So my wife texted me...

shorerider

If it wasn't for BBCAmercia, I don't know what we'd watch on the 'telly."

We watch Bargain Hunt, Cash in the Attic, You are What you Eat, BBC World News, and Top Gear (hubby loves Top Gear!) to just name a few.

Oh, and our favorites are Keeping up Appearances (we adore Onslow! My hubby's unofficial motto has become "Born Again Bone-Idle"!) and Vicar of Dibley!! (no, no,no,no, yes!)

ohthatbambi

Albert, there are consequences to actions...let her suffer the consequences. I am a woman. I would like to think that I am not spiteful so simply based on the fact that she vowed to be your wife forever and then ran off with someone else--oh well. Let him pay her bills. If it is in her name then it is NOT your debt to pay. Tell her to scram and let her new beau pay her debts.

NO MORE MISTER NICE GUY. She obviously knows how to pull your strings. Don't let her.

I have not read all the other posts, so I don't know what advice was given. So this is just my two cents. Don't give her a dime!

ohthatbambi

Well with regards to the stuff, the last that was said, via email i might add, was that we would each make a list and then compare and then try and agree on stuff we both wanted, I have had no further contact from her until now.

The debt is all in her name and she said she would pay the monies she recieved in error £1600 and i was going to pay the 300 odd quid council tax, but tried and found out it was all in her name so couldn't do much. If its her debt i'll happily leave her have it.

Also there is a bond that a recieved from the flat (appartment) we rented, now she recons half of that is hers, does it mean anything that while we were together i paid all the bills the rent and everything?

Who's name was on the lease or rental contract? If it is your name then it is your money. If it is both of you then I suppose you should split it.

ali106

Albert, there are consequences to actions...let her suffer the consequences. I am a woman. I would like to think that I am not spiteful so simply based on the fact that she vowed to be your wife forever and then ran off with someone else--oh well. Let him pay her bills. If it is in her name then it is NOT your debt to pay. Tell her to scram and let her new beau pay her debts.

NO MORE MISTER NICE GUY. She obviously knows how to pull your strings. Don't let her.

I have not read all the other posts, so I don't know what advice was given. So this is just my two cents. Don't give her a dime!

Go bamboo!!! woot woot!!! amen!

hugs Al!!! thinking of ya!!

ali106

:frown: our poor Al!!!!!:brokenheart:

Dude...i will come to Wales just to kick her butt and leave....all ninja like...just say the word my sweet!



hugs and
ali

Al's gonna use that money to buy you a (one way) ticket to Wales now. :laugh:

YEAH!, did i mension i'm minted? lol

:drinker: ....ah when do you need me??? lol

kimber607

Hi again

I hear ya, BUT I think while you are legally married it doesn't matter who's paying the bills or what (if she was at home, unemployed)
Everything is viewed as 50/50
(I think)
So, in that case if u got a deposit back for the apartment, she should get half
It all makes sense legally, but I can imagine how difficult it is adding in your emotions (the details of what happened)

Kim

teachparents

I can speak from a paralegal point of view thought it would be canadian law and i'm not sure that would help...

you were married, so any debts would be debts of the marriage no matter whos name it's in...

if you were common law, it would be different.

If I were you, i would research the law for your state online, write down any statutes, regulations or legislation that backs up your position and send her a letter with that as back up info...

then tell her you expect her to hold up her responsibilites, if not any further contact will be with your lawyer....

unfortunately at least in canadian law, debts to family are hard to prove unless there was a written signed agreement for repayment... (never lend to family with out one!!!!!)

hope i was helpful.. good luck,,, as a divorce ee 2x , once forced into bankruptcy due to his debts, i wish you all the best.. and as far as her behaviour, be the bigger person,, you will be rewarded in the end.