omg he did it again!!!!!!!!!!

ali106

sorry I have to vent...but if I don't.... I will go postal on his non-existent *kitten*! sigh!

Okay so some of you may or may not remember that I went out awhile ago w/ some co-workers and one being a male....and he made a comment that was sort of a backhanded compliment....and it got to me....like...."oh my God, you had to see Ali back in the day, she was sooo hot before she had her son...":huh: ya so that went over well...me just kinda stunned....kinda hurt....but I got over it....and was doing okay...

The man did it again....There is a pic of me on my desk I was all dolled up at a wedding, a size 4, good lighting...lol good hair....ya know those pictures you love! lol...okay ....so anyway...he stops me in the hall w/ a new employee....and says..."I have to tell you yesterday when you were out I left something on your desk...did you get it...." so I said yes...then he tells me, "OH! and I saw that picture of you and was like OMG....you were sooo gorgeous, I was like that can't be her...but I remember you used to be so beautiful...."...that's where I stopped really listening.... :sad: wth?!!! BUT there was something to the effect of to the new younger employee...."see don't have kids they'll take your looks.....ha ha ha ha"....:explode: idiot!

I feel so shallow letting this bother me....but it does....I mean...I am trying so hard to be healthy...and I feel great...so far I've lost 20 freakin' pounds, and I'm really happy about that...why does this PERSON's comments hurt me so much!!!

anyway....ugh...I don't want to go to that place where I feel really low about myself...I guess I think I'm doing pretty good, I'll be 40 this year...I don't think I'm doing that bad...lmbo....man that sucked LOL...sorry

okay enough self pity...man up ali....screw him right....I'm healthier, which will keep me around longer for my beautiful son...and that's what's its all about.....still....grrrrrrrrrrr lmbo...

thanks for listening and sorry! lol
hugs,
ali

ali106

sorry I have to vent...but if I don't.... I will go postal on his non-existent *kitten*! sigh!

Okay so some of you may or may not remember that I went out awhile ago w/ some co-workers and one being a male....and he made a comment that was sort of a backhanded compliment....and it got to me....like...."oh my God, you had to see Ali back in the day, she was sooo hot before she had her son...":huh: ya so that went over well...me just kinda stunned....kinda hurt....but I got over it....and was doing okay...

The man did it again....There is a pic of me on my desk I was all dolled up at a wedding, a size 4, good lighting...lol good hair....ya know those pictures you love! lol...okay ....so anyway...he stops me in the hall w/ a new employee....and says..."I have to tell you yesterday when you were out I left something on your desk...did you get it...." so I said yes...then he tells me, "OH! and I saw that picture of you and was like OMG....you were sooo gorgeous, I was like that can't be her...but I remember you used to be so beautiful...."...that's where I stopped really listening.... :sad: wth?!!! BUT there was something to the effect of to the new younger employee...."see don't have kids they'll take your looks.....ha ha ha ha"....:explode: idiot!

I feel so shallow letting this bother me....but it does....I mean...I am trying so hard to be healthy...and I feel great...so far I've lost 20 freakin' pounds, and I'm really happy about that...why does this PERSON's comments hurt me so much!!!

anyway....ugh...I don't want to go to that place where I feel really low about myself...I guess I think I'm doing pretty good, I'll be 40 this year...I don't think I'm doing that bad...lmbo....man that sucked LOL...sorry

okay enough self pity...man up ali....screw him right....I'm healthier, which will keep me around longer for my beautiful son...and that's what's its all about.....still....grrrrrrrrrrr lmbo...

thanks for listening and sorry! lol
hugs,
ali

sgtinvincible

I recommend something like this for the next time....

Shannon023

Let me at him!!!!!!!


What a insensitive clod!

Don't let him rain on your parade, Ali, you're beautiful!!! :smooched:

Poison5119

I'm sorry too, my friend, truly. Those comments hurt. :grumble: Unfortunately, you sometimes can't tell for sure if they're that way deliberately, or they're just plain dumb -- some people just don't know when they're being callous.

As they say, living well is the best revenge. All your hard work is going to pay off - it has already!! --- 20lbs??? that's wonderful! You've done so well! You will be fine, I have faith in you.

mrsyac2

sorry I have to vent...but if I don't.... I will go postal on his non-existent *kitten*! sigh!

Okay so some of you may or may not remember that I went out awhile ago w/ some co-workers and one being a male....and he made a comment that was sort of a backhanded compliment....and it got to me....like...."oh my God, you had to see Ali back in the day, she was sooo hot before she had her son...":huh: ya so that went over well...me just kinda stunned....kinda hurt....but I got over it....and was doing okay...

The man did it again....There is a pic of me on my desk I was all dolled up at a wedding, a size 4, good lighting...lol good hair....ya know those pictures you love! lol...okay ....so anyway...he stops me in the hall w/ a new employee....and says..."I have to tell you yesterday when you were out I left something on your desk...did you get it...." so I said yes...then he tells me, "OH! and I saw that picture of you and was like OMG....you were sooo gorgeous, I was like that can't be her...but I remember you used to be so beautiful...."...that's where I stopped really listening.... :sad: wth?!!! BUT there was something to the effect of to the new younger employee...."see don't have kids they'll take your looks.....ha ha ha ha"....:explode: idiot!

