forced birthday eating?

efcdcdb

However, it's not really a life plan if you can't relax a little on special occasions . I'm going to exercise on the day, eat at maintenance if need be, but mainly just fit stuff in by eating healthily otherwise throughout the day. If you have a light lunch, for example, you CAN have a slice of birthday cake! Or if you go for a long walk/do 30 mins of cardio you can have a glass or 2 of wine.

I agree. In my one year of using MFP, this has probably been the most helpful concept for me. I absolutely cannot, and will not DIET. I can't deprive myself for the rest of my life, so what is the point of doing it just to lose the weight, if I am going to gain it back? 95% of the people using this site need to re-train themselves, to be able to handle special situations in life, as far as eating goes. If you watch what, and how thin people eat, that's what you will see. They have what they want, but don't over-indulge (or pig-out). I am definitely not there yet, and I don't know if I will ever be, but that's what I am striving for. I want to be able to have my cake and eat it too. :bigsmile:

dwarfer22

I don't agree w/ the "cheat day" people out there. Not for me anyway. As a food addict myself, one taste of cake or super sweet treat would send me into a tailspin. Would you offer crack to a drug addict? A beer to an alchoholic. To answer the actual question, I would pull the coworker who is coordinating the event, or food and politely explain that you are super happy that they want to celebrate your day w/ you but if they are to bring a food item, make it a fruit tray or veggie tray. You would hate for them to go to all the effort and then not be able to participate. You have made a commitment to yourself to eat healthily to better yourself and you really wouldn't be able to eat cake on the day.

As a recovering addict 13+ years clean I'm not saying your cheat day is a license to go nuts. The cheat day keeps your body from settling into a rhythm. Keep it guessing.... the same thing applies to exercise programs. Do a set program the same way for 6 weeks and then take 4 -7 days off and change up the exercise routine and do it for the next 6 weeks etc. to keep the muscles from developing "muscle memory". The cheat day is a tactic to wean yourself off the bad habits and into good habits. I haven't eaten fried foods for over a year and I don't miss them now, but they used to be a "cheat food". Now my "cheat day" is just going over on calories with healthy food. Look at my diary and you'll see: Snickerdoodles --- one or snickerdoodles --- two

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not 12....... This is a journey that takes a lot of small steps and these methods come from people who have trained 1000's of people and used that experience and wrote a book about it. Check out: Burn The Fat, Feed The Muscle by Tom Venuto. This guy is my role model. The first chapter is about goal setting and the subconscious and how only 5 percent of people do this. No surprise that 95% of people have trouble with continued dietting success. This book cleared up a lot of Q's for me that I coudn't find the A for in other places. Like: when should I exercise and when should I eat? "Fasted cardio" works best for me which is doing cardio first thing in the morning having only a cup of hot tea(or caffeine of your choice) and waiting 30 minutes for absorption B4 running for more than 30 minutes a day. When I do this every day, I lose 2 - 3 pounds a week. I just recovered from an injury and I decided to join MFP and I lost 3 pounds the first week.

While I agree that a cheat day once in awhile can be good I don't believe this particular poster is ready for that. Neo, you said you are 13 years clean, this poster joined 10 days ago and maybe just starting down that road. All I'm saying is that maybe it's a tad too soon to intro cake to someone presumably brand new to her lifestyle change. Perhaps I am wrong and she has been successful on her own and just joined the MFP community, her question said otherwise.

runningneo122

I don't agree w/ the "cheat day" people out there. Not for me anyway. As a food addict myself, one taste of cake or super sweet treat would send me into a tailspin. Would you offer crack to a drug addict? A beer to an alchoholic. To answer the actual question, I would pull the coworker who is coordinating the event, or food and politely explain that you are super happy that they want to celebrate your day w/ you but if they are to bring a food item, make it a fruit tray or veggie tray. You would hate for them to go to all the effort and then not be able to participate. You have made a commitment to yourself to eat healthily to better yourself and you really wouldn't be able to eat cake on the day.

As a recovering addict 13+ years clean I'm not saying your cheat day is a license to go nuts. The cheat day keeps your body from settling into a rhythm. Keep it guessing.... the same thing applies to exercise programs. Do a set program the same way for 6 weeks and then take 4 -7 days off and change up the exercise routine and do it for the next 6 weeks etc. to keep the muscles from developing "muscle memory". The cheat day is a tactic to wean yourself off the bad habits and into good habits. I haven't eaten fried foods for over a year and I don't miss them now, but they used to be a "cheat food". Now my "cheat day" is just going over on calories with healthy food. Look at my diary and you'll see: Snickerdoodles --- one or snickerdoodles --- two

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not 12....... This is a journey that takes a lot of small steps and these methods come from people who have trained 1000's of people and used that experience and wrote a book about it. Check out: Burn The Fat, Feed The Muscle by Tom Venuto. This guy is my role model. The first chapter is about goal setting and the subconscious and how only 5 percent of people do this. No surprise that 95% of people have trouble with continued dietting success. This book cleared up a lot of Q's for me that I coudn't find the A for in other places. Like: when should I exercise and when should I eat? "Fasted cardio" works best for me which is doing cardio first thing in the morning having only a cup of hot tea(or caffeine of your choice) and waiting 30 minutes for absorption B4 running for more than 30 minutes a day. When I do this every day, I lose 2 - 3 pounds a week. I just recovered from an injury and I decided to join MFP and I lost 3 pounds the first week.

While I agree that a cheat day once in awhile can be good I don't believe this particular poster is ready for that. Neo, you said you are 13 years clean, this poster joined 10 days ago and maybe just starting down that road. All I'm saying is that maybe it's a tad too soon to intro cake to someone presumably brand new to her lifestyle change. Perhaps I am wrong and she has been successful on her own and just joined the MFP community, her question said otherwise.

This response was meant for you regarding your Q about giving drugs to an addict, not answering any further to her initial post.

In her initial post she said: "she had a good week and she was REALLY MOTIVATED, but situations like this drive her crazy."
I don't hear a person saying, "I'm a food junkie and I really can't be around cake." I hear her saying, " I am making progress and this is going to be hard for me to say anything without sounding ungrateful or rude."