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chickadee2010

I could do a whole page of vents, I hate that everyone thinks just because I'm a stay at home mom that I don't do anything, really people????? Also I'm not a free babysister just because I'm home during the week, don't get me wrong I don't mind helping someone out here and there but I get asked all the time.
My other big one is how everyone rolls there eyes when I measure out something or read a label, yes I want to know how and what is going in my mouth. I don't know why it bothers everyone so much.
My last one will be how people think just because I'm trying to get my family to eat healthy with me that I'm putting my kids on a diet. ITS NOT A DIET ITS HEALTHY WAY OF LIVING. The thing is my kids aren't complaining its everyone else, its usually for something like pop, I don't drink it and I don't allow my kids too but everyone thinks it is just horrible not to let them have it.

The label thing, I agree with that. They always roll their eyes when I look to see how many calories is in things.

lilRicki

But what I really hate is people treating my kids funny cuz of the way I dress and the music I listen to.I hate when people act like I cant be a good mom because I like black and crazy music

I get judged too...I look young, to young for an 8 year old boy...plus I'm covered in tattoos and piercings...but little do they know I have 7 years of university, a fantastic job making more money than I ever have before, and a super conservative boyfriend...so up theirs...I find this especially when I go in for parent teacher interviews...they talk to me like I'm an idiot...so when I start whipping out the psychology terms they look at me like I have two heads..."weren't expecting that one were ya!"...I am VERY involved in my child's academic career, hence the reason why I do all his Individual Action Plans, and homework with him every night...I'm a single step-mom, cut me some slack!

CricketKate

I could do a whole page of vents, I hate that everyone thinks just because I'm a stay at home mom that I don't do anything, really people????? Also I'm not a free babysister just because I'm home during the week, don't get me wrong I don't mind helping someone out here and there but I get asked all the time.
My other big one is how everyone rolls there eyes when I measure out something or read a label, yes I want to know how and what is going in my mouth. I don't know why it bothers everyone so much.
My last one will be how people think just because I'm trying to get my family to eat healthy with me that I'm putting my kids on a diet. ITS NOT A DIET ITS HEALTHY WAY OF LIVING. The thing is my kids aren't complaining its everyone else, its usually for something like pop, I don't drink it and I don't allow my kids too but everyone thinks it is just horrible not to let them have it.

I was just going to vent about people who think that a stay at home mom doesn't work. My day starts at 5 am because that is the only time I have to exercise. Between driving kids to preschool, dance, dr visits, volunteering at school, speech therapy, eye visits, etc . . . I am never home. I have been home for only an hour today (split into 3 different segments). When my hubby get home, he will discover a sink full of dishes, a couch full of laundry waiting to be folded, and crabby children who needed naps but didn't get them becuase we had too many places to be today. I hate Tuesday!

tater8589

I belong to a facebook group called "I secretly want to punch slow walking people in the back of the head" Does that count?


Seriously though. I am considerably grouchier lately. Annnd more verbal about the things that I am grouchy about. I just decided to take a chill pill and realize that my perception may be a little skewed with all the new changes in my life. I get advice from people at work on a daily basis...not asked for, and some are certainly annoying, but if they feel they need to share their knowledge, I am patient. Then I usually just laugh about it later.

BAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!:laugh: :laugh: I totaly agree with punching slow walking people in the back of the head. I have long legs and it physicaly pains me to take tiny little baby steps behind them when I'm trying not to step on them. Can we punch the parents who don't control their kids and glare at you when you almost run over the rug rat that jumped infront of you. No offense to any parents here, but seriously I was never allowed to act that way and I turned out just fine. OH OH, I also want to punch my husbands ex-- she really needs to move the hell on.

tater8589

I could do a whole page of vents, I hate that everyone thinks just because I'm a stay at home mom that I don't do anything, really people????? Also I'm not a free babysister just because I'm home during the week, don't get me wrong I don't mind helping someone out here and there but I get asked all the time.
My other big one is how everyone rolls there eyes when I measure out something or read a label, yes I want to know how and what is going in my mouth. I don't know why it bothers everyone so much.
My last one will be how people think just because I'm trying to get my family to eat healthy with me that I'm putting my kids on a diet. ITS NOT A DIET ITS HEALTHY WAY OF LIVING. The thing is my kids aren't complaining its everyone else, its usually for something like pop, I don't drink it and I don't allow my kids too but everyone thinks it is just horrible not to let them have it.

