Hurtful comments that have motivated you...

MelissaE27

I had a guy once when I was on a dating site ... I posted current pics and so forth and I told him I was a bigger girl and he said you are beautiful in your pics I dont care. Well we decided to meet and as I got out of the car I got a text from him saying *sorry not my type* I was crushed that someone would be that mean...it opened my eyes and made me see what I needed I to do and also opened my eyes to how people judge.....

That is a guy you are waaaay better off without! We can lose weight...but you can't fix a jerk.

I agree 100 percent! I cried all the way home not because of him but because I actually thought that because of my weight I would never fall in love or MOSTLY that no one can love someone like me that was overweight... and something ppl dont understand is that there are reasons your have gained weight... mine was a health issue I had a migraine stroke that caused me to be down and out for almost a year.... so I gained all my weight... but ppl judge too quickly ... So insead of doing it for someone else.. My mind set is to DO IT FOR ME

toots99

I had a guy once when I was on a dating site ... I posted current pics and so forth and I told him I was a bigger girl and he said you are beautiful in your pics I dont care. Well we decided to meet and as I got out of the car I got a text from him saying *sorry not my type* I was crushed that someone would be that mean...it opened my eyes and made me see what I needed I to do and also opened my eyes to how people judge.....

That is a guy you are waaaay better off without! We can lose weight...but you can't fix a jerk.

I agree 100 percent! I cried all the way home not because of him but because I actually thought that because of my weight I would never fall in love or MOSTLY that no one can love someone like me that was overweight... and something ppl dont understand is that there are reasons your have gained weight... mine was a health issue I had a migraine stroke that caused me to be down and out for almost a year.... so I gained all my weight... but ppl judge too quickly ... So insead of doing it for someone else.. My mind set is to DO IT FOR ME

Awesome attitude!

jadesign19

I was at a party with my husband and a very dear and sweet friend said "what's it like being with a husband who's so much skinnier than you?" I played it off because I knew she didn't mean it to be hurtful. But it's true, he is so much skinnier than I am, he's fit too. That is what motivates me now. Because I knew people were thinking about how heavy I've gotten. I was in denial myself. Now I'm getting biceps and my abs back.

ccorona

That was really crappy of him to say that. What a great way to show him he missed out!

Manda1987

It's a lifelong thing for me.

Grade 5/6 - The boys in my class gave me the nickname "Obese Chipmunk" because I was slightly pudgy and had a weird laugh. I stopped laughing, developed a binge eating disorder and started hoarding the food from my uneaten lunches in my closet.

Grade 7/8 - My parents started padlocking the cupboard with the cookies in it instead of talking to me about why I was eating so much. (Not a comment, but definitely hurtful!)

Grade 10 - My dad called me a sow, and told me that my gut was hanging out. This was shortly before I got my black belt in karate... I had the beginnings of abs! He did Atkins for the first time and lost 50 lbs.

Grade 12 - My 400 lb doctor told me that I was going to end up diabetic because I weighed 175 lbs at age 17. Was powerwalking/jogging every morning before school, doing free weights for an hour every day, training at my dojo 5-6 days a week and was eating one meal a day because I hated eating in front of people.

4 years ago - Was told that the reason I was depressed was because I was overweight, and if I lost weight it would go away. I went from 220 lbs to 170 lbs, got worse.

2 years ago - Was on vacation with my family, walking through a mall. My (overweight) mother was pointing out all the things my 130 lb sister could wear and look adorable in. Then she said "Oh, look, Amanda... It's those Spanx things. I hear they're great!". This was a year after I started an antidepressant that made me gain 60 lbs.

A month ago - My sister and I were joking around while on vacation. She asked if I needed to borrow her straightener: I said "I can't do that... I might end up hotter than you, and then I'd take all the boys' attention away from you." My mom said "I don't think she needs to worry about that." My sister was more shocked and offended than I was!

I am very fortunate, though. My fiance has never once criticized me (only helped me). I have a friend who couldn't have weighed more than 145-150 lbs at most. Her husband is 6'2" and weighs 130 lbs. He was cruel to her until she lost weight, and a total jerk to me! We've stopped hanging around with them, because now they're both incredibly judgmental.

forthefab5

One time at a pot-luck party- lot's of people were there and we all sat at a big table- one of these women sat accross me with her plate piled up like a mountain of food. i guess she got embaressed for having that much food on her plate and she started " talking herself out of it " so she said out loud : - wow ... i have soooo much food on my plate, if i really would eat all of this, i .. i i would end up like you ( looking straight in my face ) with a " polite smile " on her face ..
i just looked at her and usually i don't have trouble saying something but i was so cought and schoked - i couldn't respond.. my friend was next to me so she told her " what did you just say " .. so they kept talking and arguing.. i was kind of " out " couldn't believe what she told me in my face- in a huge gathering like that !?!?

