What are some ways to Spice up a relationship???

emtink

Your guys sounds like he either has serious depression issues, or is manipulating you emotionally. Threatening to kill himself if you leave does not equal a healthy relationship. From my own experience with a similar waaaaay too co-dependent relationship, the best thing you can do, for BOTH of you, is break it off. He needs to learn to be happy with himself. You probably need to learn to not be a 'fixer'. I know its not easy, but sometime you have to be selfish and do what's best for you, even if it temporarily hurts him. And if he seriously threatens suicide when you try to leave, call the police. He'll either cop to faking, or get the help he needs.

Keep your chin up!:flowerforyou:
em

SUPREMENOTORIOUS

Its hard because I dont have anyone else in my life that I can really talk about anything. My sisters are not talking to me. My friend has her own problems and she's got a baby coming. all my other friends i have not spoke to in a while, because I was busy or they were busy. He is the only one that i could talk to about anything. I will try to do whats best... and that is to leave him.

emtink

be strong. when my co-dependent ex and i broke up, i didn't really have anyone else either. but after we finished, i reconnected with old friends and made new ones. and i think its a good thing to learn to deal with stuff on your own. now is the time to really choose the people you want in your life, the ones who really support and love you.

FitJoani

In reading deeper dear take the advice of these wise in the ways of the world women and say see ya!!!! You can do better someone who values you as a person not a payday sweetie he is taking advantage of you...

SUPREMENOTORIOUS

Thank you all for your support. I appreciate it very much. Now I feel way better about this situation.

FitJoani

Thank you all for your support. I appreciate it very much. Now I feel way better about this situation.

Great to hear you are making a positive lifestyle change by being on here and getting healthy so why not shed that extra wt we are all glad to help

emtink

Thank you all for your support. I appreciate it very much. Now I feel way better about this situation.

Great to hear you are making a positive lifestyle change by being on here and getting healthy so why not shed that extra wt we are all glad to help

Yep, my ex weighed a good 220! That's a lot of excess weight!:laugh:

casey34472

Call him set a date. Movie, dinner or bowling or whatever you like to do. Make it like your first date. If you live together get ready before he gets home and go somewhere so he can get ready for the date then meet up where you told him to meet you. Its just a idea.

flachix

looks like we have covered all the angles!!:laugh: You might find it easier to EASE him out of your life rather than just dump him. it will be less tramatic for you and give him time to show what he is made of. be busy for a few days, then a week, then a few weeks. you know what I mean. You have a job, and other friends and school, see him occassionally. If he needs a ride, you needn't always be available. Write off the tons of money he owes you as a learning experience and gently move away from him emotionally. You don't have to make a big deal out of it, don't have to lay down the law or give ultimatiums or anything like that if you don't want to. take it the best way for you. and good luck

areason4stars

I was in a very very similar situation. Leaving him was the hardest thing I have done in my ilfe up to that point. It does get better. ((hugs)))


My therapist reccomened The book Codependence no more. It really is a good book.