What are some of the things/habits/feelings you will NOT mis

Izzygirl1985

I WILL NOT MISS:

-Not being able to buy cute CHEAP clothes
-Not being able to be comfortable in just about anything
-SPANXX
-Looking for clothes based on whether it comes in my size rather than style, fit, color.
-Not feeling like a baby sumo wrestler next to my Lean and handsome boyfriend who weighs 50 pounds LESS than I do and is 7inches taller
-constant self doubt
- Having a mismatch between how people perceive me (beautiful, tall, confident) and how I perceive myself (chunky monkey with lots of self loathe)
-Having to wear 60% of my jeans/pants unbuttoned and then wearing a long top so noone knows (Because i refuse to go up a size from 16 to 18)
-My mom telling me she saw something cute at Avenue, Lane Bryant, or Ashley Stewart and thought it would look great on me. I have no qualms with these stores, its just that I am 25 and I would much rather not be assoc. witht hose stores just yet.
-Fearing that I will most certainly break 300 pounds before 30.
-Feeling like my boyfriend really thinks my body SUCKS (No matter how much he tells me I am hot and cant keep his hands off me)
-Drooling and praying I can have a body remotely close to Halle Berry
-Being told how much prettier I would be if I lost even 15-25 pounds
-Not wanting to go out and socialize with friends who happen to all be between 5'3-5'5 and wear sizes ranging from 2-8. I am 5'9 and wear a size 16. Does NOT make for a cute facebook pic, esp when I look like their mom.
-Always thinking that hot guy would have looked at me if I was smaller.
-Feeling that I am at risk for just about all health issues on the planet
-Family members coming up to me and poking at me saying, "You got sooooo BIG" Maybe at 5 it was a compliment. But At 25, its no longer a compliment and I know exactly what they mean.

Now I know this sounds really NEGATIVE, But looking at this actually MOTIVATES ME AND PUSHES ME. I came up with this idea when I was working out a few mins ago (45 mins on elliptical keeping HR AT 170 and burned ~675 cals). So noooo this is not a self hate post, but rather a BYE BYE to old habits/feelings/thoughts that have plagued me for ~5 years of my life.

So guys anyone have similar ones as I listed or anything else to add?

heligal79

I will not miss the feeling of defeat after trying on a million things at the store and leaving empty handed.

alisons7598

Most of those you listed but most of all I will not miss one of my kids coming home upset because someone called their mom fat. It doesn't bother me, after all I am but it does bother me that my kids have to hear that and are upset about it. And I won't miss feeling like my husband would rather be with someone else and is ashamed of me because I've gained 150lbs since we got married 12 yrs ago.

Cella30

I love this!


I will not miss hating having my picture taken. I can't wait until the day I'm fighting to be in the front row looking HOT!

Michelle_J

I will not miss:

insecurity
hating skinny women (not really hating but feeling very, very self conscious around them)
big girl clothes
getting winded bending over tying my shoes
hating the way I look in pictures
being winded walking up a flight of stairs
ignoring mirrors
granny panties

Just to name a few.....

rozarotti

I will not miss:
~ Feeling uncomfortable in everything I wear
~ wearing a tankini to the beach
~ my own negative body thoughts all the time
~ Feeling uncomfortable when my husbands hand touch my stomach

Feeling like my armpit cleavage and back cleavage are always hanging out

Im sure theres more, but these are the biggest ones.
Misty

mrsbolanos

I will not miss the belly overhang that scrunches my undies (and sometimes) pants down. GOOD BYE MUFFIN TOP.

MariSama44

I will NOT miss:

Lane Bryant and Avenue
finding no bathing suits in my size
wearing ALL BLACK ALL THE TIME
not being able to run
the pain and lethargy
not being able to see past my stomach
having to wear mens clothes because women's were cut too small
looking dumpy, not feeling worth wearing jewelry or accessories
no self esteem/confidence
justifying my weaknesses instead of taking them on
junk food
no self control
all of the invalueble knowledge and wisdom I've gained from here and just on my journey in general
getting "that look" from the doctor at every checkup
not having control of my life or living it to its absoulte fullest! :drinker:

This is such an inspiring thread! Thanks for the idea! I'm enjoying reading all of these too :flowerforyou: We can do it!