While i was on WW- i was losing quite a bit of weight and a friend asked me once " how much have you lost now " i told her.. about 30 lbs- and she said " wow.. if you keep going like that you will look almost better than i do " !!'

yeah.. sometimes people just don't thnik before they speak .. i can't say i have never misspoken but i have never intentionally hurt people like that ..

also - i had twins.. so a month later after my delivery - went to the dr. for a check -up , met someone on the way there - she asked me " when are you due ? " .. i said- the babies are home.. one month old !

and so on..

That's horrible, sometimes you can tell when a person deliberately says something to hurt and rile you up!

I had the same problem... I had twins too and a few weeks after they were born I was asked to sign a petition to put a lift at our local train station... especially since I was pregnant, I would need it to get up the stairs... lol, I just gave her a look and said "I'm not pregnant..." The lady backed up pretty quickly but I still signed her petition since it was a good cause (and I'd probably need it for my pram... Hahahaha

chickadee2010

I am very fortunate, though. My fiance has never once criticized me (only helped me).

That makes me happy that people are cool like that. :happy:

SyreetaJayne1

My husband, when i asked him why he never liked any of the girls that liked him before we met, replied that they were all fat. boy that made me feel great at 60 pounds heavier than when we married.

My mom told me, when i was around 160ish (after a comment to me about how some skinny girl was checking out my husband), that if i didn't lose weight i might lose my husband.

None of these motivated me, i realized that i had to be motivated by my own well being or my results will never stick.

louramaille

When i was in High school i was 105lbs and my grandmother raised me while my parents worked. I moved away for a few years and came back 220 lbs. My grandmothers comment, in the sweetest little old lady voice......:
" i want my pretty girl back ".

NOLAdy

My brother used to tease me and that's probably the reason I get so intense and focused on meeting my goals. It's funny because at one point in my early 20's I was too thin and he gave me grief for that as well. Now we both have the same interests as far as health and fitness goes so it's all good, but his teasing did carve a little notch into my psyche.

Wandami

"Well, you have a pretty face",,,,,,,,,"Your neck looks smaller".........=(

p_cakes

I've always been a bigger girl. I'm 5'3" and I weighed about 170-175 all through high school and my highest has been 197. I've lost about 8lbs since I started doing this.

I've had many comments, the one that stands out the most was about a year ago I think.
My boyfriend and I were in bass Pro(his fav. Store) I was wearing this yellow dress that I LOVED, it gathered right under my chest area and then just kind of flowed down from there. I never thought it made me look horrible, I actually though it helped hide my stomach, whole reason I bought it. So, we are walking around and my stomach was hurting a bit. I wasn't holding it, but I had moved my hand over my stomach (like most people do when they have a stomach ache) and this lady that worked there walked by and goes" Oh when are you due?" I just kind of stared at her. I was like " I'm not." I have not worn that dress since then and i really can't wait to wear it this summer! I loved that dress.

I've had many more but that one stuck out the most.

krisvtx8777

Yes, my good friend told me "Well you do somewhat have what everyone calls "thunder thighs".

nlewis22

What a total *kitten*!!! Holy crap, I would have punched him so hard! Seriously?! That just makes me mad for you!!! IDIOT... I'll be ranting for a while now and I don't even know him! Gggggrrrrrrr.....
- To the woman who's quote said that a guy wouldn't date her b/c he was afraid he'd get smothered by her stomach...

rottentreats

Some of this makes me laugh... sorry.

Be the bigger person (LOL jk) and just brush off the words. If they are harmful, that is all they are, words. No need to let them stick and bother you or even have any meaning. They are probably just jealous.

syd1980

my mamaw noticed i had lost 20 pounds . as i went to say thank you she replied, but you still got 40 more to lose. what do you say to that? so i used them words , and went on to lose 115 .

koosdel

I had company last night. For dinner I cooked 6oz steaks, baked potatoes, and salads for the guests while I had two 9 oz steaks a plain baked potato and a protein shake.

One guest, who is in good shape, mentioned that "I wish I could eat anything and not gain weight..." then went on to complain about how annoying it was for her to see people "eat, and eat, and eat, but never gain any weight."

I didn't respond, but I couldn't help day dreaming about saying something rude. Later in the evening we found ourselves in the game room, and she saw my weightlifting equipment.

