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Posted this one yesterday. Do you have a dog? HELP! lol
I really like my boyfriend, and I really love his dog. He adopted him after a few months into us dating. The dog is affectionate and adorable. I have grown rather attached to him. The actual problem is how this man lets the dog dominate his entire life, which is ruining our relationship. He cannot spend one night without it. We cannot go on trips where the dog cannot stay, and even if we do, we cannot stay long because we have to "get back" -- same with even short social gatherings. Moreover, he lets the dog sleep wherever it wants (in between us in his bed), and he insists that it is "cute" or "funny" that the dog seeks affection during and after we do the dirty. I can even count on one hand how many times we've been intimate without the dog in the room, which is now disgusting me as I write this. It has ruined the intimacy level in our relationship, since he believes that shutting the dog out of the bedroom is also cruel. He will often lie around kissing, stroking and petting the dog (even lying on the floor with it) in front of me while we spend time together, but refuses to give me the same affection (he was very loving at the start of our relationship, however). It is really slowly starting to upset me and may even drive me to a breaking point. I have said little things like - "I would like to lay next to my boyfriend" or, "I never sleep at your place with the dog in the bed". Nothing. Am I crazy and seeing things? Does he have a problem or do I? I'm smart enough to know that there's something wrong with this picture at this point and have been giving him the benefit of the doubt to come around due to his redeeming qualities, but on the same end I feel stupid for feeling this way, as if I am overreacting.0 -
Farts....they are so damn proud arnt they?0
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Men are very very simple creatures. Why do women want to complicate it. We are genetically wired to hunt and protect ( read modern day as we like to be needed and I don't mean emotionally I mean we like when you need us to do something ) we like to eat and we like to have sex. Then you have a couple of subtypes one that needs a bit of risk and adventure one that likes to create and a final one that is just as lazy as you will let him be. Not much else to know really. All men's behavior will tie back to this simple framework0
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I think men want to think they are simple and some women want to think men are simple but it is not just about food and sex for men. I know many girls who would like to have more sex than their SO. I know guys who would rather look at porn than pursue relationships with real women.Men are very very simple creatures. Why do women want to complicate it. We are genetically wired to hunt and protect ( read modern day as we like to be needed and I don't mean emotionally I mean we like when you need us to do something ) we like to eat and we like to have sex. Then you have a couple of subtypes one that needs a bit of risk and adventure one that likes to create and a final one that is just as lazy as you will let him be. Not much else to know really. All men's behavior will tie back to this simple framework0 -
Posted this one yesterday. Do you have a dog? HELP! lol
I really like my boyfriend, and I really love his dog. He adopted him after a few months into us dating. The dog is affectionate and adorable. I have grown rather attached to him. The actual problem is how this man lets the dog dominate his entire life, which is ruining our relationship. He cannot spend one night without it. We cannot go on trips where the dog cannot stay, and even if we do, we cannot stay long because we have to "get back" -- same with even short social gatherings. Moreover, he lets the dog sleep wherever it wants (in between us in his bed), and he insists that it is "cute" or "funny" that the dog seeks affection during and after we do the dirty. I can even count on one hand how many times we've been intimate without the dog in the room, which is now disgusting me as I write this. It has ruined the intimacy level in our relationship, since he believes that shutting the dog out of the bedroom is also cruel. He will often lie around kissing, stroking and petting the dog (even lying on the floor with it) in front of me while we spend time together, but refuses to give me the same affection (he was very loving at the start of our relationship, however). It is really slowly starting to upset me and may even drive me to a breaking point. I have said little things like - "I would like to lay next to my boyfriend" or, "I never sleep at your place with the dog in the bed". Nothing. Am I crazy and seeing things? Does he have a problem or do I? I'm smart enough to know that there's something wrong with this picture at this point and have been giving him the benefit of the doubt to come around due to his redeeming qualities, but on the same end I feel stupid for feeling this way, as if I am overreacting.
I can relate in some way. Worst part is the dog sleeping in bed. I can't take it. Between the dog and him, I barely have room - even to move. And at times, it's like he loves the dog more than I. Does he? I doubt it, but sometimes I too, would like the same affection.0 -
That's why I love guys so much. The answer to "why they did" something is almost always the most basic and simple. And usually, "Because it feels good."
Sure, every now and then, you find one who is manipulative or creepy or any other undesirable adjective, but while they might be men, they're not GUYS.
Guys rock.0 -
Men are about as useful as a bag of planting soil. Haha just kidding, guys.
