Lingerie Question......might be TMI

Amber030583

Alright, I CAN NOT believe I am posting this on here. But I have been googling for awhile with no success for an answer to this question.

A little back story: I have been really self concious(I know I spelt it wrong) of myself. I feel a little better since losing weight but not close to where I want to be. My fiance' has hinted that he wanted me to be more comfortable in the "bedroom". Well, we are getting a house and officially moving in together. I wanted to surprise him. So, I went to Victorias Secret and got this Lace lingerie nighty thing. I really don't even know what to call it. LOL. I picked the one out that I thought was the most forgiving but it is black see through lace. It is very form fitting and thankfully there is a little bit of stretch to it. lol. So I guess what I am asking are these supposed to fit tight? Or should it be looser? And guys, would you be completely turned off if your lady was a little bigger and was wearing one and it was tight. I am not popping out of the top or anything. There is no muffin top of the back or anything. lol. But it is tight.

Any help is greatly appreciated. Thank you sooo much!

cirka2002

I think a lot of it has to do with your attitude. Just remember, he loves you, and if you feel comfortable, and a little fun/outgoing, I bet he will LOVE it!

southernlay_d

Amber, you will be only as sexy as you feel. Put it on and strut your stuff, Girlfriend. Confidence is that sexiest outfit a girl can wear!!!!

NoAdditives

If it has some stretch it's probably meant to be a little form fitting. I have a red lace nightie that I got before we were married. It still fits everywhere but boobs. Even though it doesn't fit perfectly and is not something I'd get pictures taken in, my husband still loves it. He's more concerned with me being comfortable and feeling sexy than whether or not it fits perfectly.

alexandra0825

GIRL! If you're comfortable than that is ALL that matters. He is your fiance! He is going to love you no matter what.
Wear something that makes you feel beautiful!
I've always been really self concious about the way I look. It stinks, I know. BUT as cliche as this sounds, everyone is sooo beautiful. So, wear this peice of clothing proudly and be beautiful, like all of us women are.

scagneti

I bet you look fantastic! We tend to be our toughest critics.

Turn down the lights a little, put on some candles and some music and pour some wine and just be confident knowing how much he loves you and how beautiful he knows you are.

kimi233

They are suppose to be tight, to show off your curves. And your boyfriend loves you and your body, he will totally be turned on! You will be drop dead sexy!! Go get 'em girl!!!

MaryDreamer

I have one like that and yes it's extremely form fitting, relax it's meant to be

Swilson87

He won't have a problem at all!!!!

dudey

My wife says post pics and we'll let you know LOL jk, jk...

Kminor67

It's supposed to be tight... form-fitting, and just plain knockout sexy. I'm sure he'll love it... don't worry

kimi233

P.S.

Wear some heels with it, it will make your legs look even sexier!! Just sayin

melizerd

It's a teddy.

And it can be either fitted or loose depending on style and cut. If it looks good on you, he's REALLY not going to care if something isn't "perfect" he'll be WAY to happy to see you do something out of the norm and sexy.

Go for it! Light some candles (more forgiving than real lights) and turn on some music and have fun.

Jamiebee24

Girl, weather it is tight or not tight---he'll love it. If it fits tight now, in a couple months from now, it won't be PLUS, it's going to come off anyways!! :laugh:

I've had to, and still am, deal with the same issues on feeling comfortable in my own skin...try it out, he'll love it, and you will gain some confidence!

sarahTV

It depends on the style...many of those lingerie pieces are fitted, some have a little more 'room in the tummy' for fuller figures. My personal rule of thumb is to have a supportive bra or built in support top in the lingerie, otherwise your boobs will sag and that's NOT sexy IMO.