I was hoping she would redeem herself from the dinner comment, but no such luck. Instead, she began whining about how fit she could be if she had the spare time to go to a gym. I didn't respond then either.

Sigh....

A_New_Horizon

I have heard comments my whole life being on the bigger side. I know one of my crushes in high school wouldn't take me to the prom because I was "too big" for his image. It hurt deeply, but here I am 22 lbs down and more to go.

I also like being told (which I heard multiple times) you will never lose the weight because you don't have motivation. Well, I have been proving them wrong every day for over 4 months now.

scribblesitm

My friend changed her ring tone to 'I like big butts' for when I call. That and the comment she made about my cankles...

jadedjade24

A couple days ago I was out with some friends and my fiance. Our best friend was sitting in the back with one of my other friends and he said 'Well, you do have a way of taking up space." I have always been sensitive about my weight. I was never one of the skinny girls, I always had a belly and what some people liked to refer to my *kitten* as a 'Ghetto Booty'. I laughed, knowing that he just called me fat but I gues it really kind of hit home when my other friend that was sitting in the back seat with him said, 'Did you just call her fat?' and he said 'uh huh' and they both broke out laughing. That stuff really hurts. Esp since him, James and I all go to the gym together to get back in shape. I never tease him about his weight, ever.

Or when I was getting xhanged to go out dancing that same night. I was putting on my leggings in front of one of my gay friends and I said, 'Pardon my changing' and he goes, 'Its ok, Ive seen my fair share of cottage cheese for a life time, I walked in on my room mate naked on the couch this morning.'

I know I got a little bit of a problem with my thighs that I am hoping will go away on I start to lose some weight, but that comment was enough to go and make me put them on in the bathroom.

emmaleigh47

I was thinking of doing a half marathon and one of my coworkers told me the only way I could complete a half marathon is if someone was on a bike in front of me dangling a doughnut in front of my face all the way to the finish line. I was more motivated then ever and finished my first half and made sure to dangle the medal right in his face! I have completed a total of 5 with my 6th one in two weeks!

OMG I would have freaking punched that person at that time. Im a nice person and all, but that was a low blow. I heard alot of, "Are you crazy and "do heavier people actually run half marathons" and "do you think there will be anyone your size at the race"

None of those comments I thought were appropriate, but because they were just stupid ignorant people, I just let them get away with it...

emmaleigh47

My friend changed her ring tone to 'I like big butts' for when I call. That and the comment she made about my cankles...

ROFL ... ok not really funny, but that did make me laugh ... I would change your ring tone when she calls to be Family Guy "Im a tumor" thats what my best friends ex husbands ring tone is when he calls!

kingkimi1213

Ive been told I look like a trailer park owner because of my weight
Also my husband is super skinny so about once a month I have someone tell me I "could take him" like overpower him and such.

NO.

Every since I started losing weight the one about my husband and I have subsided. To be quite honest I havent always been big, almost half my life I was tall and lanky. I think these people can see that now, that Im not really suppose to be like this =D

cheeksv

My family has always been "rude". My brother even likes to bring up my weight at family functions in a really harassing and mean ways in front of EVERYONE. My mom has given me diet pills when I was little without my knowledge ( I was sick and asked her for medicine) because the doctor told her to watch my eating habits. I have had a customer describe me to another employee as " the fat girl" because he didn't know I was in the back room ( mind you he himself was over 300 pounds no lie) I think it was never the rude comments that got me. Over weight people are uncomfortable enough with themselves that sooner or later we will decide to loose the weight or not. Often the comment just made me sad and depressed especially when it was from family. Encouraging and supportive words made me think about my weight more yes, like as in my health and how to get healthy and what it would mean for me but it still took me a while to get the right information and get my butt into gear. Now I have a friend who is younger than me and 300 pounds with joint problems as a result. I like to send her links with the information and stuff but am never outright rude to her. She knows shes overweight and still in a bit of denial about her eating habits but she needs to come to it on her own and make the decision to get healthy.

calliope_music

i was teased mercilessly all throughout school. my final breaking point came in 10th grade when someone made a comment about my weight and i swear my head spun around like in the Exorcist. i literally leaped across the table and beat the crap out of him...he didn't tease me ever again because he "got beat up by a girl". and the funny thing is - i didn't even get in trouble. this was one teacher who apparently had some compassion and didn't write me up.

in 5th grade, someone brought me a can of Slim-Fast. so, i opened it and poured it all over her head.

some old guy asked me if i was pregnant once. i said NOPE just fat, and then asked him when he expected to regrow his hair


reading this, i sound incredibly mean. in reality, i'm not, i promise!!