But seriously, they are odd creatures but they are fun to have around...especially when you need someone to reach something on the top shelf, kill a spider, or fix something. lololol0 -
well put, lorinalynn 0
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I can understand this. I sometimes feel this way when my husband spends time petting the cats, and they are my cats! I think your boyfriend really feels guilty about being away from the dog and isn't doing a very good time of sharing time with you and the dog. Sorry I don't have a solution!Posted this one yesterday. Do you have a dog? HELP! lol
I really like my boyfriend, and I really love his dog. He adopted him after a few months into us dating. The dog is affectionate and adorable. I have grown rather attached to him. The actual problem is how this man lets the dog dominate his entire life, which is ruining our relationship. He cannot spend one night without it. We cannot go on trips where the dog cannot stay, and even if we do, we cannot stay long because we have to "get back" -- same with even short social gatherings. Moreover, he lets the dog sleep wherever it wants (in between us in his bed), and he insists that it is "cute" or "funny" that the dog seeks affection during and after we do the dirty. I can even count on one hand how many times we've been intimate without the dog in the room, which is now disgusting me as I write this. It has ruined the intimacy level in our relationship, since he believes that shutting the dog out of the bedroom is also cruel. He will often lie around kissing, stroking and petting the dog (even lying on the floor with it) in front of me while we spend time together, but refuses to give me the same affection (he was very loving at the start of our relationship, however). It is really slowly starting to upset me and may even drive me to a breaking point. I have said little things like - "I would like to lay next to my boyfriend" or, "I never sleep at your place with the dog in the bed". Nothing. Am I crazy and seeing things? Does he have a problem or do I? I'm smart enough to know that there's something wrong with this picture at this point and have been giving him the benefit of the doubt to come around due to his redeeming qualities, but on the same end I feel stupid for feeling this way, as if I am overreacting.0 -
Posted this one yesterday. Do you have a dog? HELP! lol
I really like my boyfriend, and I really love his dog. He adopted him after a few months into us dating. The dog is affectionate and adorable. I have grown rather attached to him. The actual problem is how this man lets the dog dominate his entire life, which is ruining our relationship. He cannot spend one night without it. We cannot go on trips where the dog cannot stay, and even if we do, we cannot stay long because we have to "get back" -- same with even short social gatherings. Moreover, he lets the dog sleep wherever it wants (in between us in his bed), and he insists that it is "cute" or "funny" that the dog seeks affection during and after we do the dirty. I can even count on one hand how many times we've been intimate without the dog in the room, which is now disgusting me as I write this. It has ruined the intimacy level in our relationship, since he believes that shutting the dog out of the bedroom is also cruel. He will often lie around kissing, stroking and petting the dog (even lying on the floor with it) in front of me while we spend time together, but refuses to give me the same affection (he was very loving at the start of our relationship, however). It is really slowly starting to upset me and may even drive me to a breaking point. I have said little things like - "I would like to lay next to my boyfriend" or, "I never sleep at your place with the dog in the bed". Nothing. Am I crazy and seeing things? Does he have a problem or do I? I'm smart enough to know that there's something wrong with this picture at this point and have been giving him the benefit of the doubt to come around due to his redeeming qualities, but on the same end I feel stupid for feeling this way, as if I am overreacting.
I would give him an altomatum (however you spell it) sit him down and tell him how you feel, if he really loves you, then he should respect the way you feel. If not then he wasn't the peron you thought he was. Sometimes we have to speak our minds for the men to understand. men are totally different from women and they don't see the hints, you just have to speak your mind and throw it out there on the table. But if you want things to work out between the two of you, you have to communicate, and let him no that this bothers you. Hope this helps.0 -
I find this to be very true with my hubby of 11 years, He has pissy moments where I don't know what his problem is, but other than that he's not hard to please and I love him for that.Men are very very simple creatures. Why do women want to complicate it. We are genetically wired to hunt and protect ( read modern day as we like to be needed and I don't mean emotionally I mean we like when you need us to do something ) we like to eat and we like to have sex. Then you have a couple of subtypes one that needs a bit of risk and adventure one that likes to create and a final one that is just as lazy as you will let him be. Not much else to know really. All men's behavior will tie back to this simple framework0 -
SMH…why do you want to kiss on a dude that is kissing on an animal that cleans it private section with his tongue. Not all dudes do this. Matter of fact very few. Mmm…I would suggest you to tell him in this exact words “stop being nasty. Those lips you putting on that dog got to go on me, and also I don’t know where that dog been rolling around in all day, so unless you going to give him/her a bath every night. He/she want be in this bed.”0
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Posted this one yesterday. Do you have a dog? HELP! lol
I really like my boyfriend, and I really love his dog. He adopted him after a few months into us dating. The dog is affectionate and adorable. I have grown rather attached to him. The actual problem is how this man lets the dog dominate his entire life, which is ruining our relationship. He cannot spend one night without it. We cannot go on trips where the dog cannot stay, and even if we do, we cannot stay long because we have to "get back" -- same with even short social gatherings. Moreover, he lets the dog sleep wherever it wants (in between us in his bed), and he insists that it is "cute" or "funny" that the dog seeks affection during and after we do the dirty. I can even count on one hand how many times we've been intimate without the dog in the room, which is now disgusting me as I write this. It has ruined the intimacy level in our relationship, since he believes that shutting the dog out of the bedroom is also cruel. He will often lie around kissing, stroking and petting the dog (even lying on the floor with it) in front of me while we spend time together, but refuses to give me the same affection (he was very loving at the start of our relationship, however). It is really slowly starting to upset me and may even drive me to a breaking point. I have said little things like - "I would like to lay next to my boyfriend" or, "I never sleep at your place with the dog in the bed". Nothing. Am I crazy and seeing things? Does he have a problem or do I? I'm smart enough to know that there's something wrong with this picture at this point and have been giving him the benefit of the doubt to come around due to his redeeming qualities, but on the same end I feel stupid for feeling this way, as if I am overreacting.