Nailrep

I will not miss:

* Avoiding having my picture taken

* Hating looking into mirrors

* Staying in the house while everybody else is at the pool

* Avoiding sex because I hate my hubby seeing me naked

hooah_mj

I will not miss

acid reflux
snoring, like that....
stopping to rest after 2 flights of stairs
the multitudes of poor health check-ups and annual visits to my physician

Izzygirl1985

Most of those you listed but most of all I will not miss one of my kids coming home upset because someone called their mom fat. It doesn't bother me, after all I am but it does bother me that my kids have to hear that and are upset about it. And I won't miss feeling like my husband would rather be with someone else and is ashamed of me because I've gained 150lbs since we got married 12 yrs ago.

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL NO MATTER WHAT! Keep it up and have faith!

Curves73

I will not miss:
- feeling less then sexy

Izzygirl1985

oh my...you guys are AWESOME and oh so inspirational. Its amazing how much we share in common. Guys we can do this. Keep the faith!

cupajoe

83lbs lighter than I was a year ago, I do NOT miss...

1. Hating to shop because it doesn't matter what clothes you like-it only matters if it comes in my size and is slimming on me.
2. Having my beautiful daughter have to see her "fat mama" all the time and thinking how she must look down on me.
3. Avoiding having my husband touch me because I am so insecure.
4. Never letting myself have a good thought about me because no matter what I do that I should be proud of...I'm still FAT.
5. Being jealous of my sister or my husband because they have never had any weight issues and look great all the time.
6. Just feeling BLAH.

and many many more...

Izzygirl1985

83lbs lighter than I was a year ago, I do NOT miss...

1. Hating to shop because it doesn't matter what clothes you like-it only matters if it comes in my size and is slimming on me.
2. Having my beautiful daughter have to see her "fat mama" all the time and thinking how she must look down on me.
3. Avoiding having my husband touch me because I am so insecure.
4. Never letting myself have a good thought about me because no matter what I do that I should be proud of...I'm still FAT.
5. Being jealous of my sister or my husband because they have never had any weight issues and look great all the time.
6. Just feeling BLAH.

and many many more...

YOU ARE MY INSPIRATION! 83 POUNDS???? DO TELL HOW

missindepndnt86

Ok I LOVE this post!!

I will NOT miss:

Disappointing my honey by always having to have the lights off during sex because I feel gross
Trying on several outfits at a time, and leaving empty handed because nothing fit
Taking only head shots of myself because I feel everything else looks so awful
The endless search for a bathing suit that fits, covers EVERYTHING, and doesn't make me look like a whale

Izzygirl1985

Ok I LOVE this post!!

I will NOT miss:

Disappointing my honey by always having to have the lights off during sex because I feel gross
Trying on several outfits at a time, and leaving empty handed because nothing fit
Taking only head shots of myself because I feel everything else looks so awful
The endless search for a bathing suit that fits, covers EVERYTHING, and doesn't make me look like a whale

ditto!!! HOW ABOUT THIS....Having the person taking the pic move back on zoom OUT so that i dont look too big. Distant shots make me look smaller. Also never being able to wear SLEEVELESS TOPS because the diameter of my arms is greater than that of my face.

calibri

Huffing after running up the stairs a few floors at work.

danahake

I will not miss being a stress eater, being lumpy and bumpy, having to cover up, say do i look big in this?

katzplay62

Staying in my home because I'm embarrassed to be out in public.
Holding my driver's license so the weight doesn't show...even though it's a bald-faced lie.
Avoiding any activity that may ask for my weight-haven't been xc skiing in years because they need your weight to select your ski length. Forget about zip-lines. Or flying on air jets in Vegas.
Explaining that I hurt myself (yeah, years ago) and couldn't work out.
Size 22 jeans.
Bras that look more like architectural supports than lingerie.

I SO identify with the shopping for hours and going home empty handed.

Kat

mallove81

All these posts are so great and inspirational.

I will not miss being the heaviest of my friends, and feeling like a picture is ruined by my chubby face. I always hated "picture time" and wished I could be cropped out. I also hated having to take pics at certain angles that were more flattering or hid a chin...or two

I will not miss having to do mega squats with newly washed jeans to stretch them because I was in denial that I needed the next size up.

I will not miss using baby weight as an excuse...(my son is 8)!