Some people are just ignorant, I wouldn't drink soda as a kid. I don't remember what it was for, but my dr told my mom once to give me soda for something and ended up having to give me a RX anyway cause I refused to drink soda. Some people just don't like it, and kids tend to do what their parents do, so there is nothing wrong with them liking healthy food and disliking soda. I was a strange kid and would also ask for fruit instead of candy a lot of the time, just personal preference.

abyt42

I get really annoyed when I cook a meal and then by the time I set down everyone else has their plates already filled ready to eat away. I haven't even made it to the table yet! Then, when they finish eating before me, they just get up and leave me there.

I'm tempted to quit cooking for them. GRRrrrr....

I am totally in agreement... When I was growing up, the rule in our house was that the cook didn't have to clear or do the dinner dishes (my parents were "wash up as you go" cooks). I think that's a perfectly reasonable rule. Instituting both portions of that rule is a challenge for me.

Kminor67

I get really annoyed when I cook a meal and then by the time I set down everyone else has their plates already filled ready to eat away. I haven't even made it to the table yet! Then, when they finish eating before me, they just get up and leave me there.

I'm tempted to quit cooking for them. GRRrrrr....

This SERIOUSLY pisses me off. :mad: Makes you feel taken for granted. :grumble: I would tell them that they have to set the table, and then once dinner is ready, make THEM bring it to the table for YOU! This way you get to sit for a few. Either that or go on STRIKE! I would not put up with this for one second! :explode:

HMKan

This thread is going to stay just as high in my My Topics section as my NSV thread! I love it.

I get so riled up when people assume their way of thinking is superior to others just because it's their way of thinking. How freaking arrogant are you? It especially bothers me on this site, when people - who think they know everything about everyone and every body type - jump down other people's throats for trying certain diets they might not approve of. Give people the space to do what they want, just like you're allowed to do! You don't know their circumstances. Who are you to judge!

HMKan

I get really annoyed when I cook a meal and then by the time I set down everyone else has their plates already filled ready to eat away. I haven't even made it to the table yet! Then, when they finish eating before me, they just get up and leave me there.

I'm tempted to quit cooking for them. GRRrrrr....

This SERIOUSLY pisses me off. :mad: Makes you feel taken for granted. :grumble: I would tell them that they have to set the table, and then once dinner is ready, make THEM bring it to the table for YOU! This way you get to sit for a few. Either that or go on STRIKE! I would not put up with this for one second! :explode:

I'm almost 30 now, but even when I go back home to my parents house for holidays I am totally guilty of this. Granted, my mom always tells us to, but it's probably only because she's resigned herself that it'll happen anyway. I will pay more attention and be careful not to fill my plate until everyone is seated. Thanks for this perspective!

Jessica_Lo

let's add.......you have such a pretty face....if you could just lose your weight.....

and what I'd like to say is.... you'd be much nicer...if you could just lose your tongue.

LMFAO Ok that one was good. Thanks. Needed that.

fitmom4ever

Ok, so I know this rant may be a little controversial on a weight loss site, but it's been on my mind and I need to get it off, so here goes.....
I hate how people who have a lot of weight to lose look at me with disgust when I join a conversation about weight loss. They claim to belong to gyms and groups that will support anyone trying to lose weight, but if I walk into one of their support groups I get rolled eyes and dirty looks. Just because I only have 10 pounds to lose does not make my weight loss any less significant or difficult than yours.
I feel just as badly about my body and my health as some of them do, and struggle constantly to eat right and exercise, often failing. I get no support at home, especially since my DH and DD are practically underweight and are actually trying to gain weight right now. And I feel totally shut out from the weight loss support groups at the local gym due to the reactions of most of the members there who have 40 plus pounds to lose. What happened to the 'support' when I walked through the door?
I'm just glad I found this site and really hope this place is different from all my previous experiences.