I can relate in some way. Worst part is the dog sleeping in bed. I can't take it. Between the dog and him, I barely have room - even to move. And at times, it's like he loves the dog more than I. Does he? I doubt it, but sometimes I too, would like the same affection.
Exactly. Very touchy subject I am afraid. I plan on talking to him about it this weekend. I am going to be very nice about it, and maybe joke a little about it, but definately ask him if we can work something out, and let him know how I feel. It is getting a little out of control. I I have needs
A yes, I am always at the corener of the bed, no covers. ugh! haha0 -
I grew up in a house that was male dominant. I have my mom and my grandmothers, but that was pretty much it. Guys really aren't that hard to figure out. They like to feel good and are believers in instant gratification.
Why did he stop calling?? Because he didn't enjoy talking to you anymore
Why isn't he having sex with me?? Unless he has a medical problem, he either wasn't attracted or it wasn't fun enough
He treats me like a girlfriend but won't call me that, why? He doesn't want to be tied down, if he wanted to, you'd be GF
Why does he leave his s**t laying around for me to pick up? Because you keep picking it up...and alot of men are slobs
Those are just examples. There are exceptions here as men can be clueless sometimes....simple to a fault. See ladies alot of this falls on our shoulders. Most of what he does or doesn't do reflects on what WE do or don't do.
Feel secure with your man but he isn't romantic or chivilrous anymore? He stopped DOING it when you stopped DEMANDING it
They want to be told what to do, preferrably with written instructions and photos. They want lots of praise whether he built a house, or tied his shoelaces. Most positive reinforcement should come in food or sexual form.
I hope this helps my friends!0 -
I grew up in a house that was male dominant. I have my mom and my grandmothers, but that was pretty much it. Guys really aren't that hard to figure out. They like to feel good and are believers in instant gratification.
Why did he stop calling?? Because he didn't enjoy talking to you anymore
Why isn't he having sex with me?? Unless he has a medical problem, he either wasn't attracted or it wasn't fun enough
He treats me like a girlfriend but won't call me that, why? He doesn't want to be tied down, if he wanted to, you'd be GF
Why does he leave his s**t laying around for me to pick up? Because you keep picking it up...and alot of men are slobs
Those are just examples. There are exceptions here as men can be clueless sometimes....simple to a fault. See ladies alot of this falls on our shoulders. Most of what he does or doesn't do reflects on what WE do or don't do.
Feel secure with your man but he isn't romantic or chivilrous anymore? He stopped DOING it when you stopped DEMANDING it
They want to be told what to do, preferrably with written instructions and photos. They want lots of praise whether he built a house, or tied his shoelaces. Most positive reinforcement should come in food or sexual form.
I hope this helps my friends!
It is like you read my mind.... what am I thinking now0 -
I grew up in a house that was male dominant. I have my mom and my grandmothers, but that was pretty much it. Guys really aren't that hard to figure out. They like to feel good and are believers in instant gratification.
Why did he stop calling?? Because he didn't enjoy talking to you anymore
Why isn't he having sex with me?? Unless he has a medical problem, he either wasn't attracted or it wasn't fun enough
He treats me like a girlfriend but won't call me that, why? He doesn't want to be tied down, if he wanted to, you'd be GF
Why does he leave his s**t laying around for me to pick up? Because you keep picking it up...and alot of men are slobs
Those are just examples. There are exceptions here as men can be clueless sometimes....simple to a fault. See ladies alot of this falls on our shoulders. Most of what he does or doesn't do reflects on what WE do or don't do.