I will not miss doubting myself and my will power. Weight gain/loss or not, be beautiful within and do the best that you can do! Continue to inspire yourself and others!!

rosebarnalice

I will not miss:
* going to sleep at night with an that uncomfortable "I gorged myself" feeling;
*when I buy clothes, checking to see if there is enough seam allowance to let it out "just in case" I get bigger;
* making a point to consciously pulling down the back of my shirt/ sweater every time I stand up because I know that it has crept up and is now bunched up around my BIG FAT *kitten*
* hearing my mother say, "well dear, be thankful that at least you've always had a pretty face"

BigBoneSista

- I will not miss the total exhaustion...always wanting to sleep
- I will not miss not playing outside with the kids because I knew I couldn't keep up
- I will not miss wondering if my husband is disgusted by my fat
- I will not miss seeing old friends and them looking at me like "man she let herself go"
- I will not miss going to the plus sizes in stores and seeing a bunch of elastic waist pants, floral shirts, and dresses cut like boxes
- I will not miss my boobs popping out my bras
- I will not miss my thighs rubbing the inside of my jeans till there are holes ripping in them
- I will not miss any of the above crap and all the things you all have mentioned :indifferent:

boxerlovers

I love this!


I will not miss hating having my picture taken. I can't wait until the day I'm fighting to be in the front row looking HOT!

k2d4p

I will NOT miss being told I look like I am pregnant again or being asked if I am pregnant again.

Also, my husband use to pick me up all the time and he enjoyed it. After 2 kids and gaining 100lbs, I stopped letting him because I didn't want to hurt him. I will not miss that feeling AT ALL.

boxerlovers

Boy do I agree with this one!

helenamonks

I will not miss:

-People telling me how cute something was at the Avenue/Lane Bryant
-Hating taking pics because of how fat I look when they come out
-Having no pics of me with my husband (seriously we only have our wedding pics)
-Being absolutely winded by a slight jog
-Heartburn
-I dont miss fast food and wont be eating it again.
-depression
-not being able to wear jeans b/c of my funky shape
-not being able to shop in department chains
-looking like a tard tard in lingerie
-feeling like a whale ALL THE TIME
-being associated with *a fat chick*
-looking at those really really obese people at walmart and wondering if thatd be me next year
-back cleavage, arm cleavage, lovehandle cleavage, bulge every where
-not fitting into my fat clothes
-not fitting into ANY clothes
-wearing sweats and PJs


I will be wearing short shorts summer of 2012 and they will look effing hot on me!!!

jkestens63

Not being able to fit in a movie theatre seat.
Using a scooter at Walmmart because its too much walking.
Seeing doctors 2-3 times a week for 2 years because my health got so bad (& the 15 medications I was on).

ktmunchie

I second that!! There is NOTHING worse for me that being asked when my babies due when I'm not prego!

Izzygirl1985

Holy cow...reading all these make me realize just how much being an unhealthy weight affects us all. This really does motivate me to want to change. I hope you all feel the same too. I LOVE YOU ALL AND WE CAN DO THIS!!!!!!!!!!

JenCM

I will Not miss...

-Not fitting/squeezing into a seat at a theatre or worrying about overflowing into the seat next to me
-On that same subject, I won't miss not being able to sit in a booth if we go to a restaurant and wondering when I sit in chairs, if I might be heavy enough to break them
-Having to buy all my clothes at Lane Bryant. Don't get me wrong, I actually really like most of the clothes there (guess I'm an old 26 year old...lol) because I'm def not a flashy person or anything, but I would LOVE to be able to just walk into Wal Mart or something and grab anything under a size 16!
-Not being able to wear shorts or capris because I have cankles and they're just gross
-Always feeling like and being the fattest person in the room
-Bumping into/brushing up against EVERYTHING when I try to "squeeze" through a small aisle or area.
-Wondering anymore what my life would be like, if I'd finally done things right and lost weight.
-The fact I miss out on so many active things I want to do, because I can't go do them. I can't do a 2 mile hike up the some of the lakes in the mountains I want to go take photos of...but I WILL someday!
-People treating me differently, like I'm lazy, etc....because I'm fat.
-I won't miss knowing how worried my dad would be that I was so heavy and unhealthy....
-My thighs rubbing together and wearing allllll my pants on the inner thighs
-Being unhealthy and hindering myself from living my life
-Having to literally grab my leg and pull it onto my other knee, to get my socks on. ='(
- Taking any photos of myself/face, and doing that "fat person" face angle where you aim the camera down and point your chin down or tilt your head. lol