As long as you feel sexy in it, that's all that matters and I'm sure your man will be SO pumped that you did this for him that he won't notice your trouble areas

HawkeyeGuy

Miss Amber,

I'm a guy through and through, and let me share some insight from my perspective. I've been lucky enough in my life to date every size, shape and type of woman there is...and even luckier to see many of them, well, less than fully clothed. I can tell you one thing - lingerie, panties, etc are damn sexy BUT - NOTHING, and I mean NOTHING comes close to attitude to make someone sexier. Women can go from way less than model quality, to the sexiest you could imagine based on how they carry themselves, and their confidence levels. At the same time, some of the most gorgeous appealing women can drop off the scale when their attitudes let them.

So, my advice is this...act sexy and think sexy - you'll be sexy. It may take a while to build that confidence...but you'll get there. The weight loss and getting in shape isn't what ultimately is going to make you sexy...it's the attitude change in you that it will help bring out that is going to make you sexy. Same with lingerie...doesn't matter if it's tight or loose, if YOU feel sexier in it, you will be. Find something you're comfortable and feel hot in...your guy will pick up on it. And the more comfortable you feel in it, the less time you'll be wearing it anyway!!!

My guess is you're already there in the sexy department...you just don't know it, but you will. Keep at it.

SSG

lynx__13

It'll be alllll goood! He's with you and that means he already loves the way you look! Feel confident you're beautiful and he's going to love that you spiced it up!

VolatileChocolate

Hey you've got nothing to worry about, by the sounds of it your fiance loves you and wants to be with you and finds your sexy.

Men like seeing women dressed up whether is a see through negligee or stockings and suspenders. Yes if this is the first time for you, you'll probably feel nervous, self-concious and worry what your partner thinks. All I can say - bite the bullet and go for and just see his reaction - then you will know how much he likes you wearing it.

At my biggest I was a UK size 24 and dating so I would make the effort and not one person I met was turned off. In fact I got lots of compliments. I'm now down to UK size 18 and am able to buy a nicer selection of sexy underwear which also makes me feel better about myself.

You go girl

xVC

kimi233

Miss Amber,

I'm a guy through and through, and let me share some insight from my perspective. I've been lucky enough in my life to date every size, shape and type of woman there is...and even luckier to see many of them, well, less than fully clothed. I can tell you one thing - lingerie, panties, etc are damn sexy BUT - NOTHING, and I mean NOTHING comes close to attitude to make someone sexier. Women can go from way less than model quality, to the sexiest you could imagine based on how they carry themselves, and their confidence levels. At the same time, some of the most gorgeous appealing women can drop off the scale when their attitudes let them.

So, my advice is this...act sexy and think sexy - you'll be sexy. It may take a while to build that confidence...but you'll get there. The weight loss and getting in shape isn't what ultimately is going to make you sexy...it's the attitude change in you that it will help bring out that is going to make you sexy. Same with lingerie...doesn't matter if it's tight or loose, if YOU feel sexier in it, you will be. Find something you're comfortable and feel hot in...your guy will pick up on it. And the more comfortable you feel in it, the less time you'll be wearing it anyway!!!

My guess is you're already there in the sexy department...you just don't know it, but you will. Keep at it.

SSG

VERY WELL SAID!!!

sculley

I always get the one that buttons under the breast and then flows out like a babydoll outfit that way it was flowing and not tight so its more flattering...before I got pregnant and wore that sort of stuff for my husband I always felt more comfortable in that cause nothing else made me feel confidant... Hope you find something good for you....But I do agree if he wants you to be confident I am sure just the effort made by you he would love and find sexy.

LaurenRose2011

VS is not very nice to we plus-sized women. That's for sure! I am sure that your fiancé will love it though even if it is a bit tight. Guys seem to love the fact that we wear lingerie FOR them and not necessarily that we wear it just to wear it. So, I am sure it will be fine.

There is a great lingerie site that I use that you may want to look into though: http://www.hipsandcurves.com/plus-size-lingerie/

"plus size lingerie for full figured divas"

They have a lot of really gorgeous and sexy lingerie that's true to size and their sizes go up to 50-something and 5/6Xs.

Congrats on the house, and the impending marriage!