Caffeinewitch

the problem: Slow metabolism

the rant/vent:
I have been strict (but not too strict) on my calories, on my exercise, and on my water. I have been good about fruits and vegetables and whole grains, and cutting down sugar, and cutting down sodium, ad nauseum. I trawl the forum here for advice, (like a fish trawler, not an internet troll), I change my diet to see different results.

i do cardio, I do weight lifting, I'm on the C25K, I do war games on the weekends.

and I have lost 15 pounds in 4 months.
FIFTEEN POUNDS.
I am NOT a small person! I have a lot to lose and right now I'm stuck at the pace where I can't even lose 5 pounds a month no matter how hard I try!
Slow and steady?! I feel like I'm going so slow I'm going BACKWARDS. I could scream and cry and curse the sky but where am I left? Alone, crying, miserable, and hoarse. and fat.
I am 24 and I have the metabolism of a 50 year old! I drink tea, I eat cayenne in my oatmeal (quite good actually), fibre bars, I walk as much as I can at work, I can't remember the last time I really truly threw caution to the wind and pigged the heck out..

And what's more? I've lost 25 pounds since I bought the jeans that I am wearing right this moment and they are STILL snug. SNUG LIKE THE DAY I BOUGHT THEM.

I still huff and puff after going up 3 flights of stairs, every day.
Every day I wake up, check the scale and say "I'm still doing this, I'm working hard, the weight will come off" but today feels like one of those days where I am lying to myself.

I can't even entertain the idea of giving up now.

But I can still be mad.

sarakaufman

I know how you feel! One time i was in the grocery store getting lunch and i got about a 1/2 cup of macaroni salad and this lady who i've never met before leans over to me and says...we'll you're certainly not going to lose weight that way are you. i was really insulted and I didn't want to eat anymore after hearing that

I so would of told her off in front of everybody. people are so rude. Unbeliveable don't you wish you could just scream when you meet someone who is that rude.

sdwelk11

So tired of coming home from working all day and then going to school at night and finding my house to be a mess! My Husband and I dont have children but we do have his elderly Mom and Step dad living with us.
His stepdad is such a pig!!! On top of the fact that he thinks that my Mother In Law is his personal maid, he wastes electricity. he leaves things running and lights on and when i opened my Electric Bill it was almost $500!!!!!!!!!! When they weren't living with us it was an average of $250!! that is double!!!!!! I cannot stand the man but they seem to come as a packaged deal. I am very open about how i feel about him and he knows it. I have a long list of reasons but mostly because he is a lazy worthless lump! I can't kick him out because she will go with him and she cannot afford to live anywhere else because they dont have much money which is why they live with us.
The messiness within my home isnt my Hubby because he is just as big of a clean freak as me! It is all my father in law and I feel bad that my Mother in law thinks that it is her fault that she didn't do a good enough job at cleaning up after her pig when i come home angry! Once i am done with Nursing school I am kicking them out with my financial assistance for them to live somewhere else on their own because I am going insane with them in my house!

sdwelk11

So tired of coming home from working all day and then going to school at night and finding my house to be a mess! My Husband and I dont have children but we do have his elderly Mom and Step dad living with us.
His stepdad is such a pig!!! On top of the fact that he thinks that my Mother In Law is his personal maid, he wastes electricity. he leaves things running and lights on and when i opened my Electric Bill it was almost $500!!!!!!!!!! When they weren't living with us it was an average of $250!! that is double!!!!!! I cannot stand the man but they seem to come as a packaged deal. I am very open about how i feel about him and he knows it. I have a long list of reasons but mostly because he is a lazy worthless lump! I can't kick him out because she will go with him and she cannot afford to live anywhere else because they dont have much money which is why they live with us.
The messiness within my home isnt my Hubby because he is just as big of a clean freak as me! It is all my father in law and I feel bad that my Mother in law thinks that it is her fault that she didn't do a good enough job at cleaning up after her pig when i come home angry! Once i am done with Nursing school I am kicking them out with my financial assistance for them to live somewhere else on their own because I am going insane with them in my house!