I feel so shallow letting this bother me....but it does....I mean...I am trying so hard to be healthy...and I feel great...so far I've lost 20 freakin' pounds, and I'm really happy about that...why does this PERSON's comments hurt me so much!!!

anyway....ugh...I don't want to go to that place where I feel really low about myself...I guess I think I'm doing pretty good, I'll be 40 this year...I don't think I'm doing that bad...lmbo....man that sucked LOL...sorry

okay enough self pity...man up ali....screw him right....I'm healthier, which will keep me around longer for my beautiful son...and that's what's its all about.....still....grrrrrrrrrrr lmbo...

thanks for listening and sorry! lol
hugs,
ali

Sorry to hear that- Don't worry what he thinks he doesn't sleep with you- But what he said reminded me of what my neighbor said one day we were talking about the hard time i am having with trying to lose this last bit of stubborn weight and he says yeah thats why i want to wait until me and my wife have kids cause her body will go down the drain it was funny to me because I can honestly say my body isn't the same after having kids-- But I dont take it to heart-- Just ignore what he says- and if he keeps making comments just tell him your hubby still finds you just as gorgeous before you had a child and thats all that matters- say something that busts his ego

ali106

aw thanks you guys LOL....even though I have no idea what that is Jeremy I know you bro and I bet its kick *kitten* LMBO

but you know its like....you know how you have these insecure self image issues...or is that just me LMBO....he just worked mine LOL....I don't really think I'm all that believe me:noway: ...or really care:ohwell: ...I just felt so like...not good enough...and to what ....him?! ugh I hate my insecurity LOL

but I love you guys!!!!!!!
hugs to my bestest pals ever!
Ali

psuastro97

what a jerk!!!!

can you tell him how much you don't appreciate those comments? or is he really not even worth your time and energy????

it sounds like he is trying to be funny - but it is sooooo NOT funny.
and the poor new guy - he had to feel a bit awkward, too!

this guy sounds like a clown to me!

lotusfromthemud

Um. . .excuse my bluntness. . .but this is straight-up a-hole behavior. Yikes.

I'm so sorry you have to deal with that.:flowerforyou:

Phoenix_Rising

What a jerk!

I suppose you could act mature and tell him to stop and why.

Or you could make fun of him, talking about how he had a lot more hair back then, or less wrinkles, or more muscles, or maybe how he's not changed a bit... still scrawny little squirt he always was.

(I know with my feelings hurt, I'd take the low road with option two.)

Don't let him bother you. He's obviously a shallow, pompous neanderthal.

shorerider

I recommend one of the below:









If they don't work, let us know-we'll come protest against his butt for ya!

BreaNix

Unfortunately for him, he apparently can't see how incredible beautiful you are now. Inside and out.
:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: (hugs) :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:


Inconsiderate people drive me crazy. :noway:

SoupNazi

OH...my sweet Ali!
What a bleepity, bleepin, bleep, bleep!
Let me at 'em....:explode:

Ali. You are one of the most beautiful, sweetest, kindest and funniest women on the whole face of the earth. I have no idea why this (above referenced dolt) would say such heartless things to you. I would simply ask him if he has always been ugly and pungent smelling or if he just recently started.
Don't listen to that jerk.
I adore you and I think many of us on here do. You ARE and will ALWAYS be beautiful. That will not change no matter how many kids you have.

*goes to make voodoo doll of above mentioned *kitten*

rogers8702

girl you are beautiful i say give it right back to him, and then smile

ali106

OMG...:sad: thank you all for making feel so vehclempt(spg) lol....and cracking me up!!! lol

I needed this...omg...you all rock!!!

serious hugs all around!
Ali :flowerforyou:

shorerider

Actually {thinking, thinking, thinking}---couldn't this be considered a form of sexual harassment? Seems to me that somebody constantly talking about "how hot you" were and/or are would fall under that category.

I'd bring charges against his butt--tell the boss and see what happens.

Honestly, I haven't worked in an office type space ever and it's been a while since I've been in a "regular" type job, but to me that sure seems like sexual harassment.

lilprnss

I hate to say it, Ali.. but I think he was trying to pay you a compliment! Men are just clueless! They don't take the time to see how it was sounding before or after he said it! Keep up the great work! We're all here for you!

Phoenix_Rising

Actually {thinking, thinking, thinking}---couldn't this be considered a form of sexual harassment? Seems to me that somebody constantly talking about "how hot you" were and/or are would fall under that category.

I'd bring charges against his butt--tell the boss and see what happens.

Honestly, I haven't worked in an office type space ever and it's been a while since I've been in a "regular" type job, but to me that sure seems like sexual harassment.