VolatileChocolate

Hawkeye guy - has hit the nail on the head. It is so true.

I only know that as I always ask the guys I meet what turns them on - and 90% of time they say just what Hawkeye has put.

andreamichelle82

The fact that you bought something and are going to wear it just for him - he's going to loooove that alone! Wear it confidently and he will melt!

Amber030583

My wife says post pics and we'll let you know LOL jk, jk...

LOL I almost put on and no I will not post pictures. LOL

binary_jester

He will love it...and if he doesn't, I will drive out an kick his *kitten*.

HawkeyeGuy

The other 10% are lying then, or just don't realize it. Nothing substitutes for a sexy attitude...and don't get me wrong, that doesn't mean slutty. Some of the sexiest women I've ever known have been some of the sweetest, seemingly demure women I've ever met.

Hawkeye guy - has hit the nail on the head. It is so true.

I only know that as I always ask the guys I meet what turns them on - and 90% of time they say just what Hawkeye has put.

Miss Amber,

I'm a guy through and through, and let me share some insight from my perspective. I've been lucky enough in my life to date every size, shape and type of woman there is...and even luckier to see many of them, well, less than fully clothed. I can tell you one thing - lingerie, panties, etc are damn sexy BUT - NOTHING, and I mean NOTHING comes close to attitude to make someone sexier. Women can go from way less than model quality, to the sexiest you could imagine based on how they carry themselves, and their confidence levels. At the same time, some of the most gorgeous appealing women can drop off the scale when their attitudes let them.

So, my advice is this...act sexy and think sexy - you'll be sexy. It may take a while to build that confidence...but you'll get there. The weight loss and getting in shape isn't what ultimately is going to make you sexy...it's the attitude change in you that it will help bring out that is going to make you sexy. Same with lingerie...doesn't matter if it's tight or loose, if YOU feel sexier in it, you will be. Find something you're comfortable and feel hot in...your guy will pick up on it. And the more comfortable you feel in it, the less time you'll be wearing it anyway!!!

My guess is you're already there in the sexy department...you just don't know it, but you will. Keep at it.

SSG

Fit4Vet

Miss Amber,

I'm a guy through and through, and let me share some insight from my perspective. I've been lucky enough in my life to date every size, shape and type of woman there is...and even luckier to see many of them, well, less than fully clothed. I can tell you one thing - lingerie, panties, etc are damn sexy BUT - NOTHING, and I mean NOTHING comes close to attitude to make someone sexier. Women can go from way less than model quality, to the sexiest you could imagine based on how they carry themselves, and their confidence levels. At the same time, some of the most gorgeous appealing women can drop off the scale when their attitudes let them.

So, my advice is this...act sexy and think sexy - you'll be sexy. It may take a while to build that confidence...but you'll get there. The weight loss and getting in shape isn't what ultimately is going to make you sexy...it's the attitude change in you that it will help bring out that is going to make you sexy. Same with lingerie...doesn't matter if it's tight or loose, if YOU feel sexier in it, you will be. Find something you're comfortable and feel hot in...your guy will pick up on it. And the more comfortable you feel in it, the less time you'll be wearing it anyway!!!

My guess is you're already there in the sexy department...you just don't know it, but you will. Keep at it.

SSG

Damn good advice & can I just say...now *that* is sexy!

P.S. Oh, & to the OP: Sounds like it's supposed to fit that way & You are going to be A KNOCKOUT in it!

laughingdani

Most lace items with stretch are supposed to be form fitting.
The fact that you are wearing something for your guy is sexy in itself.
Like everyone else has said. Be confident. You will look HOTTTT! :flowerforyou:

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Amber030583

He will love it...and if he doesn't, I will drive out an kick his *kitten*.

Ok that is too sweet.

k8smama

I have a similar one, and yes, it should be tight. Try candle light, shadows forgive many flaws, a little wine before hand, to help relax, and remember, he loves you and thinks you're a beautiful, sexy woman, no matter what! Have fun!!