vero_1

I want to start screaming (and slapping fools around) every time people who have not seen me in a while (we are talking YEARS here) come up to me and the first thing that comes out of their mouth is "Oh my, what happened to you? Last time I saw you you were so small and fit! You used to have a really nice body!" or "Wow, you gained weight!"... All I want to say is "Wow you got old!" or "Wow, you got uglier"... or "Wow, how rude are you??"
Then they go on to tell me how everyone tells them THEY have not changed and I just have to bite my lip to stop from asking "Have you looked at tyour self in the mirror??"

sarakaufman

OK Got a new Vent entirely off the food subject. When my kids get invited to a party/gathering with only a few days notice and no official invitation. :grumble: Now I am supposed to jump up and get them there What happened to the good old days when if you wanted someone to come you send them an invitation with plenty of notice

Totally agree my son does the same thing to me. oh mom i have a party to go to get a present like 2 days before. that just makes me pissed.

chickadee2010

I seriously posted something on here a few hours, but I don't guess it went through. Blah internet. I'll try to remember...

I was eating lunch today and reading at house, smiling at the cute parts. Someone says "Stop laughing/smiling, people are going to think you're crazy."

tater8589

I seriously posted something on here a few hours, but I don't guess it went through. Blah internet. I'll try to remember...

I was eating lunch today and reading at house, smiling at the cute parts. Someone says "Stop laughing/smiling, people are going to think you're crazy."

I do that all the time. One night I was reading the last Twilight and laughing out loud about the blond jokes, my husband had to ask me what was so funny I distracted him fom his video game.

chickadee2010

I seriously posted something on here a few hours, but I don't guess it went through. Blah internet. I'll try to remember...

I was eating lunch today and reading at house, smiling at the cute parts. Someone says "Stop laughing/smiling, people are going to think you're crazy."

I do that all the time. One night I was reading the last Twilight and laughing out loud about the blond jokes, my husband had to ask me what was so funny I distracted him fom his video game.

LOL. I absolutely love Twilight! I've read it over and over again, and am currently reading it. Thanks, though, that made me feel better about it.

sandmart2009

We ate at a Chinese restaurant one time - cheat day for me as it was Sunday - for lunch. And here's this retard on the next table - she was just yakking away wiith a very loud voice, it was impossible not to hear her and she would point out each and every calorie content everybody had on their plates. It was so disgusting, I was almost tempted to shove my crab rangoon down her throat.

dmoses

I AM SO TIRED... tired of watching every bit of food that goes into my mouth. tired of exercising like a fiend. my husband eats candy corn during the day (yes, candy corn?!?!), has a salad with full fat spicy ranch dressing (my favorite), a cakey chocolate cookie with both chocolate AND vanilla frosting added to it, and he loses 2 1/2 lbs. i barely eat my 1200 calories, work out every night after work, and the scales stay the same. not that i'm trying to lose more, but i have to work so hard just to stay where i am. I AM SO TIRED....

kareokemom5

I am tired of waiting for my family to agree to change out lifestyle. That is why I joined mfp yesterday. My husband and son are the worst because when I start changing the way we eat and things that are brought into the house they are the first to start gripping. I also have a sister that lives with us. She is 24 and weighs over 400lbs. I have tried so desperately to get her to start this journey with me and she just doesn't seem interested. I worry about her a lot. I also have four daughters. The oldest is overweight about 75lbs. She is not interested either, but she is only 17 and that is a tough age anyway.
I decided that sometimes you just don't know what is good for you. My family is going to have to submit to a healthier lifestyle or find themselves cooking and eating alone for a while. It is my time to do for me! I have been letting my self go for far to long in order to tend to them!