I was thinking the same thing, actually! Him always talking about your looks... I think it's blatant sexual harrassment.

icandoit

Ali-I ditto all the above. You are a BEAUTIFUL woman. That is all that matter....what we think and what we say. We love ya

Manda86

nobody picks on my momma hen!!



lemme at 'im, lemme at 'im!!!

ChubbyBunny

Darling don't mind that jerk. You are so beyond him.
I spit in his general direction and if I am lucky with my aim....I'd even hit him. :laugh:

There are tons of people out there who get a sick little thrill out of dissing or just hurting others in general. It just makes me snarkier then all get out...which is not a pretty combo...ask my family or my exhusband.

You are beautiful...inside and out. Losers like that guy are just surface scratchers and aren't even worth the oxygen they end up using.

Next time just punch him in the nuts and tell them he USED to have a pair. :bigsmile:

AugustBaby1973

That really chaps my *bleeeep* that he said that to you! But, you only encourage his behavior by not sticking up for yourself! Rude people do stupid things because someone allowed them to be crass and get away with it! You didn't deserve his insensitive comments!:grumble: You are NOT insecure, but very aware of your challenges! So, next time be prepared with a comment he'd never forget---"Did I ask you for your unwarranted opinion? I don't remember caring about your thoughts, so kindly keep them to yourself! And by the way...don't hate...appreciate!" :laugh:

casey34472

What a big *kitten*! Don't listen to a man that doesn't have a brain. Dose he have any kids? He doesn't know what he is talking about!

ali106

wow!!!

I'm feeling so much better...and empowered!!! shoot!!!

he's lucky he left for the day! lmbo!!!

honestly I am glad I posted was feeling silly about it....but now I know that I'm not alone in thinking this was wrong....and I swear I have some good material from you all if the bugger ever tries that again!.....

I keep cracking up out loud here at work.....they must think I'm nuts LMBO...but thanks sooo much!!!

oh and Manda...keep that machine gun locked and loaded Chicken...lol

hugs and love you guys...you have no idea how good you made me feel!!! THANK YOU!!!
Ali

Nich0le

Men are really bad at thinking they can say whatever they want about a woman. I have a question for you though.....do you care what he thinks? He is obviously an *kitten* and if he is a friend he would keep his mouth shut. On the other hand, maybe he is trying to encourage you to keep going. There are a lot of people in our lives that think that insulting or challenging you will give you the props to keep going, unfortunately that tactic doesn't work for all.

Really, I have to say the only person in my life that would hurt my feelings if they started to talk about how hot I USED to be would be my husband, everyone else can suck it!

fatsis

This man must have a small penis to make a comment like that to a women. My personal opinion is he knows what he is saying.

Next time he says something like this tell him you had a baby what is his excuse a bad circumcission.
:mad: :explode:

"nobody puts ALI in the corner"

PS U R beautiful dont sweat this turd

ali106

Men are really bad at thinking they can say whatever they want about a woman. I have a question for you though.....do you care what he thinks? He is obviously an *kitten* and if he is a friend he would keep his mouth shut. On the other hand, maybe he is trying to encourage you to keep going. There are a lot of people in our lives that think that insulting or challenging you will give you the props to keep going, unfortunately that tactic doesn't work for all.

Really, I have to say the only person in my life that would hurt my feelings if they started to talk about how hot I USED to be would be my husband, everyone else can suck it!

lol right on sista!! thanks hon...and no I really don't care what he thinks....but he made me think it...so ya know...that's what sucks....ya know....but now I do feel a ton better....you guys rock!!!

cecreech

What a stupid thing to say. I have a hard time believing how insensitive people can be. . . as if they were capable of judging. To think that the selfish, self centered sob slandered you in front of another employee that could constitute a "hostile work environment" and he could be in big trouble. :mad:
You are a wonderful child of God and there is nothing wrong with you. You have lost 20 lbs and obviously have a great level of restraint and maturity that allowed you to control yourself. Bravo! You are an awesome person with a great attitude, personality and . . . body too. (please pardon if that was too much)
I rejoice in your eventual victory and the way you soar over the riffraff. You did the right thing asking for support. I know I will need it someday too. We are all behind you! :bigsmile:


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amylynne26

ok this might be completely off the mark but maybe.... just maybe.... someone's crushing a little on our Ali? Think about it.... he rambles on and on about your "hotness", even in past tense.... then makes snide comments about you having kids or whatever. Seriously I have a visual of a 3rd grader yanking a girl's pigtails. He's probably digs you which is why he (sort of) complements you (in a really lame way for sure :noway: ) and then makes cracks about your settled-in ness with husband and child. To me it looks like jealousy that he either 1. doesn't have you or 2. doesn't have ANYONE! Just my two cents. :happy:

kimber607

Hi

What an *kitten*
I agree with some of the other posters...he can't be this insensitive (A.K.A. DUMB!)

((HUGS))
I think if he dares to make another comment he needs to be put in his place...maybe go and talk to him alone and let him know that u don't appreciate his insensitive comments!

Kim

mommared53

Ali I agree with what everyone else said. The guy is a complete loser. I'm standing in line to get a piece of him if there's anything left.

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Betty