We compliment each other. We work really well together and have similar (not exactly the same) goals and ideas. He helps center me and I help center him. It's funny - because our personality are different - he is quiet and I am outgoing. But it works .... better than any relationship I have ever had. So is he may soul mate - yes with out a doubt. But do I believe that somewhere out in this vast world of our that there could be someone that is just as perfect maybe????
  • MelissaL582
    MelissaL582 Posts: 1,422 Member
    To me I'm going to say NO about love at first sight. I think it takes TWO people to become soul mates. My husband and I have been married for 7.5 years and it was not easy. Lots of ups and downs. We now have 3 children and we're stronger than ever. I can't imagine being with anyone else but him. He is my shoulder to cry on, my best friend.
  • Just when you think it was love at first sight, they move in, change the way you like the toilet paper on the roll, girly up the place, put the seat back down and kick your dog, make fun of cowboy boots, can't ride a horse, can't drive at night, reset the DVR to shows like Greys Anatomy in place of a good game .........

    Love @ first sight = BS
    Lust @ first sight = SURE especially after drinking
    Soul Mates = What is that? A pirate thing? :laugh:
  • chelekaz
    chelekaz Posts: 847 Member
    Love at first sight...no. Lust at first sight...hell yeah. Soul mates...ABSOLUTELY!!! The thing is it often takes a few encounters before you know you are soulmates. I've found mine and I wouldn't have thought so from our first sighting although we had a REALLY good time.

    Agreed. Like I said above. Scott and I met about a year earlier at a bar. I was with my cousins after a wedding and he with a friend of mine from school. Talked to my friend.. SOOOO noticed HIS friend but I was dating someone so didn't say anything but Hi. When we finally met and started dating he told me about our first meeting (which our friend told him about when he said he was dating me!). It also took us 3 years to get it right dating off and on during that time. Married now just over 9 years!
  • IamRoJ
    IamRoJ Posts: 530 Member
    I wholeheartedly believe in both. Wouldn't have said that 17 years ago - was definitely NOT a gal that was looking to settle down and get married. I was absolutely anti-me-getting-married. Met my hubby and knew something was different - didn't know we were in love, but knew something major had happened. We were on a double date (with other dates - not each other) We lived in different states so I'd assumed we'd never see each other again, and this was before email, Internet etc were very common at all. Needless to say, the stars aligned, he moved by me and ultimately, married, two daughters and we are still in love - and still nauseate the cynics around us, but hey, I'm happy! :)
  • Shannon023
    Shannon023 Posts: 14,529 Member
    I do but only on Weekends.

    :laugh: Happy Friday-Eve! :drinker:
  • AnaNotBanana
    AnaNotBanana Posts: 963 Member
    I don't know about love at first sight but I knew after the first time my boyfriend and I hung out that he was the one that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.

    I definitely believe in soul mates in all forms. I consider several of my close girlfriends my soul mates.
  • lulu_beans
    lulu_beans Posts: 100 Member
    I believe in Soul Mates, but not in love at first sight. I new I liked my fiance when we first met, but I wasn't in love with him.
  • Love at first sight? No.
    Soul mates? Absolutely. I don't know if you always manage to meet yours, but I believe everyone has one.
  • Shash27
    Shash27 Posts: 172
    I believe in soul mates..my boyfriend is mine. I'm not sure about love at first sight..by the end of our first date I knew I wanted to be with him..a month later I KNEW I loved him..
  • jamiesgotagun
    jamiesgotagun Posts: 670 Member
    Thanks everyone, LOVED reading all of your posts!!!
  • Don't know if I believe in either... one of my best friends parents got engaged the first day they met.. and had six kids and are now in their 60's, happily married.

    I know I met my partner under really unusual circumstances, and while neither of us believe in soul mates necessarily, I'm fairly sure it was fate.. one weird thing after another occurred for both of us that day and we met *shrugs*
  • I DO understand that one night stands = Love/Lust at first site.........Can I change my initial opinion?
  • qtwells82
    qtwells82 Posts: 352
    Absolutely :love:
  • Cheechos
    Cheechos Posts: 293
    Not at all.
  • NYIceQueen
    NYIceQueen Posts: 1,423
    True Love/Love at First Sight =

    It's a myth pandered to young girls by Disney, Random House, Avon Romance, and a bunch of other companies in order to make money. There is no such thing. See Easter Bunny.

    But that's just my opinion. Been married to a guy that I still somewhat love for 14 yrs +...but we hated each other's guts at first, so there you go.
  • bikerbiz
    bikerbiz Posts: 179 Member
    Lust at 1st sight is right! I hate it when the emotions get in the way of my brain... ;-)
  • Sweet13_Princess
    Sweet13_Princess Posts: 1,207 Member
    I think it depends on the individual, but for me it's not love at first sight. Anyone I've ever dated had to be a friend first before I ever became attracted to them physically. For me, it was more about gaining trust before I could allow myself to fall in love. The same thing happened with my fiance, Dan. He seemed like a nice guy when I first met him, but he was kind of geeky. I wasn't really sure I was interested in hiim enough to persue dating him. Luckily for me, Dan pretty much fell in love with me from the get-go and was willing to hang in there until I got to know him better. Now I can say definitively that I have never loved nor will love anyone as much as him.:-D

    Shannon
  • goaliema
    goaliema Posts: 150 Member
    Perhaps love at first sight happens for some

    But definitely lust at first sight.....lol

    Soulmates..definitely believe everyone has one...sometimes we mistaken someone for that unique individual but then we stand corrected!
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