LUV2CRUZ

It is hard to believe how many rude people are out there! Once, I worked with this girl who was very slim and she was always complaining about her weight, One day, I looked at her really closely and I said, "you know, your butt is gettin kinda big". I thought she was going to have a heart attack right there!

If I'm next to someone at the gym showing off how much smaller and faster they are, I just say....you should slow down, this is how I lost my first 100 lbs! And you can use that anytime people have an attitude about your weight. Just say, wow...really....I can't imagine how I lost 100 lbs eating like this!!

Who's gonna know??? :laugh:

HMKan

:grumble: Why is it that when I go to the gym and get on ANY cardio equipment, that someone who runs extremely fast and weighs NOTHING always gets beside me?? There's always tons of other equipment available when this happens!

Do they prey on big slow people?? Does it make them feel better to be beside someone slow? lmao!! GRRRrrr!! Go away so I can sweat and breathe hard alone! :grumble:

This is precisely why I set up a home gym. I mean, I realize its not for everybody, but we had the space and found deals on the equipment. Now I get to run/elliptical, etc. in the comfort of my own basement, with my own fan blowing on me and my own television right in front of the machines. Nobody sitting on a bike that's set up behind my treadmill watching my butt jiggle while they work out. That was the worst!

That_Girl

My daughters and I are vegetarian..which means my husband is when he's at home. He doesn't mind. I make awesome meals.

But people seem to be offended that I don't meat. For some reason, they believe my meatfree life gives them the right to comment on me and my child.

"They can't be healthy". Actually, they are. In fact, they are super healthy and have strived since birth.

"But you eat eggs." What is hard to understand? Were eggs once alive? Where they meat? No.

I do eat fish and get even more comments on that!

I just love the comments about my children. My girls who are perfectly proportioned, are not anemic, and are thriving.



I wish people would just STFU. It's no one's dang business.

chickadee2010

My daughters and I are vegetarian..which means my husband is when he's at home. He doesn't mind. I make awesome meals.

But people seem to be offended that I don't meat. For some reason, they believe my meatfree life gives them the right to comment on me and my child.

"They can't be healthy". Actually, they are. In fact, they are super healthy and have strived since birth.

"But you eat eggs." What is hard to understand? Were eggs once alive? Where they meat? No.

I do eat fish and get even more comments on that!

I just love the comments about my children. My girls who are perfectly proportioned, are not anemic, and are thriving.



I wish people would just STFU. It's no one's dang business.

People always have to comment that I don't eat much meat. I eat it when I feel like eating it, but people find some reason to complain that I don't eat it, when I really do.

HMKan

What? No vents in the last 20 hours? This is my favorite page to read

Here's another one, it's similar to my last one but it's still bugging me. I'm so tired of people being condescening on here. It's meant to be a supportive environment. People have found what works for them with their weight loss and they think its "the answer" and want to push it onto everyone else. Everyone has their OWN answer for what works for them. I was on a thread where someone was asking how people can have so much trouble eating their 1200 calories a day (net) and so people presented reasons for both sides. Well, in response, others chimed in with implications that those people who can't meet it are either anorexic or have an eating disorder, or they are lying about how much they're eating, or they're trying to get attention by claiming they're having trouble, or they're messed up in the head because they think eating over 1200 calories makes them fat.

It frustrates me when people tear down others. Especially in an environment where we're exposing our deepest darkest secrets (our weight and our stuggles in losing it) and we're at our most vulnerable. I'd hate it if this site caused someone to gain their weight back.

Ahhhh. Much better.

chickadee2010

What? No vents in the last 20 hours? This is my favorite page to read

Me, too!

toots99

This was my vent from yesterday: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/162547-i-wish-i-had-my-own-private-gym