Feel secure with your man but he isn't romantic or chivilrous anymore? He stopped DOING it when you stopped DEMANDING it
They want to be told what to do, preferrably with written instructions and photos. They want lots of praise whether he built a house, or tied his shoelaces. Most positive reinforcement should come in food or sexual form.
I hope this helps my friends!
It is like you read my mind.... what am I thinking now
You wanna sandwich??
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I grew up in a house that was male dominant. I have my mom and my grandmothers, but that was pretty much it. Guys really aren't that hard to figure out. They like to feel good and are believers in instant gratification.
Why did he stop calling?? Because he didn't enjoy talking to you anymore
Why isn't he having sex with me?? Unless he has a medical problem, he either wasn't attracted or it wasn't fun enough
He treats me like a girlfriend but won't call me that, why? He doesn't want to be tied down, if he wanted to, you'd be GF
Why does he leave his s**t laying around for me to pick up? Because you keep picking it up...and alot of men are slobs
Those are just examples. There are exceptions here as men can be clueless sometimes....simple to a fault. See ladies alot of this falls on our shoulders. Most of what he does or doesn't do reflects on what WE do or don't do.
Feel secure with your man but he isn't romantic or chivilrous anymore? He stopped DOING it when you stopped DEMANDING it
They want to be told what to do, preferrably with written instructions and photos. They want lots of praise whether he built a house, or tied his shoelaces. Most positive reinforcement should come in food or sexual form.
I hope this helps my friends!
It is like you read my mind.... what am I thinking now
You wanna sandwich??
NOW that is what I am thinking about...
the answer was sex.0 -
Food, sex and some kind of recreational activity ie. sports, wood working, movies, music....whatever works. other than that, it is us women that are the complicated creatures. Men=Simplicity! :bigsmile:0
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Yaaaay furthering base stereotypes!!!0
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Yaaaay furthering base stereotypes!!!
WHAT?!? That doesn't happen here!0 -
Thank goodness for the google...I had to look up the word "stereotype".Yaaaay furthering base stereotypes!!!0 -
Thank goodness for the google...I had to look up the word "stereotype".Yaaaay furthering base stereotypes!!!
Shhhh... put away that internet machine and go back to your sandwiches and sex wanting, simple creature!0 -
Thank goodness for the google...I had to look up the word "stereotype".Yaaaay furthering base stereotypes!!!
Shhhh... put away that internet machine and go back to your sandwiches and sex wanting, simple creature!
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Lol- this thing looks like one of the mucinex creatures!0 -
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WHAT!!!! Men would rather pursue porn than real women? Maybe some men, but I know alot who are looking for a "normal" woman who isnt looking to change them, accept them for who they are. Men like porn cause it doesnt ***** at them when they want to watch football.0
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Thank goodness for the google...I had to look up the word "stereotype".Yaaaay furthering base stereotypes!!!
Shhhh... put away that internet machine and go back to your sandwiches and sex wanting, simple creature!
:laugh: :laugh:0 -
Stereotypes?
We men-folk typically love all manner of stereo equipment!
We can talk about stereo types for hours!0 -
I grew up in a house that was male dominant. I have my mom and my grandmothers, but that was pretty much it. Guys really aren't that hard to figure out. They like to feel good and are believers in instant gratification.
Why did he stop calling?? Because he didn't enjoy talking to you anymore
Why isn't he having sex with me?? Unless he has a medical problem, he either wasn't attracted or it wasn't fun enough
He treats me like a girlfriend but won't call me that, why? He doesn't want to be tied down, if he wanted to, you'd be GF
Why does he leave his s**t laying around for me to pick up? Because you keep picking it up...and alot of men are slobs
Those are just examples. There are exceptions here as men can be clueless sometimes....simple to a fault. See ladies alot of this falls on our shoulders. Most of what he does or doesn't do reflects on what WE do or don't do.
Feel secure with your man but he isn't romantic or chivilrous anymore? He stopped DOING it when you stopped DEMANDING it
They want to be told what to do, preferrably with written instructions and photos. They want lots of praise whether he built a house, or tied his shoelaces. Most positive reinforcement should come in food or sexual form.
I hope this helps my friends!
There's my girl! Tell it like it is sista!!!!0 -
Shhhh... put away that internet machine and go back to your sandwiches and sex wanting, simple creature!
sex wanting...Ha...i think I just peed a little!!0
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