OT: Are men really that dumb when it comes to house stuff

kimber607

UGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHH

Sorry, but I don't know a nicer way to put it...are men just lazy, clueless when it comes to helping out around the house
Any ladies feel my pain??

Kim

kimber607

UGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHH

Sorry, but I don't know a nicer way to put it...are men just lazy, clueless when it comes to helping out around the house
Any ladies feel my pain??

Kim

1harleygal

Most are totally clueless, helpless, lazy and plain don't want to help because they figure it is womens work! They think because they work outside of the home that they have done their part even though now a days most women work outside of the home as well and are still expected to take care of the kids and house with no help! We need to go on strike and let them see how it really is!:mad:

mimzy

I feel your pain, honey.
But, you know they DO work all day...and you want them to do WHAT at night too?? HA!!
Well, yeah, we do expect you too.
Why in the WORLD do men think it's okay to for him to stop after a 8-10 hour day but we are expected to work a full 12-15 hour day? Does that make ANY sense?

kimber607

AMEN



Kim

Adele

I was just venting about my Hubby to my girlfriend - he is a great Dad, but CLUELESS when it comes to getting them ready in the morning!! Drives me nuts!!

Fab140

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My man, thankfully, came from a military background and is currently military, so he's pretty neat. But yea, I do a LOT of the house chores. Especially the cat stuff. (Look, I get it! You have had cats all your life. Now clean the dang box once in awhile!!)

But, would we love them if we couldn't be in so much control of the house??

SoupNazi

My man, thankfully, came from a military background and is currently military, so he's pretty neat.

Mine too. He a neat freak, I'm a germaphobe. We go together pretty nicely.

But DON'T fall for the whole "I don't know what I'm doing" gag. They just pretend to not know or they goof up on purpose so that we don't expect them to ever do it again. LOL

neha

Am lucky. He cooks. When he sees me running all around, trying to get things done. he helps. When I sit on a new craft project, he makes sure to know how it works. If its easy enough for him, he gives in a knot or a stroke of paint. My Darling!

cwilson715

HAHAAHAHAHA! My husband is clueless until its the day something has to be finished and I am a raging B because it is not done. My husband is wonderful when he knows I need him, he took care of me when I was on bedrest, and after I had a c-section and I couldn't walk or even shower myself. I don't think I even changed my daughter diaper until she was over a week old. But he totally plays the clueless card. :laugh:

Fab140

My man, thankfully, came from a military background and is currently military, so he's pretty neat.

Mine too. He a neat freak, I'm a germaphobe. We go together pretty nicely.

But DON'T fall for the whole "I don't know what I'm doing" gag. They just pretend to not know or they goof up on purpose so that we don't expect them to ever do it again. LOL

:laugh: :laugh:

I get home a few hours before he does. So I do all the things I want to have done (cable pulled under the carpet, pictures hung, kitty toys picked up...etc) so I don't have to wait!

I pull the "I don't know what I'm doing" gag when it comes to cooking so I don't have to clean the kitchen!!! :bigsmile:

runawaybride

:grumble: It never changes either. As much as you drill it in their head and think they might start to help they don't . I think sometimes if they led on like they really do know how to do certain things then they will be expected to do them ....so they play dumb and try and get away with it.

One thing that drives me nuts is when he says he won't rub butt creme on the baby..."I have no clue you can do it alot better than I can" I mean really all you do is slab it on the bottom how hard can it be. He loves to say I do stuff better than him almost like I am dumb and think it is a true compliment when all it really is him trying to push it on me.:grumble:

kimber607

Hi

It just irks me when I have to do everything so I am tired/annoyed then he gets mad because I am acting like a big 'B'
Help out then
I even wrote down 'chores' like he was a teen-ager
A few simple things at night that would probably take 5 minutes...do they get done....NOOOOO
Then the icing on the cake is they want some (you know what)
HELLLOOOOO McFLY??

Kim

kellch

Oh boy, you brought up the wrong subject on the wrong day :laugh: :laugh: We just discussed this last night... I feel a ramble comin on.........

Well my fiance takes out the trash sometimes, puts dishes IN the dishwasher and runs it (of course I have to put them away...the part we all hate most), he will vacuum on his days off sometimes (only the downstairs though he saves the staircase and upstairs for me...again...the harder part of it), And he mows the lawn (leaving the flower garden for me...watering the lawn for me...again...the parts we don't like to do), he will put laundry in washer and switch to dryer, I fold them and put them away (again the worst part for me), and he will halfa$$ make the bed. I also am in charge of the bills and checkbook, which I absolutely hate BTW. And I work 50-60 hours a week. He works 40 at BMW and every 3 weeks he gets 5 days off.:grumble: :grumble: MUST BE NICE!! Not that he doesnt work hard, he does, his is more physically demanding (explains why he can eat like a pig and not gain an ounce :laugh: ) while mine is more mentally draining. But men are just clueless, absolutely clueless....I've been dedicated to this working out thing and all of the other stuff I do. (I've slacked on house a little since started working out but still straighten up during week and deep clean on weekends its still clean) and he looks at me and says "why don't you ever cook for me anymore?":grumble: :mad: :grumble: :explode: Ok, So ummmmm I'll work 50-60 hrs, clean the house, pay the bills, walk the dog, cook for you, and ummmmm when do I get some me time? Do I EVER get a day to relax? TV? What is TV? I don't watch TV...Oh, wait I watch Tae Bo while I'm working out..Whewwwww!!! I got a lot off my chest there :bigsmile: All in all though I've got a good life and a good man and well, we all get stressed out sometimes. We do work together and help each other out. So I really can't complain tooooo much...but a little bit :sad: :sad: sometimes is expected...:bigsmile:

MrsSorenson

My fiance helps out around the house but he still thinks the kids are my JOB. Last time I checked I work full time just like he does. He helped make them he can help take care of them.

Jess

Stay strong, we are just smarter.

sculley

YES and I have heard of men using the excuse that they work all day so it's only natural for the stay at home wife or mom to do all of the household chores....But my soon to be ex husband doesn't have that sorry excuse either we BOTH have demanding military careers...... He is slowing realizing that I had enough of it.....but now its too late

tashjs21

I think their brain is wired differently. I have always had boyfriends that have wanted to help with the house work (sometimes to shut me up probably) but all in all they have wanted to help. Problem is, I have a totally different idea of "clean". So I am learning that there are certain tasks that can be delegated. But if something really needs to be cleaned, then it is best if I do it. Also it is human nature to kind of "leave" things for other people. When I am single and living alone then this is not an issue, it all gets done, by me. I just think when people are living together men can hold out longer for someone else to come along and do it. Us women, cave, take care of it and then get angry!

Fab140

I feel the men of the world shrinking into a corner........

Though I'm positive this is all irking us, you have to remember why you love these guys to begin with. I remind myself everytime I'm ready to throw a lamp at his head. And also that I do things that drive him nuts. Like leave my clothes on the floor. Or turn on every light in the apartment. (the list goes on!!)

Besides, they do things we won't do. My husband signed us up for a gym. He's the one that suggests we go down to the pool. And that we shower together afterward :happy: heheh......

Also, what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. If you can kill that spider in the shower yourself, then you'll be prepared for the attack of the giant alien spriders.:glasses:

When he starts turning into a lazy teenager, restrain from treating him like one and sit down with him and tell him. Yelling and making honey-do lists only makes for another disappointment when it doesn't help.

:flowerforyou:

Fab140

YES and I have heard of men using the excuse that they work all day so it's only natural for the stay at home wife or mom to do all of the household chores....But my soon to be ex husband doesn't have that sorry excuse either we BOTH have demanding military careers...... He is slowing realizing that I had enough of it.....but now its too late

I'm sorry to hear that :flowerforyou:

Best wishes darling.


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Carrie6o6

My husband does try to help me around the house. He often does... But he gets off to a good start then gets distracted and then forgets about the house... Or he take about 45mins to clean say the living room when it takes me only about 15mins. But I guess at least he tries to help out hahaha

Shannon023

My man, thankfully, came from a military background and is currently military, so he's pretty neat.

Mine too. He a neat freak, I'm a germaphobe. We go together pretty nicely.

But DON'T fall for the whole "I don't know what I'm doing" gag. They just pretend to not know or they goof up on purpose so that we don't expect them to ever do it again. LOL

germaphobe, huh???

Good to know.

jsmalla

*ducks his head hoping nobody sees him & quietly exits out the back*

mimzy

So ummmmm I'll work 50-60 hrs, clean the house, pay the bills, walk the dog, cook for you, and ummmmm when do I get some me time? Do I EVER get a day to relax? TV? What is TV? I don't watch TV...Oh, wait I watch Tae Bo while I'm working out..Whewwwww!!! I got a lot off my chest there :bigsmile: All in all though I've got a good life and a good man and well, we all get stressed out sometimes. We do work together and help each other out. So I really can't complain tooooo much...but a little bit :sad: :sad: sometimes is expected...:bigsmile:

and just think....you haven't started your family yet! It will amaze you how much more you can still do!

He probably just needs a good "talking" to. That usually gets mine to help more.

tlitzner

My husband is in the army and he thinks that excuses him from having to do anything. Mind you, when he is not away at war, he barely works. Most days he is home and in his underwear watching TV/playing video games by 12pm. He gets TONS of time off every year and takes it. So yeah, I work a full 40 hour week which is rare for him and I get to walk in the door to a lazy *kitten* blob on the couch in his underwear and without even taking two steps in the door he is asking me whats for dinner. He surrounds himself with what he wore that day strewn about the floor, dishes from him eating crap laying wherever the heck he feels like leaving them, etc. etc. When he does decide to do something constructive, do you know what he does? He works on his/his friends motorcycles.

It's funny that you posted this topic because I have been fuming about this for the past few days. Thanks for giving me the opportunity to complain.

psuastro97

wow -just when you think it is just your husband that doesn't help out!

i will admit my husband does all the outside stuff (except weeding flower beds). so i never have to mow the lawn or shovel snow....BUT...we may get snow 2 times in the winter and you only mow the lawn 6 months out of the year. housework, like cleaning cooking, dishes, etc. is YEAR long and endless!!!!

we finally got a new vacuum cleaner - a dyson animal (for our little animal :laugh: ) he sees it as a power tool. so he likes to do the vacuuming! it's a help - but not when he vacuums BEFORE i can dust and sweep the hardwood floors - exaxctly where does he think that dirt goes (dust =to the floor and on the rag, hardwood floors fur always ends up spreading to the carpet!). so in the end, it has to be done again....

and don't get me started on the mess he makes in the bathroom with his toothpaste!!!!!!

MFS27

wow -just when you think it is just your husband that doesn't help out!

i will admit my husband does all the outside stuff (except weeding flower beds). so i never have to mow the lawn or shovel snow....BUT...we may get snow 2 times in the winter and you only mow the lawn 6 months out of the year. housework, like cleaning cooking, dishes, etc. is YEAR long and endless!!!!

we finally got a new vacuum cleaner - a dyson animal (for our little animal :laugh: ) he sees it as a power tool. so he likes to do the vacuuming! it's a help - but not when he vacuums BEFORE i can dust and sweep the hardwood floors - exaxctly where does he think that dirt goes (dust =to the floor and on the rag, hardwood floors fur always ends up spreading to the carpet!). so in the end, it has to be done again....

and don't get me started on the mess he makes in the bathroom with his toothpaste!!!!!!

And the hair on the sink from shaving! I HATE that - I mean how difficult is it to rinse the sink out after using it?????

I met a lady a few years back that lived in a commune-like thing, and she and her long-time boyfriend lived in seperate houses right across from eachother - said it was the BEST thing ever. Each had their own space, but close enough to spend time with each other (they had a son too - he could walk back and forth to each parents house).....not a bad idea, imho!! :laugh:

tashjs21

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And the hair on the sink from shaving! I HATE that - I mean how difficult is it to rinse the sink out after using it?????

I met a lady a few years back that lived in a commune-like thing, and she and her long-time boyfriend lived in seperate houses right across from eachother - said it was the BEST thing ever. Each had their own space, but close enough to spend time with each other (they had a son too - he could walk back and forth to each parents house).....not a bad idea, imho!! :laugh:
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I have heard of couples that have been married for years that do this and they swear by it. Maybe they are on to something!

eHarris

My husband is an RN and works three days a week, the other four he gets to do what he wants.

Yesterday I worked a 9 hour day, was on my feet in heels for a solid two hours, spent a good 30-45 minutes in traffic. Needless to say when I got home I was tired and all I wanted to do was kick my feet up.

My husband says to me..."Honey, I pulled steaks out of the freezer for dinner..." and I say the obligitory "Thank you soo much *:grumble: under the breath: for doing something you never have thanked me for!*"

So I tell my husband I want him to help me with dinner and he says to me "Well ...what do you need help with?" Uhhhh :noway:

So I sit for a few minutes and kick my feet up, just waiting to see when he will get up to offer to help out. Thirty minutes, an hour, an hour and a half ....around the two hour mark he comes into the living room (its about 8:30 pm at this time, I usually go to bed at 10:30pm) and I say..."Ready to cook dinner?" he says to me "What do you need help with? I'm kind of busy right now." (he's BUSY playing WoW or FFXI on the computer) so I try to stay calm and I say "How long do you need?" ....his response?......

"An hour or so..."


GRRRRRRRRRRRR :grumble: :mad: :explode:

Carrie6o6

And the hair on the sink from shaving! I HATE that - I mean how difficult is it to rinse the sink out after using it?????

I met a lady a few years back that lived in a commune-like thing, and she and her long-time boyfriend lived in seperate houses right across from eachother - said it was the BEST thing ever. Each had their own space, but close enough to spend time with each other (they had a son too - he could walk back and forth to each parents house).....not a bad idea, imho!! :laugh:


I have heard of couples that have been married for years that do this and they swear by it. Maybe they are on to something!

My husband does this all the time!! And his dirty socks! He takes them off and leaves them on the floor! I ask him about it and he says "It was Lexi, she took them off me" Shes going to be 2... Tries to blame the baby *sigh* haha

tashjs21

Umm, there was malfunction... don't mind me

amymeenieminymo

My boyfriend thinks because he does a manual job, then he is somehow more tired and deserving of a break when he gets home than I am since I have a desk job. Sure my job isn't physically tiring, but man mental stress can wipe you out! Like today, I am so stressed because something I am working on is out of balance and I don't have a clue why.

He has gotten better about doing his chores, but he always harps on the fact that I don't clean the litter box often enough. The smell somehow doesn't bother me as much as it does him, so I tend to let it go longer. Rather than giving me friendly reminders (like I give him about his chores) he expects me to make up a schedule to clean it or just know when he wants it cleaned. Arg!